Thursday, October 31, 2013

Is your heart closed?

What's a conversation if men/relationships/marriage doesn't come up, eh?

Had the following convo with a (married) friend. To give a heads up, I had asked my twitter people if catholics could marry non catholics and vice versa. My friend in question is catholic and married a catholic. Ok here's the convo (snippet):

Her: Marriage is already hard enough to add a really deep factor and some people faith and church doesn't matter to them For me. It's number 1. That then everything else, cos a man centered around God is by default a good man. And the catholic faith is a tad different. I need us to be in sync.

Me:   I agree. Now let me find a man first before worrying about all that.

Her: A man will find you. Open your heart.

Me: Is it closed?

Her: You tell me. There is a true opening of heart. I can't explain it. But if you examine yourself you'll know.When you're solid in yourself. When you know what you truly want. When you are ready for God's gift. You'll get it. When you want something, you have to live your life according to that which you want. You can't want it and do everything contrary. 


Okay my lovelies, I won't taint this too much with plenty story. All I want to hear is what do you think? What are your thoughts as you read this?

Happy Halloween!




Thursday, October 17, 2013

What is the biggest lesson you have learned in Marriage?

I know I haven't had randoms in a while but men, life is on a long ting right now with me so my thoughts have been everywhere but not just here. I did have a random question I decided to take one step further. My title says it - What is the biggest lesson you have learned in marriage? I asked a whole bunch of my friends who are married. I should mention all the people I asked are in marriages that are less than 5 years old. The first 3 people I asked all said the same thing - "patience". So, ladies and gentlemen, find your patience! As impatient as I am, Lord knows I need his healing powers in this area. Anyways, below are the answers that I received. Hope you enjoy or find a nugget or two.


"As a newlywed, I would say being supportive and exhibiting being supportive is one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned from marriage thus far (closely following the need for an abundance of patience and the importance of communicating and solidifying unified ambitions).  Many times couples fail to be the cheerleader one another needs.  When I say cheerleader, I don’t mean the transient “you can do it!” and “go you!” but rather I mean demonstrating support by getting involved.  I find I have greater satisfaction in pursuing (and accomplishing) personal targets/goals when my husband takes an interest in them and participates in making sure they are realized. Likewise it is extremely disheartening when he fails to do so. He would certainly say the same from his perspective. Support, although seemingly trivial, is vital in cementing a sense of genuine partnership and love in a relationship"

"Till death do us part is a loooooooooooooooong contract"

"You are going to have to do a bunch shit that makes NO sense to you... but seem to matter a great deal to her"

"When she comes to me with a problem, she is rarely ever looking for a solution. Instead she is looking for pampering. That is one of the hardest things to have to adapt to"

"You can think it, but you don't have to speak it. Holding your tongue is way more important than honesty"

"Press reset and pick your battles. Leave hurts, anger etc behind and start each day like the day you got married"

"I can finally understand why people get divorced. Marriage is and can be sweet but there are times that you're like wtf is this and if you don't marry your friend, you're screwed"

"Choosing your battles and understanding that no one is perfect, including me"

"Don't do it"

"Start the way you want to finish and don't lose your identity"

"Keep my mouth shut"

"When we are wrong we say I'm sorry. It clears the air so fast and restores peace. We say thank you a lot for the big and small things, makes each person feel appreciated"

Okay I think these are all the quotes. I collected all these a while ago and just didn't post. Anyways, have any faves? Married folk please feel free to add any in the comment section. Have a wonderful weekend guys!

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Fan Friday

Hi guys, I know I have begged before and I am begging again. I have a segment on my sister site (www.taynement.com) called Fan Friday where anyone gets an opportunity to rave about any pop culture topic that they are passionate about. I received some entries and thank you to all who sent in, I truly appreciate it. BUt I need more:(. Please let me know if you have a submission or you can email me at taynement@gmail.com.

Below is a link that explains the rules for the write up:

http://taynement.com/fan-friday-rules-explained/

Let me know if you have any questions and you can have more than one entry. Hope to hear from some of you guys soon! Have a lovely day!