Thursday, October 13, 2016

Friday Randoms

Hi guys. How are yall doing? Are you as bummed as I am that the temperatures have dropped? *sad face* and to make things worse daylight savings is round the corner. Ah well, time to bundle up and for the fashion people who won't let us hear word, time to show off their fashionz. I saw someone bundled up the other day. Coat, scarf, boots the works. I am like geez, its still high 60's/70's. Let's observe some calm. There will be plenty of time to dress for the actual cold. Here we go on some randoms:

I don't like when women call their friends "girlfriends". I dunno, just sounds odd to me.

What is faith? How do you find faith? If your faith has not truly been tested, do you really have faith?

I thought it was a phase but clearly guys, I am still struggling :(

Was talking to a friend about her relationship and she just blurted out that relationships are so much hard work and "98.7% people are lying about their relationships and most won't confess about their hardship till you say your own" I put that in quotes cuz that was what she said verbatim.

I think that people often think that the path not chosen might have been a better choice but they don't realize that it almost always seems like the better choice because it is the path that wasn't traveled.

I am watching this show and while I think that I am pretty open minded, I gotta say that I don't know that I will be comfortable dating a trans person (I hope this isn't offensive)

This just made me wonder if the above is in the same vein as maybe a white person saying I don't know that I will be comfortable dating a black person. racism or preference?

All that to say that a lot of  Nigerians seem to think they are modern and open minded and really honestly aren't.

I was in London not too long ago and its much colder there. All the men are in sweats or joggers as they prefer to call it so basically it's dick print galore over there. My cousin was like do they not care that there's just walking around with a protrusion. They don't care or they don't know how to pack it?

That being said, some men aren't capable of having bulges. Their flat fronts are always...flat. Which is not indicative of anything. :)

Is there an equivalent of down low brothers for gay people? i.e a self identifying gay person (not bisexual) who is secretly having sex with members of the opposite sex

A friend of mine said one of the weird things about marriage is there's just certain things you can't talk about. For example, when you have a completely bad ass session with a chick you tell your boys but that's something you can't do with a wife. That gave me all the lolz.

A teacher in my gym class said if she could afford it, she would have more kids because she enjoys being pregnant and would totally be a surrogate. Made me wonder how many white surrogates have carried black children.

It's so weird to me when virgins say things like "it was an orgasm in my mouth" or "orgasm to my eyes". Yes I know they might be virgins who self pleasure. But still weird to me. Nobody said I made sense all the time.

I tweeted today about how Naija women will complain about Naija men die and yet stay loyal to them and date noone else but them. Not unlike how black women stick to just black men. Funny enough, in both groups the men don't hesitate to look beyond and fulfill their own happiness. I wonder why that is.

Okay guys. That's all I got. Have a wonderful weekend. Stay safe and stay blessed. Oh and please visit www,

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Sunday, September 11, 2016


I don't know how many of this I have done but here we are again - another birthday.

I am grateful for seeing another year and this year was interesting. I am a huge birthday person but I think this birthday has solidified for me that it won't exactly be the same for me anymore.

I try to do something for my birthday every year and this year was no different. I was especially looking forward to it because two months ago my body betrayed me and I had to recuperate from that ordeal. I looked forward to my birthday and the trip I had planned with some of my dearest friends. I was looking at it as a thanksgiving and celebration and just grateful to be able to see another year. But on the day, I noticed I just wasn't as gingered as I usually am. I just couldn't stop thinking about my mom and how it's still so weird, we are going through moments in life without her here. I did my best to be upbeat but I acknowledged it. Last year, I figured because it was the first without her, it was normal but I guess this will be the new normal.

That being said, as it was an internal emotion, I had a great birthday filled with a lot of fun and awesome people. Thank God for another year and a hope that he grants many more filled with better days and blessings. Thank you to everyone who wished me a happy birthday, I appreciate yall and thank you for still hanging on to this blog!!!

Have a great week ahead!!

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Friday Randoms

Happy Olympic season to you and yours. I totally forgot the Olympics was this year. Even after I found out, the news reports and athletes dropping out weren't building up the ginger but it's been an eventful one and everything is more fun when you watch it with the twit fam. Kudos to each and every single athlete for their dedication to their sport and to the record breakers, I bow. Lots of back to school ads on TV which means school will soon be back in session which means summer is almost over :(

Speaking of Olympics, I am not sure I know where I stand on the whole drama surrounding Semenya's gender - which I thought was settled in the last Olympics. Technically, she is a man - with high testosterone and no womb but I guess she has a vagina? so where does she stand?

I am not a fan of young people who act like they know and have seen it all. I think there is a sweetness to being young and naive. It reminds me of like a kid who thinks they are grown.

I am also a bit unnerved by people who show no vulnerability. Like you gotta be bionic man/woman to be able to have it together 24/7.

Big life decisions are so scary. How do you know whether it is right or wrong? Risks are sometimes needed but after a certain age, can you afford some of these risks?

It's been some time now, but I noticed that there was not as much emotion for the first female presidential nominee as there was for the first black nominee. I get it. Hilary is hated (still not sure why as she is not the first politician to lie or be crooked) but I can't seem to shake it off that it is because she is a woman that she is held under much more scrutiny. It's funny, I think I know more men than women who like her.

"Your friends are only as good of  a friend as you are"

I don't like when Nigerians who live in the US bash the US. If you really feel Naija is a better place to live in why are you still here? There's no answer that justifies it. The fact that you even had to come here for any reason even if it is just school signifies a deeper problem in Nigeria. Even if you say you are waiting to make money, why can't you make it in Naija?

My wife is a prude she's not really sexual. How does that work? You didn't know that before you married her?

It's such a huge inconvenience taking things to Nigeria for people. Sometimes its not even the actual carrying but the logistics of whoever is getting it over there. It is such a pain. Nigeria is not a place you make plans, you never know where you will be.

I don't think it's cute to wear your flaws like a badge of honor. It's nothing wrong in recognizing it, being aware and work on it but to borderline brag about it is a bit weird.

I think if you are blessed in your life, say you have lived a life of privilege or you have had few and far between hardships in your life etc, I think one should embrace it and be thankful of it rather than create situations to "fit in" with people who may be the opposite.

Support a sister and tell a friend to tell a friend to visit

That's all I got. I am a bit rusty but hope you all have a wonderful and blessed weekend.

Friday, August 5, 2016

Happy Friday

Checking in and saying Happy Friday. Hope everyone is doing well. Everyone have a good weekend.

Saturday, June 11, 2016

Blind(ing) Faith

Yesterday my TV was on WEtv and "Stepmom" happened to be playing. I hate watching movies on TV so it was more background noise as I read a book. I did however catch a scene where the mom, dying of cancer has an honest talk with her children about when she is gone and leaving an it inspired my blog post.

See, when my mom passed part of my anger and sadness was the fact that we never "said goodbye" so to speak. Never asked all the questions I had, had all the discussions or the advice one gets when you think you will be losing someone. As I have randomed before, I don't think I expected my mom to die - which in retrospect is something seeing as all the signs were there and the doctors kept trying to tell us in the best way possible that there was nothing else that could be done.

Which brings me to blind faith. I had a serious crisis of faith after my mom passed. It was like being hit and being shaken off my axis. It has been an intense struggle and one I am still struggling with and nothing seems to be helping. Watching that scene, just made me wonder whether faith helps or hurts. If I didn't feed into the typical Nigerian faith would it have been different, would I have made peace and feel better now.

I think about how every time all the signs would point to "not good at all", my first thought would be to chastise myself for not standing strong in my faith and believing that she would be cured vs. facing the realities of what was happening. My aunty and some other Nigerian people who I reached out to for prayers, scolding me when I tried to vent and saying stop thinking like that, just believe! and now I am kicking myself.

How do you separate faith from blind faith. I just heard a story of a couple that have been trying to have a kid for years. Due to health issues, she had to resort to IVF. 4 tries and it didn't work. Doctors said she had a less than 5% chance of getting pregnant and leaning towards giving up. She didn't and had faith and now she's pregnant. When do you know when to keep on trying and believing and when to give up, face realities and make allowances to prepare and adjust.

Faith requires suspending all logic and trusting completely in God. But as we don't know his overall plans or what is happening here , how do you forge ahead. I understand how it gives hope and helps one deal but I also see how it hurts especially being Nigerian. Every thing is seen as demonic, people with mental issues are not being helped because God will take care of it, things aren't being frankly discussed because you are thinking negative and you have to believe and think positive. When does faith become blinding.

Thursday, May 26, 2016

Friday Randoms

Hi guys. it's been a long time. My hubris led me to my last post thinking you guys were missing me and I would be flooded with suggestions and inspirations. The big fat crickets in my comment box brought me back down to earth. Hehe. How now. How have you guys been. I've been okay, just living life day to day. I am super stoked that summer has finally arrived. Like we are hitting 90's now and I am so happy to see the sun. I am also grateful for the upcoming memorial day holiday. Ain't doing shit but bumming is fun too. I think I am burnt out from work. Anyways, here are some randoms...

I've never really understood the obsession with life on earth after death. I have a friend who is so obsessed with leaving a legacy which isn't wrong at all but my mindset has always been do the best you can while here and be good and kind to those around you and when you're dead issalloverjackie.

It irks me when people hide their ages. I think it reeks a little bit of insecurity. Met a girl recently at a conference and we were talking about a topic that was age dependent but she went all out of her way to hide it and made it such a big deal, it was just annoying. I've never been one to be coy about my age but maybe I am missing something. What could possibly be a good reason to hide your age

Is it weird or normal to wish a non mother happy mother's day

It's quite a shame that girls can't just do what they want sexually without worrying about their reputations while men are just slanging it out there with not a care in the world about being labeled hoes.

I want to be the kind of girl that makes her bed everyday :(

If you follow me on twitter, then by now you should know that I have been binge watching Gilmore Girls from beginning. I have made it to Season 4 (it's 7 seasons) and I just wanted to say that I hate Lorelai so much and Rory is just a yoruba demon disguised as an innocent girl

Is entertaining something that comes with being married/being a couple or is it something that's just innate in people. I noticed a lot more of my married friends tell me more about having friends or other couples over for dinner but I don't think I notice that with my single friends.

Speaking of entertaining. I am definitely not an entertainer or host. Just the thought of it gives me anxiety. i have to be like uuuuubber comfortable with you to cook for you. I am no slouch in the kitchen but I often wonder what I would serve if I was hosting people. I still can't think of a menu.

It takes nothing for a driver to get me so revved up. Happened to me this morning and I was so embarrassed for myself. But some people drive so stupid, I don't even understand why it gets me so riled up. It's not worth it.

"Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it"

Someone posted an article on marriage not being an accomplishment. While it is not something that I think will be admitted out loud, I think in some little way, people consider it to be one. Especially in our naija culture. And I don't necessarily consider it a negative.  I have had a friend tell me she doesn't know how she would handle it if she was single and my age. So isn't being a certain age and being married an accomplishment (my question mark button doesnt work). Also, when people date, isn't the end goal usually marriage and when that is achieved that's an accomplishment, no

It's not news to me that the way men and women see attractiveness is quite different. K Michelle is an example. Her disproportionate self is just .... to me but I know a couple of guys who don't see it as anything. But then again, I always tell my guy friends that they won't use ass to kill them.

It's really not fair that men can procreate till the day they die and women have a shelf life

Which makes me ask...if you tink am really well, all belief suspended and with logical mind, if you read the bible, doesn't it seem like Christianity doesn't like women. Are there any self identified feminists that have a hard time reconciling that with being Christian

That's all I got for you guys. I hope you have an enjoyable holiday weekend. Eat, drink and be merry and stay safe!

Thursday, May 12, 2016


Hi guys. Just waving. I have not forgotten about my blog, i just haven't had anything that has inspired me enough to write so I am coming to you guys for ideas. If you have any suggestions please feel free to mention. I am all ears. Have a lovely weekend guys!