Sunday, January 30, 2011

Laugh Your Pants Off

Howdy Ho folks. How have you been? Hope all's been well. My post today isn't going to be long but I would like to hear your opinion on the topic.

So in the never ending mating game between a man and a woman, they say it is much easier for a man to bag/shag a woman if the woman decides he has a sense of humor. Ask a woman what she is looking for in a man and 9 out of 10 if not all will most definitely have sense of humor on their list. I am all for a sense of humor and all but do women really feel that is one of the important things in an attraction to a man? Sometimes, I feel the sense of humor characteristic is as reflex as "God fearing" on a nigerian woman's list.

I did a little digging on the wonderful world of Google and found that studies show that women think funny men are smarter and more likely to be honest than less funny men (Err, obviously I wasn't part of this study because I totally disagree, especially with the honest part). Further research does show that humor is not linked to intelligence and quite frankly the stuff I found actually pissed me off a little because it adds to the whole "women are silly and would believe and do anything just to get a man" stereotype.

I found this interesting:

The basic difference is that males tend to use humor to compete with other men, while women tend to use humor to bond with others. Studies show that men more often use humor to jockey for position with other males when they are in the company of women.

The allure of male humor is so strong that female laughter may have evolved as a signal of sexual interest—picture a woman's girlish giggles as she flirts with a man at a bar. Indeed, a German study found that when male and female strangers engaged in natural conversation, the degree to which a woman laughed while talking to a man was indicative of her interest in dating him. How much the woman laughed also predicted the man's desire to date her. On the flip side, how often a man laughed was unrelated to his interest in a woman.


My only question for that is, is the lady laughing because he really is funny? or she is attracted to him already and just laughs at everything he says - funny or not? One last thing before I leave is (of course) while women appear to prefer a men who makes them laugh, the psychologists say that previous studies have shown that the same does not hold true when the sexes are reversed - and men are not more attracted to funny girls. No surprise eh?

What do you guys think? Feel free to leave your comments and have a great week!

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Chuck Bass said...

Absolutely hilarious. Its a shame that my finding this blog has caused our mutual friend to clam up.
I shall endeavor to convince her to "share"
To answer the above questions:
- a limo would be quite the undertaking in Lagos ne c'est pas?
- I like ties
- I'm slow and deliberate only when absolutely necessary
- you'd have ask the author about the look...
Hope this helped! LOL!


If you are scratching your head, that was his comment on my last post in response to Reverence who asked a few questions (did he ride around in a limo? did he wear the clorful ties? did he speak in slow deliberate sentences? did he have the piercing look?) and Mr Bass got to responding before I could. Soo, hope he answered your questions.

Anyways, I have received all the hisses,wakas and yabs via im, comment, twitter, texts lol. Na una sabi, I am not sure what Mr Bass means by "convincing me to "share"". *raises eyebrow* but I do intend to try and blog more and I am working on a random post (only for you Lucid, even though you didn't respond to my last comment on your blog). That's all I have for you folks. Have a wonderful week!

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Repost

Today Swanboy sent me a text: BLOG SOMETHING DAMN YOU. In all caps like that. See the type of friends I have, isn't that threatening to poor, defenseless me, ehn? Well besides that, I have been told I need to blog but I don't know I think I lost my blogging mojo since a certain someone found it :p, but I will try to find it soon. I think I owe you guys at least a Random Friday post. Since my mojo is still lost I decided to repost something I had taken down for reasons I don't remember. I never ever talk about men on my blog but since I have neglected you all I will indulge and repost this (and leave it up).

When you think so much about everything and are as straightlaced as I am, it’s a breath of fresh air when you get to just do and not think too much and that’s what my experience with Chuck Bass was.

I met Chuck Bass a week into my vacation. He says it was an instant attraction, I say it took a few hours :p. However long it took, I knew I was in trouble. The flirting with CB was cerebral and we hung out everyday till I left and it was fun. Noone suppresses like I do but with C.B it wasn’t even possible, it was an attraction that scared me. Why you ask? Because for one, I don’t like not being in control and I didn’t feel I had control and also it felt like CB could see right through me – sure it could have been game but I wasn’t overthinking.

The good thing about all this happening on vacation, is that a vacation gives an expiration date and all this ended the day I left. But, I made sure to say thank you to CB. I was grateful for the experience because for a week, I felt carefree (ok 95% of the time), bold and adventurous and he was able to bring that out of me.

Have a good weekend guys!

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Blogger Awards

Howdy Ho peeps. Yes I am back again, only because two bloggers tagged me for the stylish and versatile blogger award. I don't know about stylish but thank you very much to Lucid Lillith and Nutty J.. To quote Nutty J she said, "I give her this award because her topics are exotic, truthful, versatile, served with attitude!". lol thanks again.

So this award is hard because I have to list 7 things about myself (eek!) and then tag 15 bloggers, so here we go:

1. I am a 28 year old who is obsessed with the Backstreet Boys. I totally see myself in my 40's, traipsing to Vegas to see them.

2. I have an unhealthy distrust for men. I am not shocked by any stories I hear about X or Y. I don't even know if it's a good or bad thing but I guess it'll be a bad thing if a sincere person comes along and everything he is saying goes in one ear and comes out the other. Maybe I will work on it, maybe I won't but for now I couldn't be bothered.

3. Sometimes, I think I am a walking dichotomy. For example, I am not a shy person. I am quite social and I rarely get embarassed BUT I get SO anxious when I have to go to an event. If anyone could hear what goes on in my head, I'd probably be committed. Another example is that I think I have a big heart, I will do anything I can for the people I care about but at the same time I could be as cold as I am sweet. I scare myself sometimes with how I feel nothing in some situations.

4. I feel sexiest when I am dancing. I love to dance and I do it well. I remember a friend telling me that I am not the type of girl one would notice when they step into a room (see yab) but if I am dancing it's a completely different story. I am also a flirt. Sometimes I flirt through dancing.

5. I am really not trying to be a cool girl or whatever but I DO NOT like shopping. Shopping is a chore to me. If I have to go to the mall, I would rather do school work than go. It's just not fun for me. I should specify that I mean shopping for clothes. I don't care for jewelry, I could go a month without wearing earrings and I have, shoes are the devil, they hurt. If not for necessity purses are a burden. Might I add, I have never bought a purse for myself and I could wear the same one for years but concerned friends usually step in and tell me it's time for a change. On the flip, I could shop for bra and panties all day and I could grocery shop all day. Hehehe

6. I don't watch the news. Not much to say about this. I just don't.

7. I have the weirdest memory vault when it comes to pop culture trivia. I might not watch a show but I can tell you who or what will be happening. I am addicted to award shows and I watch an insane amount of movies. I am a movie snob and some movies I will never watch in my life time/I can be the laziest heifer there ever was/Black is my favorite color/I have no problem going to concerts alone/I find it hard looking people in the eye/I am uncomfortable baring my soul, which is why I suck at explaining myself.

Ok I am done. I kinda cheated on #7 but nyeh, rules are made to be broken. Now Let me see if I can tag 15 people.

MPB
Neefemi
Original Mgbeks
RepressedOne
Mamuje
Kate
NiceAnon
yankeenaijababe
Shadenonconform
Ms.O
Tatababe
Kash
Yinkuslolo
GNG
Omotee

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Like Mindless Fools...

....We wake up everyday and repeat the same cycle. Think about it.

We wake up, do whatever it is we do before work, drive to work, pretend to work while we bb/tweet/facebook/surfthenet/, maybe do some work, go to lunch, get back to "working", countdown till work end, go home, complain about work, wonder what to eat, watch tv, surf the net etc etc.

Give or take a few things this is what most of us do and we complain about it, like my friend said we complain about it like we can't do anything about it. Sure every now and then we travel, go see places, get excited about doing something different and then fall back into the rut. We daydream about all we could and want to do but somehow still don't do anything. Ofcourse, it's not that easy to just "do something", we have to be smart about this (responsibilities, not yet ready etc). Before you know it, time has passed by and we wonder where time has gone. What exactly are we waiting for? Why can't we just do it? Whatever "it" may be?

Hope you guys are having a good week so far, it's cold as hell up in these parts but I can't complain too much, winter hasn't been so terrible for us, so I'll take this. Enjoy the rest of your week.

Oh, thanks Swanboy for letting me purge today :)

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Spark

Hi luvies. It's been a minute hasn't it? I have no strong excuse, ok I do. I got back and started work with an Organization meeting all week so I have been getting home later than usual and I have been so tired. I haven't been getting my full 8hour beauty sleep *ahem* but I am still on my naija high and feeling grand just letting stuff roll off my shoulder. Today I was talking to a friend of mine and she asked me if spark was necessary in a relationship? Lemme preface this by saying everything that follows is just my opinion, feel free to state yours in the comment box. I was talking to an older person once and they stated that this "it" our generation is always looking for is what will land us in trouble and make us miss out on a good thing. Is that "it" spark/attraction or is it a general clicking so to speak?, I digress. Anyways, like I was saying my friend asked if I thought spark was necessary and I replied with a Yes.

I think spark is necessary but like love, I don't think it is enough. I would take a 50% level spark over a 70% level spark in someone as long as the rest of the package is on par with what I am looking for. I believe that spark fades with time, I mean it only makes sense, as you get older and more responsibilities fall your way, kids, taxes, college funds, old age, bone creaking, not to say you won't have the hots for each other but that spark/hotness will definitely decrease. I think that as we get older, relationships and I mean marriages become more about the friendship than the spark you shared in the beginning. When I look at the older couples I admire eg my aunty and her husband, I don't admire them because "wow, they are sizzling with chemistry" but more because of the friendship, the tenderness and the "we've been through a lot but i still got ya back" aura that I get from them. Oh I should also add that it is very possible to have both as in 100% spark and 100% friendship, I guess my opinion is based on if one happened to be in a situation where they had to make a decision or choose.

Feel free to speak your mind on the topic and happy friday eve!

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Happy New Year

Howdy folks! Happy 2011. If you are reading this, I thank God for your life that you are alive and able to read this. I never have that resolution/anticipation everyone usually has for the new year. I do claim all the prayers and well wishes but I have never felt "this year is my year" feelings. I just go with the flow and hope God is on my side. I usually don't do new year resolutions and go more with themes e.g last year was facing fears. This year though I do have a resolution which is to be more selfish. I feel like I usually bend over backwards for my friends and loved ones and even then it never seems enough, so I will try to think more of myself.

Sooooo, as you can guess, I am back from Naija and boy am I sad. I really had a blast. I had a slow start but I can say my trip was adventurous from the beginning to the end. Even though I was complaining about not being able to move back, I have changed my mind again lol, I can move back with the right amount of money. My trips was filled with ups and downs. My eyes cleared and I got closure to an issue, emotional wahala with my dad,emotional moment with mom, my family getting on me about my weight but on the flip it was nonstop toasters all through (married, single o, ha nile). Gosh, I met a real life Chuck Bass (only those who watch Gossip Girl will know the magnitude of that statement) and it was fantastic, saw a bunch of friends, had fun at the koko concert - men, our people need to learn how to put on a show, the sound system was horrible and it was like a bunch of people yelling and just because you have 100 hits doesn't mean you have to perform all 100 hits. Our people too like demo sha, what will possess me to pay 500k naira for VIP tables at a concert??? I didn't pay for any of the things I went to sha, we thank God for knowing people but I dey regular people section and still had fun. For example, the All Black party, it's funny how the regular section was more fun than the VIP section, the VIP section was just groupies looking for attention. I got to meet up with RepOne and we went bowling, boy do i suck ass at bowling lol. I discovered I can still drive in Naija, which came in handy when I needed to go somewhere. I ate a lot of suya and drank WAY too much alcohol. let me give you an idea, on christmas day the whole fam was together and I stopped counting how many bottles of Veuve and Moet we consumed, let's just say 4 glasses were broken that night. ahem #don't judge us lol. I learned that trust in a relationship in naija is dead. My cousin was telling me how 9 out of 10 men will cheat and my brother said its 10 out of 10 sef. She also said that every man will have other women and your goal is just to be #1. sigh, it's quite unfair. It's every man for themselves in naija, I do wonder if I can keep up with the selfishness, materialistic-ness and general mago mago but I guess it's doable. Make I go dust off my cv/resume and see whatsup. Ok I am getting delirious now, have a wonderful new year people and stay blessed.