Thursday, June 30, 2011

Friday Randoms

Hi guys, can you believe it's friday already? Well it is. I am just going to breeze by last week's randoms. It was what it was, but I am glad you guys enjoyed it. Sorry you won't be getting that a lot. I had a pretty decent week. Continued my girl's birthday celebration on saturday and let's just say it was a fun night. Good peoples, Good drink and Good music. Sunday, I carried myself to the BSB concert (if you know me well or are an avid reader, you will know I love them so). It really was the NKOTBSB concert but I purposely block out NKOTB, they were more of a nuisance to me. Jordin Sparks opened for them and looked fabulous, weight loss na good thing. I went to the concert by myself because I didn't expect anyone to want to go as evidenced by reactions and comments I got when I mentioned it. Apparently, I'm supposed to be ashamed of myself for still liking them at my age. Last I checked it was a free country and we all have our preferences. I had a great time and I am glad I went. I am so looking forward to this weekend. Straight hard knock bumming, no travel. Travel will resume next month. Enough talk, more randoming.

So in M.I's song "Slow Down" he has a line that says "She reminds me of nights in Paris" and I wondered if MI had actually ever been to paris and knows what the nights were like.

Why do naija pastors who prophesy and allegedy see visions always see gloom and doom type news and someone always out to get you?

Why would people be scared of having kids in terms of being in charge of another human being? You get to control them! lol I keed. I have never had fears of being a mom. I think I'd be a great mom and I look forward to being one. I already love caring for people, how much more a human I pushed out. That being said, umm I am not looking for kids right now o!

It was bound to happen but I forgot to mention how this black girl at the club last week had this big ole fascinator sitting atop her head. I the club though?

Last week, someone made a comment to me "You're not fat, you're overweight. There's a difference". I was very pleased with myself that it absolutely had no effect on me. yay to progress.

So, I've never quite understood that term "Taking it slow" and if it made any difference. Ok, I know most people take that to mean not sleeping with a man so soon. But then what defines too soon? Does the time you sleep with him determine anything? If he is going to leave, he'd leave, no? Would a man leave because of the length of time it took to get you in bed or because of other factors?

Another phrase "You are what you attract". How many of you think this is true or bollocks?

It was National HIV day a few days ago. I am under the impression that a lot of young Nigerians don't get HIV tests, so I asked a bunch of my friends. It was a half n half, but I was surprised that a lot of the sexually active ones had never had one before ever. Meh, it's everyone's prerogative, just stay safe everyone.

You know how you hear a bunch of guys say that girls are listening to Beyonce and lapping up her single ladies mantra/anthems while she got her own man at home chilling? For those of you that read Black Girls Are Easy blog that's how I see it. Dude be spewing things but he knows wassup and has his wifey chilling at home.

Speaking of Beyonce, I have heard this a lot and read this that she is one of the hottest celebs that you don't want to sleep with. I'm inclined to agree.

I didn't expect it to have that much of an effect on me but it did. I truly wish him the best and as long as he is happy, that's all that matters.

I watched a movie - Diary of a Nymphomaniac. As the name implies, the woman didn't joke with her sex, but she was lonely. She wanted love. She found love but the sex was wack,lasted like 2 mins. She eventually left to work in a brothel lol. Anyways, question is, you find someone you truly love and click with but sex is wack. Would you stay or would you go?

Oh also,according to the movie the 4 things all humans want are: recognition, pleasure, self esteem and love and affection.

You will be amazed the little things guys notice and pick up on.

Someone asked me the #1 thing I look for in a guy and without blinking I replied with Acceptance. Someone who accepts me for me and doesn't try to change me. I understand that they are celebs, it might be silly to use them as examples and they'll prolly break up soon but for example IceT and Coco, but it explains what I am saying. Coco might be one of the ditziest people ever and she says things that make you go huh? but IceT never flinches and just thinks she is wonderful lol. In the future, I wish for myself someone that thinks I am the best thing since sliced bread in spite of my flaws instead of making me very aware of my flaws.

Alright cuties, that's it for today. Happy New Month! Wishing you nothing but good things and blessings from the Good Lord above. Have a wonderful 4th of July weekend and everyone be safe and enjoy life!

In the spirit of the holiday weekend/new month and just being alive to experience it, enjoy today's song.

One Republic - Good Life

Friday, June 24, 2011

Friday Randoms

Hellooooo boys and girls! Happy Friday to ya. "Tis Random Friday again. Yay! What is the cause of my good mood you ask? It is alcohol!. I should be ashamed of myself. I have to be up in 4 hours for work and I am here just a tad bit tipsy/buzzed but not drunk ( I insist!_). It was my girl's birthday yesterday and hse wanted to party(omg i just deleted 5 tomes to get party right)today. I haven't gone out on a week day in a LOOONG time but I figured what the hell. It was mucho fun, dj was on point. You will be glad to know that yours truly can still make it to the floor - and get up, can still wind and can still make a grown man say "oh shit" on the dancefloor. The compliments weren't bad either (not like I get these on the regular). I am such a light weight sha. I had a tequila shot, a goldschlager shot and was Team Jameson for the night. Anyhue, I know I could have waited to do this but I figured i'd let you guys see this side of me and also say a big ha! t o all those who think I can't be open. Yes I can!- with alcohol. ok maybe not but I have a feeling I will be doing some deleting come tomorrow. All of una wey wan judge me, wa wa okay.Who wants to random with Tipsy Taynement?? Meee! Lesssgo!

The Weeknd+Weed+Sex+1particularperson

Can I just say unrequited like sucks? I can? Thanks. It does.

What has twitter turned into? Is houdl say nigerian twitter. A place full of cliques with the mean girls and boys picking on people all in the name of keeping it real. I still maintain yu can be "real" and honest without being mean/rude. Twitter characters are people. Don't catch your fun at someone else's expense.

Six months later and people are still asking about Chuck Bass. Amusing. Let me answer a few of the questions. To the anonymous commenter who asked "where the heck Chuck Bass is". He is in Nigeria. Last I checked Chuck Bass is fine. No, we are not dating but we communicate and still keep in contact because we are friends (although he might be mad at me at the moment).Yep, I think that;s about it right? Right.

A lot more people read this blog than I think sha. Meh!

I really should get back on my sister blog. I started my blog because I thought I'd be the next Diablo Cody and get discovered. *yimu*

*sidebar - I would KILL for some chips and dip right about now. Shet!

Sophia Bush dated her costar on One Tree Hill, Chad Michael Murray. They got married and divorced within months. You'd think she'd be wary of doing that again but she dated another costar and has been dating him for 5 years.

So like people with disabilities such as Down's Syndrome and issues similar to that aren't like fully there, so I reckon it'll be hard to be aware of the nuances of being a Christian. So if they die, how do they hget judged by God?

Most of us heard might have heard about teh 51yr old who married the 16yr old and we say it's creepy. What is accepted age? How old is okay say a man in my age group (28-30yrs old)wants to date an 18-21 yr old, is that creepy too? What age differences do you consider creepy?

They say flirting is unacceptable when you are in a relationship? I don't know if I necessarily agree. Comma dey. What do you think?

A friend of mine and I were talking about getting flack for letting his girl pay for dinner at a restaurant. While I see nothing wrong with getting the check for you and your man every now and then or going dutch on a date, I do wonder why some naija guys who come to yankee be acting all brand new when they meet nigerian girls who think its taboo to pay or go dutch. It's our culture, the guys usually pay. It's all well and good if you pick up the yankee culture but don't be acting shocked. Right now if I go to Naija,I know that a dude won't let me go dutch or pay for the meal.Its just what we do.

sidebar I am really sleepy.why am i doing ths again?

It's funny how the muslims I know can break every rule, heck one of them I know owns a strip club but the one rule they won't breal is eating pork. Wonder why they stick that rule.

Just a quick thank you to friends of mine who asked how I was doing on Father's day. I was fine really. A slight pinch there but it was nothing but Thanks for thinking about me!

Surely this can't be life when all we look forward to when we go to work is 5pm or Friday.

Can you date an atheist? For me, It's a deal breaker but I have to say I was surprised when I asked some (nigerian) girlfriends of mine and they said they would.

My friend once did a poll among his female friends askiig if they had to pick one for the rest of their life - head or actual intercourse- which would they pick? Majority of them picked head. I;m in the minority.

My friend came up with a category of guys in convo - Nerds (when they were younger) who think they are special now. I know what she means.

How can 2 siblings be raised in teh same household and turn out soooo different.

Marsha Ambrosius is hot!

I've always said Yorubas about more picky about food than Igbos. I guess its the peopel I know. They are more inclined to not eat this n that or eat other people'sfood.

Ok I am done. At this poiunt I need to sleep. Don't be surprised if this post is ocmpletely different next time you read it. I can't even think of a song. This girl right chea is going to bed. I want to sleep in arms. big strong arms. that's not gonna happen.I lovbe you alllllll! maybe the alcohol loves you all? I dunno. Thamks for reading though. Bye!


Sunday, June 19, 2011

The Hardest Thing....and a little bit of everything

Hello my little bloglettes, how are you all doing? Hope everyone is doing well and hanging in there in this journey called life. I had a good weekend myself. Finally and for the first time ever, I got to visit California, specifically Los Angeles. I happened to find a cheap ticket earlier in the year, chose a random date and bought it. It was a chilled trip compared to my other trips, no clubbing or wilding out. I went sight seeing by myself, saw the Walk of Fame, the Chinese Theater, Saddle Ranch (they film a reality show about it on Vh1). Drove around The Grove, Laurel Canyon, Sunset Blvd et al. While walking around, I ran into a Top Chef tour thingie and got to see Jaimie and Antonia. My coworker was nice enough to enter me to see a Jay Leno taping and I got selected, so many frustrated GPS and Cali traffic moments later I made it into the (freezing) studio. Jay Leno looks just like he does on TV. Josh Duhamel is just as gorgeous in person and so is Jill Scott. Anthony Hamilton is just as...homeless looking and short. Man, they make you do a lot of clapping, I felt like either the applause screen was flashing or the hype man was signaling the audience to clap every second.

Met up with ShadeNonconform, who suggested an Ethiopian restaurant that was pretty good. Tried a brunch place that served the most AMAZING red velvet pancakes, had those with 2 glasses of Cranberry Buzzes (Cranberry juice + Champagne)and I was a bit buzzed. Went to the Santa Monica Pier/Beach. I love the beach, played a bit in the water, took a long walk. It was nice. Hit up a dessert shop that stays open late. Funny, how I always wanted to live there, but I don't think I want to anymore. Bits of the place reminded me of being on the Island in Lagos.

Anyways, to make sense of the title of my blog, this trip came at a good time cuz I hadn't been in a good head space for about a week or so before I left. I had some time to think over my "vacay" and sort some things out. While I am a work in progress, like everyone else, one of the things I realized is that one of the hardest things for me is being vulnerable. I have had a variation of this convo with two of my friends - where I thought I was carefree and let it all hang out but as one of them pointed out, anytime I let it out, it took a lot of prodding on their part. Hmm, the dictionary defines vulnerable as capable of being physically or emotionally wounded. So logically, maybe it's a fear of being emotionally wounded? I have no clue because I can't tell you why it is so. The closest I can come up with is I think I just got so used to reigning my emotions in and keeping it lock tight, combined with having difficulty expressing it.

Blah who knows, I know some may think that some things I say on here show that I can be vulnerable and that's true but trust me I still keep it rather surface on here lol. My final question is, Do you think being vulnerable is a behavioral trait or something inspired by the company around you?i.e your friends/partner etc.

Hope everyone has a great week ahead. Monday just likes to sneak up on us sha. I am lying in my room practically naked because it looks like the vents in my room aren't working and it's so hot. I'm gonna attempt to sleep, I say attempt because sleep is hit or miss with me and try to start my week of right with positive vibes. Yeehaw! lol

Enjoy the song I stole my title from Frank Ocean - The Hardest Thing


Thursday, June 9, 2011

Make your faith a target

I got this from my brother, we've been talking about some issues the last couple of days and I needed to hear this. Thought I'd share this incase anyone else needed this too.

“Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see”(Hebrews 11:1, NLT)

So many people today get down and discouraged because they only focus on their present circumstances. They’re constantly dwelling on their problems, what they don’t have, and what’s wrong with them. They don’t realize it, but they’re allowing the enemy to steal their hope. This negative frame of mind is what keeps people from moving forward in life.

Understand today that faith is confidence and assurance about the things we hope for according to the promises of God. Like an arrow, your faith points to the target of hope. If you don’t have hope, that arrow of faith has nothing to aim for. It won’t accomplish anything. But when you keep your hopes up, when you keep expecting and believing, it’s like making that target larger and larger and easier to hit!

Choose today to live with an attitude of expectancy. Don’t focus on your circumstances; focus on your God! Get your hopes up! Take captive every negative thought. As you focus on God’s goodness and faithfulness, you’ll feel that hope inside of you growing. Give your faith a target and move forward confidently in the direction of your dreams!

Father in heaven, today I surrender every thought to You. I choose to release my cares and concerns so I can focus on Your goodness. Thank You for the gift of faith to see the impossible become possible as I continue to place my hope and confidence in You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Have a wonderful day, peoples!!

Monday, June 6, 2011


Hallo, it hasn't been a while has it? In progressive news, I only got abused by two people for not updating. In my defense, I did say my blog was nearing its end didn't i? I haven't had any blog worthy topics (or stuff I'd wanna put on here :D)but life's been okay, the post grad life is the business. It's nice leaving work and not having to worry about school work or feeling guilty while watching tv. I've tried to have a bit of fun, had fun in houston, fun in atlanta and even ventured out to the movies which I haven't done in a while. Other than that, my life is pretty uneventful and just trying to take each day as it comes and figure out my career. So yea, I think you are all caught up on my life sooooo let's random.

Why do people care where they are buried? I see nigerians who say "lai lai I can't be buried here oh. I must be buried in my homeland". Err when you were alive you didn't live there, now that you are dead and unaware and will be rotting in dirt,you care? yea don't get it.

The Nigerian community is quite small. Everyone knows someone that knows someone. We always have weddings in our community. All I can ask of God is when I get married (nigerian or not)I don't want to be that oblivious bride where everyone knows my new husband's philandering except me and while I am cheesing with happiness, people are whispering behind my back and shaking head. Let me just have a good man. The end.

Speaking of which, it's 2011 and people are still latching on to the fake gist that Will and Jada are in an open marriage. Jada said they are open with each other, so if they find anyone attractive they were open with each other. But I guess that's boring.

They say the last person you sleep with owns your vajayjay. yay?nay?

Life can be unfair sometimes.I have a friend that has had a tough year on all fronts and it's been kinda sad seeing her go from this cheerful person to jaded.I know life throws curve balls but dang I wish she'd catch a break.

Some of my guy friends amuse me. Talking to one the other day and he says he is ready to be in a long term relationship and I just shook my head. I told him that he has to have a mind shift. You can't enter a relationship with a single frame of mind. You are just gonna have to give up some habits, it's two people now.

I swear noone has as much action with no action like I do.

I get irritated very easily but I don't hold on to things. It takes a LOT to get me angry but I got really angry last week when some jackass in a club in Atlanta grabbed my ass. I was so angry, I started yelling at him, I shoved him and hit him not even hard enough. I don't remember the last time I was that angry but i really really wished I had given him a hot slap.

Many might disagree with me but I have to say that I am of the school of thought that most men would be intimidated by a woman way more successful than they are.

You know, I can see why men would be attracted to younger women besides their youthful looks. They are usually so boisterous, so confident, so sure of their convictions (even when it's head scratch worthy) and they just aren't as jaded.

I'd be perfectly okay if heaven and hell didn't exist and when we died we were just...dead. But I'd admit that life would be a whole different ballgame if that was the case.

I don't like Dwayne Wayde. I see him and I am just annoyed. With his puffy cheeks, I don't even find him attractive. I am not hating because I like the Mavs, I've just always felt that way about him.

If a black man says he has a preference for dating white women, is that offensive or just a preference that he has a right to?

Well, that's all folks. Enjoy today's song, one of my current favorite songs to dance to in front of my mirror. Has a Nelly vibe to it.

A Bay Bay ft Dorrough and Official - She hot