Friday, September 28, 2012

Friday Randoms

Hi guys, how are ya? How have you been? I've been pretty good and taking advantage of this thing called life. I went to one of the funnest weddings I've ever been to last week and it was fun seeing friends I hadn't seen in a while, we partied for like 3 days straight and generally had a good time. Today was such an annoying day for me, I had to go somewhere work related and as I was chilling in traffic some big ol' van hit me from behind. Great! I pull over, damage not bad but it's a company car, have to go through procedure, I am getting the insurance info and of course I see the insurance is expired. I call my office, they say I have to get a police report. I call the police (did you know that if you call 911, you can be put on hold?). 3 calls and 3 hours later they show up and say since it's minimal damage they can't file a report. The cop speaks spanish and is rapping merrily with the guy who hit me. While he does that his partner, instead of helping, proceeds to now start asking me if I live in Dallas, how long I have lived there, how old am i? mschewww. A bunch of other nonsense happened but whatever. re: my last post I am not allowed to complain. So counting blessings and moving on. Let's random.

How crazy is the whole Johnny Lewis death story? For those of you who don't know, Johnny Lewis is an actor, best known as Half Sack on Sons of Anarchy. He died today from either a fall or a jump from the roof of a house where an old woman was found dead, and he allegedly killed her. There was also a dead cat. The whole thing is just strange.

Please does anyone get what this Mike and Ike (candy) ad is about? I get so irritated when I see it because it doesn't make any sense to me.

What age do you consider reasonable for your kid to start having sex (assuming they are gonna do it anyway). Would it vary depending on their sex? if yes, why?

I'm not sure how I would feel dating a guy with one kid talkless of four. I keep wondering how Keke Wyatt's husband did it, seeing as she has 6 kids and I think either 1 or 2 is/are his. Fear go catch me.

Ladies, would the number of women a guy has slept with bother you? If you say no, how about if it's up to or over a 100?

At the rate we are going in our generation, I honestly don't know who "hates" the other sex more, men or women. It just feels like lately, we have nothing nice to say about each other. Which is ironic, because we can't live without each other.

Please feel free to disagree, but life is hard and life is exhausting.

I read a blog where this lady was giving her remedies on how she gets over heartbreak. She mentioned that she goes through this at least 3 times a year and I am like huh?? How does one experience heartbreak at least 3 times a year and keep repeating the cycle? Actually, how do people get over heartbreak and have the energy to do it all over again. Do people ever really get over people? Love is for the strong y'all.

I'm not sure if I have any male readers, but if you do can you please explain the reasoning (besides madness) behind a guy not wanting to be with you but not wanting you to be with someone else?

I found it very interesting and cool that while I was in Mexico, they pronounced my last name right, every single time.

So, Usher cheated on Tameka with not one but two women who were bridesmaids at his wedding. Read an excerpt from Wyclef's book and he outlines how he was cheating on his girlfriend (now wife) with Lauryn Hill, even after they got married. I just...I don't know. I know men cheat, I know men play games but it's like fear no dey anymore. I truly believe it's so much worse when you cheat with someone that she knows or that is close to home. Usher can have anyone he wants, why cheat with your wife's friend??? Don't get me wrong, the women who knowingly go along with it too are in the wrong also. I just...why am i trying to figure this out. maybe it's the thrill. meh.

It's a wonderful thing when you meet someone you have amazing chemistry/passion with but it could go either way. It could be the best thing ever or the most dangerous thing ever.

I get annoyed when I am watching an ad for a show and I am waiting for the times and they say "Check your local listings". Well, if it is a nationally aired show, there's a set time, why not just tell us the time?

If you follow me on twitter, you might have read a whole bunch of rants that a friend of mine went on, on wednesday and thursday. It was quite amusing and the reactions were also amusing. I was going to do a post on it but I am still undecided as to whether I will or not. All I can say is this is why the concept of marriage is quite fascinating to me. Men and women are so vastly different that it's a wonder how people survive a lifetime of marriage. God be with us all.

Iyanla might be very extra and annoying but the one thing I will agree with her on is, your intuition is your power as a woman. Now, I am talking about the real intuition, not paranoid thoughts stemming from jealousy. Personally, my intuition has always led me right. Too bad, I almost always ignore it.

I hope you guys have a wonderful weekend. Stay blessed and stay safe.

You might recognize this song from the Internet Explorer ad. I like the words of the song. It's ultimately about choosing honesty even though the other party might be hurt.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

No Complaining Rule

One of my devotionals that I receive via email, the topic today was about complaining, which I know most of us are guilty off. I felt compelled to share this with you guys. Hope it speaks to you, like it did me. See y'all later tonight, I think I just might have some randoms to share. Have a wonderful day!

5 Things to Do Instead of ComplainBy Jon Gordon
This week's topic: The Power Of The Tongue

I’ve been speaking to a lot of organizations around the country and one thing I keep hearing from leaders and employees is that complaining is at an all time high. I’m not surprised. There are usually two main reasons why we complain. 1. We complain because we feel powerless. 2. We complain because it’s a habit. The economy has shaken a lot of people’s foundations and we feel powerless which leads to a rise in habitual complaining.
But complaining isn’t something new. Think about the Israelites who had spent years as captive slaves and within a short time of being freed they start complaining. They complained about being hungry. They complained about not having enough water. They complained about living in the wilderness. They even said it would be better to be back in Egypt as slaves rather than be free in the desert. Four hundred years of slavery, and they didn’t appreciate the freedom and blessing they have been given.
Here’s the thing, God doesn’t want us to be complainers, He wants us to live with a spirit of joy and thanksgiving.
“Now when the people complained, it displeased the Lord…” – Numbers 11:1 (NKJV
“Do all things without complaining and disputing…” -Philippians 2:14 (NKJV)
So today I want to encourage you to adopt a No Complaining Rule and go on a complaining fast. Not because it will make everyone around you happier, although it will, but because it will help you experience more of the peace and joy that God wants for you, and it will help you build strong, positive relationships with others.
Believe me; I know a lot about complaining. I use to be a professional complainer and found that it not only sabotages your happiness but the morale of your team and family.
To help you break out of a “complaining” rut here are five things you can do instead of complain. These tips will help you realize you are not powerless. You have the power to choose your beliefs and actions. And in your focus on the positive instead of the negative you'll find the faith, strength and confidence to take on life’s challenges and identify the solutions to your complaints.
1. Practice Gratitude. Research shows that when we count three blessings a day, we get a measurable boost in happiness that uplifts and energizes us. It's also physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time. If you are focusing on gratitude, you can't be negative. (Psalm 118:24)
2. Praise Others. Instead of complaining about what others are doing wrong, start focusing on what they are doing right. Praise them and watch as they create more success as a result. Of course, point out their mistakes so they can learn and grow, but make sure you give three times as much praise as criticism. You can energize and engage your coworkers by encouraging them and their work. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
3. Focus on Success. Start a success journal. Each night before you go to bed, write down the one great thing about your day. The one great conversation, accomplishment, or win that you are most proud of. Focus on your success, and you'll look forward to creating more success tomorrow. (Philippians 4:8)
4. Let Go. Focus on the things that you have the power to change, and let go of the things that are beyond your control. Give it up to God and trust Him with the outcome. You’ll be amazed that when you stop trying to control everything, it all somehow works out. Surrender is the answer. (Proverbs 3:5)
5. Pray. God wants to hear from you. He wants to have a personal relationship with you on a daily basis. Take your worries to Him and He will help you. If you’re a skeptic, also know that scientific research shows that daily prayer reduces stress; boosts positive energy; and promotes health, vitality, and longevity. When you are faced with the urge to complain or you are feeling stressed to the max, stop, be still, plug-in to the ultimate power of God and recharge. (Philippians 4:6)
Scripture of the Day: “Do all things without complaining and disputing…” -Philippians 2:14 (NKJV)

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Letter to her younger self

This is a letter Tatyana Ali wrote to her youngerself. I completely and shamelessly stole this from Anomaly's blog (Check her out). Happy Hump Day!

Dear Tatyana,

Don't be afraid of who you are.  In the times that lie ahead, you would have to stand up for yourself and hold your ground for what you believe in and those moments will define you.  Put your relationship with God first and everything else will fall into place. Cherish your sisters, your family, and your true friends - you will know who they are because they will speak truth to you.  Remember that love never needs to be rushed, take your time.  When you truly love and honor yourself, real love will find you.  I want you to know how capable you are.  You can do anything.  All you need to carry is your courage.

PS Thank you all so much for the birthday wishes!

Monday, September 10, 2012

Say Hello to Goodbye

My blog title may not relate to my post today but in my head it did. It's a song title that popped in my head and I decided to use. It's my birthday today and today is also the day I say hello to my 30's and goodbye to my 20's (make sense now?).

I am a big birthday person. Whether it's mine or not, there's just something so exciting about celebrating a birthday. To me it means celebrating the fact that you made it through another year in this tough thing called life. The way I see it, it's either you are dead or getting older and I don't know about you but I'd rather be getting older. I just came back from a great trip with great friends to Cancun and I will be chilling today and enjoying my own company. A friend of mine made a comment about enjoying seeing me grow over the years, embracing life and its challenges and growing into my own woman. I agree with her and think I have grown over the years. I have learned a lot and I have seen my fair share of challenges. My twenties were very very very eventful and I look forward to seeing what my thirties have for me. As I type this, I thank God for all he has given me, especially the grace of life. I hope he sees it fit to continue to bless, guide and protect me.

Happy Birthday to me and y'all have a wonderful week! :)

Monday, September 3, 2012

Your thoughts?

I have always liked Pink (the singer). I think she is very underrated. It's quite hard for me to find a Pink song that I don't like, whether it's the R&B Pink or the alternative-pop Pink. I think what I like about her is you can tell she is being her. Even when she is being obnoxious and rude, you can tell her songs are straight from her heart. I just read an interview that she had and there were two things from the interview that stood out to me.

The first

Pink: I am never the kind of person sitting at home reading the charts and basing how I feel about myself or even my career on stats. I've always based it on, Am I doing the best that I can do? And how's my Fuck you account?

Q: What's that?

Pink: When I first started, L.A Reid said, "Make sure you put money in your Fuck You account. That's the account that, one day when people ask you to do things you don't want to do, you say Fuck you". I make sure that my Fuck you account is okay, so that you never have to make decisions based on money. I fell like that's where people kill their careers.

I am obviously not a famous gazillionaire, but if I was I think this would be fantastic advise. You would think with the way fame is fleeting it would be common sense but alas...

The second

Q: At one point on the new album, you sing "I really hate you so much. I think it must be true love". How much of that is you being funny and how much is it you being honest about your relationship with Carey (her husband. They broke up once before getting back together)

Pink: It's 100 percent always going on in my head. Carey and I have a very passionate relationship. No one pisses me off like my mom or my husband. I think psychologically, if you can get a rise out of someone, it means they care. We're also taught from a young age - and I am watching it with my daughter - that sometimes the only way she can get our attention is to do something bad. So we're kind of programmed from a young age to test the waters, and who do we do that with? The people we feel safest with. It's fucked up.

So the second one was really the one I wanted to ask what you guys thought. But in general, what do you think of her answer to the second question, especially the bolded parts? I don't agree that getting a rise out of someone means they care but I do know how easy it is for people we love like our parents to get under our skin, so hence the blogpost title - your thoughts?

PS To my fellow yankee peeps, have a wonderful Labor day holiday.

*interview except was retrieved from Entertainment Weekly.