Thursday, June 22, 2017

Friday Randoms

The official first day of summer was yesterday. Ope o! We haven't been able to fight off the rain but at least we have the warm weather going. Soon come, the sun will follow it and shine wella wella. Everyone always asks if you have plans for the summer. I have absolutely zilch plans. I think the only one plan I have is to try paddle boarding. My friend said she was gonna teach me how to. That's about it. But hey, life is what happens while making plans, right? The question is probably what plans does the summer have for me? Last summer was a nightmare, so let's hope it's kinder to me this year. Time to random!

What makes a person a selfish person? What would make you call a person selfish?

Think of a relative or immediate family member you love so much and respect and one day you hear that they have been accused of sexual assault. What do you do? I see people give so much grief to people who still are friendly with their family members that have been accused and I just wondered, if your relative tells you they didn't do it. Wouldn't you be inclined to believe them?

A coworker told me a story of how he was so mad at his ex moving on so quickly even though he cheated on her while they were in a relationship. loool. men are interesting.

Why is it so hard for men to listen to a woman vent? Do they think we are that helpless that a solution has to be offered?

You know...perception is reality. People will always see what they want to see. You can laugh and joke and list all the happy things you have mentioned but if someone wants to see you as this angry, sad person then that's exactly what you are. They'll only remember the moments that corroborate with that perception.

I was being a dolt with my friend and the heifer completely called me out on it. After eating humble pie and apologizing, I gotta say I was hella impressed. Respect.

The world has progressed and we now have coed baby showers. In my mind guys are coerced to come for them but then again is there a chance they actually enjoy it? Why did it become coed?

If you are with a woman who has not orgasmed from sex with you. Will that bother you?

I heard somewhere that when a woman cannot orgasm from sex that it is a mental thing like maybe there's not a complete or deep connection/trust formed. Someone disagreed with me but I think I actually agree.

While we are on the subject, there's no such thing as not knowing if you had an orgasm or not after sex. You can't miss an orgasm. Not sure why people say that.

I find it weird when Nigerians categorize a period of time with yankee seasons. Then again it's only summer they use. It's hot all year round :/

Irks me when women call other women "babe"

The Kardashians have turned anxiety into something you pick up at the store. Every little thing, they have anxiety.

In my big age, I am learning how to let people be. People aren't always receptive to input especially if you weren't asked. Everyone is grown and perfectly capable of doing things they're own way even if it is different from mine. It is not something that comes easy for me as I feel like I've lived 500 lifetimes and have a lot of knowledge to impart on different situations lol. But yea, valuable lesson.

That's all I got for you beautiful folks. 4th of July is next weekend. Hope y'all got big plans. Make sure you do it big for two as I will probably be my usual boring self and hang out with my TV. Have a lovely weekend!






Friday, June 2, 2017

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday yall. This week was the longest short week ever at least for me. It was so busy at work and I just felt lethargic from my travels last weekend. Speaking of - it's amazing how American Airlines continue to find levels to being the shitty airline that they are. Tufia. We are in June but last week somehow, we were in the 50's. The sun is out now but who knows how long it will last. Ah well. Let's random.

For some reason, I used to think masturbation wasn't really needed when married. (Don't even ask me why I don't think it applies to being in a relationship) as per regular knacks. Anyways, I know better now but I wonder if the stats show that people masturbate less when married? But as I type this, I remember they say you have less sex as the years go by so maybe not? Yup, what a mess of a random. Jumbled thoughts.

I'd like to end up with someone who knows me in and out and can read me like a book. Is that a lofty wish? like the actual someone being able to know you that well?

There's such a thin line between a lot of things. Like thin line between self confident and arrogant, . Weird. Who decides what keeps things on either end of the line.

I am having such an epic mid life crisis. Nothing makes sense these days. Life is hard *sobs*

One morning, I realized I was chatting with 4 different people and we were complaining about work. Totally realizing that one should be grateful to have work to complain about but man that 9-5 can wear you down man. The politics and bs and your fate being in someone else's hands. It gets tiresome.

Why is it that other races look out for their own peeps except us black peeps? I remember when I was unemployed and went to the Black MBA conference. The black peeps were so snooty and condescending. I particularly remember this one lady that was so condescending to me. I actually cried that day sha. Maybe it was unemployment stress that made me react but she actually said she wanted to "mold" me as I have potential. Someone that probably wasn't much older than me. Na wa. A friend pointed out that some of them reach a certain status and want to be the only ones so to speak among the elite.

I am still so fascinated by social media. I observed a friend curating pics for the gram from a trip and it was so...interesting. I hear people talking how xyz viewed their pics and didn't even like it. And it's mentioned so casually like that's a normal thing. I think sometimes before I post something I ask myself what my motivation is. Is this to show off or let people know I'm living the life? or is it purely of no intent? It's so easy to be caught up in the world sha, we are still humans afterall. Shoo, I wish real life was like that where I can curate the life I want.

Speaking of toxic. I stopped listening to The Read. I just didn't like the vibes and it became all mean girl-y. They're kind of obnoxious too and just stay cursing people out and they are always right. Blech.

What are your thoughts on giving back an engagement ring if you break up? Whatever your stance can you tell me why you think so? Thanks!

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Yall have a great weekend. If you have good weather, enjoy it!