Self Care While Adulting

We are thick in to the summer and I hope you guys are enjoying the warm weather. I am a summer baby and will always always prefer the heat to the cold so I am grateful for the warm weather to step out and not need a jacket or a coat.

Unfortunately, good weather doesn't always make your problems go away and we still have to adult. Adulting comes with so many commitments and priorities that we sometimes forget to stop and smell the roses and take some time out to enjoy life or take care of ourselves. We take it for granted that our bodies will keep going and our friends and family will be there waiting for us when in reality, life changes in seconds. Whether from good to bad or bad to good.

I came across this on twitter and thought these were good guidelines to practice. Figured I'd share. It says to schedule this sometime every month:

1. Lunch date with a friend
2. 24 hours with no social media
3. 1 day outdoors
4. 1 night out with friends
5. 1 date night (even if it is with yo…

Friday Randoms

I've been a bad, bad blogger. It's so amazing how time sneaks up on you and suddenly its been a hot minute since you have done friday randoms. How are you guys doing in these perilous times we are living in? This week alone we heard of so many losses in Nigeria, preventable losses that is. Let's not even address what is going on in America. Everything is just lining up in favor for our "leader" to continue to spread his evilness, we have had yet another shooting and I don't even know what the hell is going on anymore. Today I tweeted that this might have been what the Bible meant by the end times because everything happening is like emotional and mental warfare and it's just too much.

On the bright side, what an exciting World Cup!

Let's random.

We as humans are quite anecdotal. We'll know one or two people doing something and we will say "everyone i know or a lot of people I know are doing xyz"

The groupthink on social media is truly ou…

Happy Birthday, Anthony Bourdain

Can you believe it has been almost 3 weeks since Anthony Bourdain passed away? Today would have been his 62nd birthday.

The whole situation combined with Kate Spade's is just a sad situation but if nothing else we are in a time where more people are taking notice of mental awareness and being encouraged to speak out more and reach out to people when you need help.

I have been through my dark moments and I know how hard it can be to actually seek out the help so as not to seem like a bother so I can't imagine how much more harder it is for people who go through depression and deep mental issues and aren't really in control of their thoughts.

In some communities, it's almost like taboo to seek professional help but my hope is that more and more people get comfortable seeking that help.

For anyone looking for help or needing a push, we are lucky to be in a time of technology where we can find almost anything online. If you need to take baby steps and maybe talk to someone…

Good Family

I was talking to a friend who lives in Nigeria and she brought up how, in the quest to marry her off she was set up with a guy. When she asked why they thought they'd be a good match, she was told he is Igbo and "from a good home" and that's all you really need. Social media people always type up essays implying not having a good relationship with a parent ruins your dating life and it is oh so important and many other things along those lines.

From a good home.

I've heard this statement so much. What does this even mean? Why does it hold so much weight? Should it hold so much weight? Is it fair to judge a person by that?

Even though I hear it so much among Nigerians, I know it is not strictly a Nigerian thing. But focusing on Nigerians who are the champions of presenting the best face while suffering behind it, how do we define a good home?

If a person has a parent that's an addict is it fair to judge what the kid is? If a person loses a parent early and the…

Friday Randoms

Wow. Somehow it's been two months. My sincere apologies. But once again, life is kicking my ass and so much going on. I really did have material but just getting the chance to sit and transfer on here was a hassle. How is everyone doing with the advent of Q2 2018? Time is already flying. I thought spring would never come but we are finally getting warm weather here. I left my house today without a coat so yay to that.

This whole Tristan Thompson/Khloe Kardashian saga. Whew. All I can say is what a shame. What is the appeal in dating an athlete when they have shown over and over again they can't be trusted? Also, if you know you want to cheat, you are like taller than the average person, you are not discreet. Unless he wanted to be caught? Just a mess I tell ya. Let's not even touch our president. Seeing as I just found out he had a love child from the 80's?? like whet? From FBI raiding, to people testifying, being fired or quitting. I can't even. Let's mini-ran…

Friday Randoms

We are halfway through February! Felt like January took forever and now we are whizzing through February. Weather is still cold but nothing too terrible. It just keeps fluctuating between low temperatures to mid-decent. Looking forward to the advent of Spring though. Nice weather is always welcome.

2018 has been okay so far. Okay, not meaning without its trials but I am trying to enjoy my 2018 as much as I can and handle disappointments as best as I can, especially the things I cannot control. I'm trying not to overthink and to just go with the flow and maybe the Universe will be kind to me. In that vein, I tried something I had never done before and went skiing last weekend and it was terrifying guys!! I took a lesson and many falls and practice later, I got the hang of it and it was a bit exhilarating but I was stressed for most of the time. Here's to many more exhilarating moments in the year.

Let's random.

I really hope people with good health really and truly apprecia…

Friday Randoms

Happy Friday guys. Thank God for making it to the weekend. Even though it felt like it took forever for it to get here. How about this winter, huh? Just showing up and showing out. Even our friends in the south are part of the party. It's payback for the mild winters we have had. How's everyone's first month going? Still feeling gingered and optimistic and sticking to intended goals? Hope your answer is yes and if it isn't remember every day is a new day. New day to start over and begin again.

Let's random.

Talking to a friend about legacies and impact on people when you die and I think unless you are a truly heinous person, everyone becomes a hero when they die. It could be the most minute thing or even if it is that this person was the life of the party or a random high school/college memory for the most part people are remembered as remarkable.

Life is hard guys :(

Perspective is such a tricky thing. It's amazing how we can see things from one perspective an…

Happy New Year

Happy New Year guys. Hope everyone had a wonderful holiday. I had a wonderful holiday and a reminder that family is everything. The only bad part about the holidays is post-holidays when you have to go back to reality and face all the aftermath of the things you pretended didn't exist - work, calories, bills/bank account, real life everything.

There's a sect of people every year who question people that choose to see the new year as a fresh start and say what's different? every day regardless of date can be a day for a fresh start. I don't see why it matters. To each their own. There is a reason we have markers in life - birthdays, anniversaries etc. it's just how it works. You can't pick and choose.

I like to see the new year as a fresh start but as the years go by it has become depressing because each year I seem to be faced with seeing my failures vs. my accomplishments (since people like to tell me they exist). I remember the first time I saw the saying &qu…

2017 Year in Recap

I really hate doing these but I think they are good as someone who is not good at maintaining memories, it's good to have these things down so you can look back and see how far you have come or how you are still in the same place.

Overall, I think I had a pretty decent year. I started out 2017 with all the hope and expectations in the world. I even followed through and made a vision board. I am not sure if I will ever do one again. Here's the thing, I am one of those people that aren't really stuck on goals and outlining stuff because my life has shown me that it doesn't follow an outline and always turns me on my head because there are things I did not account for and that changed everything else.

Sooo that's a long way of saying that nothing on my vision board was really achieved which doesn't necessarily translate to a bad year. I had two things that I'd consider major dings that happened to me this year but you know what? I've gotten quite used to m…

Friday Randoms

This is probably going to be the last randoms for the year and it's unfortunate it's going to be a lame one as I only have less than a handful of randoms. But I figure I'd just give a little something. I thought about combining it with a Year in Recap post but I figured that didn't go together. I am traveling for the holidays and can't figure out how to pack my stuff without worrying about it being too heavy. I always want to travel light but as an overpacker, I always fail on that front.

Here are my handful of randoms:

Everytime I travel with someone or just in general there's always much ado about sunset. Don't get me wrong, sunsets are pretty but are there differences in sunsets? Do people really appreciate it so much or have we just been told that it's something we have to make a fuss about.

There's something unfortunate about being the boisterous one in any kind of relationship and maybe boisterous is the wrong word. Maybe the more outspoken on…