Sunday, September 27, 2009

Taking Responsibility (?)

So I love Michael Buble. MB has a new song out called "Haven't met you yet". The song is pretty much about the quest for love but one line in the song stood out to me. MB sings, " I'm not surprised, not everything lasts, I've broken my heart so many times, I've stopped keeping track".

Ok so I liked the fact that he used "I" instead of "She". See as humans we always say, she/he broke my heart. But his use of I made me think that he probably used it the right way. At what point do we take responsiblity in our part for a break up. I mean I am sure there are exceptions when one party is totally blindsided but in most cases I think we can equate it to same way we say noone can hurt your feelings unless you let them, can this be applied to this too? Bear with me cuz I haven't fully thought this out.Like I said, I am sure there are blindside situations but for the most part there are signs(right?) and if we choose to ignore them and keep on trucking if the heartbreak comes, we played a part in it.

This train of thoughts led to me thinking about something I heard somewhere. Since women always seem to be complaining about being done wrong, if you really think about it and look at past failed relationships, you are the common factor in each one. Does it mean you are doing something wrong or it's just the luck of the draw and it's something you have to go through till you find the right person? I honestly don't know or have any answers but I'd like to hear what you guys think so feel free to comment. Have a nice week ahead.

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Below are the lyrics to the song, ultimately it says we will all find our special someone. I hope that prayer is answered for everyone :):

I'm not surprised.
Not everything lasts.
I've broken my heart so many times I stopped keeping track.
Talk myself in.
I talk myself out.
I get all worked up, then I let myself down.

I tried so very hard not to lose it.
I came up with a million excuses.
I thought I thought of every possibility.

And I know someday that it'll all turn out.
You'll make me work so we can work to work it out.
And promise you, kid, that I'll give so much more than I get.
I just haven't met you yet.


I might have to wait.
I'll never give up.
I guess it's half timing,
And the other half's luck.
Wherever you are.
Whenever it's right.
You'll come out of nowhere and into my life.

And I know that we can be so amazing.
And baby your is gonna change me.
And now I can see every possibility.


But somehow I know that it'll all turn out.
And you'll make me work so we can work to work it out.
And I promise you, kid, that I'll give so much more than I get.
I just haven't met you yet.

They say all's fair.
And in love and war.
But I won't need to fight it.
We'll get it right and,
We'll be united.

Monday, September 21, 2009

The Pursuit of Happyness

Although some of us may seem confused and wondering what direction to take in our lives, we are all pursuing that happyness. I realise it varies for everyone, so today I ask, what is your happyness?

Love, Career, Financial Security or Other?

Friday, September 18, 2009

Support please

Hey guys I decided to stop wavering back and forth on topics on this blog and I just opened a strictly popculture/entertainment blog where I hope to entertain y'all with celeb news, tv updates/reminders, new music/movies etc. So please try to support and stop by and tell everyone you know, have a lovely weekend!

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Movies and Reality

I love movies. Not all kinds of movies. You could say I am a picky movie watcher. In spite of all that, I'd say I watch a lot more movies than the average person but half of them noone's heard about. Anywhoos, as a professional single, I try to go to the movies every week and since I returned I go Fridays. I couldn't go last week because I had exams so I went today and saw I can do bad by myself and 500 days of summer. I like movies that make me think and these two movies made me think.


This was a very good movie coming from Tyler Perry's stable. I usually feel like his movies are lacking something (well depth) and are very preachy. I get the audience he is trying to reach but nyeh it's just not my cup of tea. Mary J was looking absolutely awesome in the movie and she sang a song in that movie that I want - I can do bad by myself- truer words have never been spoken. We all have issues and sometimes it just makes us be self destructive and sabotage any good things that come our way ( at least I know I have had my moments). People go through stuff in this lifetime and you wonder how they come out of it (cue Whitney Houston's " I didn't know my own strength") if i had one wish for the world it'll be that noone experiences pain and suffering but I guess that's part of the world's balance. Moving on, watching Taraji and Adam Rodriguez's xter kiss reminded me that I need some lovin' :(. May I just say that the minute a character in a movie says " I think I am in love with you" after they have known each other for like 10 minutes, the movie goes downhill from there (prolly why chick flicks and I don't get along). All in all, I'd recommend the movie, all the actors were believable ( I was surprised by Mary, thought she'd be stiff as hell).

P.S - Just found out the song was written by Neyo. Go figure, no wonder I liked it.


I think I may have just found my new favorite love story movie. It starts with "this is not a typical love story". It has no fairytales or butterflies, just plain reality. It makes you ask if the whole boy meets girl deal is fate/meant to be? such a thing as soulmate? when people break up why do they always focus on the good things?etc etc.You should check it out if you can.

I don't know how I forgot this song in my last post but I absolutely love Kelly Clarkson's Already Gone.(video starts after 30 seconds)


P.S.S - I really wish I could figure out my career path. I know what I want to do and I am trying to make sure I have done all I can before I give up so to speak but it's like someone trynna be discovered as a singer, at what point do you give up and accept maybe it's not meant for you? I don't know the answer to that but each rejection letter I get that says "...candidates more qualified than you" is like a slap in the face. God dey.

Monday, September 14, 2009

Music on my Mind on Monday

Hey guys, I have nothing to blog about so I thought I'd share some of my current favorite music ( you know how i love my music)> I'll youtube some and the rest y'all can look up if you want. Have a lovely night/day.

Cobra Starship ft Leighton Meester (from gossip girls)- good girls go bad. I absolutely love this song, so catchy, so fun


So for those of you who know, Imogen Heap's Hide and Seek is one of my favorite songs of all time --- --- Some young man has decided to add a hip hop twist to it and i like it also:

Jason Derulo - What you say? ( The foolishness of men, there's a line where he goes: "Don't want you to leave me, even though you caught me cheating) lol


Rkelly ft Keri Hilson - Number One sex


Ginuwine - Last chance


Brick n Lace - Bad to di Bone


My Punjabi crush lol, Jay sean ft Lil Wayne - Down


Sean Kingston - Fire Burning


Most of the real videos are disabled so I had to use makedo videos. Enjoy!

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Happy Birthday.

In exactly, 3 hours and 45 minutes I will be 27. I wanted to use the opportunity to say Thank you Baba God for letting me see another year (hopefully nothing happens in 3:45, lol), I want to thank you for my family and my amazing friends. I remember my journey from the minute I turned 26 to this year and I want to thank God for everything, both good and bad. I am grateful for the lessons I have learned and hope to grow even more this year.

Alright, that being said I will start my day by going to church and lounging till class time and after class tomorrow, it's on and popping y'all. I'm gonna find somewhere to dance and have a good time like the true Virgo that I am. Thank you fellow Bloggers for all the nuggets of wisdom, food for thoughts and encouraging words that you guys always provide. Later y'all and feel free to write nice well wishes for me :D

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Random Thursday

I am in class all bored and stuff with A LOT of stuff on my mind, sigh. I have done blog rounds and visited a lot of bloggers for the first time, so I decided to just write out some stuff I can share.

- Are there people out there who don't suffer from procrastination? I need to get on whatever it is they are on. It's like I know what I need to be doing and should be doing but I just don't, it's the most amazing and infuriating thing.

- So you know the stereotype of how most Asians are small and skinny. When I see a fat one, I usually wonder how they feel and if they feel like they have failed their race. Oh yea, Fat Asians make me uncomfortable (It's my random, sue me)

- I used to LOVE the show, Friends. I still love it, actually it's my favorite comedy and second favorite show (behind Six Feet Under). Never missed an episode when it was on. I had the soundtrack cd to the show, I'd watch the reruns like I hadn't seen it ten million times, I'd say their lines along with them. I loved it so much I did an english project on them, somewhere out there is a website I built dedicated to Friends and Friends alone (yeah, I can be obsessive, me I choose to call it Loyal :D). Ross was my favorite character, he was so stupid it was hilarious.

- My current jobless state is the first time I haven't worked in 12 years. I love the time but my bank account doesn't. I have trips to take, right now I still have 6 scheduled trips and only one is a definite. It's so dissapointing when I get an email notification on my phone and I rush to read it and find out it's not an interview invitation or I get a strange number on my phone and it's someone I know calling from work. Uggh!

- T-7 days till I turn 27. I am so grateful to be 27 but it's still so surreal that I will be 27. I remember my 10th bday party like it was yesterday!

- It has been drawn to my attention that my words are usually misconstrued ie when i say something and don't mean anything, it's interpreted to mean something. I don't know if there's a cure for that save for limiting contact with people or just smiling and nodding. I do know it irks the hell outta me when nothing in said and when in random convo (usually 10 years later)the statement, "I didn't say anything cuz that's just how you are" is used.

- I can't decide if I am sick of the city I live in or just sick of the people in it or I just have issues lol.

- I wonder why people hate on Zunes. I know it's not an Ipod but I own a Zune and I absolutely love it.

- I have a plan, I just need to materialize this plan. Will procrastination let me?

- For the first time in many years, I am able to look in the mirror and not say something negative about myself. I am genuinely pleased about that.

- I hate school, nothing in the world can change that. It's like a pain in the ass for me.

- Naija music makes me happy.

- There are some songs I love but listening to them reminds me of a time when I listened to them to wallow in pity and hurt, so when I listen to them currently they make me feel uncomfortable.That being said I don't like Colby Caillat and that stupid Jason Mraz song I'm Yours,blech

- Everytime I turn on the radio I am guaranteed that either : Pretty Wings, God in me, Why would you wanna break up or something by Drake is on the radio.

- Guaranteed channel changers : Katy Perry - waking up in vegas, Taylor Swift(love her just not this song) - You belong to me, any lady gaga song (loooove her paparazzi video though, awesome concept and artistry)

- Nigerians need to calm down about the Sony PS ad and focus on the bigger picture of how we can help our country. Everyones acting like our people don't send out scam emails. I still don't see how we were insulted sha, they made reference to "pop culture".

- Miley Cyrus is hella annoying, she might even knock Mariah off #1 on my list, Pooch Hall (Derwin on the Game) is so sexy, I hope BET picks up the show.

- Hosea Sanchez(Malik on the game) is dating Tamera Mowry(Thanks Undercover, my mistake). Now since they are identical twins, is it safe to assume he is attracted to her sister? I have always wondered that about people who date identical twins.

- I love beans - naija beans with palmoil, with stew, baked beans etc. I can't eat it outside the house sha, has to be cooked by me or someone I know.

- I am back to watching entirely too much TV. I got back and caught up on all my shows, so currently on my roster : Big Brother 11, Mad Men, True Blood (oooh weeee, Eggs is sexy!), Entourage, Hung, Secret Life of the American Teenager. I caught up on Californication, currently on season 2 of Dexter.God help me when fall season starts.

- I love dysfunctional shows, there is something real yet beautiful about them. Speaking of which if you haven't seen the movie TowelHead, you should go see it.

Alright, Alright I should stop now with my blah blahs. Y'all have a wonderful Labor day weekend, be safe and stay blessed!

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Happy New Month, Blogsville!

It's a new month my fellow bloggers. It's the beginning of the bestest month in the world, my birthday month!( Have I mentioned how much I love birthdays? just everything about it, living to see another year, the gifts hehe, woohoo!) Anyways to commemorate I thought I'd write down a list of my do's and dont's..

I DO believe love is a beautiful and powerful thing.
I DON'T believe love conquers all.

I DO believe in working hard and giving it your all.
I DON'T believe that's all that's required to be successful.

I DON'T believe being gay is a sin.
I DO believe acting on it is a sin.

I DO believe in living life to the fullest.
I DON'T believe in living life wrecklessly.

I DO believe people make mistakes in life.
I DON'T believe in making the same mistakes over and over again.(learn from 'em dammit)

I DO believe in not judging.
I DON'T believe in not checking your neighbor when need be.

I DO believe in respecting your fellow human being.
I DON'T believe "keeping it real" gives the license to be insensitive or rude.

I DO believe in how happy music makes me feel.
I DON'T believe in classifying music (eg black music/white music, there's only music you like or don't like)

I DO believe there's always room to be a better person.
I DON'T believe in the phrase "This is who I am, I can't change"

I DO believe everyone deserves happiness.
I DON'T believe everyone experiences it.

I DO believe in self love.
I DON'T believe self love comes easy.

I DO believe everything will be okay.
I DON'T believe I 100% believe that (lol)

I DO believe God is good.
I DO believe the devil is a liar.

Have a great week ahead people!:)

P.S I just wanted to add that Leggy if you are reading this, I'm sad you've gone private :(