Friday, November 20, 2015

Friday Randoms

Howdy Ho peoples. How are you? Hope you are doing well. As for me, I am very tired and I am so glad it is Friday. I just got back from vacation and catching up to the real world just tired me out. You know, sometimes I think vacations are a scam. You are supposed to go and be all rejuvenated but one day back into the real world and everything is all wiped out. But I think I am extra tired because it was multiple destinations and just before I left I had traveled for work and basically came home and swapped suitcases. So I haven't had the time to catch my breath. My poor babies are suffering and by poor babies I mean my tv shows. I have been trying so hard to catch up and with all the new releases, I am so behind! *sobs*. How about this global warming fall we are having I don't know whether to be scared or be happy. Anyways, let me get to random-ing.

When Mark Wahlberg hosted the Pope's visit to Philly, there was a moment where he told the Pope that he gives God all the credit for all the blessings in his life. Which I get. But then my first thought was of Ted the movie  and Entourage and how raunchy/offensive they were but they made him money, do you consider that from God?

I can't imagine what first time sex is like for a gay man. Then again, I just learned that there are some tops who have never been bottoms so have never received. How do they establish their positions when they first meet? What if it is like a one night stand? How do they discuss and establish who is getting it?

I still don't understand how there are Nigerians in America who were raised in Nigeria who don't care about genotypes.

I couldn't remember if I had randomed about this before or tweeted about it but just like you can identify those with new money, you can also identify those who are new *insert what applies* . I think they could also be considered like late bloomers who are doing things at a much later time but feel the need for it to be publicly known.

Who was the first person to go skydiving? Like, by jove you know what? I am going to fly way up high into the sky and jump down to the ground. Whee!!! :/

Someone described the loss of a parent as like losing the last/only person that would ever truly love you for who you are. So apt.

If I was ever given one wish in the world, it would be complete and utter trust in God and believing that he will take care of me.

Do you personally know a social climber?

Watching a show and the lady said that she doesn't like the process of opening up and trusting and getting to know people which is why she always goes back to exes. Made sense.

Am I a bad black person because I don't get offended by some of these outrages? I felt no anger because Asis Ansari or Mindy Kaling don't date white people on their show. Welp!

In this week's edition of my singledom, I was given advice to stop wearing my glasses out and wear makeup more :( #foreveralone

Going through Sabirah's comments in her Thursday tidbits and a commenter mentioned how she knows deep down she doesn't want to get married and felt relief at the break up of her relationship and I thought that was really honest of her. I always admire when Nigerians are honest about their stances on things. Same person asked the question "Do people ever believe you when you tell them who you are?" and I thought that was so true. People stay fixated on their ideology of you or what they want you to be.

Anyways that's all I have for you folks. Please help a sister out and visit  I hope you all have a pleasant and wonderful thanksgiving. Be sure to find at least one thing to be grateful for and hope you will be around people you love. Have a wonderful weekend and be safe.

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Thy Will Be Done

I am pretty sure that at some point, I have blogged or wondered what the point of prayer is when at the end of the day, it all depends on the will of God.

Let me backtrack a little. Something I have also said before is that I don't believe that being a positive, happy go lucky person guarantees or brings you good things. It just means you can handle things better and it's also just a better attitude to have in this tough world we live in.

I was in a discussion where people vehemently disagreed with me on this and said when you pray hard and think positively about something and believe it then it comes to pass. Which is all great and dandy but I've thought about it and whatever hope there was in me believing it, it was dashed when my mom passed away. I don't think I believed anything harder or was so sure about someone pulling through. So that's where I stand and I kinda don't like feeling guilty or made to feel guilty for having that stance.

Anyways, it brings me to the point where people always end things with at the end of the day let the will of God be done. I can roll with that. I also roll with not understanding what the cotdamn big picture is but He knows better, abi? The long and short of my story is it took me some time to get to this place. I now accept his will is ultimately what matters. It was funny that while going back and forth in my mind I came across a lot of bible meditations and verses that talked about accepting the will of God.

And then the crux of it, when I was thinking of what to post...sometimes when I think or miss my mom, I go through my old emails and read emails we sent to each other because we emailed a lot and what did I run into yesterday but this...coincidence, huh? I can just hear preaching to me and me saying "yes mommy, i've heard" Love you momma.

Here's what I came across from her:

Finding God's Will
By Elaine Creasman

As I have been facing a difficult challenge lately, I find myself crying out to God, "What should I do?" Which way to go seems unclear. I want to do what's right, but every choice seems to have its drawbacks.
Slipping into negative emotions and negative thinking makes things even murkier.
"Please show me Your will and Your way," I have prayed.
What God has done is to reveal to me the next step to take. He doesn't show me the complete picture of where He's leading me and how He will bring me to the other side.
The key is to believe He will show me His will, and He will carry me through this just as He has brought me through every other trial in my life.
Discovering God's will is tied in to being still. The Word says,
"Be still and know that I am God" Psalm 46:10 ESV.
When I forget that He is God or fail to act that way, I try to plow ahead doing whatever comes to mind. That makes matters worse.
When I embrace fully what my Sunday School teacher has been repeating lately, "He is God, and I am not," I can trust Him to lead me.
When going through hard times, being still before the Lord to discover His will can seem impossible. It's especially challenging when the enemy is bombarding my mind with thoughts that bring on moments or multiple moments of doubt, fear, and unbelief.
One of the reasons it can be rough discovering God's will in difficult times is that I ask myself, "How can this thing that's happening to me possibly be God's will?" and "How can a loving God allow this?"
The faith side of me says, "God does allow bad things, but He brings good out of them—if I submit to Him and trust Him with the outcome."
I confess that too often I try to stay in control and straighten out a difficult situation or a heart-tearing relationship conflict on my own. That doesn't work.
I notice when I try to do it on my own, love does not lead the way.
One thing I've become ever more certain of is this: "Love is always God's will and God's way." If I'm unwilling to love, this shows that I have not been fully set free. I'm moving back into bondage.
When I love even though others have hurt me, God is present and working. The other person may not change in every way I desire, but God changes my heart to become more like His. That's what trials are for—to transform me into the image of Christ. Changing me is God's will.
As I've been submitting to Him with an attitude of, "Lord, do what You need to do in me to make me more like You," the hardness in my heart is melting away. I'm embracing what Jesus said,
"Not my will, but Yours be done." Luke 22:42 ESV
There is great joy in discovering God's will. There is even greater joy when I'm willing to embrace it and live it. I'm excited to see what God has in store in the days, weeks, and months ahead. He is so good.
Have a great week guys.