Wednesday, July 31, 2013


Leggy told me to read this blog about two platonic friends who decided to date each other for 40 days. There are a lot of quotes in there  - Anyways, I found this funny:

Love birds, I know this isn't the case, so don't get up in arms and say this is so wrong. It's clearly an exaggerated joke that I found funny. Happy Hump Day.

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Friday Randoms

Howdy guys. You don't know how glad I am that it is Friday. I had a long week this week and last. Just hectic and I am looking forward to being home this weekend and not seeing an airport for a long long while. I haven't had a headache in a while and I have a raging headache right now, I probably need to go to sleep. Well, hope you guys had a good week, we thank God for giving us the gift of life. Not much happened this week news wise save for the brouhaha over the royal baby being born and Anthony Weiner getting caught again. So, I might as well begin randoming.

Tamera Mowry-Housley recently revealed that she lost her virginity to her now husband at age 29 and it seemed some people found that odd or strange or whatever. I've never understood why people get so concerned about other people's sex decisions. She chose to wait and it worked for her and her husband and they are happy. The belief that you must be boring or can't be a freak (as was mentioned on her talk show) is just like huh? And just because everyone is sexing doesn't mean there aren't people choosing to wait.

The death of Corey Monteith is still a bit shocking. I look at his interviews, pictures and he just seemed so okay. Goes to show, you never know what anyone is going through. I even went back to watch the pilot of Glee. It had me feeling for Lea Michelle and wondering how it must feel to lose a boyfriend. I mean when you lose a husband, it's recognized and it is official but with a boyfriend it's just..I don't know sha..just wondered.

I also wonder if people can poop and eat at the same time.

I have come to learn that a lot of men think that women are illogical. Isn't that statement enough to assume that most men think they are superior to women? or is it apples to oranges?

Last weekend, someone told me that I did not look like an igbo girl because igbo girls usually have a lot going on. I said how? He said that they usually have loads of makeup on their face. I didn't think of it as some sort of compliment at all but I have to admit that yes I am aware it is a stereotype and my first reaction was to agree with him.

Is it weird for a married person to want to travel alone? or rather is it shady? I would assume that being married, every now and then someone would want time alone just to be alone. is that bad?

Its been said that don't share what you don't want others to know and once you tell one person you bear the risk of others knowing. It is still kinda weird when you find out someone breaks your confidence.

Is twats a curse word? I said that earlier this week and my friend said that I cursed. I never considered it a curse word.

Hopefully I can phrase this right, but a turn off for me is when men are so overly ambitious. Don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with being ambitious but when they are so consumed by it and it is all about the money and making lots of it, while the emotional/family part suffers. There has to be a balance.

Can I just say that I have the most ridiculous dreams? sheesh

I kinda snapped at my friend this week. I am just over everyone and their desire to find a man. I mean I get it. We are of age, everyone's getting married and all, but life still continues. This all consuming frenzy that's sweeping over our age mates is a bit scary. Like, let's all just breathe and relax and let life least I think.

Radio this morning was bashing Huma Abedin for sticking by Anthony Weiner for a second time and calling her weak. I don't get. She made a choice to stay. It is not for everyone but maybe its because it's a 3year marriage and she has a 1yr old baby, maybe she is a devout muslim and divorce is not an option, . It could be for many reasons but I just think it is unfair to assume the one default that she is weak.

"We're not friends, we're not enemies. We're strangers with some memories"

"I can tell you've never been in love cuz you still run from it. People that have felt love run toward it, no matter the cost"

That's all I got for you guys today. Don't forget to check out Have a wonderful weekend. Stay safe and stay blessed!!

Monday, July 22, 2013

Fan Fridays

Hey readers of the blog,

How are you? Hope you had a good weekend. I have been away from home for a whole week and I really missed my apartment. Had a great week/weekend and glad to be home. Today i come to ask y'all a favor. I am starting something new on my sister blog - called Fan Fridays. It is basically an outlet to gush about someone/something you are a huge fan of. It could be a book, movie, tv show, actor, singer, album etc, as long as it is pop culture related. I would love to hear from you guys and have a bunch of entries that I could put up on Fridays. I know it might be asking much from your busy schedule but it doesn't have to be long or anything as long as it conveys your fandom/excitement.

If you are interested in doing a write up, please feel free to email me at If you are unsure about a topic and have any questions, you can email me or tweet me your question at @taynementdotcom.  Part of my goal is for it to serve as a recommendation platform, that might expose people to a body of work they might otherwise not have considered. The first post will debut on Friday and I am pretty excited. Please share with any and everyone and I really hope to hear back from you guys!


Have a lovely week!

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Rest in Peace, Trayvon Martin

As many of you have heard, the jury reached a verdict yesterday and Zimmerman was found guilty and naturally, emotions ran high. It hit me hard, like really hard. I can't believe he is walking free. So many fingers are being pointed. I don't know..I had a lot of things going through my mind and even if I don't want to admit it, the whole situation all does boil down to race.

I can say the prosecution didn't come hard enough, I can say the jury was biased, I can say there were no facts but ultimately the stereotype against a young black boy wearing a hoodie is what has him dead today. How the important fact that, if Zimmerman didn't follow Trayvon as instructed and just waited for the cops that his life might have been saved or if Zimmerman didn't have a gun, he might still be alive. Why didn't his self defense have him shot in the leg or something to immobilize him and not to his death? Where does self defense come in when this young man was unarmed? I don't know man but it's just such a reminder of the world we live in.

I watch Big Brother, the summer reality show where housemates are locked in a house all summer and this summer it's been making headlines for all the racism going on in the house. I watched a video clip, last week where the white girls were antagonizing the black girl (they'd taken her mattress and thrown her pillows around) when she asked who did it, the white girl said in her version of a "sassy black girl" said "whatchu gonna dooo girl?" and was rolling her neck and snapping fingers. Another went to her face and said "what are you gonna do? let the black out of you?" What does that even mean? The clip made me so sad, that in this day and age, this is what we are still experiencing in our "post racial" society.

We can bury our heads in the sand and maybe say African Americans are doing the most, but as I have said before, We Nigerians, can be quite closed minded. We might never understand their struggles or think we are "different" but ultimately to the rest of the world we are all black. And honestly, it could happen to any one of us or our people. The most important thing right now is wishing the comfort and grace of God to the family and loved ones of Trayvon Martin and also for everyone else who has been a victim of injustice and paid dearly for it with their lives. May God keep us safe and protect us always.

PS RIP Cory Monteith.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Friday Random

7/11 guys. Hope you guys with 7/11 in your cities went and claimed your free slushies. Happy Friday guys, hope the week was kind to you. I had a good week actually. Busy, but good all the same. Can I just say that this Zimmerman trial has me all in a mixed bag of emotions. I manage to catch snippets of it in the breakroom and read up on some of it and the whole thing is are they trying to base the trial on things that have no bearings on the matter at hand. The fact is a young man is dead. We are arguing about who was screaming for help. Both mothers say it is their son. How is an unarmed boy with skittles and a drink be a danger to someone with a gun?? What was the self defense? If he had stayed away like he was told to would he even be around Trayvon to tussle and "defend" himself by shooting him to death?? His poor mom is reliving the whole thing as they try to defame the boy's character. Long and short of it all is that the boy is dead and never coming back, I just wish the big picture isn't lost sight of. But sigh..what do I know? Only God knows what happened that night sha but I hope justice is served, struggle or not Zimmerman took a life. Ok enough of my yapping. Random we shall.

My coworker is convinced that the mattress shops you see everywhere are a cover for another kind of business. He claims there's a mattress store in every corner (which is true) and noone needs/buys mattresses that often for them to be that many. Which is true because for one they are way overpriced and there are still bargain stores and online deals. Made me wonder sha.

I realized that I have no emotional connection to any holidays.

This is not fact o, but after speaking to a lot of my guy friends. Regardless of whether they are in a happy relationship or not, I was thinking that maybe a lot of men don't trust women. I think that's what plays a part in the generalization that men are dogs because of the shadiness. Sometimes I think it's what makes it easier for those that are shady towards women? (this made more sense in my head, so I'll stop trying to explain now)

I get that Kate Upton has massive funbags but I don't care much for her body. Her torso is kinda weird.

I am probably in the minority but I found Magna Carter Holy Grail boring. The beats were nice and the songs were decent but I just wasn't moved. Like Yeezus I thought was not a good album but certain songs, I'd just pause and be like hmm but with MCHG it was like one long flat line.

Would you be averse to putting your parents in a nursing home? Not just any, like a decent one. I get the emotional and cultural reasons most Nigerians would have but life doesn't always work the way we want. What would be your reasons if you are averse to it?

Someone on twitter asked why it was called "fasting"? That's a good question, I wonder how it came about.

How many of you honestly really think all men [will] cheat? I don't think all men will cheat but I do think most will. I think the part that baffles me most is the disassociation. Too many cases of a man being loving and the best boo ever to his girl/wife but still able to cheat. Well, not surprising they do say they do stuff without emotion. ah well.

"Why would anyone ever give up being a man? It's like winning the lottery and giving it back". Quote from Orange is The New Black, the new Netflix series. I am 3 episodes in and I am loving it.

Oh before I go a few shout outs:

The UmuIgboUnite Convention is holding in Dallas this year, for anyone or anyone you know who might be interested feel free to visit the website to see what they are about and to learn more.

Guys, be kind and visit my CILy's site here. It's basically a wealth of information if you are interested in knowing more and learning about laying a foundation for kids from birth.

As always, please don't forget to visit and share with your friends :)

I really should go to sleep. I have a long weekend ahead but I get to see John Mayer yay! Have a wonderful weekend my lovelies and as always stay safe and stay blessed.

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Tales from the Gym

A few observations from the torture house:

When you train with a personal trainer, you begin to wonder if everything else you did prior was even a work out.

Trainers are nicer to the smaller girls than if you are on the larger end of the scale.

It's always funny seeing guys try to hide their gawking at the girl who just walked by in her tight skimpy outfit. She's almost always blond and blue eyed.

It's cute seeing couples working out together.

Swole people walk into the gym like "yea motherfuckers, don't you see my guns? This is my house"

People are addicted to their phones. I see people cycling and they start fiddling with their phones and forget what they are doing and cycle reeeally slow. The highest was I saw a lady doing squats with her eyes never leaving the phone. Deep.

In group classes, how hard can it be to just follow the teacher's count/lead. We go up, you go down. We kick forward, you kick back. It's one thing to not have rythym it's another to not just pay attention.

The grunting men in the weights area are hilarious.

It's never the babes with the fantabulous bodies who are stripped naked in the locker room.

Those of you with great genes that can eat whatever and stay looking good, be quite thankful. Have a lovely week. I get to see Emeli Sande today. yipeee.