Friday, March 29, 2013

Friday Randoms

It's been a minute huh? Sorry guys (well, that's if you even missed it at all). Hope you guys have been good and having a good life. Can you believe Easter is on Sunday? Lent went by so fast but then again like a broken record the year is flying by. I really had a good and productive lent, the curve balls keep coming but we have to keep trucking abi? Well, I'll just go ahead and random

"Don't question your blessings, own your blessings"

This is quite unnecessary but I still wanted to let you guys know that I changed my mind about this particular random thought and deleted it :p

I remembered reading somewhere that it's ok to be humble and brag as long as you don't forget to add the God aspect. That made me chuckle.

Man, am I the only one who feels for Kim K? That woman is getting some serious backlash over any and everything. This morning the radio station was talking about her answer to being asked how she plans on raising a biracial child. She said she plans on raising her child to not see color and somehow that was the wrong answer. One of the DJ's put an end to it and said it didn't really matter what her answer was, she still would have been pounced on anyways. Kim sef needs to go on a hideout till she born pikin. All this parading is not helping.

The biggest and hardest lesson you can ever learn in life is to not compare yourself to others. It's amazing how freeing it is when that's not hanging over you and you can accept your life path, no matter how difficult it is.

I have been watching the History Channel mini series, The Bible and I have enjoyed it so far, well till last week's which is when Jesus was captured. I like it and I always say it either makes you question your faith or gives you a renewed faith. From watching Noah and Lot's wife turn to salt, watching is a bit different from reading. I wondered for a second if any of these things really happened. Also watching the old testament stories, it seems pre marital sex was okay, who now came and poured sand in our garri, ehn? Oh I also noticed that the people God used were people who had done "bad" things. Moses killed someone, David kpanshed his friend's wife but God forgave and used them for some greater good. The main koko sha and in almost every story in the bible is to just keep calm and trust in the Lord aka having faith.

Thinking about the Bachelor series, people always make fun of them always splitting but the two marriages the show has yielded(one of them is 10yrs and 2 kids strong) have been from the Bachelorettes. And they say women are the ones who don't know what they want, eh?

Why do people ask if a celeb has a twitter handle? My first thought is to do a search. Meh, maybe responses are faster.

The other day I said I was in awe of the concept of marriage and I think it was misunderstood. I wasn't trying to be anti marriage or negative about it, not at all. I am in awe of it because the whole concept of two people from different backgrounds, pledging a forever to a future that is unknown is quite amazing. It's hard but doable and I am in awe of the whole concept.

The other day, I came across a picture of an ex crush of mine  and realized I based my college decision on him. He was at my aunt's house and he was a college boy talking about college, I was 17 trapped in a house with tight rules. All I could think of was college freedom and of course if we went to the same college and seeing as we were both catholic, of course he'd fall in love with me and we would be happy forever. We thank God for salvation from being young and stupid -_-

So in my wonderful brain, I feel it is wrong for a younger person to address someone older than them with "dear".

You know what's annoying? A woman being told oh you think that way or you are angry because you need to get laid. Someone used that as a comeback on twitter to a passionate somebody and it irked me. It's almost akin to asking if you are pms-ing.

I was watching Jwow and her fiance have a fight. He called her childish and she said so why did you propose to me? and he said "because you begged me to". Man, I felt that. One of the things I hope against is someone being with me for any reason other than because they wanted to. I mean I am sure they'll get over it but if someone ever said that to me, I don't care if it's out of anger the fact that it was said at all will forever nag me. It's the same thing as guys whose answer is "because it was the next thing to do" or "we had dated for a long time, it would have been mean to leave"

Speaking of, I watched Myne's recommendation, Strictly Soulmates. It's a documentary series on Youtube about people trying to find life partners within their faith. So far, I watched the Muslim, Hindi, Christian and a bit of the Jewish one and so far so good. If you have time, just search on Youtube and give it a shot.

Well ladies and gents, that's all I got. Have a wonderful Easter. Eat, drink, be merry and rejoice for He has risen ( or he would have by Sunday)

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Monday, March 18, 2013

Words n Thoughts

I wish I had saved it but I read something this week, I can't quote it but the gist was basically sometimes it's not that people don't want to be there for you or understand you but sometimes it's just too much for them to be able to handle someone else's troubles. I can kinda understand that, especially if you are like me, who is so cautious of not being a burden or wahala on people, asking for favors is just a long ting for me. Then I also ran into a tumblr post (sidebar - I must be the only person who doesn't tumbl, the most tumbling I do is clicking on links people post or if a friend sends me something) which I think was a good read. I also like the fact that the person who wrote it had in parentheses besides their name - Internal Acceptance Movement. I think Internal Acceptance is such a huge thing to have and is also missing in a lot of people in our generation - even when they think they have it. It's also seems to be the major theme in my Lenten Journey (another topic, another day). Anyways this was what it said:

"The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around — and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being. The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness"
I hope this helps/speaks out/encourages someone out there. Have a wonderful week ahead guys!

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Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Learn about me - 100 truths

Thanks for the well wishes from my last post guys, I appreciate it. So far, so good in the week. I am ready for the weekend before another week of travels. Today's post was totally fapped from Lohi's blog. Feel free to do it also if you're compelled to.

1. Last drink: One of them Naked Smoothies
2. Last phone call:   My Eej
3. Last text message: Bolustic
4. Last song you listened to: Scared of Beautiful - Frank Ocean
5. Last time you cried:  few weeks ago
6. Dated someone twice: Nope
7. Been cheated on: Not to my knowledge.
8. Kissed someone: Yes.
9. Lost someone special: Hmm..don't think so
10. Been depressed: I'd hate to say yes because I know it's a big thing for some but I've been deeply sad.
11. Been drunk and threw up: public. It was embarrassing. Patron is not my friend.
12. Black
13. Red
14. Lavender
15. Can't think of a fourth
16. Made new friends:  Yea I have. I find it easy to make friends.
17. Fallen out of love: Got to be in it to fall out, eh?
18. Laughed until you cried: I think so
19. Met someone who changed you: Yep. I still don't know if it was for the better or for the worse.
20. Found out who your true friends were: I'd like to think so
21. Found out someone was talking about you: haha yea. the glory days of college
22. Kissed anyone on your friends list: which list? either way yes.
23. How many people on your friends list do you know in real life: no idea.
25. Do you have any pets: Nope. I am not an animal lover
26. Do you want to change your name: nah
27. What did you do for your last birthday: The big 3-0. Went to Cancun with friends and had a BLAST! the week before and had a bday brunch with the best looking cake ever in MD the week after.
28. What time did you wake up today:  6.30am
29. What were you doing at midnight last night: Watching Friends on Nick at Nite and praying during commercials (bad i know)
30. Name something you CANNOT wait for: Have a comfortable bank account
31. Last time you saw your father:  I wanna say December 2006.
32. What is one thing you wish you could change about your life: The constant barrage of trials and tribulations
33. What are you listening to right now: Angie Miller singing "I surrender" on American Idol
34. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom: yep
35. What’s getting on your nerves right now?: this 3 day pain in my back
36. Most visited webpage:
37. Current city: Dallas, TX 
38. Nicknames: joyshot, perele, pearlina, soapy, baby girl (this is what my mother insists on calling me)
39. Relationship Status: single
40. Zodiac Sign: Virgo
41. Male or female or transgendered: I don't think I could pass as anything but female (yooo, i started typing transgender sha)
42. Primary School: Beehive
43. Middle School: we no get middle school in Naij
44. High school: The Bells/Hastings
45. Hair color:  Color 2
46. Long/medium/short: Long. Soon to be HELLA short
47. Height: 5′ 3
48. Do you have a crush on someone: No
49: What do you like about yourself: I am easy to talk to (which is ironic cuz I can be such a bitch)
50. Piercings: 3 on each ear and a cartilage piercing.
51. Tattoos: None and probably will always be none
52. Righty or Lefty: Righty
53. First Surgery: Gum Cysts
54. First Piercing: Ears
55. First Best Friend: Abiola Williams
56. First Sport you Joined: Tae Kwon Do
57. First Pet: Yuck. I don't like animals. My cousins had a turtle sha when i came to yankee.
58. First Vacation: Ivory Coast when I was 5
59. First Concert: Nickel Back (technically Monica and Brian Mcknight at the rodeo but I don't count that)
60. First Crush: Ah Muyiwa Babatola (see yoruba love started early) He's married now.
61. Eating: Nothing. Had a yummy salmon burger earlier though.
62. Drinking: Nothing
63. Already missing: Nothing really.
64. I’m about to: type the answer to this
65. Listening to: Ryan reading out numbers for Paul on AI
66. Thinking about: when everything will make sense and come together
67. Waiting for: my moment.
68. Want kids: Most definitely
69. Want to get married: Unfortunately yes (the unfortunately is a diff topic, diff day)
70. Careers in mind: Pop culture commentary/critic
71. Lips or eyes:Lips
72. Hugs or kisses:Kisses but man a good hug is everything
73. Shorter or taller: Taller biko
74. Older or Younger: OLDER
75. Romantic or spontaneous: Romantic without being corny/cheesy
76. Nice stomach or nice arms: Arms are my favorite body part on a guy but with this option stomach
77. Sensitive or loud: dammit. Loud. My impatience couldn't deal with sensitivity.
78. Hook-up or relationship: Relationship
79. Trouble maker or hesitant:  Hesitant
81. Drank hard liquor: Yes
82. Lost glasses/contacts: Actually no
83. Kissed on 1st date: Yes
84: Broken someone’s heart: I guess so
85. Had your own heart broken: Heart broken is so dramatic but deeply hurt, very much so.
86. Been arrested:nah
87. Turned someone down: yea
88. Cried when someone died: Yea, my aunt.
89. Liked a friend that is of the same sex: no
90. Yourself: Not as much as I should. But yea.
91. Miracles: I don't know
92. Love at first sight: No
93. Heaven: Yes
94. Santa Claus: No
95. Kissing on the first date: Yes
96. Angels: Yes..
97. Is there one person you want to be with right now?: Yes
98. Had more than one boyfriend/girlfriend at one time?: Nope
99. Wish you could change things in your past?: Yes…
100. Are you posting this as 100 Truths?:  Yep. The truth and nothing but the truth

AIte folks, that's it. Think you know me better? Like Lohi did, if you have more questions feel free to ask. Have a good rest of the week :)

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Some Words for the Week Ahead

It's just been a trying week for me, heck just 2013 in general. I think it's because I made a resolve to just worry less and let go this year, so everything has been thrown in high gear and it has been one thing after the other. Or it could be, as the receptionist at my office building said Mercury is in retrograde and throwing everything all out of wack. Either way, I kept my resolve but today was just even more trying, the simplest things were a struggle, I almost just sat in my car and cried. I remembered an email I found in my inbox while cleaning it up that seemed apt for the moment. I don't even know who I got it from although I think it was from my CILy but I figured it was worth sharing:

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann 1927

Hope this helps you start off your week in a good way. Also, if you didn't read my last post, please do and I urge you to sign up and let me know when you do :). Have a great week guys.

Saturday, March 9, 2013

3six5NG Project

Hi Guys,

Incase you haven't heard of it, the #3Six5NG project is a project I heard about from blogger, RustGeek. It's a pretty cool project and aims to have 365 posts in 365 days from a Nigerian perspective on any topic. In other words "creating a crowd sourced diary of Nigerian perspectives from 365 people for 365 days. Inspired by the Len Kendall and Daniel Honigman created the3six5, we’d set out to create our own ‘local’ the3six5, for Nigeria and Nigerians".

They project kicked off in March and they are looking for contributors, just so I don't botch the whole premise, I'll copy and paste what I was sent and encourage you to sign up for one of the days, it's a pretty cool thing to be part of.

A few years ago, I stumbled on the excellent the3six5 project; founded and curated by two Chicago based techies - Len Kendall and Daniel Honigman. Over the course of 2011 I would get the opportunity to contribute one piece to what was essentially a crowd sourced diary, as @funkolaani and@tonianni. The principal objective of the project was to pull together 365 perspectives of the world - in 365 words and pictures - from 365 different people. Reading through the archives at the original the3six5 site recently, I was reminded of how much variety and nuance such a project can generate, an impact perhaps most measurable by its spawning of local editions - most notable being the3six5chicago which was eventually migrated to an online paper. There was also a local Denver edition and a Sinclair one (both no longer active it seems). Unfortunately, after a three year run, the original 3six5 project came to an end on December 31st, 2012.

Over the last few days, the idea of seeding a local edition - a 'Nigerian' the3six5 - came to mind as a possible project we could progress through 2013. Besides Dan and Len's original guidelines, the only other consideration would be that for this to be truly a local edition, every potential author have a Nigerian connection of some sort.

Critical Success Factors
Two critical success factors for such a project invariably are the people whose perspective of the world we are looking to curate as well as being able to provide the time and resource required to run the project on an on-going basis. This is where you can help and participate - in one of three main ways. 
  1. Contribute your perspective of the world: Every one has a worldview which colours our perspective of the world and our interpretation of events as they unfurl. If you are able to contribute at least one of such 'journal' entries - potentially up to three - we would be keen to speak/email/communicate with you. This journal entry will be a 365 word commentary on the day as it has unfurled around you - it may be something as significant as a change you are working through or as simple as a new recipe for soup you have created - with an appropriate graphic and a 160 word bio. Again, the 3six5 guidelines provide a good summary of what the requirements will be. 
  2. Contribute your time to edit/moderate the project: We recognise that running and curating such a project will be a significant time investment, as Len alluded to on twitter when we first started publicly exploring the opportunity. If you are able and willing to contribute up to a month of your time to help with running the project, please do get in touch. This will typically involve being in touch with the designated poster for the given day(s) within the period you’ll be moderating, making a few tweaks to ensure the post fits the 365 word limit and posting the entry to this shared blog.
  3. Spread the word: Reaching a critical mass of contributors is a significant component to making this succeed. We NEED your help to spread the word and reach out to your friends, acquaintances, family members  - and dare I say foes - who could potentially be interested in being involved in any of the above ways.
We are reachable by a variety of means - 
We are looking to get things properly running for a March 1st start, and look forward to hearing from you at your convenience.. :) 

Thanks and Regards,
The3six5ng Team 


Tuesday, March 5, 2013


I'm fully aware these people don't know me but it's my blog and I can blog about what I want, abi? Ehen, glad we agree. So like, this coupledom worries me. I feel like Mr West controls her. We all know Ms Kardashian's relationship persona, she's in love with love and based on the show, she seems to be a lil' pushover sometimes but maybe it's the show (i doubt). Anyways, for some reason as I was watching Kourtney and Kim in Miami, it just hit me that for true, this babe only wears black and white and if we are lucky she spices it up with grey :/

I flashed back to that scene on Keeping Up with the Kardashians when she first started dating Kanye and he came over one day and cleaned out her whole closet of shoes and clothes, talking about he wants to upgrade her style to a classic look. Now listen, if you want to come upgrade my closet and all, more power to you and yay to that. But to clear out ALL my clothes and then bring in your stylist to replace the clothes with what HE likes not what YOU like. I remember her saying I like color and Kanye saying, "I don't". Well alright then.

Ok now, next thing I heard was her saying that he told her to sign less autographs, so she can maintain some sort of privacy, ok that's not so bad, a lil' privacy never hurt nobody but I mean Kanye is the same dude who announced their pregnancy unplanned. And then these pics came out:

Do these count as private?

I had a 3rd reason why this couple worry me (because 3 makes it legit) but I can't remember my third reason  so booooo! :(. I'll update if I remember. I wish them the best but I really hope they work out and their baby is the cutest there ever was. What do you guys think about this relationship?

Saturday, March 2, 2013

Songs on Shuffle

I've done this in the past, figured I'd do it again. I pressed play and below are the 10 songs that came on.

1.  Beneath Your Beautiful - Labrinth ft Emeli Sande. I absolutely love this song. Everything about it, from the voices to lyrics to melody. If you haven't heard this song, run along now and rectify that.

2. Tongolo - D'banj. I don't even remember the last time I heard this song. Back when D'banj was D'banj, not this new one we have going on.

3. Teach Me - Fantasia. This was from her "Back to Me" album, which I have to say is actually pretty good. I have actually always been a fan of her voice. Very chill, nice song.

4. In your hands - Jason Mraz. So I have nothing to say, it's one of those songs I always skip when it comes on and have never really listened to. Listening to it now and it's not bad.

5. I'm a Mavin - Mavins. From the Solar Plexus album. Song just dey. Nothing to say.

6. Come back home - William Fitzsimmons - This dude never really blew up. But this is such a sweet, sad song of forgiveness.

just realizing I am more than half way through and I only have 2 upbeat songs come up and they are Nigerian songs.

7. Mercy - Duffy. Ah, back before Adele came and stole her shine.

8. One by One - Dj Spinall. I think the artist name is right? Another naija song, chilling in my music library.

9. Moment 4 Life - Nicki Minaj - Man, I hated this song when it was in rotation. They played it die on the radio.

10. Just Don't - Raphael Saadiq. Something about this dude's voice is just nice. very comforting. Well, this song isn't one of my faves.

I guess that's it, maybe I should have made this 20 songs. If you want 10 more let me know, I'll do it some time. Did you see any of your faves on the list?