Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Lagos Life

Howdy ho folks, how una dey? Christmas is just days away and I am enjoying the sun and heat of lagos. It was an ordeal getting to the East sha. This country na wire. Just to check in my luggage was wahala. People yelling at each other, my brother and I screaming at people who feel they have a right to yell at you. All before 7am. My 7.30 flight didn't leave until 3pm.Rumor has it the big wigs hired the planes for private use and left us regular folks to roast smh. Once we were told to board and after driving us there, they drove us right back because the plane wasn't ready. 2 Nollywood actors were on my flight and I took a pic, one of the midget actors (they say he is Aki) and Ejike Asiegbu. KOK was at the airport too. Also ran into JayJay Okocha in the lounge at the owerri airport. They tell u its VIP lounge with complimentary drinks and snacks, till a lady comes to ask u for ur N1000. I'm currently waiting for my food at Yellow Chillis and na wa they charge u to take ur food to go, they say its for the "takeaway pack". Had a nice time yesterday hanging with friends, had brunch at Orchid Bistro which was cool, dem get free wifi and even serve u free water with lemon lol.their brownies were good too. Dinner was at Saipans, chinese food. I'm wondering why I am yet to eat correct naija food sha, but time still dey.I haven't started partying but that's coming soon.

*lol some waiter just said "what the fuck is wrong with this guy? Custoomer service at its best*

Ok I don't like typing on my phone, so I will stop here. Be good guys!
PS happy birthday OmosiT

Friday, December 17, 2010

Safe and Sound

Hey Blogfam, just wanted to let you all know I made it safe and sound to Las Gidi. It was an eventful journey, with plenty delays. No I didn't sit by a knight in shining armour (Nice Anon,lol) but by some chic who says she is going to Naija for the first time since she was 3 but has a very present naija with fonee sprinkeld on top accent. umm ok.

This country is frustrating. I am currently sitting at the airport trying to catch a domestic flight. My flight was at 7.30 and the announcer has been saying 30mins delay. we are currently scheduled for 12.30pm. make we dey see. enjoy your weekend and I hoope to keep up with you guys!

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Random Wednesday

Hey Hey Folk. Long time no see. You see this girl right here was trying to keep it together with finals and everything else trying to stress me. So, I feel like I should address my last post, thanks for all the comments but it seems my post sounder sadder than I actually felt. I wasn't like sad or anything, it was more of frustrated with my mom saying the same thing everytime. Anyhue, for those who asked what change my friend was referring to, she felt like single folks felt like they can't talk to her anymore about relationship stuff because she wouldn't understand. Moving oooooon, I am going to be in Naija in a few days and I am uberexcited, I have been trying to get everything together that I am so scattered but for once I think I won't be over limit. Soooo, as a goodbye present I figured I would random for my good people, so you won't forget me lol. Legoooo!

(this might be long)

You should be kissed often and by someone who knows how - Margaret Mitchell

How sucky is it when you think you are just bloated and after PMS syndrome don pass, you realise say na the food wey you dey chop dey "bloat" you lol

I never feared getting older. But lately I am beginning to dread that moment when your body just doesn't cooperate with you and does what it wants.

Am I the only one who doesn't have rental insurance?

Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes... just be an illusion. ~ Javan

So like, I think Bruno Mars is one talented dude but I wish he was fully developed. Fully developed?, you ask? Yes, That's what I said. In my eye, he looks like a fetus. anyone else see it? no? just me?

I don't care who or what anyone says human beings like attention and they will seek or find it anyway possible.

Assuming everything works right, everyone has a 98% chance of getting married and hopefully getting married for life. We are talking about 60 yrs of marriage on average. Besides, the having children angle, I have always wondered why parents move for early marriage in your twenties. Which lives you 20 something odd years to enjoy yourself and about 60+ years to navigate with someone else.

Christy Essien Igbokwe was asked the secret to a lasting marriage and she said: I will say to them that it is a woman that can keep her home because no man is perfect. But the secret is this, don’t love your man o, but like him very much so that you can tolerate and accommodate his naughtiness and for the children’s sake. Don’t love in order not to be disappointed. Love deals with the heart but liking with the head. Above all, God’s divine hand is essential." - Drop your thots on this in the comment box.

Why do people need rings to signify abstinence? Speaking of, I hear Joe Jonas' ring is on sabbatical lol

I don't think I ask for much. Ok let me say I try not to ask for much from people, but I feel like even the little things I ask for I always get shafted. Oh well, such is life.

I wonder about generational family businesses and their continuity. I feel like the ones in our generation are killing of the continuity. For example, that annoying millionaire matchmaker, babe is in her 40's and still has no kid, when exactly is she going to teach her daughter to carry on the matchmaking business?

Why do most black grooms wear white suits?

Special shoutout to my Swanboy for sending me Sound of Music DVD in the mail. Thanks again. Muah!

Why is M.I not discovered in Yankee yet? Actually I am torn on this, I feel like MI is our (naija) baby and I want to keep him for ourselves, but on the other hand he deserves to be discovered. I am not really trying to overhype him but I think he can hang. I wonder if his style of music would change tho, because his lines have naija references (I live with NEPA, I gotta be the light). In more Taynement is mad news, I see MI being discovered by Jayz. its possible jo, Wale should hook his fellow brother up.

Via Ms. O, I read the stupidest article last week - http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/12/why-men-date-women-with-no-intentions-of-a-relationship/

I amazed at the timing of Aunty Flo. How does she always know the most inopportune time to show face?

A friend of mine was telling me how she cut her ex off, when he tried to be buddies and vent about his life and I got to thinking why guys do that? why do guys always try to be friends after they hurt you and not hi-bye friendship. Like the type of friendship where your first name might as well be "Dear Diary".

I was watching Married to Rock and I wondered if former brides ever feel pangs of envy when they go to weddings like man i wish i could have that moment again.

I came across this website where you can send emails to your future self and I took advantage of it and wrote one to myself 6 months into the future. Twas kinda spooky wondering where I will be in 6 months and if I would even be alive - http://futureme.org/

So dear folks, that's it! A mouthful abi? lol, well enjoy and feel free to drop feedback. I will try to drop some lines when I get to naija but just in case I am wishing you all a merry christmas to you and yours and thanking you for always being with me blogsville style.

I love this song. I have no clue what she is saying but it sounds sexy. There is an english version with Pitbull but I like this spanish version because the dude's voice is hot.

Shakira ft El Cata - Rabiosa

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Being a Single Girl

I just got off the phone with my mom. Based on my title, I am sure you know where I am headed with this. She asked me who I was talking to these days and I said noone. Then I asked her why there is all this emphasis on marriage, when in most cases chances are you have the rest of your life to be married and few years to maximize your alone time. I told her how my cousin said I should enjoy the time I have alone. My mom now launched into a it's a lie, they are happy with their spouses why shouldn't you be too?sigh. Anyways, she said her bottom line is that she feels the longer I wait the slimmer the pickings and she doesn't want that for me blah blah blah. I don't know why we have this conversation over and over and over again.

I would love to claim that I am a strong, superwoman immune to her mom's words but I got off the phone, saw a lovey dovey bb status update from one of my friends and I started thinking. My friend had expressed the other day, how she feels that ever since she got engaged there has been a change from her single friends and I told her that it's inevitable when that happens because headspace is different. My mom told me that also, she says you won't listen to me but just watch when all your friends get married. I am beginning to see the change in dynamics which is natural anyways and I wonder if I am ready for it. I am not quite sure if it's a couples world because I am single or if it really is a couple's world. I don't go out much but the few times I do, it seems like it is.

I want to make it clear that this is not a woe is me post, this is just usually how I feel after I talk to my mom. I do want to be married someday, I am definitely not anti-marriage. Granted, I have no fairytales about it but like I told my mom, I can't do anything about it and I just wish I wouldn't be treated like a leper sometimes just because I'm not married or popped out a kid. I think I don't feel so bad because I still yarn with my friends but most of them are in serious relationships which (by God's grace) will be successful, it kinda makes me sad to think that some day it won't be the way it is now. Here's where you will say "but you too you will be married abi?" but nah my brain doesn't operate that way lol. Ok I am done rambling, as usual I couldn't get out all the things I really wanted to say, so as usual make the most sense you can out of what I wrote. Have a wonderful weekend guys!!

PS for anyone wondering, I am 28. :)

Sunday, November 28, 2010

My take on MI2

Okay, by now everyone knows I am an M.I groupie so maybe I am biased ( I highly doubt). I am not a music critic or a music connoisseur. I just happen to like music and have an opinion and that is exactly what this is. Since this album dropped it has been divided into two - Those that like it and Those that don't, which is expected, regardless of what he brought out, it would have been the same thing. It seems that for those that don't the main complaint is that, it doesn't compare to Talk about it or Illegal Music. Should an album be judged as a stand alone or in comparison to previous work? I have no clue, I leave that to the experts. I have to say that I don't take my music seriously. When I say that I mean that, I will give everything a chance. I won't dismiss a song because Miley Cyrus sang it so it is automatically crap. I don't care if you write your songs, I don't care if you play instruments,I don't have to relate to the subject matter for it to be a good or bad song - shoo if that was the case that would eliminate every love song- I don't think "conscious artists" are automatically better because their songs are serious. I try to judge each song individually on its own.

My verdict on this album is that, this is a solid album.

You know how when you meet someone, you make a first impression which might be wrong. You get to know the person and then you understand them a bit more. That's how I would describe this album. At first listen, I called it commercial but listening some more, I wouldn't call it that. There really are no club bangers on this album besides Action Film and maybe No one curse. I listened to this album, a couple more times and I decided MI went playful with this album. Not playful as in not taking it seriously but not just as serious/uptight as his first album. It's the reason why a serious message was put in "My Head My Belle" or why "Beef" didn't have as angry a tone as a beef record should have. I also called the album Drake-ish, because it had elements of Drake's punch line (Man I clean up ya mouth, toothpick or When I'm living by the bay, Takwa) but I remember I said that the world is too old not to have similarities and almost every rapper raps like that now, but I revert back to his old albums and MI has always been a master at wordplay. He has clever lines on this album that bring a smile to my face.

The Pros: I like the whole vibe of the album. I like the variety of rap styles he shows us. Listen to Number One, Slow Down and No One Curse back to back and see how different each style was. I like the family vibe, how he incorporates his choc city boys on (OMG, Brymo better not fall my hand on his album, the man's voice is ridunculous). Wild Wild West he sends a shout out to his homeland, Represent sends a shout out from the choc family and Unstoppable shows us how he met each of his fellow Choc brothers. I like how he had a balance of no name guest artists and famous guest artists he introduced me to Naija's john legend aka Praise who absolutely killed Epic. I heard about Waje, who I had never heard about before on One Naira. I liked the beats on every single song, even the songs overall that I thought weren't so good. I like that we have 18 songs on an album, I hate when artists have like 9 0r 10 songs and that's it.

The Cons: Ok, so everyone don complain tire about the skits. I now skip the skits because I am listening to the album over and over but in the beginning I won't lie I chuckled at the skits. I am probably in the minority that sees what his whole idea was. You know...MI2, the movie..to be fair each skit connected to the next song and made sense, at least to me, it was reminiscent of Kanye's College Dropout. He saved naija hip hop or rather brought it to the limelight, had a great year but still went through times of naysayers etc. Now one skit that should be removed and not to be heard of again is the skit after One Naira. Geez Louise, that skit was awful and annoying all at once plus I think the person who voiced Jesse inhaled helium or something. There was one too many, I am the greatest on this album. I have no problem tooting your own horn, heck his job is not easy and everyday I see people tooting their own horns in life and in social media but I hate when things are done in excess (like Nicki Minaj's british accent)but you know if he spoke about money, girls, cars or sex in excess, i'd still complain

I feel like I am blabbing so I will just summarize my thoughts on each song:

Action Film - I think this is my favorite song on the album. Brymo's voice, the beat and the overall fun nature of the song.

Slow Down - I like. Very chill, very mellow. Very grindable song. Did anyone else hear snippets of Oleku in it?

Number One - So, I am igbo and I usually don't like igbo songs. I didn't like this song at first but now I love it. I like how he tries to rhyme everything ending with an ah!. The highlife/hiphop fusion is kinda nice, don't think I have heard that from naija before. Can I mention, I like the way the beat changes when he says "they should switch to Makossa". I do wonder if any non igbo person would like this song. I have a friend who doesn't care for songs in Yoruba because she doesn't understand what they are saying. Sha this songs makes me wants to shake my waist, igbo style!

Anybody - Like I said, I like every single beat on this album, but this song overall just failed like a deflated balloon. I can't tell you what's wrong with this song but something just didn't connect.

Nobody - I think I am the only one who didn't hear this song earlier. I will say I am not a fan(indifferent)of Tuface but there's a reason why he is still standing compared to those who started with him -*stylplus *cough*. I feel like he held his own on this song. The song itself was a sincere song.

Beef - lol. biko who can tell me MI and Kelly Handsome's beef? I thought it was with Mo' Hits. I like the chorus and how it incorporated beef(kpomo you no chop, fish e no chop, goat e no chop, e say e want beef), he gave iceberg one line and everyone heard the Kelechukwu line. I laughed at "Why you mad at my flow, you be tampon?". The chorus did sound like a Don Jazzy chorus though.Oh and there's this beat that comes in at the beginning and at the end, i like that.

Wild Wild West - not one of my favs. Actually I skip it. I am not from Jos sha.

My Head, My Belle - So, I confess I don't like naija songs that are about naija problems and how we can fix it. Not one of my faves but I like the playfulness of it.

One Naira - Men everywhere are dying for this song, apparently we females are golddiggers. Anyways, nice song, nice voice. I'm just bothered by the part where she says "Mu na gi ga nwu garri", it sounds like she is pronouncing nwu wrong. But that's just my OCD.

Craze - I like am, not in top faves but I like am.

Undisputed - Jargo had to have produced this because it sounded like one of his songs. I like am.

Epic - I still haven't met anyone that doesn't like this song. I'm fucking Epic yall!

Imperfect me - Awesome song. This could be the soundtrack of my relationship with God. Give or take a lot of lyrics lol

Represent - I especially like the intro, where they told the girl to wake up because "film don finish", then my voice crush- Brymo comes on. I like

Unstoppable - The piano intro to this song gets me everytime. I loves it. Introspective song.

God Bless You - Soooo, I heard this song earlier in the year and STILL it hasn't grown on me. It's a beautiful song don't get me wrong, it just does nothing for me.

Somebody Wants to Die - Shet! this song go hard! This was one of the earlier released singles.

No One Curse - I hear this song and my head moves in repetitive fast motions all through. I love this song.

Overall. I like the album, it was different from the first two but MI didn't lose his essence. Let me know what y'all think. Do you like or hate the album?

Have a great week ahead!

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Na so crase dey start

Hallo gang, hope everyone had a lovely thanksgiving. I am a bit bored so as usual I came here to gab. I think I am having small crase from being in my house this long and not having human interaction. I have literally been in my house all holiday watching tv and playing on the internet. Tonight, it feels like everyone is doing something and I feel like doing something too. My friend bb'd me to say he is worried about me (told him to join the line)and he doesn't want me to lose my spark. Anyways, I don't really have many if any at all friends in my city, because they all moved and the ones here are married and don't go out much. Another friend of mine says, I need to meet new people so I need your suggestions, how does one go out there and meet new people? Thanks in advance. Have a great remainder of the weekend!

PS I will be back with my take on MI2.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Little Bit of This and That

Hi guys, couldn't really think of anything to blog about so I thought I'd share bits and pieces of my mind and pieces of what's been going on.

I am exhausted. I know I say this all the time but I truly am. I truly can't wait for a real vacay.I am not getting enough sleep either which isn't helping. To show how tired I am, I got back home today to see I left my iron on all day.

Today was special, I woke up at like 5am and couldn't sleep. I have showered for 28 years but today somehow, a glob of facewash entered my eye and man did it burn! till now sef it's a bit sore. Eventually made it to work, with my red eye and I planned on being good, no instant message or internet time wasting just straight work. I get to work and realize I left my work laptop at home. Yep! I drive back home to get it, I refuse to be dejected. I sit down, get my coffee, ready to work with Kanye's new album in my ear, I press play and silence. My headphones give way. I shrug and log on to Pandora, well 5 minutes later nothing plays. I ended up with Yahoo music that stopped playing after every 3 songs. Oh well, I got work done sha. ( lol my shower curtain just fell for no reason at all after being stable for 8 months)

Yarning with my cousin today as usual at how some men flip in 5 seconds, how people in our generation are separating like water. She says how her aunty told her that as long as your husband doesn't beat you be thankful and find a man who loves you more than you do (I've never really understood this saying sha). Why do we never tire of this conversation? lol

My mother told me the other day that she prays for me more than she does my brother. That bothered me and I asked her why and shouldn't it be equal. But she said, I shouldn't get her wrong, she prays for both of us all the time but she has more prayer points for me. She says we all have different paths and some have more thrown at them, she says things seem to fall in place easier for my brother, so the extra prayers are to help me handle the way I react to situations.

I love my mother so much. Today I randomly texted her that I loved her and she promptly replied with I love you too, are you okay? stay strong. She gets me and I love it :)

My school work has suffered something terrible this semester, I am actually quite scared. I really, really want to graduate next semester.

You shouldn't do things expecting others to do the same for you. You should do things from the goodness of your heart because expectations are a motherfucker.

This time next year, where will I be? *sings sound of music song* What will my future beeeee, I wonderrrrrr? ( Who wants to get me sound of music dvd for my christmas? lol)

It sucks when something that should be fun, stops being fun.

I started my naija shopping (for mom and bro) and I am amazed at how I don't think twice to drop the amount of money I have for them but to buy myself something that I actually need, I will rethink and talk myself out of it. Issues.

I think of 6 love stories and somehow I am in them. 3 I was a catalyst, 3 I was literally there when it began. I always remember this line from a Jlo movie, I think it was wedding planner - Those who can't do teach, those who can't wed plan!

I hope everyone has a lovely thanksgiving. Remember to be thankful, no matter how little the blessing.

I love this song by lirru mr kingston and ms barbie

Letting Go


Thursday, November 18, 2010


Do you ever feel like a plastic bag
Drifting through the wind, wanting to start again?
Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin
Like a house of cards, one blow from caving in?

Do you ever feel already buried deep?
Six feet under screams but no one seems to hear a thing
Do you know that there's still a chance for you
'Cause there's a spark in you?

You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine
Just own the night like the 4th of July

'Cause baby, you're a firework
Come on, show 'em what you're worth
Make 'em go, oh
As you shoot across the sky

Baby, you're a firework
Come on, let your colors burst
Make 'em go, oh
You're gonna leave 'em falling down

You don't have to feel like a waste of space
You're original, cannot be replaced
If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow

Maybe you're reason why all the doors are closed
So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
Like a lightning bolt, your heart will blow
And when it's time, you'll know

You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine
Just own the night like the 4th of July
Boom, boom, boom
Even brighter than the moon, moon, moon
It's always been inside of you, you, you
And now it's time to let it through

- Katy Perry

Monday, November 15, 2010

How I Saved Myself $422 In One Day

Hi guys, how is everyone doing? Hope everyone had a better start in the week than I did. So back to my blog title. It was just a few days ago that the best friend and I were talking about how I don't trust automated payment options because I just don't trust this country. See, I have always said this country is just like naija in terms of 419 except here it's legalized 419 in a comfortable environment. I am cheap or maybe I no get money like that so I always scour through my bills because many a time I have found mysterious fees that I don't know about and when I call they don't know where its from either.

Anyways today, I went to pay my tmobile bill that last I checked was $98. Well this time I went back and saw a whopping $200+ waiting for me. I started reading through the bill and saw a mysterious charge aka MC. I saw handset purchase. I stared at the phone I have had for like 2 years and wondered what was going on. I dial 611. After answering their stupid questions because they are always sure that the fault is yours, we find out that the same stupid tmobile store that "mistakenly" wiped out all the contacts on my sim card, charged me $50 twice for a loaner phone. Granted they gave me a phone which I had for a day and returned, they only charge you if you don;t return it in 2 weeks. The guy said the lady in the shop was "shocked" that I was charged twice. sigh that was $100

I am looking through my credit card that I specifically use only for work charges and I see a $116 charge for a hotel that I did not stay in. Infact, the hotel I actually stayed in was charged and had the same date. I call the hotel, they say they have no clue and cannot trace it. I call my credit card and they say they can't trace it but they can give me a credit while they sort it out and see where it came from. sigh that was $116

Looking further, I see another $206 charge for a different hotel I stayed in. This was not in my receipt that I got. I called the hotel like 10 times and kept getting voicemail. I finally get someone and they say I was charged for a coworker who never gave a credit card and he never came to the desk to check out *blank stare* I was there when he checked out!!. I called my coworker, he said he got a receipt and was charged so what are they talking about? He sha called and got it straightened out. sigh that was $206.

So yea sha today all together I saved myself $422. I know myself, if I had automated payment, I wouldn't take my time to go through the bill just as long as my payment was made. Oh yea, like a month and some ago I went to the dentist and got a routine clean. I am walking out saying bye and the receptionist says I have to pay $58. I say err, isn't that covered with insurance. She says no, based on past blah blah that's what I have to pay. I pay it. Some time passes and my insurance sends me a statement, of course I scour through and see that my portion was just $2. These fools never said a word to me. I called and they were saying it takes 30 days which is bs because I get a statement from my insurance when they have paid them. This was september oh, I didn't get my refund check till last week thursday.

I couldn't make all this up if I tried lol but na wa sha, this isn't helping my trust issues at all. I know I will be a bill nitpicker as long as I am here. As long as I am in this country, na me and them!

Have a wonderful week.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

10 things you should know by now

Culled from howtogetagrip.com

1. What’s important today won’t matter tomorrow
Yeah, so you got a problem. Sleep on it, sunshine. Put it off. Most problems can be safely ignored. You’ll be amazed how often they sort themselves out.And the gravity of any given problem is inversely proportional to the hour of the day. At three in the morning, you’ve got an insurmountable issue. After four whisky and cokes at nine in the evening, you haven’t even got an inkling of a problem.

2. Everybody else is furiously improvising, so you can too
Show me an expert and I’ll show you a charlatan. FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU MAKE IT, amigo. 21 year old lifestyle design guru? Hell yeah! Fat, unemployed life-coach? Why not? Homeopathy professional? Whatever, bring it on!

3. Nobody thinks about you as much as you think about you
Really. They don’t. For example, I’m not thinking about you now. But I bet you are.

4. It’s OK to piss people off
But if you’re pissing everybody off, all the time, it’s time to stop being a dick.

5. Aspiration is for suckers

6. Nobody tells all the truth, all the time
So lower your expectations of people. When put in a spot, people fib. We men lie about our alcohol consumption all the time.When we’re young and say we had six beers, we probably only had three. Nowadays, if we say we only had three beers, you can be sure it was closer to six.It doesn’t mean we don’t love you.

7. Life doesn’t get better – only your perception of life improves

There was a little man with a lame left leg. He lived on the outskirts of town in a tumble-down house. He had a hole in his roof, and water would come in day and night. His lame left leg meant he couldn’t go out to work, so he survived on the charity of others, who would give him scraps of food. Sometimes he would go for two days and nights with nothing to eat. One day, the town council decided to fix his roof. The little man with the lame left leg became the happiest person you have ever seen. He was so grateful to be dry that he would smile and sing for the passersby all day long.


There was a healthy, beautiful woman who lived in a huge house with six servants and manicured lawns. But alas, she was permanently angry, because Jeannine, that bitch, had told her that her handbag was so last season.

8. Your family comes first, but not to the detriment of everything else
You want to go out with the girls? Tell your husband to make his own dinner. And gents, you don’t need permission for that once-a-year trip to Vegas, you just need to communicate it properly.

9. You’re wrong as often as you’re right

So don’t dwell on either.

10. Men should never wear wigs

I thought these were hilarious. Have a lovely week.

Friday, November 5, 2010

Friday Randoms

Hey Hey peoples! I know, I know 2 weeks in a row. I happened to just have random thoughts piled up that's why. This week was a hella busy week for me, 3 cities in one week. I'm so dazed and ready for the weekend, even though I will be headed out of town tomorrow for a wedding. I had a fright this week when my phone gave out and Tmobile said there was nothing they could do, thank God for cellular repair shops, they temporarily fixed it and its still not fully fixed but I go manage till the 17th. I am currently chilling in my room with Original Mgbeks watching Real Housewives of Atlanta and Beverly Hills (trynna get the girl some reality tv shows in her life lol). Anyways, hope everyone has been cool. Can you believe its November??!! I am like shocked and happy at the same time because it means December is round the corner, yay!. Ok, not much to say let's random.

I want to give a special shout out to Shade Nonconformist for her comments on my last random post. I love reading lengthy, detailed comments and the babe just wrote a thesis. Thank you so much for it and for taking the time. I enjoyed reading! and lol@ your moist muffin.

Most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty - Tim Ferris

I will admit that there is a bias against skinny people when their weight complaint is about trying to gain weight. Most people pish posh them and say that's not a problem (raises hand). It's kinda unfair to them sha, they have a right to complain if they want to. That being said, I will still say it's not a problem :p

I was watching the HBO movie Temple Grandin about an autistic woman back in the day. There was a scene where her mom took her to the doctor and just found out she was autistic and she was in shock. She kept asking if there was nothing that could be done and the doctor took it like she didn't understand and told her "maybe she'd like to bring her husband in". In that moment I realized we have come a long way as women.

It's funny how it's been almost a year since I left Facebook and people don't realize. They think I just defriended them.

You know, sometimes some drivers are so aggressive. Sometimes when a car overtakes me I'm like "what are you feeling like, your car is not even in production anymore" (this happened when a pontiac overtook me). It's kinda in the same vein as how some people in naija shouldn't have drivers in some certain kinds of cars :p

Wendy Williams is scary looking. Her face and body shape.Spooky.

SOmetimes some ads, you know the song or the music but you realize you have no idea what the ad is for.

I don't know how I feel about TI. I am all for making mistakes and forgiveness but I hate to see people abuse it. I like the man and all but it's like come on, how many chances do you want?

Would anyone kiss Precious? Well, I mean Gabourey Sidibe. Like if there is a script that calls for kissing her, would the male actor bail? (I'm sorry but it was a random thought :( )

I need a wedding budget. Another of my friends has one in March and I already have a wedding in March.

The best relationship is one in which both partners love each other the way they both want to be loved.

Am I the only one who didn't know what NaNoWriMo was? I had to google.

What is this kik messenger?? Like don't we have enough technology overload already? My friend suggested it to me and I almost vexed sef.

Kids with cancer has to be one of the saddest things ever. I watched a St Jude's fundraising video where they chronicled some kids and it sucked to see the ones that passed away.

One of the things I have learned in life is that when tough situations arise, the most important thing is how you react to the situation. Sometimes the situation might not even be that dire, but when we huff and puff and make such an ado about nothing it brings out the ugly side of us.

Your destination is ultimately determined by your direction and not merely your intentions" - When a journey begins, you know your destination but if you take the wrong turns, you may end up somewhere else. Therefore, you must guard and remain conscious of your intentions and dreams, the path and all surrounding influences for YOU are the driver in your life. (got this from a friend)

PRAYER REQUEST: For all young kids suffering from cancer. For strength for them and their parents emotionally and financially AMEN

Have a lovely weekend guys. Feel free to leave as many comments as you'd like! lol

Today's song I absolutely love.enjoy

Bruno Mars - Grenade

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Friday Randoms

Hi Guys, yea it is not a fluke, it is indeed friday randoms up. Well, technically it is thursday but I have to be up tomorrow at an ungodly hour to travel for work so I figured I will put this up. Today was not a good day, I was already ho hum and this co worker that seems to be my lesson to learn just seriously got to me all day, right to the very end. I just came home, shut my phone off and logged off instant messenger. My brother says there are bigger idiots in the world and I should find a way to deal with him and I will. I decided to watch Oprah's episode on the sound of music reunion and all the songs made me so nostalgic but I feel better and I will soon go to bed and by God's grace tomorrow will be a better day. I sha had a few randoms and figured who better to share with than my blogs people. Hope you all had a better week and I hope I haven't lost my touch but here goes.

I have this friend who sometimes complains about her weight to me as per she is gaining weight but she is a skinny babe and like I tell her complaining about now being a size 6 is not a problem( You know who you is! lol). Women generally complain about their weight sha so that's normal, but it had me thinking if women ever complain to those smaller than them or just those bigger than them. What say ye?

Why do guys use that "I was busy" line? Is that what they teach them in asshole school? The line irks me even more because it sounds like the girl has no life and she herself doesn't have anything to do. No fool, you make time for what you want, no matter how busy you are.

If people were honest (to themselves and each other) relationships would be much easier.

So my girl told me a story the other day: She got home after work and school, to meet her boyfriend watching football. She enters the kitchen to cook and is suddenly filled with annoyance and irritation. Her boo is still in high spirits even yelling TOuchdown! He must have noticed and tells her not to bother herself, that he will order since she is tired. SHe tells me this and I am wondering what the problem is? SHe says you are missing the point, the point is: This is what my life will be like, I am annoyed and irritated and his mood is all content. If we get married and add kids to the mix, I have to come home and cater to a man and children and I am annoyed that this is it. On the flip side, he is probably thinking that this is the life, I can get used to this being catered to, watching football, life is good. I probably didn't narrate it well but peoples I cracked up really hard.

Lately, I have been seeing like a HUGE flock of black birds just flying together and staying together and I have to say it freaks me out.

So cell phone usage and driving is against the law. Does that apply to smoking and driving too?

Why can't we just spell olodo like it is? I'm probably just old but I don't get the "olowdow" spelling, it irks the hell outta me.

Lately people have been guessing that I am like 21 or 22. Emm, I guess I am flattered.

I think I should make a resolution to explore recipes after I graduate from school. Lucid I still have the ones you sent me handy, just haven't had time to use.

Let me express some contributions to my "depression". I went to get sized for a bridesmaids dress, they measure your bust, waist and hips to get your size. Per my bust, I am a size 6.Per my waist, I am a size 10. Per my hips, I am a size 16. Yes, 1 and 6. She now put ? by my size because she couldn't figure it out. Doesn't that sound freakish? I wasn't happy at all sha.

My friend the other day said that she was "anti fine girls" lol, as per the chics that are so gorgeous and all. Me I thought about it and said I am "anti people in love". Lol, that's hilarious seeing as 3/4, if not more of my friends are in love. I'm just a hater tho and its all jokes o, before i get crucified.

I don't own an ipod like the rest of the world, so when I want to say something I get stuck because I am like do I say "My zune is on point" or "My mp3 player" or do i just say "my ipod" and hope noone notices and I am just saying it to make the story go easier. I love my zune sha.

To me, moist is just a dirty word. So when I hear oh that cake is so moist, it takes me a moment to adjust.

I need to learn how to say fine when asked how i am.

If anyone caught that Tyler Perry interview on Oprah, it was deep. There were so many relateable things and lessons that he said.

I always wonder about the accents of people like Kelsey Grammar or Christopher Plummer who sound british but are not.

Oh, watching the SOund of Music reunion, is it weird that my first thought was, "wow, 45 years later and everyone of them is still alive?"

PRAYER REQUEST: For everyone looking for that peace in their heart and looking for guidance and happiness while just being the best person that they can, that God provides the guidance and wisdom that is needed. AMEN

PS So yes indeed, I went ahead and went down a 15 story building as mentioned. I am not going to lie and say I was brave. I climbed the ledge with half my feet out and grabbed the hand of the cop (we had the SWAT team below and above), he was cute sha then they told me to lean back in a 45 degree angle. I heard the cars whizzing by on the freeway and I almost cried, I told him I couldn't then all of a sudden i just went down and it was fine till half way through when I couldn't feel my legs on the wall anymore, at this point I was screaming "Save me! Help me!" but emm noone could hear me, so i flailed down and long and short, I got down to the bottom into the arms of 2 very muscled SWAT team members. I volunteered to be the first to go down and I am proud I did it, it's part of facing my fears becos I am terrified of heights. I shook for a good 20 mins after. I don't think I will ever do it again.

So below is a video to give you an idea. It is not me in the video, but that is basically what I did.I haven't gotten my pics or video yet, just wanted you guys to get a taste. Have a blessed weekend and if you can please keep me in your prayers.


Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Happy Birthday

Just popped in to wish my little baby, Blogger Neefemi, a wonderful wonderful birthday. Hope you have a wonderful day. Wishing you a lifetime full of music, since music is your opium lol. Stay blessed and enjoy your day! HAPPY BIRTHDAY! MUAH!

Oh, its also Myne's birthday, so happy birthday to the most efficient commenter ever. Hope you and the hubby do something fun.HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Thank You

Hello guys, it's sunday and a beautiful sunny day here in Texas, yay! If you know me, you will know I hate the cold more than anything. So I am really enjoying this extended summer so to speak. I told my coworker that won't it be awesome if Winter just skipped Texas this time, she told me to snap out of it, it's coming :(.

Anyways, based on my last post I really felt the need to come on here and say Thank You so much to everyone who commented and left encouraging words for me. At first, I was going to apologize for having a "woe is me" moment but I thought about it and I don't think I should have to make apologies for how I feel/felt at the time. Like my blog profile says: I think, I feel, I write :).

I digressed lol

I especially want to thank my friends who constantly checked up on me and laid me some serious advice and perspective. Even though you guys think you were preaching and I wasn't listening, I was. I was also blown away by how people perceive you even when you don't see yourself that way, thank you guys for giving me perspective and having friends like you alone should be enough to brighten my day when I am feeling down. You guys know yourself and if you are not sure you can ask lol.

Here's a takeaway I received today:

The deepest secret is that life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation. You are not discovering yourself but creating yourself anew, daily. Seek, therefore, not to find out who you are, seek to determine who you want to be.

(What you guys think?You agree or not?)

PS - I will be doing this, via work this week for the Special Olympics. I think I have lost my damn mind. Chances are I will probably back out but I hope I go ahead with it because I think it'll be an experience. ( Why am I thinking of Lucid Lillith again?lol)

Have a blessed weekend people.


Sunday, October 17, 2010


I couldn't think of a title. I don't even know what to blog about but I just felt the need to blog. This week wasn't the best of weeks for me, I just felt like there was a whole lot going on. I had many moments of just wanting to scream and being thrown on some island just so I can F5 myself. By the way, wouldn't it be awesome if we could just hit a button and just refresh our lives? Ok maybe not, because I know my own button will be broken by now.

My name is taynement and I am a comparer. It's not like I don't know any better because I do and I will be the first to give advice to people not to compare, but I have a chronic disease of constantly comparing myself to others and what makes it worse is I always see myself on the worse side of it all. I don't know why I always feel the other person is smarter, richer, skinnier (this one is true sha lol), prettier, *insert whatever else*. Like, I am smarter than this right? (or maybe not). I know all that glitters isn't gold and I know it is not a healthy thing to do but I can't help myself even when I see it sinks me deeper into a hole. My last bout of comparison, has me in a funk because I got to see and hear about two people who found their talent and started their own business and seem to be doing well and I am just like what do I have to offer? Why can't I start my own business? I can't even think of what I could do. It's not even like I am earning the big bucks my mates are earning. I am about to get my MBA and I am still waiting and wondering to see what that even means, having an MBA. And then this feeling of not being good enough, is making me eat away myself into oblivion. Blah! I really should stop. Anyways, hopefully I am just PMSing and I am talking out my ass. Just got done with two exams this week, one step closer to graduation. Hope you guys have a wonderful week ahead. Cheers.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Shut up!

Yea sometimes that's what I want to scream to everyone. Sometimes you just don't want to hear the solicited and unsolicited advise. Everyone thinks or fakes that they have it all figured out even when it's not the case and then try to project it on you, which is not good for an overthinker like myself. I just want to be carefree and let be, tune everyone out and listen very well so I can hear what I am saying or what I feel. I might not even be making sense. I just had a moment and for a fleeting second wished everyone would shutup.

Have a wonderful weekend blogfam!

Monday, October 4, 2010

A Simple Prayer

I was already getting ready for bed but a friend just said a prayer for me that really resonated and touched me so I had to share. Sometimes we forget that a prayer doesn't have to be long and tedious and just the right simple words are sufficient to convey your heart's desires:

I pray that you have peace of mind, serenity and rest.
Realizing that as a child of God you are cared for and provided for.
That you find the ability to let your soul just be, and know that only wonderful things and abundance of love, life, prosperity and happiness surrounds u.
There is indeed nothing to stress over, all is taken care of..

So it might not be a big deal to you guys but it is to me. I pray this also for everyone out there. Thank you again, you know who you are :)

Have a good night people.

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday! Happy New Month! Happy Independence Day! Happy Fourth Quarter!Happy Anniversary to Friday Randoms! As you can see, it's a whole bunch of happy wishes. Man, wasn't I just saying it was September the other day? and just like that it's over.We in the last 3 months of the year yo! Anyways, it has been a year since without rhyme or reason I decided to have a random friday and it lasted a whole year mostly thanks to you ever so kind people who faithfully read every friday and left encouraging comments. Like I have been hinting, today will also mark the end of Friday Randoms as a regular feature on my blog. I truly want to thank you all oh so much for reading and hope you still stop by my blog. I hope to still have friday randoms when i have some but once again, thank you and let's random:

Why are there no female singer with hot albums in naija? When I think of the females, I think of Asa but she is not even based in naija and the others na just singles every now and then. hmmm.

What is it with people and their proclamation of haters? How do you identify then and most importantly how does one acquire them?

I hate braggers.

Seriously, I am flabbergasted by this season's Bad Girls Club. I know I have mentioned them before but that's how shocked I am.

I am thinking that next year I might forgo my kinda usual christmas trips to naija and enjoy my vacation time. I should use it to visit other parts of the world.

It's amazing how you can plan your life all you want and life just has a way of having its own plans.That being said how do you differentiate from being hardworking and accepting life just as is.

Kelly Osbourne woke up one day and became a hottie. Who knew?

There are so many ways to seek attention besides the most obvious ways.

I have never bought perfume for myself. The perfume I am currently using was bought for me as a gift in 2007.It would be understandable if I hated perfume but I actually like them.

Things I got in my email: Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone". You need a lot more! -Dov Heller, M.A.

Not that I know much but I do believe love is not enough alone.

To complement the above: http://goldinwords.com/2010/09/28/a-groom%E2%80%99s-biggest-mistake-will-you-commit-it-too/

Things I read in blogsville : It’s sad that we spend decades learning and preparing for a career we’ll retire from by 60, and invest little time in preparing for a commitment meant to last a life-time.

So I have never used those flushable toilet seat thingies, I usually just squat over lol. Are those things supposed to be flushable?

Lol, it's not a good look at work when everytime someone passes by they see you typing away on your phone.

It's so good to have a beautiful spirit. A beautiful spirit where everyone could be so mean and so angry but this person just stands out and takes it without seeming like a mumu. ( this was inspired by michael c. from project runway)

omg i am losing it. I just saw the preview for jackass 3d and i was laughing. eek!

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those that have endured a miscarriage and are scared to try again. For the courage to heal their pain and try again with success. AMEN.

Ok folks, that is all I have for you :). Didn't go out in a bang like I would have liked but it's something. Have a wonderful weekend and catch ya around!

Today's song is a throwback. Wonder why she hasn't released anything recently.

Avril Lavigne - Happy Ending


Monday, September 27, 2010

I used to love him

Hi guys, hope you had a wonderful weekend. We thank God for bringing us through the weekend to enjoy another week. Sometimes it's nice when a song just captivates what you are thinking, which is why every now and then i post lyrics. I love lyrics. I love googling lyrics. I love reading lyrics, reveling in them and then silently bowing to the people who wrote the lyrics. Anyways this was the inspiration for my post on neefemi's blog and of course I forgot the song, so i thought i'd share. before I do, i truly admire and thank you guys that bare your souls with us on blogsville, its not an easy something. I thought I would be brave enough to share something with you guys and even had it all written out in my head but yea i have chickened out, so...umm yeah that's that.

As I look at what I've done
The type of life that I've lived
How many things I pray the father will forgive
One situation involved a young man
He was the ocean and I was the sand
He stole my heart like a thief in the night
Dulled my senses blurred my sight

I used to love him but now I don't
I used to love him but now I don't

I chose a road of passion and pain
Sacrificed too much and waited in vain
Gave up my power ceased being queen
Addicted to love like the drug of a fiend

Torn and confused wasted and used
Reached the crossroad which path would I choose
Stuck and frustrated I waited, debated
For something to happen that just wasn't fated
Thought what I wanted was something I needed
When momma said no I just should have heeded
Misled I bled till the poison was gone
And out of the darkness arrived the sweet dawn

Father you saved me and showed me that life
Was much more than being some foolish man's wife
Showed me that love was respect and devotion
Greater than planets deeper than any oceans
My soul was weary but now it's replenished
Content because that part of my life is finished

I see him sometimes and the look in his eye
Is one of a man who's lost treasures untold
But my heart is gold I took back my soul
And totally let my creator control
The life which was his to begin with

I used to love him but now I don't

Friday, September 24, 2010

Friday Randoms

Hello people. Another week don end oh. Another week that brings us closer to December. Yippee!! I had an okay week and I won't lie I did not give 100% at work this week, that will be corrected next week I promise. I've been feeling so lethargic lately and I know it's because I haven't worked out in a while. I am actually looking for boxing classes in my area. I want to take serious boxing and kickboxing classes and slowly incorporate martial arts. The funny part is that I eat better when I work out and when I don't it's a free for all. Oh, like I said next week marks the anniversary of Friday randoms and it will be the last for a little while, please as usual if you'd like to be a part of it feel free to send your randoms to taynement@gmail.com and I will put it up in addition to the randoms I have. Let's random!

My friend told me this week that I should try using my heart instead of my head when it comes to guys since my head hasn't gotten me anywhere.lol see my life.

Coincidentally, I ran across this blogpost, please take the time out to read it if you can - http://etoileoye.blogspot.com/2010/09/nothing-ventured-nothing-gained.html

After all said and done, I think I might be lactose intolerant. Ok maybe not really because I eat yogurt or icecream and I am fine but I had a bowl of cereal the other day and my stomach was just rumbling the whole day.

Speaking of stomachs, there is nothing worse than you farting in your own space eg an elevator or your office and someone suddenly just walking in.

Why is it so much easier to give advise than follow it?

How do you know the difference between your instinct and your fears?

I wish I was on the Bravo show "Thintervention". Jackie gives those people some cool workout moves. I also learned that you need to burn 3500 calories a week to lose 1lb. Jesu!

In my head, there's a number of bb contacts that I'd ideally like to have, so when I get a new invite from someone I can't decline eg family member, I am like uugh. I don't hesitate to decline others otherwise sha.

I am black, it's okay when I say the neighborhood is ghetto or hood. When I hear other races say it, I am a tad bit offended.

Of all the asses in the world, why does the saying go I don't give a rat's ass. Why is it a rat's ass that was chosen?

Seal said a good relationship is about love and respect but also has a lot to do with timing #truth!

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those looking for their path or calling in life. For the wisdom of God to direct them the right way and the patience to wait for the direction AMEN.

Alright guys, yep that's all I have for you this week. Tomorrow I head to Kentucky and I promise next month I will sit my behind down because I don tire to dey travel every weekend. Have a fabulous weekend and stay blessed.

PS - Lack of comments on my guest feature hurt my feelings..waaah. So check it out i you can http://intern-unpaid.blogspot.com/2010/09/mm-case-of-ex-by-miss-taynement.html

This week's song is an interlude on Trey Songz mixtape and is really really short but I really like the melody of the song.

Trey Songz - Ready to make luv

Sunday, September 19, 2010

The List - All 100 of it

1. How old will you be in five years? 33

2. Who did you spend at least two hours with today? My friends in Austin

3. How tall are you? 5ft 3'

4. What do you look forward to most in the next six weeks? A visit from a friend

5. What’s the last movie you saw? Greenberg

6. Who was the last person you called? Original Mgbeks

7. Who was the last person to call you? Akin

8. What was the last text message you received? "Cool just landed" from my friend.

9. Who was the last person to leave you a voicemail? Shetu

10. Do you prefer to call or text? Text

11. What were you doing at 12am last night? Sleeping men. Margarita knocked me out.

12. Are your parents married/separated/divorced? Separated

13. When is the last time you saw your mom? August 2009

14. What color are your eyes? Brown

15. What time did you wake up today? 6.45am

16. What are you wearing right now? Bra and pant

17. What is your favorite Christmas song? O Holy Night

18. Where is your favorite place to be? On my bed watching TV

19. Where is your least favorite place to be? Doctor's office

20. Where would you go if you could go anywhere? A lot of places. anywhere with a beach.

21. Where do you think you’ll be in 10 years? Either in the U.S or Nigeria

22. Do you tan or burn? Tan actually

23. What did you fear was going to get you at night as a child? Willie Willie

24. What was the last thing that really made you laugh? A conversation with my friend, W.

25. How many TVs do you have in the house? 2

26. How big is your bed? Queen size

27. Do you have a laptop or desktop computer? Both

28. Do you sleep with or without clothes on? Without

29. What color are your sheets? Tan and Blue

30. How many pillows do you sleep with? One

31. What is your favorite season? Summer without a doubt.

32. What do you like about fall? Not a damn thing.(fashionistas go dey scream fall fashion)

34. What do you like about the summer? The heat! The breezy clothes! Less Layering!

35. What do you like about spring? It tells me that summer is coming

36. How many US states have you lived in? One :(

37. How many US cities/towns have you lived in? 4

38. Do you prefer shoes, socks, or bare feet? Bare feet

39. Are you a social person? yep

40. What was the last thing you ate? Cereal

41. What is your favorite restaurant? I no get oh

42. What is your favorite ice cream? Any, as long as its not chocolate or mint

43. What is your favorite dessert? cake n icecream

44. What is your favorite kind of soup? ofe onugbu

45. What kind of jelly do you like on your PB and J sandwich? grape

46. Do you like Chinese food? Yelz, gotta be in the mood for it

47. Do you like coffee? All day, erryday babee

48. How many glasses of water, a day, do you drink on average? one cup or bottle or none. quite sad.

49. What do you drink in the morning? Medium roast coffee

50. What non-banking related card in your wallet is the most valuable to you? My driver's license

51. Do you sleep on a certain side of the bed? Yep the left

52. Do you know how to play poker? Nope

53. Do you like to cuddle? Yes indeed

54. Have you ever been to Canada? Nope :(

55. Do you have an addictive personality? Yes

56. Do you eat out or at home more often? home

57. What do you miss about highschool, if anything? Nothing

58. Do you know anyone with the same birthday as you? Yep 4

59. Do you want kids? More than anything

60. Do you speak any other languages? than english?yep

61. Have you ever gotten stitches? No

62. Have you ever ridden in an ambulance? No

63. Do you prefer an ocean or a pool? pool

64. Do you prefer a window seat or an aisle seat? Aisle seat.

65. Do you know how to drive stick? No.

66. What is your favorite thing to spend money on? My hair

67. Do you wear any jewelry 24/7? The studs on my second earhole

68. What is your favorite TV show? hmmm Glee?Dexter? I guess i don't have one anymore.

69. Can you roll your tongue? Yep!

70. Who is the funniest person you know? most of my friends are pretty funny unintentionally
71. Do you sleep with stuffed animals? That would be a negative

72. What is the main ring tone on your phone? Don’t know….My phone has been on vibrate for a while.

73. Do you still have clothes from when you were little? Nope

74. What red object is closest to you right now? I see my red bra peeking out my drawer. is that an object?

75. Do you turn off the water while you brush your teeth? Yes, I actually do.

76. Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed? Open

77. Would you rather be attacked by a big bear or a swarm of bees? I reject in Jesus' name.

78. Do you flirt a lot? In the company of men, it does tend to come out.

79. What do you dip a chicken nugget in? Bbq sauce

80. What is your favorite food? rice&stew with plantain.

81. Can you change the oil on a car? Nope

82. Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket? Ya

83. Have you ever run out of gas? Nope

84. What is your usual bedtime? Anytime after midnight

85. What was the last book you read? Eat, Pray, Love

86. Do you read the newspaper? It's 2010, No.

87. Do you have any magazine subscriptions? Yes. Entertainment Weekly.

89. Do you watch soap operas? Not anymore. I weaned myself of them.

90. Do you dance in the car? Yes

91. What radio station did you last listen to? 106.1

92. Who is in the picture frame closest to you? I have none.

93. What was the last note you scribbled on a piece of paper? A note to the bestie.

94. What is your favorite candle scent? I don't do candles

95. What is your favorite board game? dunno

96. How do you groom your nails? Cut 'em when I think its too long and get a manicure as needed.

97. When was the last time you attended church? 3 weeks ago

98. Who was your favorite teacher in high school? Don't remember her name but my english III and history teacher. In naija it was Mr Isibor.

99. What is the longest you have ever camped out in a tent? I'm nigerian we don't camp out. Unless ya name is Lucid Lillith :p

100. Who was the last person to do something extra special for you? *drawing blanks*

So I don't expect anyone to read through this all. I had time and felt like filling this out so I did. Have a wonderful weekend guys!

Friday, September 17, 2010

Friday Randoms

Sleep dey catch me oh! Hello my beautiful people, how una dey? Hope you had a good week. Thank you ever so much for all the kind birthday wishes from you my blogfam. I appreciate it. My day was ever so dry. My coworkers did get me cute lil' cupcakes and after work I went to get my hair did, came home, cleaned my house and did some school work.Sad innit? lol. Yea most, if not all of my personal people live out of state but I got to see some the week before in NY so it's all good. Anyhue, Thanks again guys! I guess I don't have much to say before I random so let's just get right into it.

Not that I am a movie snob or anything but I am so excited. Movie season (for me) is here!yippeee! Can't wait to finally start my weekly trips to the theater.

So like a few years ago all I prayed for were boobs, all my people know. I woke up one day this year and my bras didn't fit anymore, went to Vicki's to get sized and eureka I am a 34D! lol. I am totally ignoring the fact it's more weight gain than anything but whatever. In NY last week, this lady said "I wish I had your boobs" and i said, "they are new!". She totally thought I meant I bought them but I didn't correct her :D

Things I heard in a movie: Marriage is hard. Two people year after year. Sometimes you stop seeing the other person.

Things i heard on tv: I don't work. I tried working and found out it was inconducive to my life. ---- na beans?

A friend of mine thinks that it is imperative that every woman experience heartbreak in their 20's. yay or nay?

I was thinking of my mom and I's relationship the other day. It's great and I couldn't ask for more and it had me thinking about people who have their parents here in the states and I am a little envious of them, I think it makes life easier.

....And then she exhaled :D

You know, sometimes you really want to set people straight that leave useless comments on a blog post but I don't think most people come back to read it so I have to just let it go.

When men disrespect a relationship, I just wonder why. Sometimes men don't realize that it is very possible to be single. For some women, they choose to share themselves with you, they make a choice to be vulnerable and allow you into their lives. Yes when you are single you want a relationship but truth be told it is WAAY easier to be single than in a relationship.

I truly hate sorting my laundry

Call me a prude but how do these reality folks feel comfortable enough to have sex on camera and have everyone watch?

I have always wanted to take a swimming class at my gym but I see it's usually only old people in those classes.

Sigh, it's not easy being an adult. Decisions just become harder and harder.

I have asked before and I ask again, how on earth do people pay for weddings??

Things I read on twitter: Stop looking and he will find you - Umm is that really true?

Job you love with not enough money vs job you don't like that will pay you loads?

So the trial for the case where this family was held hostage and the wife and daughters were killed. It was really horrible but my mind strayed when I read the part where he was led to the bank where he withdrew $15k. Chei, having 15k sitting in my checking account? sigh...

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those who somehow self sabotage and get in the way of themselves, for God to remove this barrier and help them fulfill their potential AMEN.

Have a lovely weekend guys, I was supposed to be in the Windy City but it didn't work out so I will probably be in Austin. Be safe! muah!

Today's song is a song I absolutely love back when I thought The Dream was a genius. The scales have fallen from my eyes now lol

The Dream - Right Side of my Brain

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Things I'd like to do in my lifetime

Travel to all 50 states in America.

Visit every continent in the world.

Be a good wife and mom.


Own a car that doesn't have as many numbers in mileage as a young exec's salary.

Buy a dress for a ridiculous amount of money without thinking twice and wondering what damage has been done to my account.

Build a house for my mom.


Lose 20lbs.

Feature or have my own music single in naija.

Be naija's reality queen ie be the name that is synonymous with a slew of well produced reality shows in nigeria.

Experience love.

Take ballroom dance classes.

...I'm sure there is more but that's all I can think of for now. Have a great sunday.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Friday Randoms

Wizzy dey hia!Soribaba dey hia!Jargo dey hia! Taynement sef dey hia!...hehe as you can see I am in high spirits and it's not because TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!YAY!. I find it funny that Christmas fell on random friday, as did New year now my buffday.FR might be something special lol. I just got on my knees few minutes ago and thanked Baba God for another year and for letting me see Year 28 of my life. This year's birthday is worlds apart from last year's birthday. Last year I was jobless, homeless, carless, in despair and just lost. This year, quite frankly I am happy. I have a job I love, I have a car that takes me from point A to point B. Ok I am still lost sha but it's okay. One thing stays the same - this year and last year I am still so uber grateful for my friends. I love my friends so strongly and fiercely that sometimes I'm gripped with an overwhelming sense of love and gratitude for them. I thank God for them everyday and I hope I spend many more birthdays with them. I dunno, I had some randoms but it's my day I think I'll make it unconventional today and just blab.

So last week I mentioned my plans about retiring randoms and I got a few threats and I thought I'd share the funniest one with you: Hey Sweetie, if you ever retire randoms I will hunt you with bloodhounds, hack you to finite pieces and feed you to piranhas. Your good and polite friend, XYZ. *no they didn't stop there* Retire randoms, you must have flipped your lid....LOL that cracked me up sha. my decision still stands though. maybe i'll take a brief hiatus or make it bi weekly. we go see.

So last weekend I was in New York as a birthday gift to myself. I love that city, I always have. A friend and I had plans to move there and be roomates. She got a job and did it. I never did. I had fun though. I have nothing else to talk about maybe I should just random lol

*ok i just took the longest break to devour a large mango at 12.30am and take a phone call from my mother and the best friend. I am watching project runway right now and there are a bunch of narcissists this season. Casanova is hilarious.*

When people say I will keep you in prayers, do they really mean it? For me, I try not to say it if I won't and if I do say it, I make sure I say the prayer.

Things I heard: You can love a frog if it says what you want to hear.

Seriously, Jayz needs to stop with his closeups on magazine covers, na wetin? I mean the man is not ugly but at the same time his face was not built for close up.

TI's favorite quality in a woman is : Just having that instinct on when to take charge and when to fall back.

So like, why can't white people dance? Why can't they just follow the beat and move? Some guy I met said I don't understand that, that beat that we hear to dance that they can't hear it at all.

"It's sad when someone you know, becomes someone you knew. When you can walk right past someone like they were a never big part of your life. How you used to be able to talk to them forever, but now you can barely even look at them." - Henry Rollins

Live and let go..the best advice that most people don't follow. maybe we just like to worry.

RIP to LFO lead singer, Rich Cronin who died of Leukemia at age 35. sigh, cancer is a bitch.

This week's answer of "How did you know he/she was the one", I asked a female this time and thankfully her answer wasn't she just knew. She was a skeptic about marriage and all but she sat and wrote a letter to God saying she wasn't sure if marriage was for her but if it was this was what she was looking for and she listed the qualities. She went one step further and told God that she can be clueless sometimes and would like something specific. Her specific was for him to sing her Brown Eyed Girl. She meets her now husband, he happens to be in a band but no song or nothing. She knew she liked him a lot but didn't know for sure. One day they go karaoking and while picking songs, he picked out that song and sang it (to her i think?). She says that will be the closest to her knowing that he would be her husband but in general it was a progression.

So yea I have nothing else yo. I am off to bask in my birthday euphoria. I have no plans for my birthday but to work:(.I had a tempting offer but I really need to get some school work done.I love you all so very much and thanks for supporting Randoms. I promise to do better next week!

P.S Join twitter on my birthday?lol

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those who have birthdays(everyone!) For general guidance, protection, love and laughter in our lives. AMEN.

Today's song is my favorite Jesse jagz song. This song is too mad and is also where I got my intro from.I think I listen to this song at least once, okay twice, okay sometimes up to five times a day.

Jesse Jagz ft Soribaba and Wizkid - Intoxicated

Friday, September 3, 2010

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday! Happy New Month in the Best Month Ever! hehe..Hi guys, welcome again. May I just say that I have the worst sleeping habits. It is currently 3.13am and I am watching Mad Men and trying to pack for my trip to New York tomorrow (Mayne, Jon Hamm who plays Don Draper is just such a beautiful man). As for my trip I have been looking forward to it and Hurricane Earl wan pour sand in my garri sha, oh well make we dey see. Anyways, I have been thinking and apparently I started Friday Randoms on the 1st of October and it seems to be losing its luster so to mark it's first anniversary I'm thinking of retiring randoms till further notice, just to give you guys a heads up. Ok then boys and girls. Let's random.

Things I read off twitter: Many of us r slowly starting 2 realize dat perfect may not come in D package we want. Tough 2 swallow but guess wut its still perfect 4 U. *show of hands anyone?*

In school, I always pray I end up in groups with over achievers that want to do jara. So far I have been lucky. Oh yea #don'tjudgeme lol

I once had a weird friend. She used to say that she was drawn to flawed people and could not relate to "good" people. I just thought it was part of her madness but today in 2010, why does that kinda make sense to me? I am uncomfortable with "good" people. When I say good people I don't know how to explain it, not that they are perfect but they seem to be..always polite, always thankful, always calm, always just...good and all that's missing is a halo. It's probably because its a reminder of my many flaws who knows alls I knows is they make me uncomfortable.

Our Ad rep at work is always calling me sweetie. I hate that, I always have, right from when i got to this country and the lunch lady asked me "what you want, baby?" uugh..sweetie, honey, dear just usually sounds condescending to me when its not a significant other.

Mel B has a banging body.

Is it wrong that I'd like to live with my future husband before getting married?(like after engagement)

I have come to realize that our generation thinks that because they are more open about premarital sex and sexual things that they are open minded in general but it's amazing how NOT so open minded our generation is.

Ah the joys of technology, winners are now reading their thank you speeches at award shows from their Blackberrys.

Things I deal with: This week my mom reminded me that I will be 28 and pretty soon I will have slim to 0 pickings. FML. It's hard for these things not to get to you. I was so upset at her but we talked it out sha.

I really feel at a certain age everyone should have a crystal ball from God then when you meet someone it tells you yes or no and whether to pursue ssomething with someone you met.

Why are american checks torn from the top as opposed to the side like jand and naija?

AT&T has really cool ads.

The new Dancing with the Stars lineup err has no stars?

Encouragement goes a long way sha.

Things I heard on tv: If you are feeling lost count your blessings not the cost.

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those trying to quit an addiction or bad habit, for God to grant them the strength and help them with their struggle. AMEN

Hope everyone has a great labor day weekend!Don't forget to send in your randoms if you have any to taynement@gmail.com

This week's song is a dance song that I like. If you haven't noticed, dance music is what's hot right now (love Usher's "DJ got us falling in love"). Anyways, the lyrics of this song makes me laugh and Akon is nasal as usual. Enjoy.

Matisse - Better than Her

Monday, August 30, 2010

Relationships + Technology

Post is a bit disjointed but nyeh.

Boy meets Girl. Boy and Girl have good convo. Boy and girl exchange numbers. Boy and Girl talk a lot. Boy gets to understand Girl and vice versa and a relationship is born. I tell you people I am fascinated by the whole thing. How two people from completely different walks of life and background get together find a common ground and decide to build a life together.It's amazing! Anyways like I mentioned in randoms I went to a german restaurant and there was a couple sitting by the corner, they were old, like really old, found out the guy was 90. My friend told me they came to this restaurant every wednesday and saturday and they sit at the same place. For me, true love is when I see old people into each other, holding hands et al. Anyways, there they were chatting and laughing together and the one that got me everytime the band played a song, they got up...and danced. These people were so old they were hunched, but they danced at every song, they were the only ones on the dancefloor but I don't think they cared. After each song, he would walk her to her chair, hold it out for her and stand there till she sat down and my friend made a comment, " You just don't see that anymore".

It might be totally unrelated but I started thinking about old school love vs love in this day and age and I thought maybe it could be technology? for instance you don't need to open the door anymore because we now have pim pim aka remote, no need to write poems or odes because email dey, no need to whisper sweet nothings because text don land. I exaggerate but with the bad comes the good. Long distance relationships wouldn't be at a high if not for skype, bb, instant message etc, it was just a thought that I had. Ultimately sha, I wish everyone that kind of long time love that endures all and lasts that long till our old age. Amen.

Friday, August 27, 2010

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday, Guys. Can you believe it? It's the last friday of the month. Yay! that means my birthday month is upon us. Anyways as I type this I am bone tired and it took me forever to actually fall asleep, including drinking wine as a last resort. I forgot to turn off my phone and a simple text message woke me up and I can't fall back asleep:(. It's been a long week at work and I am oh so grateful that the weekend is here. I was back in Houston last weekend working and I had a good weekend (besides just being tired), my friend made it a fun weekend even though I think Houston gets razzer with each passing moment. I got to smoke some hookah and had some good German food and beer. I really feel like I have lost my blogging mojo, besides randoms I really haven't said anything in the past few weeks although I have a new habit of expressing some of my thoughts/feelings through some certain song lyrics. Anyhue, I have to apologize ahead of time for my lack of randoms this week and I encourage you guys that if you have any randoms to please send them to me so I can include them every Friday. Special shout out to Young Grumbler for her lengthy comment last week, I appreciated it ( and everyone else who did). Let's random.

There is an unbridgeable gulf of humour/sarcasm between Nigerians living abroad and those in Nigeria. - SwanBoy

Am I the only one that sees lookalikes of people that are from different races? I saw an asian lookalike for a nigerian friend of mine and this isn't the first time.

Not that it bothers me but I do notice that there's a lot of auto tune usage in naija songs.

Lately, it seems like most celeb relationships have the word home wrecker attached to it.

Does anyone watch the T.O show? I've always just seen Terell and Kita as friends but lately it seems like there is something there and Kita might like him more than just a friend.

Battle Studies might be John Mayer's deepest album yet. I feel like it was an honest album..or maybe it's just me.

My friend mentioned something about the bible and how Jesus never actually referred to the Devil as the Devil but usually as some human weakness/temptation. I don't know if this is true or not my first instinct is that it's not, I have to look into that.

lol, last week I opened my junkmail and the headline screaming at me was: This is why you are fat!

When people say "Follow your heart", how smart is that really?

Looks like clogs are making a come back

My coworker who I adore, tells me he was in his best shape ever at 28 and after 31 it all goes downhill, he said not 30 but 31. I told him we are women that have babies, we are screwed anyways lol.

Geez, how can one be so pretty and then not know how to dress? Chilli (from TLC) just never cuts it on the red carpet and I think she is so pretty.

PRAYER REQUESTS - For everyone's special request or intention that they have in their heart. Amen.

Today's song is a very sweet song by Rosi Golan ft William Fitzsimmons. I loved it the first time I heard it. Have a wonderful weekend.


Monday, August 23, 2010

I Need You

I know its not your fault, but I’m a locked door
Anytime I’m a mess by someone before
And I wish that I, I could find a key
To unlock all the things that you want us to be
Let me open up and start again,
But there’s a safe around my heart
I don’t know how to let you in,
And that’s what keeps us apart
And that’s why I need time.
I said I need you,
I need you to understand

Call up the locksmith,
Tell him we need him quick
We’ve got a million keys,
None of them seem to fit
While you’re on the phone,
call up the clocksmith,
Cuz I could use some time,
Even the slightest bit
Let me open up and start again,
And break this safe around my heart
I don’t know how to let you in,
And that’s what keeps us apart
And that’s why I need time
I said I need you
I need you to understand

I’m thinking now’s the time,
Maybe its time to go, if I gave you my heart, be gentle,
I’m tired of laying low, lets give the world a show
And when you know, you know,
And that’s why I need time
I said I need you,
I need you to understand

-Travi McCoy

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Friday Randoms

Happy friday guys, how una dey? It has truly been an interesting week for me, but like my friends status says something like spring always comes after the winter.It's going to be a longer weekend because I will be headed out of town for work and I foresee nothing but intense work on friday and saturday. God dey. On a serious note, I know most of us are guilty of this, including me but we need to get a hold on texting and driving sha. We all feel like we are invincible and "we got this" but you just never know. Plastic surgeon to the stars, Dr Frank Ryan died a few days ago while tweeting and driving on his blackberry. We can always reply later but if we die we can never reply, so make we try small to concentrate while driving. Speaking of tweeter, I am one step closer to joining. To join or not to join? I really don't want to be addicted sha...Let's random.

WTH is the point of open toe boots or booties? If its cold and I have boots on, why would I want my toes to get cold.. or are they for summer? then why would I opt for boots when its hot in the summer? TSK! - anonymous

Everytime I pass by or have body contact with someone I always wonder if they passed on some communicable disease and I say a little prayer - anonymous

*brat mode* I don't think it's fair that some people find their "good man" in average looking packages, while some find theirs in hot packages, why can't everybody have it all? *brat mode* ( jo, this was said humorously. I no wan hear any wise words of wisdom. Thanks)

E be like say all man wan dey naked for gym, regardless of if the body is hot or not.

Speaking of which, I have noticed part of the aforementioned are old ladies. I mean I get it, you are old and you are hot, it ain't easy. But how come most of them wear belly rings? How old is too old to wear belly rings?

This show, Army Wives ( I don't watch it) but if the war in Iraq suddenly ends, does the show end too?

Things i heard on tv: Your first kiss with someone changes the way you feel about each other - Yay or Nay? I agree sha.

Things i read on blogsville: when a relationship becomes more of a burden than a blessing, break it up!

I know I am weird already but let's add to it anyways. BB contacts without pictures bother me, don't ask why.

This millionaire matchmaker woman, must be interesting to be a match maker without a match, isn't it bad for business?

SPeaking of which, so the matchmaker lady broke up her engagement because she wanted kids and he didn't. This is not the first time I am hearing this among oyibo people. Please what have you been talking about all this while in a 4 year relationship? How you go be with someone and you don't know they didn't want kids?

I think the best theme song out there is True Blood's. The show na ogbanje show sha.

Say what you want about Dbang, but the negro has swag yo! It just comes naturally to him, he doesn't try. I really enjoyed his "Mr Endowed" video, even though from people I asked they don't feel the same way.

Are the days of meeting people in the same city over or are we the generation of long distance?

A friend of mine gave me a refresher on childbirth. the cuts, the tears....Yea, as if I am not terrified enough...Lord help me.

I asked my oyibo coworker how he knew his wife was the one and he said *everyone together noooowwww*..he just knew.

I know it might be a horrible thing to say but I think I understand why people settle.

Is it a bad thing if someone says "XYZ grew on me" when referring to a boyfriend/girlfriend?

So the star's name on Entourage is Vince, short for Vincent probably. If na naija man now dem go tok say the name dey too Igbotic. humph!

Don't forget to send in your random thoughts to me whenever you have one. Email me at Taynement@gmail.com and indicate if you want to be anonymous or have your name mentioned. Today's song is from a band I just heard, they have a different sound that I like and I really like the song and the lyrics.

P.S I noticed most of my randoms were questions. You blogelettes berra answer them oh!!


Monday, August 16, 2010

Where I Stood

I don't know what I've done
Or if I like what I've begun
But something told me to run
And honey you know me it's all or none

There were sounds in my head
LIttle voices whispering
That I should go and this should end
Oh and I found myself listening

'Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
'Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood

See I thought love was black and white
That it was wrong or it was right
But you ain't leaving without a fight
And I think I am just as torn inside

And I won't be far from where you are if ever you should call
You meant more to me than anyone I ever loved at all
But you taught me how to trust myself and so I say to you
This is what I have to do

Missy Higgins.

Sometimes I feel I "mourn" in private. Hope everyone had a good monday!

Friday, August 13, 2010

Friday Randoms

Hi Guys! Happy friday oh! Like joke like joke, we don reach half of August. Soon we will enter the -mber months and then it's speed racing from there. So I decided that since I didn't get an onslaught of randoms, instead of doing one post of community randoms, you guys can send in a random whenever you want and I will insert it with my randoms and give credit as indicated. Ok, I have nothing much to say so let's random.Oh this weekend I have cleared my stomach and per madam Nice Anon's recommendation I will be trying out the best burger in my hood this weekend at Bueno Burger *fingers crossed*

So awon science people, please tell me the correlation between naija peeps and being lactose intolerant. I didn't even know there were a lot of them out there sef.

Janelle Monae bothers me. Is she a girl or a woman? If she has relations, do the men feel weird?

A new season of bad girls club started and I can't get over how women over 20 are proud of being "bad girls" and are yelling and screaming all the time. na wetin?

I swear to god, the next mofocky that tries to spin me so that my ass is on his dinger will get razed, like wth? Thank God I learned how to do 360 degree spins instead of 180.

So like in yankee, you know how dey be spraying people in one dollar bills right? In jand their one pound is in coins, so how do they spray people at events? Dem dey stone dem with coins or they spray 5 pounds? (Sorry Willy)

So if you go hang out or see a guy that you are talking to and things get steamy and he pulled out a condom. what would be your reaction? would you be upset or would be you okay and think better safe than sorry. ( you had no intention of doing the do)

Men don't woo women anymore sha.

So emm, ojukokoro carried me to go watch that montana fishburne tape oh! It was so disgusting plus e be like say the babe get craw craw for nyansh or as I said chicken pox of the nyansh. Quite sad the route she is going.

For anyone who is watching Bachelor Pad. It is the mirror image of boy/girl relationships. Women dey try sha, just putting up with a lot of stuff, while the men continue because they know they can get away with it.

True Blood is blowing my mind this season, so much going on. So much blood being shed and shared, they don't have HIV?

I've noticed that it doesn't take long for naija men to start calling a chic "babe".

Eldee's "Ogede" is such a dirty song. forgive my speling but he says: Sho ma n je ogede? Sho ma n mu milik? then the girl asks: sho ma n je igbin oh? he says: mo n je igbin na. sho fresh so clean? LOL, Reverence you should check it out and feel free to ask for translation hehe.

I think most people in our generation are more concerned about getting pregnant over getting a disease in terms of protecting themselves.

So, I am a huge fan of Eat, Pray , Love like I have mentioned before. It took me a while to finish it because of school but I did eventually and I have to say that there is no way I 100% believe that that book is completely a true story. Things went way too perfectly and too in line during her journey that she had to have applied her writers hat and made everything better so to speak. That's not to take away from her words of wisdom oh! God uses different kinds of vessels. The most important thing I appreciated from the book was that her spirituality was not tainted by guilt, something a lot of today's religions have. My favorite line in the book: "My God is a Magnificent God". Something about that line is so powerful to me.

God save me. I am attracted to jerk like arrogant men.

Judges on reality shows are tripping. Why the hell is Kenny gone from Top Chef??

I do apologize for the quality of randoms this week. It's been a distracting week for me so maybe my mind wasn't so random. I hope you have a lovely week!

PRAYER REQUEST: For all those who make frequent journeys either for work or pleasure. For safe journey to and fro.

Today's song is something everyone must have experienced at some point or the other. With lyrics like: I'm always waiting on something other than this. Why am I feelin' like there's something I missed....Always... Always... this song appeals to most pple's crisis lol. Enjoy!

Stacie Orrico - More to Life