Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Is it Settling?

I think everyone should have read this blog post by now and if you haven't, please take a second to read through it and then come back to see what I have to say on the topic.

I'll wait...

...Are you back? Good.

So, I read this blog post and thought about what I had just read. Not long after, a friend messaged it to me and he asked me what I thought about it, and I thought about it some more. I have said before that I totally get why people settle, but in my heart of hearts I don't know that I am one of those that can go through with settling. After reading this, I can't say this girl was wrong or she was right because all it boils down to is that we are all different individuals. Now, to be honest my first thought when I read this was this is crap BUT she *seems* to be at peace with her decision and ultimately I have always thought that that is an important factor when you walk down the aisle, to be at peace with your decision. But, there are other factors to consider.

I've seen someone close to me make this same decision and the common thing they both shared was that they both made this decision after coming out of a painful breakup/relationship(I should add that in spite of all the adoration the "tayo" in the relationship bestowed, the love never came). Most of us have been in this situation, been hurt, been in a relationship where you seem to be doing more but like everything else, we all handle stuff differently. A lot of the commenters raised valid points. They say love with your head and your heart. In this case, she is admittedly loving with just her head and listing the little things about him that she didn't care for. They usually say that, that which you found cute about your partner in the beginning is what will drive you crazy later and i think that's where the whole dizzying stars "love" help you to be blind small and she doesn't have that. I truly believe those "honeymoon" years and lovey dovey time memories help on those days when you just want to kill your partner. Her mom said when the sex starts then the love will follow. I don't know how I felt about that. If she isn't feeling any passion for him right now, does sex automatically bring the passion and love? My friend thinks that at some point she might stray. why? because she has experienced passion and excitement from someone else and if it doesn't come later, she will know what she is missing out on.

All that being said, I cannot refute something that she said which was "I am with the man God selected, handpicked for me". I am going to go ahead and assume that she received a confirmation from God and only the both of them know their relationship. I can admit that I am looking at her situation from my own point of view and my own experiences and characteristics. Some argue that this "love" and "butterflies" we make noise about is over rated and in the end being "smart" is what counts. They may be right and they may be wrong. The one thing I noticed from this post was that it didn't seem like the writer thought that she could find a good man that she could be in love with that also possessed Tayo characteristics. I may not be the fairytale kinda gal but I do believe that it's very possible. Ultimately, I wish the writer the very best and wish her happiness.

So..what do you guys think?


PS MPB reminded me of something I wanted to say that I forgot to in my haste to post. I do wonder where Tayo stands in all of this. Is he aware he is marrying someone who is not in love with him?

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Friday Randoms

Hiya folks, happy friday to ya. Hope everyone had a good week but good or bad it's always great to have the weekend here. It's been a stressful week and half for me and I haven't been sleeping so well so by early evening, I am so wiped out. I was a crabby monster today. oops. I heard of at least 3 deaths this week and I am just wondering if this is what it is to get older, just the constant news of someone dying, it's a bit scary but may the souls of all those who passed rest in peace. Before I start randoms, I did have one bright spot this week and got the best news from a friend. You know who you are, so so happy for ya and love you plenty! Alrighty folks, let's go dia!

I watch tv and see white folks fretting over their kid can't go to xyz college because there's no college fund. I am like shuo, student loan no dey? job no dey? You guys know about my hatred for student loans and I understand totally wanting to avoid it but it's an option, people haven't died from it.

Small talk sucks.

Last Sunday, the priest talked about not just praying but also listening to God. I swear, I always mean to do this but I chicken out because I am scared of what I will hear cuz I am sure it'll be a whole lot of scolding.

I think most people our age think they are invincible. I wonder what it's like being old. People always say it will be okay as long as you have lived a fulfilled life but it's not about that. It's just the thing of getting older and realizing your time is getting less and less. There's just something beautiful about life and being able to do stuff.

I finally watched No strings attached. I couldn't help but compare it to Friends with Benefits. My goodness, NSA was an utterly ridiculous movie, it was terrible.

I randomly remembered in secondary school when someone was caught with a guy and she sold out and told the principal and vice principal all those that had boyfriends. Yea, I had a boyfriend at 13, trust me it wasn't serious. Although he did ask me at our christmas party for some "fun". 13 yr old me was appalled. Like wth do you mean fun? that's disgusting. how can you ask me such? lolll.

No matter what you think, we are all judgmental in some way.

You guys remember Bruno Mars getting caught with cocaine right? This man never went to rehab or anything, so I guess we are to believe that he just quit the habit cold turkey and never touched the stuff again? riiiiight.

I left Facebook 2 years ago and I still get asked what happened. It's like everyone is convinced that something traumatic happened. Is it so absurd to not want to be on fb?

The acronym POTUS just sounds weird. Like it should be a slang name for genitals or something.

Oh, so I finally got to go to a place and eat/drink by myself. Was in Memphis for work and was told to check out Beale street. It's this street with a whole bunch of bars and restaurants all lined up one after the other. I got harassed for a bit by this annoying guy but he eventually left and I got to enjoy my drink. ( I swear I am getting to used to doing stuff by myself)

"There are days when you won't feel "in love". That's what the vows are for. That's when love as choice trumps love as a feeling"

I might be a little sensitive to it but I get a bit testy when people make comments about children from single homes. They've never experienced it but they have general assumptions about their "issues". It's as much as an assumption as assuming that long term marriages are all automatically happy ones and automatically produce issue-less kids.

Here's to new beginnings and trying new things.

Compliments go a long way..at least for women.

*Feminists close your ears* I want to be spoiled. I want to be taken care of. I have stuff around my apartment that I'd like done for me. It's been so long since I've had to not be ms independent/worry/take care of stuff. I'd like to just forget everything and be pampered. Ok I am done, g-suit put back on.

I have to skinny dip sometime in my lifetime.

So 98% of my BB statuses are song titles or from songs but there are 3 categories my contacts deduce from it. 1 - i am some oversexed freak 2- I am in love 3- I am depressed and sad. It's hilarious the comments I get but I listen to music for most of my day, so when a song I like comes up, I just change it. Oh well.

I think "Follow your heart" is one of the most bs advice you can give to anyone.

“Sin is like an incredible meal that becomes poisonous venom in your stomach. What you eat on Earth you may digest in Hell.” - Lecra. Let's just say that sent chills down my spine.

Well that's all I got for y'all tonight. As always, have a wonderful weekend and be safe in all ways.

Oh before I go guys, check out the Vixen Series on this blog and feel free to leave a comment or two.

Vixen Series - 1

Vixen Series - 2

Vixen Series - 3


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Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Loving Yourself - The Demi Moore Interview

Demi Moore on her feelings about her body:

I have had a love-hate relationship with my body. When I’m at the greatest odds with my body, it’s usually because I feel my body’s betraying me, whether that’s been in the past, struggling with my weight and feeling that I couldn’t eat what I wanted to eat, or that I couldn’t get my body to do what I wanted it to do. … Sweet and savory. I think I sit today in a place of greater acceptance of my body, and that includes not just my weight but all of the things that come with your changing body as you age to now experiencing my body as extremely thin — thin in a way that I never imagined somebody would be saying to me, “You’re too thin, and you don’t look good.”
I find peace when I don’t see my body as my enemy, when I step back and have appreciation and look at all that my body has done for me. It’s allowed me to give birth to three beautiful children, allowed me to explore different roles as an actor, allowed me to be strong. You can’t look at yourself in the mirror and tear your body apart. You have to look at it and go, “Thank you. Thank you for standing by me, for being there for me no matter what I have put you through.”


On how Ashton cheating on her really kind of translated into “I’m not living up to my full potential” somehow or another:

I think what scares me is not having the courage to reach my full potential … which means that I would allow fear, insecurity, and doubt to rule me and that I would ask for only a little of what is actually there for me. It would mean that I would be settling. And so for me, it’s not just about reaching my potential in terms of my career. It goes more to the idea of being whole, of loving oneself. And I think there is no way to reach your fullest potential if you don’t really find the love of yourself. If I were to answer it just kind of bold-faced, I would say what scares me is that I’m going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I’m really not lovable, that I’m not worthy of being loved. That there’s something fundamentally wrong with me.


News broke today or was it yesterday that Demi Moore had checked into rehab for anorexia and to have general wellness back. The excerpts above are from an interview she did with Harper's Bazaar and you can tell that something was up. Forget the fact that she is a rich woman with a body that looked good after 3 children. Some of the things she said above are worries a lot of women have, speaking for myself I know I have had a love-hate relationship for my body for a long time and even though I am not 100% and still a work in progress, I am at a place where I am beginning to accept myself and work with what I got. Just reading the interview made me uncomfortable, it was just...negative. This particularly - If I were to answer it just kind of bold-faced, I would say what scares me is that I’m going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I’m really not lovable, that I’m not worthy of being loved. That there’s something fundamentally wrong with me - struck a chord with me. I'll confess to having thoughts like this but reading/hearing it from someone else, that's such an awful thing to say and makes me dig my heels further in my resolve to just continue in my quest for a better me. I have always been adamant not to pass any unhealthy or negative thoughts and body issues down to my daughter if I have one, especially in a world like ours where everything is so body driven.

Anyways, just thought I'd share and spread encouragement to anyone struggling with body issues. Hope we all get to that happy place of acceptance. Have a lovely rest of the week, the weekend is round the corner!! muah!

Friday, January 20, 2012

The Pre-Nup Issue

So by now, you must be under a rock if you haven't heard how Vanessa and Kobe reached a settlement in their divorce which included $75 million and 3 of their mansions. My dearly beloved twitter had boys and girls alike with their panties in a bunch about this issue. I exaggerate, let me be nice and say they simply aired their views on the matter. There were two sides: those who thought Vanessa was a bloodsucking, greedy bitch who didn't deserve the money and those who thought Kobe was a cheating bastard who deserved to be hit in the pockets.

Left to me alone, it's really not that serious. This isn't the first couple to have a divorce in California that involved large sums of money but I have to say I am quite amused by how passionate everyone was getting. Is it brand new news that a spouse is entitle to half the partner's earnings in California after 10 years of marriage? - this is where those that think she is a gold digger will say she waited specifically to hit this mark to file - which may or may not be true, meh. Was Kobe not of sane mind when he decided to not get a pre-nup? Anyways, what gets me the most out of all of this is how the fact that he cheated, allegedly a number of times is being treated like nothing. I know cheating has become so rampant that most people are desensitized to it and it's like oh you will heal get over it but I really don't think people realize what it's like to be hurt so blatantly and repeatedly by someone you love.(before i get attacked, I am assuming they loved each other). Sure, the money helps but that shit fucks with your head. We don't know what happens behind closed doors but what if he had given her a disease? Will sorry cure your herpes or in the most dire situation, HIV? I dunno, yea maybe she is taking too much from him but he cheated! He decided to get married without a pre-nup, he decided to step outside the marriage - the consequence of that is that his wife might discover and choose to file a divorce and he risks losing his fortune. what did the babe do? did she put a gun to the judge's head and demand? Last I checked it was a settlement, meaning Kobe agreed abi? We don't have the full story and all the strong stances being made are just..na wa.

So just for fun, I asked a friend of mine that if he was banking like that would he make his wife sign a pre-nup? and he said yes. I asked why? He said because being that rich there's more of chance of a woman trying to take advantage of you and it's never 100% certain. I responded with well even in our regular pay bracket nothing is ever certain. He said, well in this case there's more to lose (which is true talk). So then I asked if you think there's a chance she might take advantage of you why marry? So clearly, I was just joshing around but I always wonder about that for these celebs with boatloads of money. Why bother marrying at all? Ok fine, I get the love part but it's not like they are bound to religious or fire breathing naija parents like us plus statistics are not on their side, so why marry? Save your assets and keep it moving.

Another thought I had was can you have both? Both being, can you have all the warm goodness of love that makes you want to get married and save your money at the same time? I ask because there are people who take offense to signing a pre nup because they translate it as not being trusted etc etc. Do you truly love someone if you expect them to screw you over? This Cali law isn't restricted to big ol' moneybags, so fella's what pay bracket would you start to worry and make your wife sign a prenup? Ladies, would you be offended if you are asked to sign a pre nup? Personally, I don't think ( I say think, i don't know how i'd feel in an actual situation where i have strong feelings for someone) I would be offended if the reason is because you know...shit happens. Where I think i'd be offended is if he thinks I would want to take advantage of him and wait 10 years and pow! flee with half. This life gan, nothing is ever black or white. Whatever happens, I hope they both find some kind of peace with the situation and their kids adjust the best they can to it too. Feel free to comment and let me know what you think on the matter.

Have a lovely weekend my people. Stay safe and stay blessed.:)

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Come what may

Happy hump day folks. I feel like I should apologize for my recent posts of just songs on here but it's my blog abi? I actually think if i put my mind to it, I could express myself with just songs. I had a mini road trip today and that always equals reconnecting with songs I haven't heard in forever. I might as well tell you there is no rhyme or reason to this post and I have no point at all. Like Monica said, "just one of those days", well except in this case it means so much to say but nothing will be said. I think I'll go get myself a drink (sidebar: it's pretty easy to be an alcoholic sha). There won't be any randoms this week, so have yourself a lovely weekend. I intend to have a good one by God's grace. :)

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I think I know the Moulin Rouge soundtrack word for word from beginning to end.


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Monday, January 16, 2012

Poison & Wine

I adore this song. Have a great week ahead, my lovelies :)

You only know what I want you to
I know everything you don't want me to
Oh your mouth is poison, your mouth is wine
Oh you think your dreams are the same as mine

Oh I don't love you but I always will
Oh I don't love you but I always will
Oh I don't love you but I always will
I always will

I wish you'd hold me when I turn my back
The less I give the more I get back
Oh your hands can heal, your hands can bruise
I don't have a choice but I still choose you

Oh I don't love you but I always will
Oh I don't love you but I always will



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Friday, January 13, 2012

Friday Randoms

I was supposed to do this last night but after days of not sleeping, my body seems to have finally come around and I am crashing something major, so I am scrambling to do this right quick before I head to work. It's been such a busy week at work and it's been oh so cold :(. We've had freeze warnings and such, even my hot water doesn't get as hot as it usually does but no complaining,some have it worse complete with snow. It's the weekend! yay!. I'll go ahead and just random.

Every now and then I see comments from people who say thick girls are tricky because in the future they eventually get fat. I always wonder about that logic and wonder why everyone seems to ignore the fact that there have been slim girls who just blew up from nowhere.

I was reading (or watching) don't remember and it said that there are cases of having orgasms during childbirth. To which I call bullshit. Who comes up with these things?

It's really cute seeing men who just adore their wives sincerely.

So many times you hear women say "He will never find anyone who cares for me as much as I do". Unfortunately, he will.

There are people who have lived life very well. You know how you can tell? Pick any ludicrous story you can think of and they will have a story that can relate to it.

I watched that episode of RHOA where Bob counter sued Sheree for child support. He won that day and was doing leaps and twirls and sticking his tongue out. I was so angry. I thought the day you become a parent, you live for your child and would do anything to provide for them?

I know I am guilty of this but that feeling when somebody hurts you so much and they aren't even aware of it. sucks.

I was watching a show and this guy and this girl start getting it on and she starts to cry. She later explained that it hit her that she was an "in between girl" - the girl guys hang out with or sleep with and right after settle in a relationship. Maybe it's not new but i'd never heard that term before.

See back in the day when I used to block out my feelings, life was so much easier. Dealing with feelings is so much wahala but I guess it's part of growing up.

"Moving on isn't the hard part. Staying moved on is the hard part"

Ah human beings. Forever seeking validation from other human beings.

My friend mentioned to me that someone going to Redeemed was a deal breaker for her and I instantly agreed. Now, now Redeemed members don't get offended. I am catholic and I have heard a number of times how that's a deal breaker for some. I guess, it depends on the type of Redeemer you are sha.

So it was brought to my knowledge that once an Igbo man decides to wife up a chick, he does that quick and they don't do any of that long engagement/dating thing. On the Yoruba side, their men marry younger. What say ye people?

You know what sucks? Recounting a convo and realizing all the things that you should have said at that time.

Ladies, would you go to a club on your own?

My married friends stay throwing in my face how much regular sex they are getting. yeye friends.

I had a little moment this week. Was talking to my friend and he said "You're awesome". I was ready to respond and state how nah, not really etc etc and I stopped myself and thought he didn't say you are perfect. he just said you are awesome, take the compliment and move on. So I said thank you and that was that. Hoping for more of that this year.

Have a wonderful weekend folks. Stay blessed and pray for our fellow Nigerians back home. Hopefully things get better and not worse.

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Friday, January 6, 2012

Just enjoy the show

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I don't know where to go, can't do it alone
I've tried and I don't know why

Slow it down, make it stop or else my heart is going to pop
'Cause it's too much, yeah it's a lot to be something I'm not
I'm a fool out of love 'cause I just can't get enough

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I don't know where to go, can't do it alone
I've tried and I don't know why

I'm just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out, it's bringing me down
I know I've got to let it go and just enjoy the show

The sun is hot in the sky just like a giant spotlight
The people follow the signs and synchronize in time
It's a joke nobody knows, they've got a ticket to the show

I want my money back, I want my money back
I want my money back, just enjoy the show
I want my money back, I want my money back
I want my money back, just enjoy the show



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Thursday, January 5, 2012

Taking Stock 2011

Taking Stock was a blog post idea that I got from another blog back in 2010. It's a pretty cool way of just documenting how your year went in different aspects of your life. I have been asked what I thought of 2011 and if it was a good year for me. Quite frankly, any year which I get to live through and see a new year is a good year because it means I get the chance to keep forging ahead and keep hope alive. So without further ado, here we go.

FAITH

Definitely not giving myself top marks this year in this area. I mean, I went to church and said my prayers but I can't say that I grew spiritually and complacency is never a good thing. If I could just find that magical serum that transforms good intentions to actions. This year, I'd like to have more quality prayer time with God and work on not just praying but also listening to what He has to say to me.

FAMILY

My family was great last year and were always there for me as far as distance can allow. I got to see my mom much more than usual also, which was good. I don't really have any family here in the States and most times I feel very disconnected from my extended family back in Nigeria. They are all building families and their kids don't know who I am. On the flip, I don't know a lot of fam on my dad's side and it was pretty nice getting to know my cousin better on that side of the family this christmas. I have to say that it's a tad difficult noticing how my mom/uncle/aunties are getting older and I am very aware of their mortality, sigh. Either way, I am grateful for the family I have and it's good to know that even if we don't see much, they still have my back.

FRIENDSHIP

Ah, human beings and our complications. Well, it was a good year for friendships, *knock on wood*, I am yet to experience the flat out big betrayals that people always talk about and I am grateful for the people I get to call my friends and allow me to be myself while keeping judgements to a minimum. I used to think as you got older, you couldn't make new friends like your old ones but I think I disagree. I have met some amazing people as I get older. I did learn something about friendships last year though. As I get older, my tolerance gets lower and I have less time for bs. I learned that friendships should not be forced and once you learn the dynamics of a friendship the easier and better it is. Just as everyone is different, every friendship is different. It's about understanding your friend and knowing if it's something you want to invest time and effort in. If you don't, chuck the deuces and don't force something that isn't. I do wonder if it's terrible that I feel like if anyone decides they didn't want to be friends with me anymore, it'll suck but life goes on, so #ontothenext. That being said, I am grateful for each and every one of my friends who have been there with me and I love and appreciate you all.

FINANCES

Lol. I think that's about all I can say to this. Ok, don't get me wrong, I am not starving by any means. I am one of those savers as opposed to a spender. Like almost everyone else, I wish I was earning more. My student loans still hover around me like a dark cloud and my medical bills didn't make things any easier. I shut down one of my credit cards though so yay. I don't have any bill collectors knocking at my door so I suppose I am good. I am a tither and I do believe it has helped me, cuz sometimes when I think I am going to drown, I somehow make it. So here's to a continuation of my financial responsibility in the new year and some money windfall dropping from the sky into my account.

EDUCATION/CAREER PATH

Well after 3 long years, I finally got my MBA completed. It was really difficult working and going to school at the same time and I remember in the beginning feeling like there was no way I could cut it and graduation was a lifetime away, but I did it and stuck it through, so pat on the back for me. Well now I have it, the next question is "what next?". I love my job. I actually do. I like the people I work with, I like my company culture. I have worked a job, I absolutely hated and so this is huge for me. As much as I love my job, I just know I could be doing more and would like to put my MBA to good use (and also earn money). So, its about that time to take that leap of faith again. Of course, there are those who keep whispering the move back to Nigeria chant. I am not opposed to it, it just has to be the right opportunity for me and I have to be ready. Honestly, if I had my way I would want to do a one or two year stint internationally (don't care where) and figure my way out from there. I ultimately will still want to own a business of mine but I guess I'll wait till I figure out what industry that will be. This is a huge prayer point of mine this year, ya girl needs some serious direction.

RELATIONSHIPS

*takes deep breath*

Ok, my dramatic moment is over. As y'all may know, I am not the most exciting when it comes to relationships (or maybe I am and I am just being coded lol). I will say this (no cockiness), I am not going to lie, I don't lack for interest from the opposite sex. Most people will say it's the ass and maybe that's what it is but I'd like to believe that I have a great personality also. I had a fun dating year but all that being said, yea I was still single through 2011. My friends have done their dissections, analyzing etc to figure out what be the problem?. I know what the problem is, but y'all ain't ready for my issues lol. I have a knack for liking people where it isn't reciprocated, I have done that in the past and 2011 was no exception and I am beginning to think I do it on purpose. Well for 2012, I think I am ready to give a serious relationship [and myself] a chance. I'd like to allow myself to believe that I could be in a situation where someone sees how amazing I am - and most importantly, I allow myself to believe it's true and enjoy the ride. We'll see how it goes, so help me God :)

PHYSICAL HEALTH/GENERAL WELL BEING

I was doing great for most of the year. I had a work out plan, was trying to eat right and as you all know, had the biggest health challenge I had ever experienced in my life. I don't think I can ever explain fully the whole journey, but I can never express my gratitude to God enough for seeing me through. I never get into full details about it but I think the effects will always be there mentally or maybe it's still too soon. There's a lot I worry about but I can't do anything about it. Besides, all that I think I was pretty good generally. I am a natural worrier so, every now and then when my brain was in over drive, I'd have my bouts of not sleeping. I hope to get back on a work out plan this year and work towards a healthier, happier me :)

ADDICTIONS/BAD HABITS/SOCIAL LIFE

Nothing's changed. I am still addicted to my blackberry, tv and all things internet. I am slowly trying to wean myself off juice, since I could guzzle that thing all day long. My bad habit in 2011 was letting fear rule my life and not just going out and grabbing life by the balls. I used to be so gutsy, I wonder what happened. I think I had a pretty good social life. I don't go out as much as I used to in my city but I traveled a lot and I always get to do stuff when I am out of town. I really hope I get to go somewhere international this year. Nigeria stays taking my vacay time!!

Ok, this was long as hell but I am finally done yay! Yea, that's my 2011 in a kinda nutshell. I am sure I left a whole bunch of stuff out but it is currently 4.41am, normal people are sleeping. Feel free to share yours or let me know if you do yours, so I can check it out. Here's wishing everyone a happy, healthy, fulfilling and fantastic 2012!

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Touch Down Yankee

So I am back. Just got in a few hours ago and it was a loooong and tedious journey but I finally made it home safe and sound, bags intact and all and for that I thank Baba God. Happy New Year guys!!. Hope everyone had a wonderful new year, I had a good one. For one, compared to last year, I wasn't in the air feeling sorry for myself. I was with loved ones surrounded by too much food. I still didn't get a new year kiss though :(. One day....

Naija was fun. Naija is always fun.Unfortunately, I can't get into major, major details :D, so just take my word for it. It was good seeing a lot of friends and hanging out and just enjoying myself with no worries. Nepa was so good to me (yes me), in the two weeks that I was there, I didn't sleep without light not for one day (can you believe that?). I took leaving harder than I thought I would, I was actually really bummed and wished I could spend more time but back to reality jare. Operation Get Taynement to move was in effect and my cousin says he is going to get me back even if it's for a year lol.

If you haven't already seen me tweet this, I have to share what the customs guy said to me when I got in. After, singling me out for a search, I was wheeling my suitcase in and he said "did you bring bushmeat?". Before I could get over that shock, he went through my suitcase, found nothing ( I honestly came back with nothing, I swear I must have lost my brain, I didn't even come back with music or my regular staple of groundnuts, nothing I tell you) anyways, he goes, "You mean, you didn't even bring hair?". I guess our people be rolling into the country with bush meat and brazilian hair?? Either way, I shook my head for my country. Let's not even get into details of what's going on now with the fuel subsidy and all. May God help the average man/woman in that country.

I am truly grateful for the grace of seeing the new year and thankful for last year. I will be doing my Taking Stock 2011 post soon and will put it up when I'm done. I'll try to be as honest as I can.

Oh p.s can I share that when we did the midnight prayer to ring in the new year, all the girls in the house were made to pray a spinster prayer for 2012 to be the "year of marriage bells" lmaoooo.

Alright guys, have a wonderful week, I am going to find something to medicate my throat it's so raw and sore and I still have a cold. Need to get back in top health for the busy months ahead at work. Laters!!