Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Do you remember?

I watch this show called Marriage Bootcamp on WE. It's a marriage/relationship bootcamp for reality stars. It's run by a married couple who are marriage counselors and they put the couples through many exercises to help them dig deep and communicate and try to solve the issues with their partners.

In one of the exercises, each person was asked if they remember a single event in their lives that shaped who they are and how they are in past and present relationships.

I thought that that was a very deep question and proceeded to ask a bunch of people I knew (and learned that people either don't like being asked deep questions or don't like digging deep into their lives). A lot of people told me that they couldn't think of one single event, which is fair. Some examples from the show were the death of a mom that caused him to feel guilt and made him shut down and now he tends to notice he shuts down a lot in relationships, someone had a mom break trophies she had earned in anger and she remembered seeing her as the enemy and she tends to look at her boyfriends as the enemy and if her mom could do that to her, what guarantee is there that they won't so she is guarded and feels unlovable.

And so I pose the question to you: Can you think of a single event that has shaped who you are and manifests itself in how you behave in relationships?

Thursday, August 13, 2015

Friday Randoms

I am lying here with a heated something something on my back cuz I  think I may have tweaked something. Old age is really real. The current weather is something that makes me smile inside. I am really going to miss the summer. I think everytime everyone says that life is short but I really don't think it resonates until it hits close, then we forget and go back to daily living till the next time but for real for real guys - life.is.short. Don't take it for granted that you wake up everyday like clockwork. life changes in the blink of an eye. Okay, enough bleak talk, thank you again for the interest you guys showed in the "Love or Something Like It series. I'd also like to say thank you to the contributor. Couldn't have been an easy thing to share that personal story. Okay let's random.

Why is it that when I get all dolled up, I look in the mirror, I see babe then I take a picture and I see dinosaur...why sway???!!

American kids ehn. They are spoiled. One of the ogas at work surprised her daughter for her birthday with 4 tickets to Maroon 5 and Nick Jonas concert on the beach and this babe said nah, she's not interested. Honestly, if I were the mother, I won't even tell the story, I go shame. I thought it was so selfish. Like if your mom did that for you, just for the thought you say thank you and "endure". Her loss though, I copped myself some tix.

I know this is mean but there are some people you observe that carry skinniness on their head and act like fat people aren't humans. You just wish them nothing but fatness.

Sometimes I catch myself in an argument with people about things I have seen with my own eyes in Nigeria. I think it's a bit ridiculous especially when these people haven't been home in a while and get all their info from social media and bella naija and the likes. Like why am I even wasting my time?

It really is a strange concept that we will all be dead someday.

Once you find someone annoying everything they do is annoying even if it's the way they blink.

Where do you draw the line between respecting a friend as an adult and letting them be vs. recognizing someone is your friend and calling them out on stuff when need be.

There are some people who feel some type of way about paying someone to clean their houses/apartments (common among Nigerians). Not I, sir. It's the bestest thing ever.

Why do Nigerians get so uppity about people who like well done steak. Live and let live. If it was so wrong, it wouldn't be an option at restaurants.

If you are cool with someone, like you get along well and no beef, but they consider you more of a friend than you do them, are you friends? How do you define a friend? In your everyday life do you label some people as acquaintances or do you just call everyone friend, whether loosely or not?

So you know the Christian argument about not messing with your body e.g no tattoos and how everything on your body was given to you by God. Also, every body part is supposed to have a purpose, yea? So is circumcision a sin? What is the purpose of a foreskin? protection?

Is it possible to be an alcoholic if you are addicted to just wine? I never really consider wine as alcohol but it is. Would I take it seriously if someone was an addict because they were addicted to Smirnoff Ice? I mean, it has alcohol, right?

I was thinking the other day. I always pray to God to take control when it comes to choosing a life partner for me and we all know he has a sense of humor. What if he sends me someone who wants to wait till marriage? As a struggling Christian trying to get right, this should make me happy but my fellow brethren, my heart sank a little.

I think a true measure of where you stand in your faith is how you feel about your death/rapture. If you are happy for it and can't wait then you good, fam. If the thought of it fills you with terror, then...get on right with the Lord yo.

Okay that's all I have for you guys. Have a lovely weekend. Stay safe and stay prayed up.