Thursday, January 30, 2014

Friday Randoms

Hey what do you know? 2 weeks in a row. January is finally over. It really dragged yo. Not that I am in any hurry for the months to start flying by sha. How about this Polar Vortex movie that;s now playing in a city near you. Crazy stuff. My friend was stuck in a gridlock in Atlanta for 21hrs with her baby. My mind was so blown by what was happening over there. Glad they got it sorted sha. The super bowl is on Sunday and I just wanna see my baby, Bruno Mars perform - oh and we won a grammy! wooohoo. It wasn't his first but the first that was televised- I digress. After that its valentines day. I only bring this up because every store, every promo email I get, its all they can talk about. It falls on a Friday this time which makes it seem even sadder for the unboo-eds like us hehe. Anyhueee let's take a ride on the random train!

Flaky people man...huuuuuuuuge pet peeve.

Champagne is really lucky it has status as a drink because it really doesn't taste all that.

So I was telling a coworker how I was trying to avoid all these weird hormones that might be in our foods and trying to eat organic eggs and milk. He was like I might as well save my money. He is of the belief that nothing is really good to eat unless you are growing your own food and hatching your own eggs. He is like because its a business they have to keep their stuff on the shelf and if it is packaged and doesn't go bad in 2 days then it just can't be that good for you. Sigh.

I find it amusing when unsingle/married people (read:females) state their disdain/dislike for Valentine's day. I find it annoying when unsingle/married men complain about it because they don't get all vexed for the other similar type holidays.

You know what's annoying when people up North rag on us down South for freaking out over little snow/ice. We get it, yall have snow rights but we arent used to it and we aren't equipped for it. Just leave us be.

I know I have said it before but I really do like success stories where people got rejected so many times but they never gave up and eventually made it. I also like the stories (maybe I shouldn't use the word like) that serve as a reminder that you never know what may happen tomorrow. Kim K was Brandy's assistant, now who's the more famous and richer one? Colby O' Donis was brought in to feature on Lady Gaga's first single "Just Dance" to help give her more visibility. Who is more famous now? Plus I am pretty sure people are like Colby who? Watched a youtube video about Bruno Mars' rise to fame and how he was dropped by how many labels since he was 18. May be silly but it somehow just gives me some hope. It's not how you start, it's how you finish, eh?

You know what hurts when in comes to human relations? If you don't try with a person and shit goes bad, at least you can be like sucks but I didn't try but when you try really hard with a person and the person just still doesn't acknowledge or notice you are trying. Its frustrating.

Most of you might have read the yoga story about a skinny white woman who felt some type of racism by a "heavy set" black woman. Infact the story is too stupid, I had no comment. You can google yoga+xo jane+racism, story will probably come up. You know how there's a thing like pretty girl entitlement - where pretty girls feels they are entitled to get stuff just cuz they are pretty, I do feel there's skinny girl entitlement. Maybe smaller girl entitlement is a better phrase. LAHHNY reminded me of this also when Tahiry and Rasheeda got into a fight. Tahiry is not skinny but is smaller than Rasheeda and naturally the first attack was Rasheeda was jealous of her body. Same happens on RHOA where digs are always made on Kandi and Phaedra's weight by Kenya.

I wonder about celebrity immigration. Do they get H1 too? Do studios and record labels file for them? Are they just offered citizenship?

I heard this on Real World and I shuddered at the kind of men that are out there: "Jenny is a prize to me. I don't want to fight for her. But I do want to win"

I leave you with some quotes:

"Every shoe has its size. If the shoe fits, wear it. If it doesn't fit, the shoe is good. The foot is good too. Just not for each other"

"Love is not maximum emotion. Love is maximum commitment" - Sinclair

Ok I thought I had more quotes but I can't find them. So have a lovely weekend. Be safe!

Thursday, January 23, 2014

Friday Randoms

Howdy folks, another Friday is upon us. Who doesn't love Fridays? For the most part, I am in a good mood on Fridays. Guys, can we talk about this cold? yeah yeah its -xyz degrees wherever you are but I am a texan 20/30 degrees is just as bad. It's just so uncomfortable, I really hate the cold it just symbolizes misery. Was just thinking that next week is the last week in January and just like that we are done with January. Someone tweeted "Is it just me or is January going slow?" lol we humans. By the end of the year, we'll be saying how the year is just running past us. By the way, I do agree that January went slow. How about this Bieber kid, huh? I mean his meltdown was inevitable but I didn't think that it'd be this soon. Such a damn shame, I am a fan of his music and like all the celebs with issues, I hope he finds the help he needs before anything drastic. okey dokes, lets go through some randoms.

I think 90% of the people I know decided to get engaged over the holidays. After the peace and quiet on weddings that I had over the last few years, seems the surge is back. Anyways, having a talk with one of my friends who is getting married and she says that when you do decide to settle down and get married it's never 100% what you want and it involves some kind of sacrifice. I don't remember everything else but I remember her saying most of the time if you are looking for that intellectual guy for some reason most of them seem to be douches. That made me chuckle.

They never use plastic bags in movies/tv. Almost always, paper bags. Besides Whole Foods, I don't see a lot of that in real life.

I don't watch Naija movies often but the few times I do, how come they always have light? I've never even seen a scene where they take light and they turn on the gen.

Are people born squirters or is it learned?

Ah the life of being single. I randomly wondered if it was rude to invite someone to a wedding and instruct them to not have a +1. Does that happen to married people? As in, do they not get invited even though only one person is the friend but because they are married it automatically means 2 people.
I can't count the number of wedding invitations I have received where the # of guests portion has been filled out for me already with a big fat 1. I don't take it to heart because I have a thing about weddings. It's the couples money and they have a right to do whatever works best for them because weddings sure as hell ain't cheap.

All I want for 2014 is to not feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders.

A friend recommended a book for me, Conversations with God. So far, so good. It has some far out theories but the basic gist of the book speaks to me and is helping me with the new outlook on life I am trying to have.

When you have a kid that's one race, is it weird when you have another kid that's mixed race? I mean I know Heidi did it I just wonder if its weird. I think about if Evan Ross and Ashlee Simpson have a kid then I think of Halle Berry who has 2 baby daddies but they are both mixed race so they won't have questions.

Why are naija parents so gung ho about marriage when most of them had shitty ones?

Losing a boyfriend must be so weird. Someone you loved so much and yet don't have rights to. Even worse this quote: "Losing someone close to you at a moment of tension in the relationship"

Nna, this Lupita Nyong'o worship is something fierce. I mean the babe is cool and all but this one na frenzy. I have my theories but moving right along.

"Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them"

I read somewhere where someone took issue with Oprah saying she couldn't have it all - kids and career. But I do agree with her though. I don't think anyone - man or woman - can have it all. Something will always suffer or you feel guilt about not giving more to something. 

You hear ladies saying there are no good guys. Granted this may be true with the way our generation is free balling it now but I do feel we ladies need to be able to discern what we want from what we need. We get so caught up in what we want and the idea of how we want our man to be that we don't realize this may not be whats good for us.

You know there are some women who always seem to have a guy and seamlessly move on from one relationship to another. I can understand that. I don't think its hard if all you're looking for is a boyfriend. What surprises me is, is it that easy to make a connection with someone? Because to me, thats the hardest part of this boy/girl business. Not meeting people but meeting people you click with.

Well thats all I got for you folk. Don't forget to visit Stay warm in this weather, have a lovely weekend and be safe.

You guys don't know the nuggets I drop for you when I drop a video. If you're ever bored and looking for new music, you should probably just go through all the music I have dropped in Friday Randoms and build yourself a nice lil playlist hehe


Monday, January 20, 2014

Random Shuffle

I've done this before and I thought it'd be fun to do again. I basically turn on my library and have it on shuffle and list out the 20 songs that play. I really hope it turns out some gems and not the songs I usually skip. Here we go!

1.  Super Bass - Nicki Minaj
2.  Footprints - DJ Klem ft Teetocemos
3.  Faded - Drake
4.  Broads - Miguel
5.  Sucka for Love - Danity Kane
6.  Mercy on Me - Christina Aguilera
7.  Go Up - Frank Ocean
8.  One Short Day - Kristin Chenoweth (Wicked Soundtrack)
9.  Muah Muah - Bracket
10.SexyBack - Justin Timberlake
11. True Love - Pink
12. While my Guitar Gently Weeps - Santana ft India.Arie and Yo Yo Ma
13. Marry Me - Iyanya
14. Poison & Wine - Barton Hollow
15. Talk About It - M.I
16. Hope - Twista ft Faith Evans
17. The Big Bang - Rock Mafia
18. After Afterall - William Fitzsimmons
19. Fearless - Taylor Swift
20. Floating Away - John Legend

Well, that's my 20. My kini doesn't even have new jams ehn? Hope you at least find one song that you like. Feel free to this also and share as long as you are completely honest and don't try changing songs. Happy Monday and have a wonderful week!!!

Thursday, January 9, 2014

Happy New Year

Hello lovely people. 9 days in and I am just wishing you guys Happy New Year. It's been so busy at work and this weather is not helping sha. It's so freaking cold, it's not cute. Hope everyone had a good holiday and got to spend time with family and loved ones. I had a good holiday and a much deserved one after the stress of last year. Figured I'd gist you guys about it - sorry, nothing juicy.

Ok, so the first leg of my trip was to Dubai. I've always wanted to go there and everything fell into place this time. I've never flown Qatar Airways before but it was not bad. The one thing I'll give them is that the airline is spacious and not cramped like most airlines in Economy. If you know me well, you know that the movies is a very important part of my travel process. After waiting what felt like eternity and complaining to like 3 flight attendants, they said the only option was to move my seat to a middle seat. lol i actually hesitated, till I remembered one option was flying 13 hours with no movie. So I moved and like I said, the airline is spacious so it was cool. Ok nah, food, watch movie, time to sleep. Sleep I did. All of a sudden, plane drops and feels like its descending and is shaking. Umm, I snap my eyes open. Indian guy beside me is screaming "whoa whoa whoa". People legit just start screaming, flight attendants are yelling at people to "sit down!". Yo, the fear in my heart was real. I'm like seriously? This is how I'm gonna go out?  What made it worse was the pilot didn't even say anything to reassure people and be like oh its just turbulence. Nna, i don't remember the last time I said my rosary but I did that night. I had to pray for the indian guy beside me because he was so nervous after that and made me nervous. It was basically a turbulent flight and I had to think imagine people who actually crash, that this fear is their last feeling before going. I looked at the flight info and men 9hrs had never felt so long. Thankfully we made it in one piece and Dubai here I come!!

So from the get the immigration people weren't friendly. They were all men in their traditional garb. No hi, hello, what are you here for. heck in my mind, they threw my passport back at me sef. It was so weird, not a single word. The cab line had a separate line for women but I don't think it was enforced sha. Made it to the hotel where the clerk seemed to be a little smart ass (which I would come to learn as the norm). I don't remember what I did the first night,  I waited for morning all 4 days I was there, don't think I slept the whole time - and not cuz i was living it up. Let me not yarn too much but Dubai was nice, its basically a westernized tourist city with every westernized restaurant in place. All their taxis are Camrys, lots of immigrants. My friend had warned me that they usually assume most black women are prostitutes there. I saw the tallest building, went to the Souk market - which was fun as I enjoy haggling, went clubbing, did the desert safari - being on a camel when it drops is quite scary, their shisha is the real deal. that thing went straight to the head, the most fun though was at the beach. I do like the beach so maybe I am biased. It was just nice seeing women of all shapes and sizes in bathing suits with no care in the world. The men in their speedos tho...different story.

Oh remember, how I said the people can be rude. So, part of why I booked my hotel is because they offer a shuttle to the beach. I come down and they say the driver is off and they suggest I take a taxi. Never one to back away from trouble, I'm like nope. They said they've arranged a taxi to the beach but to get one back. I am like nope. He kept saying it till he agreed to reimburse the taxi fare. So after a nice day at the beach, got back, paid and was walking back into the hotel, the taxi driver called me back, I thought I had forgotten something. I walk back and he points to the seat. Theres a wet spot and sand on the seat. I apologize profusely and offer to clean, he goes no and points again, at this point I was irritated and I'm like ok what's your point? He goes, if you were a customer, would you want to get into a taxi that looks like this? I am confused at this point and he says "You should use your sense". At this point I am like "Don't you ever in your life, talk to me like that", he starts saying "What kind of people are you?" I say it one more time and kinda hurry walk back into the hotel, before dem carry me go jail. I was so livid. All in all sha, it was a great experience and I am sure I left a lot out.

Next stop was naij and Naij was the usual. I always have a good time there and this year was no exception :). Oh one more thing, why are our people so smelly? Why do our people not have travel etiquette? I mean on the flight, this man decided to go to the bathroom as the drink cart began. With all pompadour, he tapped the flight attendant and said "I want to pass!". To his credit the flight attendant rolled back for him to pass. I shook my head in shame. I saw a rat at MMIA. No words.

Anyhue, here's hoping everyone has a wonderful and fantastic 2014. I am not much for resolutions but I am giving the being positive thing a go for the 1864765th time and also trying to not be so liberal with my opinions unless asked. Here's to a happy and healthy 2014.

Listen to the lyrics of this song. I just think its deep. love this song. Ok bye for real now.