Friday, November 25, 2016

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday or Happy Friday after thanksgiving. Hope you guys had a good Thanksgiving and had fun with your loved ones. Hard to believe Thanksgiving is here already especially since that means that Christmas is just round the corner. Well, fellow Americas Trump is now officially our president-elect. Congratulations to you all and may the force be with us all. I really don't have much to say and I strongly suspect the few randoms I have, I have mentioned before so oh well :D

I feel like the one thing I won't budge on is a long distance relationship where both parties are on different continents. I am okay with long distance within America but just not beyond that. My aunty recently tried to hook me up with someone in Nigeria and I mentioned this to her and she said she hopes I am not blocking my blessings. But I am willing to take that chance. My argument is for one, I don't have money to be visiting all the time and I think there's only so much you can know about a person. I also enjoy being in close proximity with someone I am dating. That being said it is a personal preference that does not apply to everyone.

Why is it that it's people with skeletons in the closet and basically everything to hide that run for center stage and the spotlight? Do you think there's a secret desire to be caught?

Anyone have the answer yet as to why people date many hundred years and are seemingly good. Get married and then everything goes up in flames within a short period of time.

The other day I saw a tweet by a popular tweeter where she mentioned how last year she was asking her husband to pick up stuff for thanksgiving and this year she is a widow. I went searching and found her blog where she mentioned how her husband was just 34 and had an aneurysm. She mentioned some end of life discussion tips for couples to have, stating that it is never too early too have because funerals cost money and sometimes difficult decisions have to be made. As morbid as it may sound, it made a lot of sense to me. We sometimes think we are invincible but life has its own plans.

Speaking of, was reading a magazine that had an article on a serial killer and it just made me wonder how leaving your house and making it home every day is such a blessing. This poor girl and her boyfriend were just kidnapped and the dude just murdered her boyfriend in cold blood for no good reason. For those of us who live alone it's even more of something because I have also read horror stories by people in the split second when they were trying to open their doors.

This may be odd but I find over ambition - especially the kind by naija guys - a turn off. While it's great to be motivated and want to be something, when it takes over everything and someone is too busy to be present then it's like meh.

I read a tweet the other day that I agree with is that a lot of people are in lukewarm relationships for various reasons. The tweet went on to say that due to this lukewarm situation that's why it is easy for some people to cheat vs. if they were in a passionate, fulfilling one. The question now is we have been told that passion fades. How do you know the difference between meh and natural progression?

Speaking of, I do think any two people put together can make it work and it just depends on the level of commitment both parties have. I think why we hear a lot of relationship/marriage is hard talk is because in all honesty a high percentage of people are married to the wrong person. Very few people get to meet their actual person and the few that do tend to find the whole thing a breeze (I use breeze lightly)

So I watched and read a couple of Yvonne Orji interviews where she talked about her character being different from her real life self who is christian and saving herself for marriage. I had a discussion with two friends about it. One agreed and one disagreed. My take was wondering how she was able to reconcile her character and her faith because based on basic christian tenets don't they clash? For my friend who disagreed, I tried getting her to view it from just the Christian pov and not with the liberal christianity that most of us but she insisted that acting is acting and not real. I said it was more about the message being portrayed and also if her reason was not religion based then it won't be a big deal but since it is, it seemed like a conflict. What do you guys think?

That's all I have for you guys. Have a wonderful weekend, be safe, stay warm, stay blessed and visit www.taynement. com.

Tuesday, November 8, 2016

Double Take

Having a conversation with someone and he was telling me how he sometimes watches a movie first before going to see it with a date or person who constantly asks questions during a movie. I am like huh? Who has the patience for this? He said yup that he knows a couple of other guys who do the same and gave an example of his closest friend who would watch a movie with him first before going to see it with his wife.

I was like if I was a dude, don't think I could I think I would just let them know they asked too many questions and it sucks out all the fun. He said well men would suck it up but would women do the same? and then he painted a scenario of if he told her:

Day 1: Baby, you talk too much when we are in the cinema

Day 2:  Guy: Babe, let's go to the cinema 

            Answer: No, why?...cuz you said I talk too much. I don't want to go anywhere with you again.
            You're mean and made me feel bad. 

            In fact, I don't want to go out to dinner with you again before you tell me that I've put on                     weight. 

            You're always criticizing me and I don't know why I put up with you.

            Guy: I'm so sorry. Please forgive me. I don't think you talk too much and you have been the                          same ever since we met.That's why I'm with you. Perfect in ever way.

Clearly, that's an exaggerated convo above but his point was there's no way saying you talk too much would go over well but in their mind it's better to just double watch. Mba o. I don't think I agree. What do you think?