Tuesday, May 29, 2012

25 things I've learned in my 20's

As you may have observed, I seem to have lost my blogging mojo. I just can't think of anything to blog about. If you guys have any suggestions, please feel free to help a sister out. Anyways, my friend shared this link today and some of you may have already seen it cuz it's like a week old but I thought truer words were never spoken and I figured i'd share with y'all.


  1. You can’t date a jerk and expect to turn them into a good person. Jerks are fully committed to being unpleasant. Those brief moments of tenderness they give you are designed to trip you up and give you false hope. It’s best to stay away altogether. ---- #Truth
  2. The rumors are true: your metabolism does slow down as you get older! That means if you’re still eating whatever you want, there’s a good chance you’ll start to gain an awkward amount of weight. It won’t be too drastic but your clothes will start to hang differently on your body and you’ll feel an overall feeling of unattractiveness. Start to be conscious of what you eat and strive to live a healthier lifestyle if you want to get your teen body back. (Let’s be real though, that might not ever come back.) ----- #Truth
  3. You’re going to lose touch with a lot of your friends. With some people, it will be expected but with others it will feel like a punch to the stomach. No friendship is truly safe in your twenties. You’re undergoing so many personal and professional changes that there’s bound to be some casualties along the way. Don’t worry though. You’ll end up with the ones that matter. If someone’s no longer in your life, it’s for a reason. -----#Truth
  4. You’ll be jealous of everyone who’s more successful than you. That’s okay. Just transfer that jealousy into something productive, like working really hard so you can one day eclipse them and make them feel jealous of YOU. ---- #Truth
  5. You’ll question every decision you make and never feel completely certain that you made the right choice. It’s pointless to wonder though. You’re here now so you might as well make it be the right decision. ---- #Truth
  6. You’re going to give your heart to a few people who don’t deserve it. Then, one day you’ll come to your senses and ask them to give it back. -----#Truth, although I haven't done the asking back bit.
  7. You’ll see your parents get older. You’ll come home during Christmas break and see new lines developing on their faces. One day it’ll just hit you that your parents are old and going to die. There’s nothing you can do about it, besides treat them with kindness and visit as much as your budget permits. -----#Truth
  8. You’ll have a boss who makes you feel like you’re nothing. It doesn’t have to be in a Devil Wears Prada way. The cruelty can be much more subtle. Don’t let them get to you though. They have no idea who the hell you really are and you’re probably going to have their job someday so…----- #Truth
  9. Doing drugs is fun until it’s not, until it starts affecting your life in negative ways and leaves you feeling guilty and wrecked. If that happens, you should stop doing them. ----Yea, doesn't apply to me
  10. You’re going to puke in public. It’s fine. No one cares. Just puke. - Sad but true. I hope to never do this again.
  11. You’ll know how to make twenty dollars last an entire week because you spent almost all of your paycheck on groceries at Whole Foods and drunk cab rides. This lesson in frugality will serve you well. ----- #Truth
  12. You’re going to betray your convictions. You’re going to feel shame. You’re going to continue to put yourself in situations that aren’t good for you. And then, slowly but surely, it will become less frequent. It might not ever go away completely but it won’t be as bad. In the meantime, stop shame spiraling about it. It gets you nowhere. - ---#Truth
  13. Loving yourself is hard. Hating yourself is harder. ---- You know I have read this many times. I think I finally get what he was trying to say but I don't know if I agree.
  14. You’re going to hook up with someone who you would never touch in the daylight sober. Just don’t freak out too much about it. Consider it to be your good deed for the day. ---- define hookup? :p
  15. You’re going to have people in your life who are toxic. They may say that they love you, they may say that they have your back, but they don’t. Get rid of them. ---- #Truth even if it's a family member. Get rid of them.
  16. You’ll have moments with someone that are so intense, it’ll feel like you’ve been electrocuted back to life. You’ll hold on to these moments for a long time. They’ll give you hope when you’re going through the motions. - #Truth
  17. You’ll always care about your first love. That doesn’t make you crazy, it just makes you human. When relationships end, it’s not so cut and dry. You carry everyone you’ve ever loved into every relationship thereafter. - N/A
  18. You’ll enter your twenties as a fashion disaster and (hopefully) leave them looking fantastic. If you don’t know how to put yourself together by then, I really don’t know what to tell you. --- I won't say I have ever been a disaster but I am much much better.
  19. You’ll realize that the Internet can be a cruel son of a bitch but, you know, www.whatever.com. ---- Sheeeit. #Truth
  20. So much of what you think matters doesn’t actually matter at all. It’s kind of rude. Like, thanks for making me believe in things that are ultimately so inconsequential, you jerk. --- I have heard this so much. 'm not there yet but I do believe it.
  21.  You’ll treat someone terribly. Whether it to be a lover or your friend, there’ll be someone whose feelings you take for granted. We focus too much on whether or not someone is hurting us. The reality is that we might actually be the one who’s hurting someone. ---- #Truth. The obliviousness is what will trip you out when you look at it in hindsight.
  22. Doing “grown-up things” doesn’t make you a grown up. Shopping for housewares, buying a plant, embracing domesticity — these things don’t create maturity. If you’re still a baby who hasn’t figured things out, you’ll remain a baby, no matter how many times you pay your rent on time. - I am definitely grown up
  23. Don’t force yourself into loving anyone. If it’s not working in the beginning, it’s probably not going to work ever. ---- Truth. Even when they tell you, you are just being picky.
  24. You are so lucky to have everything that you have. Stop crying about an unreturned text message and get some perspective. - #Gbam
  25. Don’t go too long without having sex. Ever. TC mark ---- I think my mom is calling me from Naija, gotta run! hehe
Here's the link and all credit goes to the author listed in the article: http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/25-things-ive-learned-in-my-twenties/

Have a lovely week guys!

5 comments:

LohiO said...
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LohiO said...

LOOOL! Why did you run at the last question!!! hahahaha. Good lessons. Reminds me of the post I did early this yr. :D yay for twenties!!!

downtheaisle said...

yeah yeah!!!! I agree wit #3,
#4...very funny bt true,just read a blog post and i was jealous...lol!,
#5,
#7...i get so scared of dis..maybe cos im now a parent and i know someday i will grow older and be at their stage of life
#8
#11

Im rounding off d twenties dis yr!
Im old o!

Vivi said...

Thank you for posting it. A lot truth up in there for me.

Myne Whitman said...

A lot of it is so true! LOL...