tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post6947502561142428808..comments2023-11-05T04:04:33.657-06:00Comments on The Source..: RelationshipsTayneMenthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13992618450733549102noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-26409278224280518182010-04-29T21:30:14.528-05:002010-04-29T21:30:14.528-05:00Pretty interesting post.
Nna the cheating thing we...Pretty interesting post.<br />Nna the cheating thing weak me. I'm like okay if you're going to cheat, you had better take that shit to Finland or some random ass place and hope that I never find out. The last thing that I want in this life is for anyone to make me look stupid, like 'I was with your man last night' and you're here thinking that you have the perfect marriage.<br />And yup, I certainly feel you on not comparing. True talk...<br /><br />lol @ wasting singledom. I recently had this epiphany that I need to seize this opp and get into a major explorative phase. lolOriginal Mgbekehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11409561613382179987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-46211501429098446602010-04-16T20:16:38.552-05:002010-04-16T20:16:38.552-05:00Goodness, you should make a part 2 of the post, it...Goodness, you should make a part 2 of the post, it was really interesting. I think the irony of relationships to me is how much we crave them but how little we understand them. I agree that one should not try to change anyone and one should not compare one's relationships to others, seems easier said than done though from what I see around. As for the whole cheating phenomena....I grit my teeth. I refuse to imagine a world where it is the norm.neuyogihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03094246999281257053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-61991872594021027782010-04-16T13:34:48.050-05:002010-04-16T13:34:48.050-05:00Somehow i missed this on Tuesday... i really try n...Somehow i missed this on Tuesday... i really try not to think about the fact that this things happen rampantly in hollywood...i really don't think its a reflection of what goes on in the real world...i think they take certain liberties because they are popular and just the nature of their work gives them the opportunity to do so...e.g truck drivers(fact is that they have more sexual diseases rate among them) the theory being that in the many states they go to, they sleep with at least one girl....with that said cheating is something we have seen like you said since Adam, i think we all have to pray for our spouses even if you don't have one pray for God to bring the one for you that won't cheat and that circumstances wont make you/him have a reason to cheat.....<br />regarding relationship, please take your time, there is no rush....i think it should be easy and natural, there will be fights and hard times, but i think if it started easy so you can build on the love you feel then you have the strength to deal with the hard times... like i told BB, the fights shouldn't start till the kids, i believe that...everything else should be petty arguments....with that said in relationships my thing is i know what i want, what i will not accept ever and what i can compromise on....i think having those principles help....love is more than just a feeling, it should be a decision...<br /><br /><br />whew that was mad long, hope it made senseNee Fe Mihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00770543533340729142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-91045405557389945932010-04-16T09:14:33.326-05:002010-04-16T09:14:33.326-05:00Relationships are tough, i kid you not. The art o...Relationships are tough, i kid you not. The art of communication and compromise is the only way to get through the tough times.LucidLilithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12767954145947887782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-88797941312634397712010-04-15T23:00:34.288-05:002010-04-15T23:00:34.288-05:00The "quality" of many relationships arou...The "quality" of many relationships around these days is pathetic at best. Most married couples are simply just co-habiting.<br /><br />The issue of infidelity is as a result of a wider issue - the reverential view of sex is almost non-existent nowadays, and although this works out great for singletons, it backfires in marriage. People form a polygamist view of sex that a 2 minute wedding vow just cannot contain.<br /><br />Coupled with the above, these days, it seems that men have very little respect for women. I cannot dare to even consider that there was actually a time when men could not curse in front of a "lady". <br />Respect is not a given, it is earned, so I guess women too ought to give account of their role in this.<br /><br />I could go on, but meh.. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-89367953384685184502010-04-15T17:55:55.330-05:002010-04-15T17:55:55.330-05:00Nice Anon: The whole relationship thing is confusi...Nice Anon: The whole relationship thing is confusing to me. Either one of two things<br /><br />A) I am don't understand what LOVE really means OR<br />B) A lot of people in this world have no CLUE what it means to love truly.<br /><br />The things I've seen out there is very pathetic!<br /><br />A man once said " What is wrong with the institution of marriage is that men aren't monogamous and will never be" <br /><br />Makes you think doesn't it? Especially with so many men out there that cheat!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-348882472455682602010-04-15T00:38:52.483-05:002010-04-15T00:38:52.483-05:00If there are two things I have learnt, you've ...If there are two things I have learnt, you've written them below.<br /><br />"I will never ever try to change a man. Hopefully he will compromise on some things and I will know what I can or can't handle.<br /><br />Not comparing or molding my relationship after others. I believe everyone is different."Mynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595087387069634003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-13479178715116582692010-04-15T00:35:00.892-05:002010-04-15T00:35:00.892-05:00I think relationships definitely aren't easy c...I think relationships definitely aren't easy cos compromise never is... BUT... There are some parts of it that should come naturally. The desire to stay should ne completely free-flowing; maybe the course if the relationship itself might be annoying cos the guy won't put the damn toilet seat down but the idea that women have to work to keep the man is bullshit. If the guy want waka, e go waka. Full stop. Same goes vice versa, by the way...<br /><br />I know what you mean about being jaded men... It all seems overrated... There really is too mcuh to say sha... LOL. Which kind topic you bring come today? You want make we sleep here? :PFhttp://www,sweetissour.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-48367026795267075552010-04-14T23:13:21.802-05:002010-04-14T23:13:21.802-05:00Oh man. I just blogged about infidelity...I guess ...Oh man. I just blogged about infidelity...I guess it's rampant!<br /><br />As cliché as it is, I think communication really is key. Sometimes a couple can live together and do things together without really connecting on a deeper level, and it's important not to run the relationship on long stretches of autopilot. <br /><br />There's a lot of true talk in this entry...I agree that each couple has to define their own relationship and hold it to their own standards rather than comparing.<br /><br />To answer your last question, I don't think any relationship can be effortless the whole way. I am always suspicious of relationships where the couple says they have never disagreed with one another. Maybe it's just me but the closer I am to someone (not just romantically), the more likely that we will air our true feelings and risk disagreeing with one another knowing that it won't mark the end of our relationship.Good Naija Girlhttp://goodnaijagirl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-24126363256983346542010-04-14T19:20:50.050-05:002010-04-14T19:20:50.050-05:00Great post! I feel the same way actually! I haven&...Great post! I feel the same way actually! I haven't been in a serious relationship in a ridiculously long time (if they said 08 was long, idk what ppl would say about my date lol). I just have a lot of fears I guess about relationships and especially now with this cheating trend..i'm just good chilling in my single life. Plus, I've been single for so long, I'm not even sure I know how to be in a relationship again sef. lol *sigh* Loved this post tho...could relate on a lot of levels! (sorry i just wrote a whole book on ur comments section...oops)Kashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00726172480738272930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-31073165719729022622010-04-14T16:39:41.461-05:002010-04-14T16:39:41.461-05:00Relationships should be hard ke?
Ofcourse they are...Relationships should be hard ke?<br />Ofcourse they are not easy, but they should be hard ke? <br />Having history is very dangerous. exactly the reason i dont think being friends with an ex can work. Waaaay too much going on there.Fabulo-lahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16328069706170342492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-47102453028627082492010-04-14T10:20:46.831-05:002010-04-14T10:20:46.831-05:00All the cheating is becoming a little bit botherso...All the cheating is becoming a little bit bothersome to someone like me who just like you is already a bit jaded about relationships. I could go on and on..but i'll just pass. Good post babes.Ms.Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03291405782254489625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8715141585183771502.post-66362424155809560582010-04-14T07:18:19.198-05:002010-04-14T07:18:19.198-05:00Gr8 post & timely. I think all the cheating is...Gr8 post & timely. I think all the cheating issues<br />r just the start of society looking at rships in<br />depth. We r all different & yet most of us were<br />not taught how to relate in healthy ways. <br />I think we will see more info & discussion<br />as time goes on. As someone who has exp-<br />erienced being cheated on, you realise this<br />issue is multilayered & causes more pain<br />than u could ever imagine but much healing<br />can come from this. I could talk about this <br />topic for ever, much to say! Lise xLisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02596799468631696099noreply@blogger.com