Sunday, March 29, 2009

Forgiveness

So, I am so lazy.I have numerous blog posts written out in my head, unfortunately blogsville is blocked at work so I can't immediately pour it out, so I end up never putting these entries to web. Anyways, forgiveness had just been in my head and all around me(right down to a scene between Miranda and Carrie when I was watching Sex and The CIty again), I finally talked about it with BFF in one of our numerous gabfests and she ecouraged me to write this, so I'm like well I guess I will.

I have to apologise ahead of time that this may not come out as strongly as I would like because I have a hard time getting really personal. I am not so anonymous on blogsville so I need to kinda mask the scenarios but ultimately I hope I am able to get my point across.:)

Anywhoo, couple weeks ago, BFF asked me: "If you could pass 3 important concepts to your kids, what would they be?". AT the time, maybe I was in a mood or something but I was just like "I don't know, who thinks that far?" and brushed it off, but it still came to mind every now and then. Not too long ago, I just let go of the hurt I felt by a friend after like a year and half or so and boy did it feel good. I was reminded because I found myself in that position again (I don't know how I end up in these positions and more times than none, the other party always feels they did nothing wrong or if they do, I don't know sha)and I had to give myself a talking to and try to follow that saying, "Let go, Let flow".

Thing is, I have never been able to hold a grudge. When it comes to friends and loved ones I don't have a desire to prove a point or nothing, I am willing to say I am sorry if I was in the wrong. When I was younger, I thought maybe it was just part of my mumu-ness(another story, another day). But as I get older, I have realised that it's something I have been consistent with in my life for the most part and it has come in really handy. See a family member didn't do right by my mom and I. My mom held on to that shit for yeaaaaaaars and you could see it. I still remember when she told me that she had really forgiven the family member, I didn't get it then but looking back the transformation in my mom was obvious. She used the word "freeing", but not until 2 years ago did I know what she meant because it wasn't till then that I can say I forgave the family member ad I truly understand what she meant by "freeing". Forgiveness is defined as giving up resentment. You'd be surprised how powerful resentment can be and how it would eat up your life when oft times the other person ain't even thinking about you. Besides, carrying a chip on your shoulder ain't cute :D

Anyways, the best example I can give to show forgiveness (for fellow christians) is the one of our loving Father above. Sometimes, I sit down and marvel at how, we sinful sinners down here just dey gbadun anyhow and take for granted that we are not stricken dead immediately after that kpanshing session or gossiping about Iya Basira down the street. The sacrifice that Jesus made for us is so great that we can always seek him out and ask for his forgiveness and he grants us this grace. Honestly, if that is being done for us, who the hell are we not to do it for our fellow man?? I don't know about you but I thank Baba God for that grace sha.

I am not saying that some events in our lives are to be vaporized and you should just forget about it or for example a dude chris browns ya ass,you should now say you forgive him and stay with him. Uh Uhn, make you forgive with sense. Forgiveness to me is just making your peace with it as best you can and moving on, instead of killing yourself slowly and be burning for revenge. Funny enough at church today, this bible passage was read from Jeremiah 31:34 : I will forgive their sins and I will no longer remember their wrongs, I the Lord has spoken.

LOL, I am sorry this is lengthy, think of it as my sunday lesson. I hope we all are able to navigate our way through this maze of life, because I know I am trying to make it one day at a time. What are y'all's thoughts on this and what are your top 3 values/concepts that you would like to pass down to your kids?
Have a lovely week ahead people!

Oh in honor of bringing good music to the masses, enjoy this one by the forgotten destiny child, Michelle Williams

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Monday, March 23, 2009

My Night with Adele..

This is hella late and to Ada, I apologise. I was out of town and had an exam which I shouldn't even have bothered at all with cuz I flunked that mutha so bad..sigh. Anyways, I had the awesome pleasure of attending an Adele concert on the 15th of March and for those of you who know how much I love Adele, excited was an understatement. I arrived at the concert only to be told that The Script was opening for her, my heart leapt while I let out a giddy "wheee!". I am quite new to The Script ever since fellow blogger WordMerchant recommended them to me. They gave a rousing and energized performance, those Irish boys. By the time they were done, we were all hyped up for Adele.

9.15pm

*Applause, Applause.Hooting and Hollering. Taynement enters her Concert Zone*

SIDEBAR: Umm, if you have never been to a concert with me, let me tell you that I enter a zone and all night I am dancing, jumping, screaming, yelling and sometimes like at Justin Timberlake's concert, I enter a trance. Ahem, back to my nite with Adele.

Alright, Pretty Miss Adele walks unto the stage, her feet in black stockings and nothing else, I hate to say this but she had on the drabbest black dress ever and if you think I am kidding, check out the picture below. Anywhoo, she comes on and her first song is Cold Shoulder and may I just say that this chic sounds EXACTLY like she does on a CD and maybe even better. She went through her songs and even strapped on a guitar for Best for Last.

In between songs, she kept waving shyly, playing with the hem of her dress or her hair. She also told stories in between, which I assume were funny because people laughed because let me tell you, I am pretty good at understanding most accents, but Adele talks SO fast and combined with her british accent, I could barely understand her lol. I did understand one of her funnies which was when she was telling a story and she coughed, then told the crowd, "Don't Smoke".

She only has one album out so the concert went by pretty quick, yours truly had goosebumps when she sang First Love. I'm not kidding when I say the whole room went silent when she sang that, even the drunk girl in the back who said "sshhh!" back whenever she was told to be quiet. By the grace of God, I was able to keep it together when she sang my favorite song, Make You Feel My Love. That was another crowd shusher. She did some covers too by some dude I can't remember, Etta James and my favorite for the night, Many Shades of Black by The Raconteurs (Jack White from the White Stripes' side project band), it was very dark and rock heavy, loved it.

As expected, she ended the night with Chasing Pavements( I really can't believe I hated this song at some point sha). It was a great (and cheap - $20!) concert and I am happy I was able to see her. Those of you who haven't checked her out or still think I am talking about a Yoruba Fuji artist, make yourself right in my books and check her out!

Have a lovely week ahead, my people. Below are pics of Adele(tell me if that dress ain't drab!) and The Script.

Adele



The script



Sunday, March 15, 2009

Songs in my head

Hi peoples, it's been a minute sha. Have a lot of things going on in my head but as always I just turn to my music for some reprieve. Have a happy sunday and enjoy the songs.

Taylor Swift - Breathe
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Usher - Appetite ( People really didn't give Usher's Here I Stand a chance sha)

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Mary Mary - Seattle

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Eldee - Big boi

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Of course all things M.I( be sure to youtube him). There are many more, but these are the songs I remember. Have a happy sunday people.


Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Can I Just Say.....

.....that I am mega, uber freaking proud of the state of the new wave of Nigerian music today? Gosh, I have been on a naija music high it's not even funny, been jamming it all over the place, infact yesterday as I was driving, this dude at the light was jamming to Paramoure all loud and stuff, me too I turned up the volume right as D'banj was hollaring, "Igweeeeeee!, Igweeeeee! lol.

Anyways, I have always liked Naija music, a lot of my birthday and pocket money was spent on cassette tapes by artists ranging from Blackie to Fellyx and Mozzyx to Mandators to Evi Edna Ogoli, don't test, I did not discriminate oh. I will not forget my slight(ahem) obsession with Shina Peters or that one KWAM1 album...oh yezzz, I loved them all. Fast forward how many years later and now we have a different crop of musicians with a different sound and this chic is loving it!

See at first, when this new breed started coming out, it seemed like naija music was unsure of itself and it was still looking to find itself, most of it sounded like they were trying to imitate American artists. But now, it has found its own sound, sure there are still some that miss the mark but for the most part we are jamming oh!There is something for everyone now that if pesin tell me now that they are not feeling naija music, they are on a long tin! So many artists out there to mention but the two hottest right now, I think are Dbanj and M.I.

Dbanj seems to be naija's reigning prince in the music world. The way I see it, he may not have the best vocals but the man's album - The Entertainer is the best way to describe him. I have had the opportunity to see him in concert and boy does he know how to work a crowd.

By now everyone should have heard of M.I, Naija's new hip hop prince, and if you haven't tsk tsk. When you hear M.I, you either like him a lot or you think he is over rated(if people around you have been hyping him up) but it's impossible to flat out say he sucks. From his voice, to his delivery, to his beats to his very well chosen guest artists, M.I's albums is pretty damn good and I am not really into hip hop like that.

Anywhoo, hats off, gold star and clap clap to all the naija artists who are doing big things and for those who are still trying to get into it, hang in there and keep the faith, there are people like me waiting to hear what you have for us.

I leave you with my Top 5 most played naija songs:

Eldee - Big Boi
Wande Coal - Bumper to Bumper
Dbanj - Put your hands up
Timaya - Yankuluya
Banky W - Nobody

Feel free to Youtube any songs you haven't heard. Have a lovely day!

Monday, March 2, 2009

Getting Older...with Cliches

"With age comes wisdom"



The other day, I was talking to my friend and asked her the biggest lesson she had learned in life and she replied with, "All that glitters ain't gold". This is one of the reasons I am incorporating cliches in this entry, because I have noticed as I get older and encounter obstacles it seems to be the best way people know how to console you or encourage you, and though I scoff at them, I have come to realise why they are cliches, because they really do hold some weight to them, so I wasn't surprised when she replied with a cliche, of course with an explanation to back it up.


Anyways, back to getting older I don't know about y'all but I swear as I get older, I get more confused and the older I get the more unanswered questions I encounter. As I often tell people, my twenties have been so confusing for me, it's not even right. Lately, I find myself yearning for the days when every decision didn't seem so weighted and with dire consequences.

-One minute I was gallivanting around to parties, with my bare belly, open back shirts, next minute I merely pick one up and I am told it's not appropriate for someone my age :(.

-Suddenly, I am not just working for a paycheck anymore, I am wondering where my career is going, where I will be in 5 years(cliche interview question), what business I can sink my hooks into?.

-I am not just dating for fun anymore, looking at a bobo and just wondering what his lips taste like, (oook i still do that, let's not get ahead of ourselves here) but in addition to that now I am also wondering if this is someone I can stand for a long duration in my life.

- I just don't go to church because my parents told me so and I memorised the simple prayer book. Now I have questions, some days I just don't go to church, my faith goes up and down like a rollercoaster at six flags

Yowzer! someone give me a simple serum before my head explodes. As for me, the biggest lesson I have learned in life is "Life is (sure as hell) not black and white"..there are just too many grey areas in life men, I can't even believe there was a time when I thought everything was black and white. Anyways as a friend of mine always says "Life is simple, it's we humans that complicate things", maybe that's the case on my end, but somehow I don't think so. Please do share your favorite and most annoying cliches and your "getting older" experiences, so I don't feel like I am alone. Have a lovely week ahead beautiful people.

PS - Oh I wanted to incorporate a song for each post, preferably something that relates, lemme know what y'all think. For this entry, I shall post John Mayer's - '83(as in 1983)

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