Friday, November 30, 2012

Friday Randoms

Hi guys, how are you? Hope you all had a wonderful thanksgiving and a great week ahead. Funny enough, I couldn't eat on thankgsiving day. I was starving but by the time I made it to my friend's house, I was surrounded by food but I just couldn't eat (first world problem, eh?). I am currently addicted to this british "reality" show Made in Chelsea. It premiered on Style Network and it was so bad and so obviously scripted but I couldn't help myself. Then I found out it was 4 seasons in and now I am glued to my computer trying to catch up. Loser, I know. Guys, December is here already, I can't believe the year just flew by, then again somehow I can. I should apologize for my randoms today, they aren't really randoms more like quotes but I figured better this than nothing. Ok here are my make shift randoms:

"There are good men out there...but women don't like to keep it simple and they are getting worse" me: but "bad" women get chosen. "Thats the amazing thing .which proves there are more 'stupid" men out there than good ones. not bad men, stupid ones. - my brother.

So I randomly remembered that at my old job, I had a coworker who I became good friends with. He was gay so he would tell me who was packing or not based on his observations in the men's room. lol.

I know I have my issues so to add to the list, one of the many things that irk me is when people call their baby cousins their nephew or niece. I'm like your sibling didn't have a child, it's your baby cousin. You see I don't have problems in life abi?

"he looked at me like i was crazy. most of my lovers do and that's partly why they love me and partly why they leave" - jeanette winterson

My friend and I were talking about a guy and he made a passing comment that I probably wouldn't go for the guy because he wasn't mean and cocky. I thought that was terrible but I am changing my ways. I think I have learned my lesson.

You know what blows my mind. The huge communication gap between men and women. My friend (a guy) says we just speak different languages. I just don't comprehend how we say A and a guy hears B then proceeds to tell you how YOU feel about the situation and how and why you are wrong. My same friend says we never just go straight to the point and we go round in circles without ever saying anything. This might be true but omo, even when you are direct there is still that disconnect.

"Catholic guilt on the streets, sexual deviant in the sheets" - I cracked up so hard when I read this.

You know that saying, "What's done in the dark always comes to light", how many of you actually believe that? How many of you also believe Karma exists? I am leaning towards believing it doesn't exist but I don't know. Also, I am beginning to wonder about the whole Heaven and hell theory. Is there an after life or is our Heaven and hell here on earth. Please feel free to share your theories on these. I'd love to read.

"Human beings are never satisfied but the art of being content is a lesson we should all learn"

That's all I got for you folks. Oh, thank you for your responses to my prayer question. I took something from everyone's answers, so thanks again. Hope you guys have a wonderful weekend. Stay blessed and stay safe.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

A few things you need to know.... get over an ex *as stolen from Huffington post.

1. Stop all communication cold turkey. No texting, no facebook stalking, emails or phone calls...literally no unnecessary contact. It's called a breakup because it's broken, and your first and most important act is to create a healthy distance. If you have children, communicate briefly and only in writing if possible, and say only what needs to be said.

2. Accept that it's over. If the person you were with doesn't want to be with you, then clearly you shouldn't want to be with them. You deserve the best, and the best isn't included in someone who doesn't want to be by your side.

3. Turn your face and focus to the light and future. Begin to imagine how you want your future to evolve, reate a new vision for your future and then take the first steps to making them your reality.

4. Take accountability. No matter how big a jerk your ex was, you inevitably did things that contributed to the end of the relationship as well. Focusing on your ex's flaws will only leave you mired in the past and destined to make same mistakes in next relationships.

5. Give yourself time to grieve. But remember, your goal is to pull yourself together and move forward.

6. Don;'t obsess over the causes. The relationship is over, the time to fix has passed.

7. Breakups change your life, it doesn't end it.

8. Stop idealizing. It is easy to start romanticizing your ex as time passes after a breakup. When you are in pain and don't encounter others that meet and exceed your expectations, your ex starts to look really good. DOn't be fooled, there are reasons it did not work out.

9. Love yourself.

10. The grief process is over when it's over, not when you want it to be or when it's convenient. Grief has a life of its own and the more you fight your true feelings, the more they hang around.

What do you guys think? You have any additions or subtractions? Have a wonderful day!

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Why do you pray?

Sorry guys, no actual blog post but if you could ever so kindly in your own words, answer the question, as long or as short as you'd like to - Why do you pray?

To my fellow American residents, I wish you all a wonderful Thanksgiving.

Monday, November 12, 2012

Just because I am a thief...

... I completely just stole the content of this post from two blogs. They both had lines that I really liked.

From Onakachi's blog:

"Stop trying to continually convince someone to like you. Here's the key: Go where you are are celebrated not where you are tolerated. Quit trying to win over a person that just tolerates you; they are not really for you, truth be told, they're kinda jealous of the gift God's given you. No matter what you do, they are never going to be 100% behind you. You may convince them for a little while but as soon as you don't perform perfectly they'll find something that you're doing wrong"

- Pastor Joel Osteen

From LadyNgo's blog:

"It's simple chemistry but the equation is so complex. Timing is everything, the combination is more than sex"

(this was from a song that she posted)

Hope you guys had a good monday. Have a great rest of the week.

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Friday Randoms

I really have no intro today but thank you to all of you who checked up on me. I am doing much better now. Thank you again.


Whenever you ask a naija guy what happened with an ex or female that they were involved with and they respond with "oh that one, she's crazy", I almost want to burst out in laughter because it always sounds like some default answer from a script.

You know how some companies are family companies ie passed down from one generation to the other. I notice that the age difference is huge in our generation and I often wonder if there's enough time to train the kiddos and pass it down. For example, I know a family where the dad passed down to the daughter. The dad recently passed away and the daughter is currently running affairs. Thing is she's kinda an older lady and her kids are both under 10. I wonder if there's enough time so to speak to groom the kids.

A friend of mine told me about an article he read where this lady was giving her boyfriend head and let him come on her face and in that moment she suddenly felt like he didn't see her as long term/wifey material. It reminded me of a friend who had told me that he would never do that to his wife/mother of his children. I did a mini poll and most of my guy friends feel the same way and think it is disrespectful. So my question is this, fellas if your woman is down, do you find it disrespectful and if yes does it make a difference if she is your gf or wife? Ladies, do you think it means anything?

I really listened to the lyrics of "Bands a make her dance" this week and my first thought was man, this is awful sha(still love the song tho). I don't identify as a feminist but I wondered if it was possible to be a feminist and like this song or many a rap song that's out there.

To clarify my statement above about not identifying as feminist. Till today, I don't know what the definition of a feminist is or if there is a set definition at all. In all the different variations I have seen, I think I fail. I am not an activist, I feel prettier with weaves (does this even count), I am very comfortable letting a man do hard labor tings for me etc. However, what I do believe in is respect and fairness for both sexes/humanity in general. I believe in growth for all humanity. I don't dwell on whether we are equal or not, I feel each sex has their strength and weakness. I am by no means demeaning those ahead of me and who currently fight for women's rights etc. I guess the long and short of my long tory is, I don't know the definition of one and what it entails so i don't call myself one. I am very open to being educated.

When does the pain go away?

How important is it for you that your significant other get along with your friends? not fam o. Friends.

I feel like there's some kind of trigger once you get married, abi is it have a kid? that makes you want to do that family picture christmas card thingie. Guess, I'll find out when it's my turn, cuz right now the desire to do that is at 0. Althought that could be because I have never really had a traditional christmas family tradition per se?

It's true, once you don't like someone everything they do is annoying. Well some people are just naturally annoying.

I have no immediate plans to move back to Naij but I feel envious when I see someone going to do or finishing NYSC. Shoulda really taken care of that ish when I was in naij for an extensive period of time but I don't think i can describe how much NYSC frightens me.

I finally purchased my first Apple product!

I am truly a believer in action speaking louder than words. I don't think proclaiming something makes it fact eg if I keep proclaiming I am nice and my attitude is straight bitch like what's the point? Why do I even have to announce it, let my actions do the talking.

Please this fun. song "We are young" says it features Janelle Monae. Has anyone found out when exactly she comes on in the song, cuz I sho haven't heard it.

This guy hit his head and lost all his memory from the last 46 years. Didn't know his wife and couldn't remember the birth of his kids. I felt so bad for the wife. Like isn't that worse than if he died? Someone you built a life with, poof! all gone.

Why do people ask non urgent questions with multiple question marks? It irks me.

Every time I hear a celeb donated a huge amount of money to a cause, while it's for a good cause my first thought is usually Tax Writeoff!!!.

Man, I ran my mouth today huh? Oh before I leave y'all my friend and I discuss a myriad of topics everyday and feels like he should get credit on my randoms. While I won't give him credit, I'll give him a shout out, so Waddup Kweku! (happy now?)

This song always make me smile, takes me back to my younger days in Naij when all i wanted to do was watch MTV. Have a wonderful weekend my lovelies and be blessed.

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Four More Years!

My TV screen is still flashing projected winner but we all know that Barry made it in yall!! I have to say it was a journey, from being so sure that he will win to doubting and thinking maybe just maybe the Republicans might sneak in. All that aside today and the numbers didn't lie! I wasn't as emotional this time voting for him as I was 4 years ago but this is still pretty historic to me. The Republicans really need to get their shit together if they want to get back in office, they can't keep insulting our intelligence with these make shift candidates. Anyways, back to why we are here. Congratulations to everyone that rallied, voted, volunteered. So much work has to be done (hopefully the House/Senate stop bickering and get to getting things done). Here's to the next 4 years!

My President is back [and black!]


*image from Google Images

Friday, November 2, 2012

Friday Randoms

Hi guys. How are you? Hope you are having a better week than I am. My week didn't start out in the best way and to cap it off, 2 nights ago I was stuck hugging my toilet bowl puking my guts out and last night I had to go to an emergency center to have an iv put in for fluids. I've never had it before but apparently I had food poisoning. I was on the phone with a friend of mine the whole day and she told me to sip on gatorade but I couldn't even keep that down. As the day went along, I became increasingly confused. I was fading in and out of sleep and my dreams were meshing with tv shows (go figure lol), I think at some point I found myself lying on my bathroom floor. I called my friend and she said if I was that confused then I probably was dehydrated and to go find a doctor. My friends took me to a doctor and I got home early hours this morning (This is one of the few times I think living alone sucks). I feel much better, just fighting a raging headache now and can't eat much. That being said, let's thank God for a new month and the grace to see it. Here's hoping for many more months. I shall begin to random.

Having mystique as a woman is an important tool to have. I think guys find that attractive. Mystique does not mean playing hard to get o.

I think one of the cruelest things one has to do in this life is identifying a body knowing it's a loved one.

One of the biggest lessons one can learn in life is learning how to not sweat the small stuff. It's also one of the hardest.

I brought up the topic of emotional cheating some time ago. I wondered if any guys believed such a thing existed. I know most women agreed it existed. I am on the fence about it. How would you define emotional cheating? Isn't cheating just cheating?

My friend and I read a blogpost about women being dishonest to men about being satisfied in bed.We both agreed that the women who do so weren't doing their partners a favor. It got me wondering if it was harder to be honest to someone who you weren't in an exclusive relationship/married to?

That being said, I think our generation has more undefined relationships than official relationships.

Speaking of that, I recently saw Nelly and Ashanti on the red carpet together. I think that may have been one of the first times I saw them together and my first thought was Yay, he's finally claiming her. Then I stopped and thought about why I thought that, because some celebs try to be private eg Beyonce and Jayz but i never once thought hey he is not claiming her. I guess where's the line between privacy and not being claimed publicly.

I've often wondered why Toolz has such heavy backlash against her. The most I have got is that she is fat and tries to appear not to be and wears body magic. emm ok. My thought on this is I think girls find it hard to accept that guys could find someone her size attractive. I have always said what guys and girls find attractive are completely different.

I think it sucks to think that you gave your best and your best was not good enough. Not worse than someone making you feel so small sha.

What's the logic of kicking out your young kid because they got pregnant? Isn't that when they need you the most?

Respect is something I definitely underestimated. The way a person treats you is in direct correlation to the respect they have for you.

I wonder where the word widget came from...reminds me of midget but I am sure they have no relation, *scratches head*

My doctor friend says there are more baby boys being delivered lately and even among my friends they've all been majority boys. That's wonderful. The cycle continues. They have more options and the bullshit continues.

Does the world still produce identical twins?

Would you have a problem with your boyfriend financing your engagement ring?

My friend thinks it's a better situation for someone to leave you for someone else than leave you with noone in the picture. I beg to differ.

I am perfectly okay with the amount of money athletes make. It is not beans the kind of hits and conditioning they have to put their body through.

According to stats, only one in 12 friendships endure. Don't know how true that is.

I look forward to dressing my kids up for halloween.

If you have an open mind, check out Chris Wallace's album - Push Rewind. It's pop

I think I may have run my mouth today. Hope you guys have a great weekend. I will be posted up getting all the rest I can. Have a wonderful day.