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Lagos Life

Howdy ho folks, how una dey? Christmas is just days away and I am enjoying the sun and heat of lagos. It was an ordeal getting to the East sha. This country na wire. Just to check in my luggage was wahala. People yelling at each other, my brother and I screaming at people who feel they have a right to yell at you. All before 7am. My 7.30 flight didn't leave until 3pm.Rumor has it the big wigs hired the planes for private use and left us regular folks to roast smh. Once we were told to board and after driving us there, they drove us right back because the plane wasn't ready. 2 Nollywood actors were on my flight and I took a pic, one of the midget actors (they say he is Aki) and Ejike Asiegbu. KOK was at the airport too. Also ran into JayJay Okocha in the lounge at the owerri airport. They tell u its VIP lounge with complimentary drinks and snacks, till a lady comes to ask u for ur N1000. I'm currently waiting for my food at Yellow Chillis and na wa they charge u to take ur …

Safe and Sound

Hey Blogfam, just wanted to let you all know I made it safe and sound to Las Gidi. It was an eventful journey, with plenty delays. No I didn't sit by a knight in shining armour (Nice Anon,lol) but by some chic who says she is going to Naija for the first time since she was 3 but has a very present naija with fonee sprinkeld on top accent. umm ok.

This country is frustrating. I am currently sitting at the airport trying to catch a domestic flight. My flight was at 7.30 and the announcer has been saying 30mins delay. we are currently scheduled for 12.30pm. make we dey see. enjoy your weekend and I hoope to keep up with you guys!

Random Wednesday

Hey Hey Folk. Long time no see. You see this girl right here was trying to keep it together with finals and everything else trying to stress me. So, I feel like I should address my last post, thanks for all the comments but it seems my post sounder sadder than I actually felt. I wasn't like sad or anything, it was more of frustrated with my mom saying the same thing everytime. Anyhue, for those who asked what change my friend was referring to, she felt like single folks felt like they can't talk to her anymore about relationship stuff because she wouldn't understand. Moving oooooon, I am going to be in Naija in a few days and I am uberexcited, I have been trying to get everything together that I am so scattered but for once I think I won't be over limit. Soooo, as a goodbye present I figured I would random for my good people, so you won't forget me lol. Legoooo!

(this might be long)

You should be kissed often and by someone who knows how - Margaret Mitchell

How suc…

Being a Single Girl

I just got off the phone with my mom. Based on my title, I am sure you know where I am headed with this. She asked me who I was talking to these days and I said noone. Then I asked her why there is all this emphasis on marriage, when in most cases chances are you have the rest of your life to be married and few years to maximize your alone time. I told her how my cousin said I should enjoy the time I have alone. My mom now launched into a it's a lie, they are happy with their spouses why shouldn't you be too?sigh. Anyways, she said her bottom line is that she feels the longer I wait the slimmer the pickings and she doesn't want that for me blah blah blah. I don't know why we have this conversation over and over and over again.

I would love to claim that I am a strong, superwoman immune to her mom's words but I got off the phone, saw a lovey dovey bb status update from one of my friends and I started thinking. My friend had expressed the other day, how she feels that…

My take on MI2

Okay, by now everyone knows I am an M.I groupie so maybe I am biased ( I highly doubt). I am not a music critic or a music connoisseur. I just happen to like music and have an opinion and that is exactly what this is. Since this album dropped it has been divided into two - Those that like it and Those that don't, which is expected, regardless of what he brought out, it would have been the same thing. It seems that for those that don't the main complaint is that, it doesn't compare to Talk about it or Illegal Music. Should an album be judged as a stand alone or in comparison to previous work? I have no clue, I leave that to the experts. I have to say that I don't take my music seriously. When I say that I mean that, I will give everything a chance. I won't dismiss a song because Miley Cyrus sang it so it is automatically crap. I don't care if you write your songs, I don't care if you play instruments,I don't have to relate to the subject matter for it to…

Na so crase dey start

Hallo gang, hope everyone had a lovely thanksgiving. I am a bit bored so as usual I came here to gab. I think I am having small crase from being in my house this long and not having human interaction. I have literally been in my house all holiday watching tv and playing on the internet. Tonight, it feels like everyone is doing something and I feel like doing something too. My friend bb'd me to say he is worried about me (told him to join the line)and he doesn't want me to lose my spark. Anyways, I don't really have many if any at all friends in my city, because they all moved and the ones here are married and don't go out much. Another friend of mine says, I need to meet new people so I need your suggestions, how does one go out there and meet new people? Thanks in advance. Have a great remainder of the weekend!

PS I will be back with my take on MI2.

Little Bit of This and That

Hi guys, couldn't really think of anything to blog about so I thought I'd share bits and pieces of my mind and pieces of what's been going on.

I am exhausted. I know I say this all the time but I truly am. I truly can't wait for a real vacay.I am not getting enough sleep either which isn't helping. To show how tired I am, I got back home today to see I left my iron on all day.

Today was special, I woke up at like 5am and couldn't sleep. I have showered for 28 years but today somehow, a glob of facewash entered my eye and man did it burn! till now sef it's a bit sore. Eventually made it to work, with my red eye and I planned on being good, no instant message or internet time wasting just straight work. I get to work and realize I left my work laptop at home. Yep! I drive back home to get it, I refuse to be dejected. I sit down, get my coffee, ready to work with Kanye's new album in my ear, I press play and silence. My headphones give way. I shrug and log…


Do you ever feel like a plastic bag
Drifting through the wind, wanting to start again?
Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin
Like a house of cards, one blow from caving in?

Do you ever feel already buried deep?
Six feet under screams but no one seems to hear a thing
Do you know that there's still a chance for you
'Cause there's a spark in you?

You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine
Just own the night like the 4th of July

'Cause baby, you're a firework
Come on, show 'em what you're worth
Make 'em go, oh
As you shoot across the sky

Baby, you're a firework
Come on, let your colors burst
Make 'em go, oh
You're gonna leave 'em falling down

You don't have to feel like a waste of space
You're original, cannot be replaced
If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow

Maybe you're reason why all the doors are closed
So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
Like a lightning bolt, your heart will blow
And when…

How I Saved Myself $422 In One Day

Hi guys, how is everyone doing? Hope everyone had a better start in the week than I did. So back to my blog title. It was just a few days ago that the best friend and I were talking about how I don't trust automated payment options because I just don't trust this country. See, I have always said this country is just like naija in terms of 419 except here it's legalized 419 in a comfortable environment. I am cheap or maybe I no get money like that so I always scour through my bills because many a time I have found mysterious fees that I don't know about and when I call they don't know where its from either.

Anyways today, I went to pay my tmobile bill that last I checked was $98. Well this time I went back and saw a whopping $200+ waiting for me. I started reading through the bill and saw a mysterious charge aka MC. I saw handset purchase. I stared at the phone I have had for like 2 years and wondered what was going on. I dial 611. After answering their stupid questi…

10 things you should know by now

Culled from

1. What’s important today won’t matter tomorrow
Yeah, so you got a problem. Sleep on it, sunshine. Put it off. Most problems can be safely ignored. You’ll be amazed how often they sort themselves out.And the gravity of any given problem is inversely proportional to the hour of the day. At three in the morning, you’ve got an insurmountable issue. After four whisky and cokes at nine in the evening, you haven’t even got an inkling of a problem.

2. Everybody else is furiously improvising, so you can too
Show me an expert and I’ll show you a charlatan. FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU MAKE IT, amigo. 21 year old lifestyle design guru? Hell yeah! Fat, unemployed life-coach? Why not? Homeopathy professional? Whatever, bring it on!

3. Nobody thinks about you as much as you think about you
Really. They don’t. For example, I’m not thinking about you now. But I bet you are.

4. It’s OK to piss people off
But if you’re pissing everybody off, all the time, it’s time to stop being a dick.

5. A…

Friday Randoms

Hey Hey peoples! I know, I know 2 weeks in a row. I happened to just have random thoughts piled up that's why. This week was a hella busy week for me, 3 cities in one week. I'm so dazed and ready for the weekend, even though I will be headed out of town tomorrow for a wedding. I had a fright this week when my phone gave out and Tmobile said there was nothing they could do, thank God for cellular repair shops, they temporarily fixed it and its still not fully fixed but I go manage till the 17th. I am currently chilling in my room with Original Mgbeks watching Real Housewives of Atlanta and Beverly Hills (trynna get the girl some reality tv shows in her life lol). Anyways, hope everyone has been cool. Can you believe its November??!! I am like shocked and happy at the same time because it means December is round the corner, yay!. Ok, not much to say let's random.

I want to give a special shout out to Shade Nonconformist for her comments on my last random post. I love reading…

Friday Randoms

Hi Guys, yea it is not a fluke, it is indeed friday randoms up. Well, technically it is thursday but I have to be up tomorrow at an ungodly hour to travel for work so I figured I will put this up. Today was not a good day, I was already ho hum and this co worker that seems to be my lesson to learn just seriously got to me all day, right to the very end. I just came home, shut my phone off and logged off instant messenger. My brother says there are bigger idiots in the world and I should find a way to deal with him and I will. I decided to watch Oprah's episode on the sound of music reunion and all the songs made me so nostalgic but I feel better and I will soon go to bed and by God's grace tomorrow will be a better day. I sha had a few randoms and figured who better to share with than my blogs people. Hope you all had a better week and I hope I haven't lost my touch but here goes.

I have this friend who sometimes complains about her weight to me as per she is gaining weigh…

Happy Birthday

Just popped in to wish my little baby, Blogger Neefemi, a wonderful wonderful birthday. Hope you have a wonderful day. Wishing you a lifetime full of music, since music is your opium lol. Stay blessed and enjoy your day! HAPPY BIRTHDAY! MUAH!

Oh, its also Myne's birthday, so happy birthday to the most efficient commenter ever. Hope you and the hubby do something fun.HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Thank You

Hello guys, it's sunday and a beautiful sunny day here in Texas, yay! If you know me, you will know I hate the cold more than anything. So I am really enjoying this extended summer so to speak. I told my coworker that won't it be awesome if Winter just skipped Texas this time, she told me to snap out of it, it's coming :(.

Anyways, based on my last post I really felt the need to come on here and say Thank You so much to everyone who commented and left encouraging words for me. At first, I was going to apologize for having a "woe is me" moment but I thought about it and I don't think I should have to make apologies for how I feel/felt at the time. Like my blog profile says: I think, I feel, I write :).

I digressed lol

I especially want to thank my friends who constantly checked up on me and laid me some serious advice and perspective. Even though you guys think you were preaching and I wasn't listening, I was. I was also blown away by how people perceive you…


I couldn't think of a title. I don't even know what to blog about but I just felt the need to blog. This week wasn't the best of weeks for me, I just felt like there was a whole lot going on. I had many moments of just wanting to scream and being thrown on some island just so I can F5 myself. By the way, wouldn't it be awesome if we could just hit a button and just refresh our lives? Ok maybe not, because I know my own button will be broken by now.

My name is taynement and I am a comparer. It's not like I don't know any better because I do and I will be the first to give advice to people not to compare, but I have a chronic disease of constantly comparing myself to others and what makes it worse is I always see myself on the worse side of it all. I don't know why I always feel the other person is smarter, richer, skinnier (this one is true sha lol), prettier, *insert whatever else*. Like, I am smarter than this right? (or maybe not). I know all that glitter…

Shut up!

Yea sometimes that's what I want to scream to everyone. Sometimes you just don't want to hear the solicited and unsolicited advise. Everyone thinks or fakes that they have it all figured out even when it's not the case and then try to project it on you, which is not good for an overthinker like myself. I just want to be carefree and let be, tune everyone out and listen very well so I can hear what I am saying or what I feel. I might not even be making sense. I just had a moment and for a fleeting second wished everyone would shutup.

Have a wonderful weekend blogfam!

A Simple Prayer

I was already getting ready for bed but a friend just said a prayer for me that really resonated and touched me so I had to share. Sometimes we forget that a prayer doesn't have to be long and tedious and just the right simple words are sufficient to convey your heart's desires:

I pray that you have peace of mind, serenity and rest.
Realizing that as a child of God you are cared for and provided for.
That you find the ability to let your soul just be, and know that only wonderful things and abundance of love, life, prosperity and happiness surrounds u.
There is indeed nothing to stress over, all is taken care of..

So it might not be a big deal to you guys but it is to me. I pray this also for everyone out there. Thank you again, you know who you are :)

Have a good night people.

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday! Happy New Month! Happy Independence Day! Happy Fourth Quarter!Happy Anniversary to Friday Randoms! As you can see, it's a whole bunch of happy wishes. Man, wasn't I just saying it was September the other day? and just like that it's over.We in the last 3 months of the year yo! Anyways, it has been a year since without rhyme or reason I decided to have a random friday and it lasted a whole year mostly thanks to you ever so kind people who faithfully read every friday and left encouraging comments. Like I have been hinting, today will also mark the end of Friday Randoms as a regular feature on my blog. I truly want to thank you all oh so much for reading and hope you still stop by my blog. I hope to still have friday randoms when i have some but once again, thank you and let's random:

Why are there no female singer with hot albums in naija? When I think of the females, I think of Asa but she is not even based in naija and the others na just singles every no…

I used to love him

Hi guys, hope you had a wonderful weekend. We thank God for bringing us through the weekend to enjoy another week. Sometimes it's nice when a song just captivates what you are thinking, which is why every now and then i post lyrics. I love lyrics. I love googling lyrics. I love reading lyrics, reveling in them and then silently bowing to the people who wrote the lyrics. Anyways this was the inspiration for my post on neefemi's blog and of course I forgot the song, so i thought i'd share. before I do, i truly admire and thank you guys that bare your souls with us on blogsville, its not an easy something. I thought I would be brave enough to share something with you guys and even had it all written out in my head but yea i have chickened out, so...umm yeah that's that.

As I look at what I've done
The type of life that I've lived
How many things I pray the father will forgive
One situation involved a young man
He was the ocean and I was the sand
He stole my heart like a…

Friday Randoms

Hello people. Another week don end oh. Another week that brings us closer to December. Yippee!! I had an okay week and I won't lie I did not give 100% at work this week, that will be corrected next week I promise. I've been feeling so lethargic lately and I know it's because I haven't worked out in a while. I am actually looking for boxing classes in my area. I want to take serious boxing and kickboxing classes and slowly incorporate martial arts. The funny part is that I eat better when I work out and when I don't it's a free for all. Oh, like I said next week marks the anniversary of Friday randoms and it will be the last for a little while, please as usual if you'd like to be a part of it feel free to send your randoms to and I will put it up in addition to the randoms I have. Let's random!

My friend told me this week that I should try using my heart instead of my head when it comes to guys since my head hasn't gotten me anyw…

The List - All 100 of it

1. How old will you be in five years? 33

2. Who did you spend at least two hours with today? My friends in Austin

3. How tall are you? 5ft 3'

4. What do you look forward to most in the next six weeks? A visit from a friend

5. What’s the last movie you saw? Greenberg

6. Who was the last person you called? Original Mgbeks

7. Who was the last person to call you? Akin

8. What was the last text message you received? "Cool just landed" from my friend.

9. Who was the last person to leave you a voicemail? Shetu

10. Do you prefer to call or text? Text

11. What were you doing at 12am last night? Sleeping men. Margarita knocked me out.

12. Are your parents married/separated/divorced? Separated

13. When is the last time you saw your mom? August 2009

14. What color are your eyes? Brown

15. What time did you wake up today? 6.45am

16. What are you wearing right now? Bra and pant

17. What is your favorite Christmas song? O Holy Night

18. Where is your favorite place to be? On my bed watching TV

19. Wher…

Friday Randoms

Sleep dey catch me oh! Hello my beautiful people, how una dey? Hope you had a good week. Thank you ever so much for all the kind birthday wishes from you my blogfam. I appreciate it. My day was ever so dry. My coworkers did get me cute lil' cupcakes and after work I went to get my hair did, came home, cleaned my house and did some school work.Sad innit? lol. Yea most, if not all of my personal people live out of state but I got to see some the week before in NY so it's all good. Anyhue, Thanks again guys! I guess I don't have much to say before I random so let's just get right into it.

Not that I am a movie snob or anything but I am so excited. Movie season (for me) is here!yippeee! Can't wait to finally start my weekly trips to the theater.

So like a few years ago all I prayed for were boobs, all my people know. I woke up one day this year and my bras didn't fit anymore, went to Vicki's to get sized and eureka I am a 34D! lol. I am totally ignoring the fac…

Things I'd like to do in my lifetime

Travel to all 50 states in America.

Visit every continent in the world.

Be a good wife and mom.


Own a car that doesn't have as many numbers in mileage as a young exec's salary.

Buy a dress for a ridiculous amount of money without thinking twice and wondering what damage has been done to my account.

Build a house for my mom.


Lose 20lbs.

Feature or have my own music single in naija.

Be naija's reality queen ie be the name that is synonymous with a slew of well produced reality shows in nigeria.

Experience love.

Take ballroom dance classes.

...I'm sure there is more but that's all I can think of for now. Have a great sunday.

Friday Randoms

Wizzy dey hia!Soribaba dey hia!Jargo dey hia! Taynement sef dey hia!...hehe as you can see I am in high spirits and it's not because TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!YAY!. I find it funny that Christmas fell on random friday, as did New year now my buffday.FR might be something special lol. I just got on my knees few minutes ago and thanked Baba God for another year and for letting me see Year 28 of my life. This year's birthday is worlds apart from last year's birthday. Last year I was jobless, homeless, carless, in despair and just lost. This year, quite frankly I am happy. I have a job I love, I have a car that takes me from point A to point B. Ok I am still lost sha but it's okay. One thing stays the same - this year and last year I am still so uber grateful for my friends. I love my friends so strongly and fiercely that sometimes I'm gripped with an overwhelming sense of love and gratitude for them. I thank God for them everyday and I hope I spend many more birthdays with…

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday! Happy New Month in the Best Month Ever! hehe..Hi guys, welcome again. May I just say that I have the worst sleeping habits. It is currently 3.13am and I am watching Mad Men and trying to pack for my trip to New York tomorrow (Mayne, Jon Hamm who plays Don Draper is just such a beautiful man). As for my trip I have been looking forward to it and Hurricane Earl wan pour sand in my garri sha, oh well make we dey see. Anyways, I have been thinking and apparently I started Friday Randoms on the 1st of October and it seems to be losing its luster so to mark it's first anniversary I'm thinking of retiring randoms till further notice, just to give you guys a heads up. Ok then boys and girls. Let's random.

Things I read off twitter: Many of us r slowly starting 2 realize dat perfect may not come in D package we want. Tough 2 swallow but guess wut its still perfect 4 U. *show of hands anyone?*

In school, I always pray I end up in groups with over achievers that want to…

Relationships + Technology

Post is a bit disjointed but nyeh.

Boy meets Girl. Boy and Girl have good convo. Boy and girl exchange numbers. Boy and Girl talk a lot. Boy gets to understand Girl and vice versa and a relationship is born. I tell you people I am fascinated by the whole thing. How two people from completely different walks of life and background get together find a common ground and decide to build a life together.It's amazing! Anyways like I mentioned in randoms I went to a german restaurant and there was a couple sitting by the corner, they were old, like really old, found out the guy was 90. My friend told me they came to this restaurant every wednesday and saturday and they sit at the same place. For me, true love is when I see old people into each other, holding hands et al. Anyways, there they were chatting and laughing together and the one that got me everytime the band played a song, they got up...and danced. These people were so old they were hunched, but they danced at every song, they …

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday, Guys. Can you believe it? It's the last friday of the month. Yay! that means my birthday month is upon us. Anyways as I type this I am bone tired and it took me forever to actually fall asleep, including drinking wine as a last resort. I forgot to turn off my phone and a simple text message woke me up and I can't fall back asleep:(. It's been a long week at work and I am oh so grateful that the weekend is here. I was back in Houston last weekend working and I had a good weekend (besides just being tired), my friend made it a fun weekend even though I think Houston gets razzer with each passing moment. I got to smoke some hookah and had some good German food and beer. I really feel like I have lost my blogging mojo, besides randoms I really haven't said anything in the past few weeks although I have a new habit of expressing some of my thoughts/feelings through some certain song lyrics. Anyhue, I have to apologize ahead of time for my lack of randoms this …

I Need You

I know its not your fault, but I’m a locked door
Anytime I’m a mess by someone before
And I wish that I, I could find a key
To unlock all the things that you want us to be
Let me open up and start again,
But there’s a safe around my heart
I don’t know how to let you in,
And that’s what keeps us apart
And that’s why I need time.
I said I need you,
I need you to understand

Call up the locksmith,
Tell him we need him quick
We’ve got a million keys,
None of them seem to fit
While you’re on the phone,
call up the clocksmith,
Cuz I could use some time,
Even the slightest bit
Let me open up and start again,
And break this safe around my heart
I don’t know how to let you in,
And that’s what keeps us apart
And that’s why I need time
I said I need you
I need you to understand

I’m thinking now’s the time,
Maybe its time to go, if I gave you my heart, be gentle,
I’m tired of laying low, lets give the world a show
And when you know, you know,
And that’s why I need time
I said I need you,
I need you to understand

-Travi Mc…

Friday Randoms

Happy friday guys, how una dey? It has truly been an interesting week for me, but like my friends status says something like spring always comes after the winter.It's going to be a longer weekend because I will be headed out of town for work and I foresee nothing but intense work on friday and saturday. God dey. On a serious note, I know most of us are guilty of this, including me but we need to get a hold on texting and driving sha. We all feel like we are invincible and "we got this" but you just never know. Plastic surgeon to the stars, Dr Frank Ryan died a few days ago while tweeting and driving on his blackberry. We can always reply later but if we die we can never reply, so make we try small to concentrate while driving. Speaking of tweeter, I am one step closer to joining. To join or not to join? I really don't want to be addicted sha...Let's random.

WTH is the point of open toe boots or booties? If its cold and I have boots on, why would I want my toes to…

Where I Stood

I don't know what I've done
Or if I like what I've begun
But something told me to run
And honey you know me it's all or none

There were sounds in my head
LIttle voices whispering
That I should go and this should end
Oh and I found myself listening

'Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
'Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood

See I thought love was black and white
That it was wrong or it was right
But you ain't leaving without a fight
And I think I am just as torn inside

And I won't be far from where you are if ever you should call
You meant more to me than anyone I ever loved at all
But you taught me how to trust myself and so I say to you
This is what I have to do

Missy Higgins.

Sometimes I feel I "mourn" in private. Hope everyone had a good monday!

Friday Randoms

Hi Guys! Happy friday oh! Like joke like joke, we don reach half of August. Soon we will enter the -mber months and then it's speed racing from there. So I decided that since I didn't get an onslaught of randoms, instead of doing one post of community randoms, you guys can send in a random whenever you want and I will insert it with my randoms and give credit as indicated. Ok, I have nothing much to say so let's random.Oh this weekend I have cleared my stomach and per madam Nice Anon's recommendation I will be trying out the best burger in my hood this weekend at Bueno Burger *fingers crossed*

So awon science people, please tell me the correlation between naija peeps and being lactose intolerant. I didn't even know there were a lot of them out there sef.

Janelle Monae bothers me. Is she a girl or a woman? If she has relations, do the men feel weird?

A new season of bad girls club started and I can't get over how women over 20 are proud of being "bad girls&…