Tuesday, May 29, 2012

25 things I've learned in my 20's

As you may have observed, I seem to have lost my blogging mojo. I just can't think of anything to blog about. If you guys have any suggestions, please feel free to help a sister out. Anyways, my friend shared this link today and some of you may have already seen it cuz it's like a week old but I thought truer words were never spoken and I figured i'd share with y'all.

  1. You can’t date a jerk and expect to turn them into a good person. Jerks are fully committed to being unpleasant. Those brief moments of tenderness they give you are designed to trip you up and give you false hope. It’s best to stay away altogether. ---- #Truth
  2. The rumors are true: your metabolism does slow down as you get older! That means if you’re still eating whatever you want, there’s a good chance you’ll start to gain an awkward amount of weight. It won’t be too drastic but your clothes will start to hang differently on your body and you’ll feel an overall feeling of unattractiveness. Start to be conscious of what you eat and strive to live a healthier lifestyle if you want to get your teen body back. (Let’s be real though, that might not ever come back.) ----- #Truth
  3. You’re going to lose touch with a lot of your friends. With some people, it will be expected but with others it will feel like a punch to the stomach. No friendship is truly safe in your twenties. You’re undergoing so many personal and professional changes that there’s bound to be some casualties along the way. Don’t worry though. You’ll end up with the ones that matter. If someone’s no longer in your life, it’s for a reason. -----#Truth
  4. You’ll be jealous of everyone who’s more successful than you. That’s okay. Just transfer that jealousy into something productive, like working really hard so you can one day eclipse them and make them feel jealous of YOU. ---- #Truth
  5. You’ll question every decision you make and never feel completely certain that you made the right choice. It’s pointless to wonder though. You’re here now so you might as well make it be the right decision. ---- #Truth
  6. You’re going to give your heart to a few people who don’t deserve it. Then, one day you’ll come to your senses and ask them to give it back. -----#Truth, although I haven't done the asking back bit.
  7. You’ll see your parents get older. You’ll come home during Christmas break and see new lines developing on their faces. One day it’ll just hit you that your parents are old and going to die. There’s nothing you can do about it, besides treat them with kindness and visit as much as your budget permits. -----#Truth
  8. You’ll have a boss who makes you feel like you’re nothing. It doesn’t have to be in a Devil Wears Prada way. The cruelty can be much more subtle. Don’t let them get to you though. They have no idea who the hell you really are and you’re probably going to have their job someday so…----- #Truth
  9. Doing drugs is fun until it’s not, until it starts affecting your life in negative ways and leaves you feeling guilty and wrecked. If that happens, you should stop doing them. ----Yea, doesn't apply to me
  10. You’re going to puke in public. It’s fine. No one cares. Just puke. - Sad but true. I hope to never do this again.
  11. You’ll know how to make twenty dollars last an entire week because you spent almost all of your paycheck on groceries at Whole Foods and drunk cab rides. This lesson in frugality will serve you well. ----- #Truth
  12. You’re going to betray your convictions. You’re going to feel shame. You’re going to continue to put yourself in situations that aren’t good for you. And then, slowly but surely, it will become less frequent. It might not ever go away completely but it won’t be as bad. In the meantime, stop shame spiraling about it. It gets you nowhere. - ---#Truth
  13. Loving yourself is hard. Hating yourself is harder. ---- You know I have read this many times. I think I finally get what he was trying to say but I don't know if I agree.
  14. You’re going to hook up with someone who you would never touch in the daylight sober. Just don’t freak out too much about it. Consider it to be your good deed for the day. ---- define hookup? :p
  15. You’re going to have people in your life who are toxic. They may say that they love you, they may say that they have your back, but they don’t. Get rid of them. ---- #Truth even if it's a family member. Get rid of them.
  16. You’ll have moments with someone that are so intense, it’ll feel like you’ve been electrocuted back to life. You’ll hold on to these moments for a long time. They’ll give you hope when you’re going through the motions. - #Truth
  17. You’ll always care about your first love. That doesn’t make you crazy, it just makes you human. When relationships end, it’s not so cut and dry. You carry everyone you’ve ever loved into every relationship thereafter. - N/A
  18. You’ll enter your twenties as a fashion disaster and (hopefully) leave them looking fantastic. If you don’t know how to put yourself together by then, I really don’t know what to tell you. --- I won't say I have ever been a disaster but I am much much better.
  19. You’ll realize that the Internet can be a cruel son of a bitch but, you know, www.whatever.com. ---- Sheeeit. #Truth
  20. So much of what you think matters doesn’t actually matter at all. It’s kind of rude. Like, thanks for making me believe in things that are ultimately so inconsequential, you jerk. --- I have heard this so much. 'm not there yet but I do believe it.
  21.  You’ll treat someone terribly. Whether it to be a lover or your friend, there’ll be someone whose feelings you take for granted. We focus too much on whether or not someone is hurting us. The reality is that we might actually be the one who’s hurting someone. ---- #Truth. The obliviousness is what will trip you out when you look at it in hindsight.
  22. Doing “grown-up things” doesn’t make you a grown up. Shopping for housewares, buying a plant, embracing domesticity — these things don’t create maturity. If you’re still a baby who hasn’t figured things out, you’ll remain a baby, no matter how many times you pay your rent on time. - I am definitely grown up
  23. Don’t force yourself into loving anyone. If it’s not working in the beginning, it’s probably not going to work ever. ---- Truth. Even when they tell you, you are just being picky.
  24. You are so lucky to have everything that you have. Stop crying about an unreturned text message and get some perspective. - #Gbam
  25. Don’t go too long without having sex. Ever. TC mark ---- I think my mom is calling me from Naija, gotta run! hehe
Here's the link and all credit goes to the author listed in the article: http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/25-things-ive-learned-in-my-twenties/

Have a lovely week guys!

Friday, May 25, 2012

Friday Randoms

Howdy Ho folks! How are ya? Hope y'all have been good (do you see the Texan in me? smh). It's friday again! yippee! and it's a holiday on monday, yippee! This week was a breeze for me, boss was out of town and you know that feeling when the boss is not in the office. I'm actually staying home for the long weekend because airfare prices are mooning and mocking me in the face. Everywhere I planned to go - kaput but we keep the faith! Okay, let's random

So I woke up last week and suddenly decided that I, Taynement the most technology/anything appliance related inept person wants an Ipad. I have decreed it and so it shall be (Yea, I am also trying out this confession is possesion thing)

All these mics people be sharing on stage, can microphones be disinfected?

Isn't it weird for someone who has never experienced an orgasm to describe really good food as a foodgasm or good music as eargasm or whatever else -asm there is?

It is a strange thing to witness a man with a big significant other ragging on another girl's weight.

I've never quite understood people who passionately insult yankee like it's the worst place ever. I mean you must have a reason to still be here. Like, deal with it already or just move.

I know there are people who say they have no regrets in life. I wouldn't say they are regrets per se but lately I have been thinking about a lot of things I would have done differently.

I think I have mentioned this before but honestly when you give, it's best to give from your heart and without any expectations.

Does anyone watch Tanisha Getting Married? I have never seen a couple so headed for disaster and yet they can't see it. Almost everyone in their lives see it except the couple themselves. What do you do in a situation like that? Talking to a person "in love" is almost always futile.

This week Lolo Jones felt the need to announce that she is a 29 year old virgin, Meagan Good also announced her celibacy with her fiance. Now while there is nothing wrong with their decisions, I don't quite understand why they have to share it with the world. It's almost as weird as a sexually active person announcing people they've slept it. Miley Cyrus was talking about how sex is magical, few years ago she was mouthing off about being chaste and pure. I get she grew up but really the updates aren't necessary jare.

My friend and I know a 31yr old woman who is ready to get married, she mentioned that she doesn't have time on her side and wouldn't want to have long term dating and would like to know early on that this was headed somewhere serious. She then said that she doesn't know if this could be misconstrued as desperate. I said I can see how it could be. My friend said that she doesn't think so, that any man who sees that as desperation isn't serious and good riddance. What say ye, people?

The harder/more I work out the less I eat, the less I work out the more I eat. Backwards, no?

If your child had an obvious gift say singing. Graduates high school and has an opportunity to make it big as a singer. It's not guaranteed but they have the opportunity to try out and give it a shot. On the other hand, they got a full scholarship to college. What would you do? Let them give the singing a shot or go to college for free.

This might win me a terrible daughter award but I love my mom with all of my heart but the thought of her living with me for say 3 months makes me break out in sweat. See what happens when you have been living alone for so long.

When people say things like, "My wife's mother" instead of mother in law or "My dad's brother" instead of uncle or "my dad's wife" instead of step mom. I automatically assume whatever relationship in question is not exactly in the best place.

My brain still cannot process a fat Asian person.

That's all I got for you folks. Have a wonderful weekend. Have a wonderful Memorial Day. Eat, drink, be merry and be safe!

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Fear 2.0

I'm Scared to try cuz I'm scared to fail
I'm scared to die cuz I'm scared of hell
I'm scared to kiss I'm scared to hug
I'm scared of sex cuz I'm scared to touch

I'm scared to look cuz I'm scared to see
I'm scared of you cuz I'm scared of me
I'm scared to fly I'm scared to crash
I'm scared to move on so I live in the past

I'm scared to fight cuz I'm scared to bleed
I'm scared of love cuz I'm scared he'll leave
I'm scared of drugs I'm scared to drink
I'm scared to swim cuz I'm scared to sink

I'm scared to learn cuz I'm scared of truth
Don't wanna gain weight cuz I'm scared of food
I'm scared to think that the label dropped me
I'm scared to think of my album floppin...

This may sound silly but its true
So don't pretend it aint you too
We all afraid of something here
Cuz you aint human with out fear

I'm scared to start cuz I'm scared I'll quit
I'm scared that people won't like my shit
I'm scared of fame and paparazzi
rumors starting the people watching
I'm scared to grow up cuz I'm scared to get old
I'm scared of the dark and being alone
scared of war and I'm scared of jail
Scared to share a secret cuz I'm scared you'll tell 

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Friday Randoms

Hi folks. How are ya? and how's life been treating you? We've approached yet another friday and it will be redundant for me to say how fast the year is flying by. We are almost at the 6 month mark. Out of curiosity, for those of you who have new year resolutions, any luck so far or have they been laid to the wayside? Life's been life, can't complain. I did have a terrible headache today and it was so weird cuz it was just on the left side of my head, had to leave work and chill a bit. Summer is finally here yay. No need for layers and coats and encumbering clothing. You guys don't know how much I hate the cold. Okay, I have nothing else to fill space with so I'll just get to the few randoms I have.

I have noticed that everytime I am told to list the male celebrities that I think are hot, I go blank on the black celebs and I can only list the white ones.

Even though I am sure they exist, I can't imagine how uncircumcised men are comfortable with their penises. Ok, Ok I am talking out my ass cuz I've never seen one but from description it just seems....how does one get used to giving head to a penis with foreskin on it?

I never put butter on my popcorn at the movies. I see butter being put on popcorn and I think of heart attacks.

Speaking of food, I was watching a best places to chow in the U.S and cot damn, there's a reason we are obese in this country. There were like 9 inch burritos with so much junk topped with cheese, a restaurant where everything served was fried like fried oreos, fried pizza etc. If they had something on the menu that you didn't want you can bring your own stuff to be fried. There was a 72oz steak, a 12 egg omelette with sooo much cheese.

I watch some of these privileged kids on TV and hear some stories and I wonder how one can go through life without a Plan B. Enjoy your family money to the max but what happens when your parents pass away and they aren't around to fund you anymore?

I've often been told I am hard to buy a gift for and I disagree jo. Quality over Quantity. I remember during my Justin Timberlake phase (ok i still love him but when i was REALLY into him) and I got a JT calendar as a gift. I think it was more of the thought. I thought it was the best present ever...at the time.

You know how you apply for a job and they tell you, you didn't get it because you didn't have enough experience and they got someone more experienced. I was watching Girls and this chick who was a virgin was messing about with this guy. She was ready to go all the way and stuff but the minute she told him that she was a virgin, he flaked and said he didn't want. I drew a parallel between the two scenarios and wondered how she'll ever be the "experienced girl" that he wanted if noone wanted to poke the virgin.

I was watching something the other day, not that it was any new knowledge but the guy mentioned how most people keep waiting for the one, instead of focusing on being the one (you guys know how i don't like this "the one" terminology). When you don't work on yourself, you see "the one" as the savior and transfer the external need for what they can do for you. Most times you end up in the wrong situation and they give you what they aren't supposed to.

"Unhealthy people attract other unhealthy people with complementary dysfunctions" Yay or Nay people?

So POTUS declared his support for Gay marriages yesterday and everyone went crazy and it was the topic of the day. The other half of Nigerians decided to find their religious roots and use that as grounds for why it was wrong. I know I have said it before but if all sins are equal, why are people up in arms about supporting gays?

That being said Obama can do no wrong in the people that believe in him's eyes. Obama-washing is real. Can't blame them though, dude is a charming guy.

A debate broke out on twitter over some article earlier in the week. Too long to get into detail but on a serious note can someone define a feminist for me?

Are we so deprived of attention in our generation that we are doing all we can to seek/get attention or is it technology/social media that is creating this need?

Maybe because I have been lucky in that area but I have had great female friends, so I never get why some females feel they can never be good friends with females. I also think that as much as you think you are tight and great with a dude, they do take their bros before ho's mantra seriously.

Hope you guys have a fantastic weekend. Be safe!!!

Oh also, in the off chance you need to know some season finale dates for your favorite show I have some listed on http://tayne-ment.blogspot.com/

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Arrival of The Birds

Music is everything. Or should I say Music is my everything? There is enough of it for everyone, all different kinds to suit any mood or occasion. You can enjoy a song even if it is in a language you don't understand. Like the song I came here to share with you that has no words, yet I feel like it speaks to me with more words than some songs that have lyrics. I've overdosed on it as usual. Let me know if you like this or not. Have a wonderful weekend my lovelies. Muah and enjoy!

p.s if you have a moment check out my sister blog http://www.tayne-ment.blogspot.com/