Monday, May 31, 2010

Happy memorial day

Hi everyone, hope everyone enjoyed their weekend and is enjoying their day off. It's been a rough weekend for me, worked all day friday, bit of sunday amongst other things but I just need to suck it up abi and try to focus on the positive things. I don't even have anything to say, I just wanted to blog and break the monotony of being on my bed all day but I forget I am not the "speaking" type so I can't say what's really on my mind.'s to all the veterans and current men in service who have risked and are risking their lives for our freedom here in the states and to you folk in Naija who have a frigging holiday every other day of the week, abeg una tell me what Democracy day is?? mschew...well I guess I should just bounce now, Have a lovely rest of the day and a lovely week ahead.

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Friday Randoms

I thought it'd never come but finally the long weekend is here and of course I am gonna be working. I have homework and a paper due, procrastination has gotten the best of me again. It always takes me a little while to ease into the semester but I need to realize that it's summer and while I am still "easing in" the semester will be over before I know it. I got nominated in the best music blog category, I wasn't sure if it was for this blog or the other. Either thank you to whoever nominated me. I have an early day tomorrow so forgive me for posting this early.

Serena Van Der Woosen(sp?) from Gossip Girl is quite, quite annoying.

I'd really like to understand the whole concept of deja vu. It's quite spooky that conviction that something has definitely happened to you before. I feel like I am in LOST or something. I have them quite a bit too.

I highly doubt Obama will win re-election.

When asked the secret to his long lasting marriage, Kevin Bacon said: Keep the fights clean and the sex dirty. - I like that.

Oh what Hollywood has done to cloud many a girls mind(not me sha, lol). Speaking of hollywood and sex, how many people in reality actually have sex with music?

Speaking of TV I have been catching up on my dearly departed LOST. I feel now that the show is over, Hurley isn't obligated to be fat anymore, he should go get lap band surgery. I never got into the 24 hype. Like people are in love with that Jack dude.

One of the sucky feelings in life is feeling disposable.

I am such a chronic yellow lighter. I am not one to stop, I just step on it and go. guess my reward came in the mail. Traffic violation and $75 down the drain.

I have heard of so many recent engagements lately where the couple haven't been dating up to a year. I admire the conviction, knowing strongly that this is who you will be with for the rest of your life. Is that how it's supposed to be? are you supposed to know that strongly or if you don't know is that a sign?

That Invented Sex song by Trey Songz, in the beginning there is a part where it sounds like he is saying, "Ego, ego, ego..."

So Alicia Keys is preggers for Swizzy...

What is with celebs renewing their vows. Why do these sheep always do follow follow sef?

I believe it's easier to think positively when things are going your way but then people argue that positive things happen to you because you are thinking positive. I disagree..

Where did the word impossicant come from?

Been trying to get in a workout whenever I can. Not a fan of work out videos but I checked out some on my netflix. Found a latin cardio one and one of the commenters was like "at least it's better than Zumba instructors who are only interested in showing off their moves". I never thought about it but it's so true.

Another advantage of being tall. Did you know that 94% of CEOs are over 6ft tall?

I moved to my apartment because it was 5 mins away from my job, and now my job is moving locations. GRRR!!

I laugh at my cousin in naija who has been watching the Greys Anatomy finale for almost a week due to slow internet connection lol.

I've never been tied up (in bed) before but I'd like to. Given my control issues I wonder if i'll freak out.

I had raved about a certain book some blog posts ago: Little Bee. My friend was kind enough to send it to me and I am so vexed by that book ehn...

Was watching the American Idol finale and noticed a bunch of them wearing knee length boots. First off, dem dey Cali so it's hot abi?

Speaking of which, we had a competition at work where we had to predict the elimination order for the American Idol contestants. I stopped watching a while back but I happened to be the proud winner of a $100 gift certificate to dinner :)

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those (including myself) who are caught in between the world and surrendering completely to the Lord. That we can find the courage to completely listen to HIM. Amen.

Today's song is a get krunk song when you need to feel pumped or when you are just plain feeling yourself. For someone who doesn't sing or rap, DJ Khaled be having some crunk songs


Sunday, May 23, 2010

Things I Wish I Had Known About Dating When I Was 21

Hi guys, happy Sunday. Hope you were able to get touched by the word either from Church or your personal meditations. Sigh, the weekend is over. Even though I spent my weekend sounding like a man it's always still good to be not working. School starts this week so a bit of my stress will be back. I planned on watching the entire season of Lost that's on my DVR that I haven't gotten around to but it's 1.30 and I still haven't started, time still dey sha. Anyways just wanted to give credit to my post, the entire post was copied and pasted word for word from a Yahoo article, so these are not my words. They are pretty common knowledge steez but still found it interesting, the writer is 31 by the way. Have a blessed week and don't forget to leave your comments.

1. If you're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without you having to do anything.

2. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)

3. Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than him should still be able to tell you you're beautiful. If he holds back in order to control the situation, or to keep you, or keep you down, he's got issues.

4. Don't help him ask you out by texting him something nice or polite. I'm glad you're more outgoing and thoughtful than he is, but he doesn't want the help.

5. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They'll say anything to close the deal.

6. It's shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there's a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you're deaf.

7. It's better not to lift a finger in the beginning.

8. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays -- even still, he'll think you're just wild about him. Too wild.

9. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I'd had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.

10. They might take a decade to mature. Don't hope they'll grow up or be ready in the next six months.

11. Even if your family thinks there's going to be a marriage, don't let them spoil your guy. Yes, he's grateful you gave him your car when he moved out of NYC, but he would rather have had to work for it.

12. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.

13. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn't mean he's your servant and won't mind doing all your homework/research/chores.

14. Guys get resentful, too.

15. You're special, unique, and important, but you're not a princess -- no matter what Daddy says (although for the record, my dad calls me "Erin").

16. It's okay to say no. It's more than okay. It's always okay. If he stops calling (and many, many, many will), you're only weeding out the guys who aren't truly interested in you as a person. Time saved!

17. Playing it safe guarantees you'll have more time and energy to think about your grades or your work. Less drama in your life will always be better and healthier for you.

18. You deserve to be treated like a human being.

19. Your wants and needs are just as important as his, and if you don't express them because you think it will scare him away, then you're saying you don't count as much as he does.

20. Even sophisticated people with professional jobs can have tempers or hit you or use foul language. I've known men who dressed like diplomats but they were ugly human beings.

21.You can't force chemistry. If you like him as a friend, the attraction might grow, but if it doesn't, don't force it. And don't waste his time.

22. Ease up on the sauce. Alcohol clouds your judgment.

23. No boyfriend-girlfriend relationship starts with a 1 a.m. text.

24. When a guy has taken you to Applebee's five times and you say you want to treat him, he'll be psyched. But secretly he'll freak out if you take him to Ruth's Chris, even just the one teeny time. Don't try to match him one Ruth's Chris for five Applebee's. Take him out, but go to T.G.I. Friday's.

25. Women love attention. A guy needs to be pretty crazy about you in order for him to pay enough attention to make you happy long-term.

26. My mom always said, "Men don't think." I thought she meant, "They are mistaken in their thoughts." But they're just not thinking anything at all. About you. They're watching the game. That's why they haven't called.

27. There should be a medium ground between workaholism and his absolute devotion. "The knight departing for new adventures offends his lady, yet she has nothing but contempt for him if he remains at her feet".

28. Never underestimate the quality of "interesting." Men want someone interesting. They really do. Find some hobbies.

29. What are you hoping to gain by hooking up with this guy? If the answer is "him," that's a bad deal for you. "The woman gives herself, the man adds to himself by taking her"

30. Expectations? They'll ruin every dating experience you have.

31. You will never understand men. Just try to understand yourself.

Friday, May 21, 2010

Friday Randoms

Hi Guys, Friday is here and my undertheweatherness has become a full blown below the weather. I'm hacking and sneezing and all that good stuff, hopefully it goes away soon, I still want my mommy sha. Man! did anyone else catch that Grey's finale. Watched it with the best friend via IM and our convo was full of "Chineke's", "Chimoo", "Shit", "WTF", you get the drift. Hats off to Shonda Rhimes, she did her thing. ok, random time.

I mentioned Welcome to Lagos last time and it reminded me of Environmental Sanitation aka Enviromental.

WTL also made me think of Esther and other girls like her in Naija who are sexually active but don't know about yearly checkups in Naija. Makes me wonder about checkups here sef gan, how many of our mothers did checkups and teeth cleaning and all that good stuff and they seem fine.

I'll try not to spoil Greys for those who haven't seen it but there's a part where Bailey denies her profession and it got me thinking. I've always thought that if you die because of your belief in Jesus Christ there is no way you are going to hell...right?

I have issues, I deleted someone of gmail because she is permanently logged on and doesn't respond when I say anything but more for the permanent log on, it irked me :)

Why don't hotels have full cable channels but they have HBO?

Actions speak waaaay louder than words. - cool link recognising naijas. The UK is more embracing. By the way kudos to MI and P Square on their BET nominations.

It's foreign to me how people get off on arguing. I don't like it. Are back and forths the same thing? if not I don't like that too.

So umm Texas Board of Education wants to rewrite textbooks basically taking out majority of history that involve minorities. wth?

I know I am getting old and stuff but who knew the new name for head is Actually it might not be new but it's new to me.

Men so much wedding planning talk around me, how on earth do people afford weddings? Shoo I know how much I make, I can't fathom a wedding right now.

How are some men able to cope with their wives using their ex husbands last names eg Demi Moore, Kimora Lee Simmons

I wonder how people writeup blog posts on their phones. I can't do it.

Geez I feel like there is always some country music award show going on.

Watched the Will and Jada Oprah interview, too cute men. BUt come oh, why is their 11 year old son kissing already?

Vera and Nice Anon did their posts on stupid shit men say and they both mentioned the put the tip in yarns. Personally, I have never had anyone say that to me but I have heard a lot of girls it's been said to.

You know, I see a lot of skinny girls at the gym and a big part of me still thinks that even if they don't work out they'd still be skinny. The whole slim thing is sometimes luck. There's no reason these reality show girls drink copious amounts of alcohol and eat crap and are still skinny.

Am I the only one who doesn't know what they weigh? I see a scale and I freak out, infact when i went for my checkup and had to be weighted my eyes were closed.

I am convinced 98% of men snore.

Looking for an interesting read:

"Have courage for the great sorrows of life and patience for the small ones and when you have laboriously accomplished your daily task, go to sleep in peace. God is awake."

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those that have had abortions and are having a hard time dealing with guilt. May the Lord help them not be so hard on themselves. AMEN.

So today's song is Beyonce's bonus track "Why don't you love me".. I gotta give it to MS. B, this girl is talented and talking about her body is redundant. I like the video a lot but you can tell Ms B is feeling herself a lil more these days, check out the video at 3min 27sec..narcissistic, no?

Have a lovely weekend guys!


Tuesday, May 18, 2010


Hey blogsville, I need help. Please can you recommend quick easy meals pesin fit make keep for house. Like I came home and I am blank, of course all that comes to mind is rice and it'll be nice to have a change/variety. So please list all you can, healthy/unhealthy (salad need not apply sha), naija/non naija. I'll welcome them. Thank you in advance.

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Interesting Blog Post

Hello Blogsville, How are ya and how is your sunday going. Hope it's well. Mine is good so far, I am still out of town, managed to make it to church and now I am chilling in my hotel room feeling a little under the weather, I woke up with a sore throat. Hopefully it's just temporary and it goes away pretty soon. In the meantime, I am lying here resting and watching The Backup Plan ( don't judge me, I feel an obligation to watch every Jlo movie ever made).

Anyone have any TV plans for the night? I usually watch Amazing Race, Desperate Housewives then Brothers and Sisters but the Survivor finale is tonight and I might peep Ms USA for no reason.

As always, I don't have much to say but I wanted to share this interesting blog post I came across. I don't know the owner of the blog but I hope she doesn't mind. I'd like to hear your thoughts on it so please feel free to decorate my comment box.

Have a lovely weekend and an even lovelier week :)

Friday, May 14, 2010

Friday Randoms

Hey Hey peoples. It's my first friday as a "free" student, I got one more and it's back to the student grind. I'm on a little high because I took 3 classes and so far I got A's in 2 of the classes, the most important one is of course the one not out and I am on pins and needles because I.Cannot.Take.That.Class.Again!! Alrighty then, hop on the random train, whoot! whoot!!

So I am out of town for work and chilling with friends and I have been accused of being attached to my computer and my BB. This I cannot deny. I am currently sitting with 2 computers, typing this post on my personal, replying emails I ignored on my work computer, bb flashing, IM's beeping (sad innit? but I love it)don't know how people travel without their laptops sha. Call me antisocial and tell me something I don't know, it's easier to socialise with electronics than people lol

Have I mentioned people relations is exhausting??

The Best Friend got some good news this week and I am super duper excited for her. Wooohooo, girly!

My cousin was here with me from Naija this weekend and besides her draining me financially it was really nice having her around. We laughed a lot and talked and she gave me a deadline that I need to have a boyfriend by my birthday lol

So if you write a check to church and it bounces does the church charge you?

I am surprised at how some celeb men still find love. Charlie Sheen is a self professed prostitute lover, Bobby Brown just got engaged. Amazing.

I realised last week that I wake up every morning and have no problem about going to work because I like what I do and after working a job i DESPISED for 5 years. I am truly grateful.

I kinda regret watching Welcome to Lagos(exaggeration of course). Now I feel like if I ever complain about anything again, I'll be an ass. If you haven't watched and are a late watcher like me just watch on youtube.

It was hilarious listening to two of my older coworker trynna decipher what lmao meant, the tone in their voice after discovering what it was was hilarious. He thought LOL meant lots of luck.

Geez Louise, I have so many passwords it is insane!

How do people review music. I know that it takes me a while and a couple of listens to decide what I feel about an album. So when you have a deadline how do you know what you think and won't your frame of mind affect your review?

I don't know what I hate more - packing or unpacking?

So like,blood makes me squeamish like gag squeamish.

Sigh, God is telling me something loud and clear and I am ignoring it :(

You know, if someone volunteered to pay my rent for a year, that'll be awesome. Rent takes a lot out of the paycheck jo.

Am I the only one who doesn't like push up bras?

Austin has a lot of homeless people sha, I never noticed.

I love love the melody of Colbie Caillat's "Never told you"

I thought i was ready for babies. Staying with the friends made me realise how much work it is. Simple things such as watching tv is impossible. My reflexes are sharper in 24 hours. whew! babies can wait.

PRAYER REQUEST: All those planning a wedding. For blessings financially, making decisions, dealing with parents/family members and strength during the stressful times and for the marriage to be blessed after the wedding.

Well that's all I have for you folks. Have a lovely lovely weekend. In honor of Welcome to Lagos. Today's song is by Vocal Slender - Owo ti Yapa


Thursday, May 13, 2010

Response to Beautiful

If you read my last post, Beautiful here is a response from a male friend of mine after his initial response was "Rubbish":

Hold him where he needs to be held
Don't yell at him when he's only trying to uhmm please you
Kiss him in his favorite place
more often than not
Don't take his kindness for weakness
'Cause I'm sure he'll love you alot
Support him in all that he does
Don't tear him down, lift him up
'Cause that is the worst thing you can do to someone you love
Put him high on a pedestal and tell him when he performs wonderfully
Tell him when he performs wonderfully

Male Friend of Taynement.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010


Hold her when she wants to be held
Don't yell at her when she's only trying to love you
Take her to her favorite place
more often than not
Don't take her kindness for weakness
'Cause I'm sure she'll love you alot
Support her in all that she does
Don't tear her down, lift her up
'Cause that is the worst thing you can do to someone you love
Put her high on a pedestal and tell her when she looks beautiful
Tell her when she looks beautiful

- Vivian Green

Not that I have anything to say. I just finished what could possibly have been the hardest semester of my grad program. I'm going to slow it down and take it easy, but as is life when you think you have solved one problem another pops up. Thankfully everything always sorts itself out so I hope a solution comes up. Hope everyone is doing well. Have a lovely rest of the week, maybe I will have something else to say and I will post again. Laters.

Friday, May 7, 2010

Friday Randoms

Hi guys, it's friday again. Thank God for yet another week, how many of yall knew yesterday was the National Day of Prayer? Speaking of prayer, can we have a moment of silence for our ex-president : Umaru Yar Adua. To be honest I don't feel anything but he was someone's husband, father and brother, so I wish them comfort and hopes his soul rests in peace. Naija and its awoof, dem come declare am public holiday, their second in one week. Well let's see what Mr. Goodluck has in store for us. Let's random shall we?

I've tried but I don't like the word "seen". I do understand sometimes that in some scenarios it's the most appropriate word to use.

And once again, Halle Berry's 5 year relationship with Sexy Aubrey is kaput.

I can't believe Bow Wow is 23, wasn't he like 4 yesterday doing the harlem shake with braids? I don dey old oh!

I DEFINITELY do not have Bieber fever but he has a song that I like. "Eenie Meenie" ft Sean Kingston. Not a fan of Colbie caillat either but I also found a song of hers I like.

Something I read somewhere: Don't lose your virginity to someone you love, he will own you for life.

I guess I have never tried to buy alcohol before 12 on a sunday but apparently you can't buy alcohol before 12 on sundays in texas. foolery!

We human beings are much stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

I have foot in mouth disease. Kinda sucks.

It's funny how we are so different but somehow live parallel lives, I spied this on a blog round and I ditto'd it to a t: I have come to understand that I don't need to understand everything... every one.. every will constantly change, I will constantly change. To be happy, I must accept myself at all times. Happiness.. what does that mean?

I feel that love is in the air. There is new love and people settling into their love, makes me smile.

Speaking of love, was chatting with my friend about it and I was like I feel like I know squat about love and she said: i think we are all dummies o some people just luck out they arent any smarter just

I must confess that I feel a twinge when I hear of people who have moved back home and found a job. Irrational I know.

Why is it when you are speaking to an oyibo person and you ask what kind of music they listen to they start with "hip hop, r&b..."

It really pisses me off when I call customer service and the automated service asks for all my info, when I finally get a person they ask me all over again for the same damn info the robot asked me for..ggrrrrr!!

Indomie is the business.

Anyone seen the new Christina Aguilera video? VERY Gaga-esque. I love my gaga and all but let's not forget who was the original durrty queen.

I miss my brother.

I'm all for not snooping on your man, but I have heard of instances where snooping has saved women from wahala and they got to find out the truth so now I'm like is it totally a bad thing?

I'm annoyed by my junk mail, I keep getting stuff about Islamic this and that, Yemen mail and mail in arabic. Abeg I no be member of Camp du Mutallab oh!

I;ve been to a LOT of starbucks and one thing is constant. Starbucks employees have to be the happiest employees. They are always so bubbly and giddy and polite. Nice change from usual snippy service.

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

Listened to christian music all day yesterday and chuckled when one of the singer's name was Big Daddy Weave.Interesting name.

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those with a disability. That God grants them patience to deal with it and to know that they are not any less than anybody else. AMEN

I am super excited about finishing up the semester next week. Going to enjoy that 2 week breather before summer school starts. Listened to the B.O.B album and it was a good listen. I'm totally in love with this song of his - Airplanes featuring Hailey (from paramoure) and Eminem.


Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Harmless Flirting and a Few of my Favorite Ads

Hi guys, I am 4 days late but can you believe we are in May? phew, I might as well say Happy New Year sef lol, just kidding. Ok about harmless flirting, I was thinking the other day, if you are in a relationship, would you be ok with your S.O flirting(harmlessly as in flirting and that's it, won't lead to anything else). Some may argue that there is no such thing as harmless flirting..but in my own pov I would be okay with it as long as it's not in front of me. I will smile at the man at the grocery checkout but not if my husband is there, that's disrespectful...

well I had a whole blog post complete with videos of my favorite commercials after searching for almost 2 hours and this was all that saved, so this is all I post. You can complete it as you will. Have a good week.