Friday, December 25, 2009

Friday Randoms

Merry Christmas my people, I hope you are having a wonderful time, if you having the christmas blues just try a little and try as much as you can to enjoy the day. Let's have a serving of Christmas randoms shall we?:

So, I've been wallowing in selfpity that I couldn't be in Nigeria this christmas. Woe is me. Instead of me to focus on the fact that I am alive and have wonderful friends and I have the ability to go to Nigeria whenever I want and I already did once this year. Thankfully, christmas is here and I am actually in good spirits, so yay for that.

Britney has this hot song called "3". There is a line in it that goes "living in sin is the new thing". I have to say I feel uncomfortable singing it, for the most part I alter that line.

I saw an ad for this cool feature on blogger. They turn your blog posts into a book for you and all you have to choose is the cover page. I think that's pretty neat.

I am in Houston for the holidays and I have to say that the difference between Lagos and Houston is getting very blurry. They don't freaking know how to drive in this place, as soon as I got in I knew I was there because I had already started cussing like a fool.

Speaking of Houston, I went to a mostly naija party the other day and I shit you not there was a chic wearing a leotard.Yup! BeyonceSingleLadiesLeotard!. I kept blinking thinking maybe I had a lil bit too much of the bubbly, but I verified with someone beside me. In her defense, maybe she just came from dance practice?

I watched a movie called The Messenger. Basically, it was military men whose job it was to deliver news to people that their loved ones have been killed in action. That has to be the worst job EVER! The reactions from people were not pretty at all. And they are not allowed to show emotion or have contact with them. Awful!

What do you call people you were talking to/had fwb situations with? You can't call them exes right? I like the term "dalliances".

I've been told that I tend to see things as black or white. As I get older I do acknowledge that there are grey areas. But sometimes I think people use grey areas as a cop out, some things ARE just black or white.

RIP to Brittany Murphy. At the rate celebs were expiring this year, I wonder if other celebs wonder if their time is coming. I detest Perez Hilton but he had this tweet after she died that said Lindsay Lohan and Courtney Love take note and do the right thing.Go to

Beyonce is a blessed human all areas. And that's all I have to say about that.

This feeling of inadequacy I have, something has to be done about it.

Just in case you didn't know, Trey Songz iz the biznezz! and I like that Nikki Minaj chic.

Why have I never had eggnog? Probably because I won't like it.

Watching survivor, these people suffer mayne. They get all emaciated and are under terrible conditions, after all that to now lose must be so dissapointing.

Some dude on survivor said : Some people think I am a jerk, some people think I am nice, I think I have just resigned myself to being misunderstood. I think 99% of people in the world think they are misunderstood.

Do yourself a favor and get you Banky's W Experience and Chris Brown's Grafitti.

I don't have much to say because my aunty just announced the food is ready and I am ready to eat so I can make that White Chocolate Almond icecream my bitch! lol..Have a wonderful christmas my lovelies. I have two songs below for you. Incase you don't read my sister blog, I have Lady Gaga's christmas song below (I am a self proclaimed Gagarette) and also the new Toni Braxton and Trey songz song, I love it!

PS - I am woman enough to admit that I have been meaner than usual to a friend of mine. Yes, SwanBoy I am referring to you. It's not my fault, I have been on some emotional rollercoaster. So, I am not apologizing, just acknowledging the fact.:D

Lady Gaga:


Toni and Trey:


Sunday, December 20, 2009

Taking Stock 2009

I stole this from Lady JuiceGal cuz I thought it was pretty neat. Before I do that, I wanna apologize in advance for anyone who missed my Friday Randoms, it was a combination of forgetfulness and laziness. I apologize and I would be back this friday, promise!.

So I am usually unsure on whether to respond to comments in the comment box because I don't know if anyone comes back to read them, so I'll just reply here.(this was from my last post)

Oje - I am working on the teeth picture ;)

Myne - I wore my braces for exactly 11 months and 7 days. There is a short term ortho program for adults that's usually 6 months but I lost 3 months of no checkups being in naija and I had special situation so it took that long. It was ok and not as bad as I thought cuz they weren't the metal kind, they were enamel colored. Couldn't eat certain foods, and frustrating cuz food usually got stuck. Other mouth activities were the same :)

Vivian and Shade - I don't have to wear the retainers, I got the permanent ones and so they just bonded the front teeth and that's it for me.

Ok back to regular scheduled post!


I honestly don't know how to categorize my faith this year but if there is one thing I can say, it would be that I definitely believed more. I had a rollercoaster year but from early on in the year, I had this unshakeable belief that everything will be ok. I definitely still need to be stronger in my prayers and bible reading which I took steps in. I joined four other ladies who are in different places across the U.s and we had this awesome bible study group every week and that definitely helped. I've decided that even though I have a lot of questions about my chosen religion of Christianity, I am living by one rule which is Love thy neighbour as thy self. I think that encompasses a lot. I am gonna do that and hope for the best.


I was blessed to spend a long amount of time around my family this year and it just confirmed how much I love family and I honestly can't wait to have my own. I still am infuriated by my family but the fact of the matter is when I need them they are there for me. I am thankful that we are all alive and we had additions either by marriage or by birth this year. I pray God always be our center and give us many years of life and laughter.


Ah, the complicated thing. I always say I don't need new friends but what do I know. I gained some new ones and once again, I survived another year without losing any of my main friends. If anything, this year I truly saw the power of friendship from everyone even those that are not close to me. The last part of this year was some tough ting for me and to say I was overwhelmed by all the love I experienced emotionally, financially, spiritually is an understatement. I am a gift person, if I could buy gifts for all I would but for now I can't, so all I do is fall on my knees and pray for every single person by name and express my gratitude and I hope that I can be there for them all whenever they need me. Can I say Thank you one more time? Oh, I also discovered that when things happen and I wanna berate my friends in my head, I try to focus on the positive things about them and remember that I am not perfect either so try to forgive, move on and not focus on the worst.


LOL..what can I say? I'm in debt. It's just what it is. I spent a lot this year and usually when you do that with no source of income coming in it equals debt. I am not a financially irresponsible person. I am very particular about it, I pay my bills on time, I never tire to call my bank/credit card for some wayo they wanna play on me, my credit score is in the 700's, I don't hear cute shoes and clothes screaming out my name and the list goes on. By God's grace, I can put a dent on it next year and not add to it, cuz debt sho ain't cute!


School went well this year, and I am still on the path of getting my MBA. As for career, I am still a bit fuzzy. I know what I want to do but I am not sure where to start from. I got myself a mentor so that should help. I think my heart is in Nigeria but is it me giving up on trying any harder in U.S? I don't know. I do have a fear that my MBA won't mean shit when I am done but I will try my damndest to make sure it isn't so. But in 2010, first and foremost your girl gotta get some kind of job sha. All this economy is getting better is William Hung singing in my ears, because until I have one then all that better thing na yarns.


Whenever someone asks me about this, my instant reaction is to simulate a person's heart flatlining. Ok let me try to think back through the year, I came to some conclusion that I seem to be attracted to emotionally unavailable men. Problem is I don't know how to define emotionally unavailable. I have my own definition but that just makes me delve deeper into why and then into other things I'd rather not and I am back to being ambivalent. This year I met men I really liked but weren't 100% and I met men that were 100% but I didn't like. I did decide that I wasn't gonna do that "talking" thing anymore. Either we are or we aren't. I have made considerable progress from a very painful hurt this year and hope that eventually it will be 100% gone but for now, I am ok with where I am.


I've been good this year physically and I thank God. I am just some pounds heavier than the beginning of the year. My mental well being is in a good place compared to the beginning of the year, whooo!now THAT I'm grateful for, that was NOT a good place. I still have a lot of anxiety and overwhelming feelings that I can't seem to express but all in all I think I am holding up ok.


Addicted to ma blackberry, the internet and everything it comes with namely facebook. I still have my bad habits I am working on. I managed to knock one off. I think I still have an ok social life. I definitely don't go out as much as I used to, my movies and tv show rock the kasbah with me lol. I like to travel and I got to visit 5 states and 3 international countries + Naija, i am grateful for the experience, I got to learn about new cultures and try new food, yum!

Phew, Juicegal that was long! anyways that was my 2009 stock in a nutshell. Feel free to do yours and I am looking forward to reading. Laters compadres!

Friday, December 11, 2009

Friday Randoms

I can't even tell you how hellish this week has been for me and I am glad it's over. In about 6 and a half hours, I will be taking my last final for the semester but I thought I'd take a break and do my randoms now or else I probably won't get to it. Here we go:

Man, I don't know about you but it is so easy to eat away your emotions. You don't even realise how you are just chomp, chomp, chomping away.

I don't know how I kept forgetting to mention it, but I took off my braces about a month ago and I am very pleased with the result. I had a gap that was getting wider by the moment. It's all closed now and my teeth are straight. I smile for no reason now lol

Ladies, how many of you have the thought process that you can get any man you want or set your sights on?

These celebs want to kill us with perfume ads oh. Every second you look at the tv, some celeb is prancing around on a field or beach or something trynna sell us perfume because it's christmas.

I don't know if any of you guys watch Nip/tuck but the character Dr Christian Troy is the most fucked up character I know...makes for good tv.

I think I have come to realise that where long distance relationships are the norm between most nigerians, it's like taboo amongst americans. Very few of them do it or believe in it.

I love living alone but my biggest fear is that I will choke. I have had my food go down the wrong way many times and it's scary.

The bad part about not being completely anonymous is I can't really say everything I might want to say.

I am not a long winded answerer. As in you ask me something its either - yes, no, ok..but my friends, my family and whoever else seem to get on me for that. I don't even realise that I am doing it. To me i ask or you ask a question and you answer that's it. I guess I could try but I don't think I am making progress.

I am still disturbed my lil kids doing pageants. Why isn't it against the law?

I have never had Tomato Soup, but I know that I hate it :D

I envy those who have lived in different states. I never got the opportunity to.

A friend of mine says she doesn't believe that there is a reason for everything. What say ye blogsville?

Ok, instead of an uplifting message to close out, check out this ad/video:


Have a lovely weekend guys and for those taking finals, Good luck!

Monday, December 7, 2009

Just Because..Lyrics

"Her best days will be some of my worst"

"While I'm wide awake she's no trouble sleeping"

"Cause I got time while she got freedom"

"What am I suppose to do
When the best part of me was always you and
What am I suppose to say
When I'm all choked up and you're okay

I'm falling to pieces, yeah
I'm falling to pieces"

"Cause when a heart breaks, no it don't breakeven, even, no"

Lol, no my heart didn't just get broken. I've just been a The Script mode. Been listening to them for the last couple of days and I really like this song and the lyrics. When two people break up, no matter how much they hurt, it's just never even. Like the line says, one person gets (sad) time while the other gets freedom/relief.



Ok the real lyrics I wanted to post were Leona Lewis' "Happy". Feel free to prove me wrong but Leona is my pick for the best female vocalist in the new generation of singers (christina is not in this new crop). She still reminds me of a tranny and I still think she lacks emotions in her performances but I cannot deny her vocal skills.

someone once told me
that you have to choose
what you win or lose
you cant have everything
dont you take chances
you might feel the pain
dont you love in vain
cause love wont set you free
i could stand by the side
and watch this life pass me by
so unhappy but safe as could be

so what if it hurts me
so what if i break down
so what if this world just throws me off the edge
my feet run out of ground
i gotta find my place
i wanna hear my sound
dont care about other pain infront of me
cause im just tryna be happy, yea
just wanna be happy, yea

holding on tightly
just cant let it go
just tryna play my role
slowly diasappear, oooh
well all these tears
they feel like theyre the same
just different faces, different names
get me outta here
well i can stand by the side
and watch this life pass me by
pass me by


Have a lovely day.

Friday, December 4, 2009

Friday Randoms

Hi guys! Happy Friday and Happy New Month to you! As you may have read, I just turned 100, so I am a ripe, old woman ready to boogiieee woohoo!. Ok just kidding, aiite let's do this:

So, if you haven't heard the whole Tiger Woods saga, you are most definitely living under a rock. Such a sad situation. I put on my FB status that I felt sorry for Tiger, a looooong convo ensued over that but one of the comments from 2 male friends of mine was something to the effect of why is she shocked? she married an athlete, she should have expected him to cheat. That made me a little sad, looking around our world it seems like cheating is becoming the norm and everyone is accepting it, does this mean we as humans are not meant for monogamy?

Meanwhile a clever MSNBC caption about the saga was : Crouching Tiger, Hidden Passion. I thought it was pretty clever and put it as my BB status. Unfortunately, most people thought it was my newest addition to a porn collection.

Speaking of my BB, that flashing red light indicating a message has come through makes me happy. Yes, my name is Taynement and I am a BB addict.

Is love/relationship meant to be hard or easy? Should it be easy going or should you have struggles to appreciate your relationship?

The Duggars on TLC are a true example of a christian family. Like their light radiates through them. Everytime I see them, I involuntary smile. I don't know them but I wish them all the best.

Med students, what ailment do I have when everytime I eat, I have this piercing/cramping pains in my stomach? Last time I had that, it turned out to be the ulcer bacteria but that was taken care of with antibiotics, can it return?

I finally saw MJ's "This is it". I thoroughly enjoyed it. Omo, I don't think MJ would have survived the concert, he looked so frail. Anyways, 2 stars were made out of the movie. His leading lady for "The way you make me feel", just had a guest starring stint on 90210 (mekia cox) and the chic who had the guitar solo, Orianthi just had a single released. She is australian and pretty bad on a guitar. This is her video/song -

Dude, I get that sex sells but these videos that are overtly sexy are really getting on my nerves. I don't know why but the new Shakira especially and that beyonce video phone video.

For the first time in my life, I seriously thought about learning how to wear makeup properly.

So my best friend and I think that Anderson Cooper and George Clooney would make a gorgeous couple, what say ye? lol

Why do companies make you upload your resume then proceed to make you fill out an application form with your last few jobs, education history, responsibilities etc etc. Ughhhh!, very annoying.

I have resigned myself to my mother nagging me about marriage. It's like all she ever talks about and is apparently "very worried". I don't understand, should I marry myself? If awon guys no want, what should I do, force them? I tire oooo!

So lately, my insult of choice has been Goat. I don't know why. Some lady cut me off on the road and I mouthed "Goat" to her.

Anybody catch the Victoria Secret show. Were those chicks skinny or were they skinny?!

And signing out with an encouraging thought : Give God what's right, not what's left.

Have a lovely weekend people and try to stay warm. It's hella cold here in TX and I am still waiting for Male Body Warmth lol.

Enjoy this:


Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Keeping it 100!

Woooohooooo! Took me almost 2 years but guess who just clocked 100 posts! Yezzir, it's your girl Taynement. It's been a weird blogging journey, from enduring blog links from my BFF who was obsessed with blogs, to actually reading and finding some interesting stories to actually blogging but with the goal of blogging about just entertainment stuff, which was where I started from in 2007. Somewhere along the line, I deviated and started writing about personal stuff and any other thing but entertainment topics.(Hence the birth of Even though I don't have any specific topic or I don't get as personal as some people, I would like (and hope) my blog has a theme or undercurrent of Encouragement. Everyone has more than enough problems or worries on their plates and in a world full of realists and pessimists, it's every easy to get downtrodden or think you are the only one who goes through or thinks about some certain things. It's also very easy to forget the blessings around you or the little things that pick you up. So cheers to my 100 posts and a future cheers of hope and positivity to my next 100!

Thank you to

- My friends, who were my only audience in the beginning.

- Commenters, who let me know that there are people out there who take the time out to read and give their opinions.

- Followers who took the time out to follow my little blog.

- For people who read and give me feedback offline.

- For blogsville in general for welcoming me and for teaching me many different things.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you all.

Have a lovely day and see y'all on Friday!

Friday, November 27, 2009

Friday Randoms

Happy Turkey and Thanksgiving day people. Hope everyone had something to be thankful for. If your answer is no, dig deeper and I am sure you would find something you are thankful and if not, if you are able to read this, I thank God for you that you have life...and as long as you have life, there is hope. Let's do this, shall we?

Honestly, how did generations before us work out without music in their ears? Like I had this one awesome workout that was filled with Naija music, it was awesome. Soca music is another good one for workout.

Has anyone ever heard of a gay muslim?

Ok so look at this picture and what do you see?:

So, my mind is crazy. Sometimes my friends tell me things or we are discussing things and I totally have some animated cartoon running in my head and I am laughing hard. Sometimes I see things (videos, ads) and think they are so genius example lady gaga's paparazzi, I just think that video is artistically genius. Anyways, I saw that ad and thought it was just brilliant. The pic is a dryer shown as a sick face, combined with the tag line (because you are not the only one who can have a sick day) - brilliant! (who is with me? lol)

Growing older is inevitable, growing up is optional.

I was reading Vivian's blog and she had a line that read: It is days like these that I just get home sick and I long for our Lord to come again. I paused for a moment and wondered if I had ever longed for Jesus to come back? What does that say about my Christian faith if I haven't? I thought that was a deep statement and deeply admirable. I guess I just gotta keep working on my faith :(

I hate being told what to do.

Life is puzzling.

So if you remember reading Just learn the language. I kinda had a true life experience about it. The priest at church decided to bring a spanish priest to give a second homily to the hispanic congregation. I was all fine until he started with being christian means embracing all cultures, I took a look around and wondered why there weren't nigerian, filipino or vietnamese homilies. *shrugs*

My friend is leaving on vacation for about a month, I don't see her everyday but I am still kinda bummed, she is like my anchor, I just like to know she is there :(

So I was reading a SHakira interview and she said when the spice girls ask : Tell me what you want, what you really, really want? That's a deep question. She says most people are not in touch with themselves and they think they are doing what they want but really they are just doing what will please other people. Yay or nay bloggers?

Finally, as per thanksgiving season : May we always be happy and may our enemies know it!

Have a lovely weekend!

P.S - Shout out to the one who called me swan and made me smile when I was in the pits. 'Preciate ya!

Monday, November 23, 2009

Body Image

Hi people, hope everyone had a good start to their week and is looking forward to their turkey day. Anyways, I had this blog written (in my head of course)last week after watching the Janet Jackson interview on ABC. Anyways, as I was watching the interview and looking at the pictures of her over the years, I was thinking to myself, "This woman is one heck of a pretty lady with or without makeup and she has a gorgeous smile". Also, everytime I see Janet, I forget she has a "donk" (booty for those of you that don't know" and I am always like, "where did that come from?" before I remember that Janet has always had one.

As the interview progressed, Robin Roberts (the interviewer) asked her how she didn't see herself as hot as everyone else sees her. Janet went ahead to answer that she doesn't know but she is learning to love herself. Jermaine(Dupri) helped her to accept her booty and realise there was nothing wrong with it, she likes the small of her back and now loves her smile even though she used to think it was like The Joker (the batman movie villain)and it was too wide.

Janet's answer reminded me that most women have these moments (I say most because not all women see a flaw when they look at themselves). I am not one of the most. I have had moments where I have looked in the mirror and wanted to run lol, and I am sure many other women have had those too. From our teenage years all through to *God knows when* we are concerned about our bodies either we are working out to maintain what we have, losing the pounds gained during vacation/holidays, wondering what damage babies will do to our bodies, coveting your neighbor's legs/boobs/ass/abs etc etc. No matter how ambivalent you are somehow or some point or the other you worry about your body.

My personal question is, "How long does this last?" Is this a lifetime thing? Oprah was interviewing Gabby Sidibe (chic who plays Precious) the other day and asked her how she seems unaffected as an obvious non-size 2 and she replied that she had been dieting most of her life and at some point she decided she was just going to love herself no matter what. As cliche as the answer is it really is the truth. At some point, we would have to accept that we can't get xyz and can only make do with what we have. It's ironic that usually that one thing we don't like about ourselves is what our neighbor might like about us like how I loved janet's smile and she didn't. Of course, its easier said than done but to my fellow sister's I hope we all come to that decision to embrace ourselves as is and own what we got. I am halfway there, this summer I decided to try to learn to love what I have. The extra pounds I don't like, I am doing my part to shed at the gym but for the huge feet, the small boobs, the short legs I accept that even though I wish they were different, that is what God gave me and I need to get with the program. For any male reader, I am curious to know do y'all have the same insecurities?

Have a great week people and lots of blessings your way :)

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Friday Randoms

Not in a pleasant mood so here we go :

First off, LucidLillith I haven't forgotten about the topic, but I read the magazine at a nail place and I thought I would be able to find it online but I can't. So I'll search some more and if not, I'll just write off of memory.

I don't know who is more annoying that has been doing press rounds lately : Carrie Prejean or Sarah Palin. Carrie Prejean is just a dislikable, obnoxious mumu with solo sex tapes and Palin's voice alone makes me itch. I am sure it didn't help that I watched the Obama documentary right before her Oprah interview.

I need the warmth of a man's body asap, don't judge me!..sigh, if wishes were horses. I never seem to get what I want :(.

Speaking of warmth, how on earth do priests and nuns do it. I mean yes they are humans and they probably err every now and them and get theirs but for those that do honor their vows, how do they survive? No touch, No kiss, no nothing. Well I guess that's where the strength from God comes in.

Someone said : Trying to forget someone you love(d) is like trying to remember someone you never knew..Blogsville - yay/nay?

When someone is passionate about their craft and are really good at what they do, it's such a beautiful thing to see.

Somewhere along the line I got defensive about (being)Nigeria(n) and being black.

You guys should check out my friends blog Vivian. She has been writing for a while and has interesting stuff.

One of the things that I read on Vivian's blog that was so true was one of loneliness. I think everyone has those moments, especially if you live overseas without your family. Just that feeling that you are alone and nobody understands you and everyone seems busy. But usually and hopefully it's usually just a phase and you realise that there are other blessings to focus on.

Am I the only one who likes the taste of beer?

I have cried more in the last month than I have in a whole year in the past.

I thought this was hilarious. An atheist that offered to deliver messages for his christian friends after rapture lol. Azazel, I am sure this will interest you --

And signing out with something inspirational - Courage is saying, "maybe what I'm doing isn't working and maybe I should try something else"

Have a good weekend guys

Friday, November 13, 2009

Friday Randoms

Hi my pipus, how you dey? Once again as time is flying, it is Friday again. I just got done with an exam and I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulder. Can't wait for the semester to end. Alrighty, let's hop on the random train, shall we?

I started watching the T.V show L word and one scene kinda put a thought in my head. I am in no way making light of rape but I wondered if a gay woman can rape another gay woman. Also, you know how when a male rapes a female they have these rape kits to prove she was raped, how will they do it in this case, if it is infact possible?

In response to my last post, Ms. Dufa posted a response that said : True. Opinions are like assholes, everybody has one. Hold onto yours and hear other people out, if it suits you, adjust yours and if it doesnt suit you, keep it to yourself and move on. I totally agree with it but I also wanted to add that sometimes just because one decides to keep it to themselves and move on doesn't mean they are passive aggressive. I feel like people feel that if you don't respond vehemently (or rudely in the name of keeping it real) then you are weak/passive aggressive.

I read an article about toxic parents/divorcing parents and this comment made me chuckle - "Nothing spells closure more than a tightly closed coffin lid". That person must have really hated their parent.

I read another article in Essence where a black girl decided to date like a white girl. Dating like a white girl meaning not being very discriminatory and just dating for fun. The writer felt we as black women have it ingrained in our head to date seriously so when we run into dudes with low level jobs eg waiter, driver etc, we x them immediately because what if we fall in love and things are serious, then what?

(My friend asked me this a while ago) But we women are always talking about a good man all the time, but after all said and done and we have all the good on paper characteristics ie college education, good career, cooking skills etc etc. What do we really have to offer emotionally, spiritually, physically etc and are we working on it as we wait?

November is Military Appreciation Month. Shoutout to all the men and women serving and putting their lives on the line for us to live our daily lives normally. Say a prayer for them y'all when you get a chance.

Expectations are a downfall waiting to happen. The sooner we learn not to put our trust in our fellow man the better we'll be.

I honestly do not condone the death penalty and that's all I'm saying about it.

I watched the Khloe Kardashian wedding thing. Well..more power to them, but where was Omarion I thought they were hella tight?

My new car is 8 years older than my previous car. Some may call it regression, but I actually like it. Hope it lasts!

Yuck, I hope I don't become one of those annoying, overly positive people..Nah, I doubt it.

I'm so glad to have my BFF around, even though she leaves in 2 days :( She has been around for two weeks and I have never laughed so hard. I like her easygoing spirit and I can always be myself around her.

And finally, for my blogsville family, remember that : Everything is ok in the end and if it's not ok, then it's not the end.

Hang in there people, have a lovely weekend!

P.S Lucid Lillith, per your last comment on last week's randoms. Pick any random and I'll try to see if i can expand it for ya!

Toodles People!

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Just a thought...

I don't really have a fleshed out post or thought for this but it was just something that occurred to me because I have seen many examples of it in the past week. Why is it as human beings, we tend to discount other people's ideas/opinions/beliefs because it's not in tune with ours? I think I find that irritating really. Like who makes one Lord or Queen that their opinion is rule. I think you can still have an opinion but still be able to realize that just because it is not your reality or part of your life doesn't mean it doesn't mean anything. The world will be a better place if we respected other people's views. The end.

How's everyone doing? Hope the week has been good so far? Take care and see y'all on Friday!

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Friday Randoms

This is ridiculous. How is it time for randoms again.already? na wa oooh. Oya let's go diaaa:

- I'm not no skinny bitch but ever since college I have been pretty active and can hold my own in a gym BUT I HATE working out. If I didn't have to I wouldn't work out.

- To help with my dislike for working out, I try to incorporate my love for dance when I can at gym classes. Like with step class, I try to turn a basic right into a salsa step lol.

- How does one get over a parent committing suicide?

- I LOVE M.I. I confess that every now and then I stare at a picture of him that a friend sent me ever so kindly on my phone.

- I will always always love Sia's "Breathe Me"

- "Tis true that time heals numbs all wounds.

- Everytime I hear any of these songs : Beyonce's "smash into you" and taylor swift's "breathe" and "you're not sorry", I smile. Because this time last year these songs were guaranteed (almost) tear jerkers.

- Ah, the masses on fb have began their countdown to naija. My heart squeezes but my heart still also has faith.

- Don't jealous me because I live in Texas and we still rocking 76 degree weather.

- Aaah, it felt like old times but I had to ground myself in reality.

- I read somewhere that how you were loved when you were younger is how you love when you are older. Feel free to disagree with me but I agree.

- When.will.this.whole.twilight/new moon/robert pattinson. circus END????!!!!! This movie is so overhyped I am so irritated! The boy isn't even fine.

- I wish I had a tv life where everything wraps up in 30 minutes with a solution.

- I saw snippets of Rihanna's interview. Something is dead in that girl, you could see it in her eyes. so sad.

- I tested it out and gave it a chance but I'm sorry that LWKMD with !!! is just annoying, it just seems so..extra. In my head, it just seems like over laughing if that makes any sense.

- My love for TLC is waning. I enjoyed the phase sha.

- So on 18 and counting, a show where this couple have 18 children ( she gave birth to each one and all her girls were posterior births. Anywhoo, I think they are mormons and are strict about it and their oldest son just got married. When they asked the dude about their first kiss, after answering he now said, "I wish I was strong enough to have waited till my wedding day like my son". Well taynement gulped. I didn't know the son waited till marriage to kiss his bride and I was in awe. All you horny dogs and dog-ettes how many of you can do that? lol

I tink darrisall I have, kinda dry this week, eh? deal with it lol.. Have a lovely weekend ma fellow bloggers!

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Ok for real bye!

My latest discovery. This is a lovely acapella song


Tuesday, November 3, 2009

(Lord Have) Mercy on Me

Lord have mercy on my soul
For I have walked a sinful road
That I'm down on my knees
Lord have mercy on me, please

Jesus, I must confess
That in all my loneliness
I've forsaken and I've sinned
Leaving fragments of a man so broken

I could tell you what I've done
Or should I tell you where I went wrong?

Well the more that I start to play
My deceitful, evil ways
Keep on growing stronger by the day

Oh lord have mercy on my soul
For I have walked a sinful road
So I'm gonna get down on my knees
Beg forgiveness to help set me free
Lord have mercy on me, please

Mother Mary full of grace
In my weakness, I've lost faith
I've been careless, and I have been warned
And the devil inside me is torn
God bless the men that I have scorned

So don't let me fool around no more
Send your angels down to guide me through that door
Well I've gone and confessed my regrets
And I pray I'm not held in contempt
I'm so lost, and I need you to help me repent

Oh lord have mercy on my soul
Oh I'm begging, I'm pleading, I'm needing
I want you to know
So I'm down upon my knees
Oh lord, I need forgiveness
I need forgiveness from you

I love this song. Christina Aguilera's vocals are on point in this song. Listening to this song with a good sound system is almost eargasmic. Check it out if you want to:



In other news, in lieu of national write a novel month please welcome a beloved family member of mine to blogsville, Abozelle. She is a writer and will be posting a bunch of short stories. Please feel free to stop by and leave feedback. Thank you much.

Have a good evening/morning!

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Friday Randoms

Hola Amigos! Can you believe it? It's friday already?? This -mber months ain't playing yo..Ok no time wasting here we go:

- Taynement has discovered the joys of TLC.I mean where have I been without Say yes to the dress, Little Couple, Cake boss etc etc. Amazingness, I tell ya lol.

- Say yes to the dress has shown me why it's easy for people to go broke in this country. If you think financing an $11k or $14k dress makes sense to you then what other foolhardy financial decisions are you making?? The cheapest dress I have seen on this show was $2k and I was still balking. Sha sha, I chuckled when the $11k dress owner's fiance cancelled the wedding and she was stuck with it and had only paid $6k. More power to ya elbows oh!

- No matter what they say, looks matter in this world of ours.

- I can't decide if I consider Bradley Cooper hot or not.

- For the first time yesterday, I allowed myself to be proud of myself for actually going out and getting an MBA. Sometimes, I still don't believe it. I am not the typical nigerian person who does well in school naturally. I can't seem to focus enough (probably because I am not interested). So anywhoo, I am glad I stuck it out.

- What is with these movie ticket sellers?:
Taynement says (standing with no one) : One ticket for xyz movie
SATS (Stupid Ass Ticket Seller) says : You said one??


- There is a thin line between forgiveness and mumu-ness. May I never get visa to cross the border to mumu-ness.

- The blog character Enoch makes me laugh.

- So I don't know how to burp. Like the real strong "grrrrrrroooooooowwwwwww" burp. I tried coke sef nothing. Just bought some gingerale and man am I letting it rip. I'm so proud of it.

- The soundtrack to my summer in naija is unarguably Wande Coal's "Mushin to Mo' Hits". Everytime I hear any song from it, I am immediately transported to Naija and I smile.

- He called at 4.54am. What a way to start the day. It was awkward. Why did he call? It was over in 2 mins and 8 seconds.

- Facebook status I fapped : The walls I built around me to keep out the sadness/hurt has also kept out the joy.

- I read this story and the little of the faith I had in humanity died when I read about this. God save us all. 15 year old gangraped by at least 10 people and 10 others watched and noone called the cops ----->

- I was talking to my friend who married young (23). I asked her how she knew he was the one and wasn't she scared? She said na, they had been dating since high school and besides he was such a good guy that she would have been pretty upset if anyone else but her had him, so she snatched that up quick. I loved her answer lol.

- Last week I had two death dreams. They don't freak me out because I have them from time to time ( my earliest memory is 5 years old). I still pray and reject them sha.

- A one minute kiss burns 26 calories. At this point, I will be happy if I burn 1 with a peck sef :(

- Finally, something inspirational. When Lawrence Fishburne was a young actor he featured in PeeWee's playhouse. He was nice and courteous to the security guard. Years later, that security guard wrote a movie and specifically wrote it for Fishburne. That writer was John Singleton and the movie was Boyz n the Hood. So people, be kind to your fellow neighbors cuz you just never know.

Have a lovely weekend mi blogville familia!

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Just Learn the Language

So I caught up on Latinos in America and watched The Garcias version. It was pretty interesting, sad to watch (one of the stories had a girl who went to a high school with a 70% dropout rate. She vowed to not be a statistic but went ahead and got pregnant at 17 and didn't graduate). The one story that caught my attention was the one about the members of a catholic church that seemed to have a division between the Hispanics and the white members. Because of the language division, the church has had to split,they have separate masses, one in english and one in spanish to accommodate the hispanics that can't speak english, they've also had to create a separate church council and organize their social events separately. 6 members from each side were interviewed separately and it was interesting to see the points of views because as with everything when you add religion it becomes tricky.

Soledad asked questions and at one point, one of the members on the "white side" said, "how long are we going to accommodate them?" and my first reaction was, "how unchristian like" then Soledad asked if they were going to attend the fiesta that the Hispanics were having and she answered with a no, because it's a two sided thing, the hispanics don't come to their events either ( I should mention that at this point the lady had started crying and was upset about the rift). Switch over to the "hispanic side" and they are saying they will be upset if the whites don't come to their event but they admit that they do not go to theirs either.

Well what happens next is of course, taynement starts to think :D..That lady's statement came to mind, "How long do we have to accommodate them?". Why do the hispanics feel like we owe them accommodation in terms of speaking english? Many of the people mentioned have lived here for years and still can't speak a lick of english. The documentary gave working many hours as the reason why most of them didn't have time to learn but I don't know if it's safe for me to call b.s on that. If you decide to enter America to pursue the American dream, the language of the American dream is English, how do you fulfill that dream without understanding the language? How is it that other people are able to come into the country and learn the language? I mean if my grandma came to yankee today, I don't think my parish has Igbo mass to accommodate her. Basically, what I am trying to say is, I totally understand having a hard time not being able to speak the language but where I totally feel no pity is when you decide not to even try to learn the language. Fellow bloggers, wetin you feel?

In other race related news (lol) check out my latest entry on

Sunday, October 25, 2009


My CILy sent this to me. I usually delete forwards but I liked this. My favorite was #22. Others were #10, #24 and #11. Enjoy and feel free to share your favorites :

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4.. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it..
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't mess up the present..
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ''In five years, will this matter?".
26. Always choose life.
27. Forgive everyone everything.
28. What other people think of you is none of your business..
29. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
30. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
31. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
32. Believe in miracles.
33. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
34. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
35. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
36. Your children get only one childhood.
37. All that trul y matters in the end is that you loved.
38. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
39. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
40. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
41. The best is yet to come.
42. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
43. Yield.
44. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

Friday, October 23, 2009

Friday Randoms

Can you believe it's friday already?

First off, I want to thank each and every one of you for your comments on my last post. It was one of those days and I honestly didn't know when I just picked up the computer and wrote. Once again thank you so much, I really appreciated it.

I have never been to Disney World. I really want to, so it's on my list of things to do.

I absolutely LOVED Nice Anon's most recent post. She seems like someone with an awesome personality and I absolutely applaud her.

So I wonder, these women on Dancing with the Stars, do they ever have their period? or at the very least, do none of them have heavy flow? I mean every week someone's leg is being spread open in the air with some man's face between it. maybe it's just me.

Is it weird to be fascinated with death?

Sometimes I hear how some young 'uns sound and I wonder if I ever sounded that well..stupid.

I saw this on someone's status : Everyone, at some point, wakes up in the middle of the night w/the feeling that they are alone in the world & nobody loves them. That they will never have a decent night's sleep again & will spend their lives hoping desperately that their circumstances will improve, but suspecting they will remain unloved 4ever. The best thing to do in these circumstances is to wake somebody else up so they can feel this way too.....if you've never felt that way..well..hooray you :)

I listened to BSB's "Shattered" on repeat today. Not because I was relating to the lyrics but I just really think its a good ballad.

Does anyone ever have that feeling where you don't want the dude, you know he is not even right for you but everytime you see him with someone else your heart squeezes just a teeny bit?

I think I have started preparing my mind for the fact that I will not be in Nigeria this december. I won't lie I am still hoping for a miracle - blogsville join me in prayer!-

So I have this new habit of forgetting my purse when I go out and realizing it at the wrongest time. Tres embarrasing, if I say so myself.

And me thinks we are back to square one, but it's for the best.

Are we all equal in God's eyes?

I'm lacking some kind of vitamin. My body has chosen to tell me so. My googling tells me it is Vitamin B. I guess this proves that the multivitamin gummies ain't working.

My body is itching to travel.

Mon dieu! I can't stand Tracy Morgan.

I think it'll be nice to go out one of these weekends. I really just want a party that has today's music and some nice naija gbedu. Wishful thinking sha, all my friends are mostly married and comfortable staying home or have kids. Am I too old to make new friends? Nyeh, it's too cold to start. maybe in the spring, yea?

I wonder if I can write a poem?

Second Guessing will be my downfall. I do that way more than I should.

Hope you guys have a lovely weekend. Be good and Be easy!

Monday, October 19, 2009

So so bummed.... how I feel today. No energy to even type details or even think about it. I can't ask why for the millionth time and I can't blame myself yet again. Mummy says don't lose hope, just keep having faith. So that's what I'll do. I feel like a runner whose legs have been run over and is in a cast. But I have life, as long as there is life there is hope, so I am sure I can find some fight in me. So i'll try that.

Have a good week guys!

Friday, October 16, 2009

Friday Randoms

I never used to mind but once you have been to as many interviews as I have, I LOATHE the whole job interview process. I mean it's like begging someone for something you know you can do and having your fate in someone else's hands. Yuck!

That being said, it's very distracting when your interviewer is tres cute.

School is kicking my ass!

The little things we take for granted. I was watching Adoption Diaries and man it was so sad to see these women describe their pain on not being able to conceive or carry a baby. That feeling of failing as a woman or as a wife. It can't be easy. I have always said that I don't think Nigerians have that problem lol..we are very fertile.

That being said, i have always been wary of adoption but now I think I am a little more comfortable with it.

Still on the subject of kids, I have wide hips, they call it child bearing hips. Every now and then I wonder if ironically I'd have to have a csection. I can't wait to have my kids.

My friends think human beings are inherently bad and its just a matter of how bad. I don't know if I agree with that.

I am constantly touched by proof of human kindness. I have unexpected people and friends who check up on me and make sure I am okay. Random acts of kindness like that I appreciate a lot.

I think I tell my circle of friends a lot about myself/my life. But as much as I feel I tell, I feel like there is still a lot more I don't share.

After making fun of my best friend for being a child because her multivitamins are the gummy bear kind. Why did I find myself buying a bottle of gummy multivitamins?lol. I did make sure with a doctor that I was getting the vitamins I needed but for someone addicted to gummy worms. I remember to take it when I get a craving.

So on tv shows when they have coffee cups or mugs or something, why don't they ever put water in it so it's not glaringly obvious that it's empty?

I miss the movies, haven't been in 3 weeks.

I still find it amusing that there is a band called MorningWood.

I guess I don't have as many randoms as I did during the week. This is why you should never blog when you are in a blah mood.

Have a lovely weekend guys.

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Italian Joke

Enjoy and have a lovely Wednesday.

2 italians get on a bus. They start talkin. The lady sittin behind them ignores the conversationn at 1st until she hears: Ema cum 1st Den I cum. 2 asses dey cum 2gether. I cum again. 2 asses they cum 2gether again. I cum N pee twice. Then I cum once-a more. I cant believe you! She said. In this country we dont talk bout our sex lives in public! Hey coola down lady. Ima jus telln my friend howa ta spella Mississippi.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009


I know what you´re thinkin´
We were goin´ down
I can feel the sinkin´
But then I came around

And everyone I´ve loved before
Flashed before my eyes
And nothin´ mattered anymore
I looked into the sky

Well we all want something better than
We wish for something new
Well we all want something beautiful
Wish for something true
Been lookin´ for a reason and
Something to lose

When the wheels come down
When the wheels touch ground
And you feel like it´s all over
There´s another round for you
When the wheels come down

Now your head is spinnin´
Broken hearts will mend
This is our beginning
Comin to an end

Well you wanted something beautiful
You wished for something new
Well you wanted something better than
Wished for something true
Been lookin for a reason and
Something to lose

- "Wheels" by Foo Fighters.

Thursday, October 8, 2009

The Nigeria Talk

So unless you were under a rock this week, you must have come across this video of Chimamanda Adichie, a Nigerian author who was speaking on the dangers of a single story. Just in case you haven't the video is below, pretty neat stuff.


Last weekend, I was opportuned to be a panelist at a forum that had the topic of "The State of Nigeria Today" and a lot of things were discussed. COmbined with the popularity of this video on my fb feed that had my many nigerian friends declaring their naija pride and all, made me wonder - When we say I am proud to be Naija, what exactly are we proud of? Let me see if I can express the thoughts in my head better in writing.

See the forum made me meet different people who are passionate about Nigeria. I met a girl who unfailingly peruses most of the naija newspapers online to stay informed about what is going on, I met a guy who personally went through the Naija-Delta ordeal and damn near almost cried when talking about his people and saying how much he hurts. He stood up to the government and had to flee to America to save his life, I met American-born Nigerians who were proud but were not really sure what they were proud of and were just trying to learn and soak in all the knowledge they could about Nigeria.

It seems like a couple of years ago the movement of "moving back to Nigeria" started. It was like we have to go back and help our people oh! and if you had no interest in it, you were looked at as a traitor. Now there are people out there who bleed the green, white, green and there are majority of people who are like me who care but don't care enough. I am not saying that we should be proud about it but let's be honest about it. In this country if you say you are patriotic, that means something like 9/11 happens and they rush to go serve and die for their country. But for most Nigerians, it seems saying I am proud to be Nigerian means showing 5minute support, enjoying naija music and then complaining and listing all the bad things about Nigeria while chilling in our 24/7 electricity apartment with uninterrupted internet connection. I remember when the lightupnigeria movement started, I won't lie I scoffed at it and was like what's the point? But I have thought about it and decided that I give the organizers mucho props, even if it doesn't succeed, it won't take away from the fact that they tried.

Basically, I think what I am trying to say is that we should be honest with ourselves when claiming the Naija thing. I don't think it's by force to move back. Me personally, I am not moving back because I want to change the nation but because me sef wan enjoy opportunity. I do feel it is everyone's duty to give back in any way they can because like it or not it is our country but I don't think it involves moving back. My own personal mission is to run our embassies in Yankee. The whole system irritates the shit out of me enough to light a fire in my ass (for real). I would drop whatever I am doing if someone just told me to come down,run the embassy and just change the image. I think my friend's status said it best, he is an American born Nigerian and his status read : "I realize that, for me, Nigeria is heritage...not home."

We are all different people, some are passionate, others not so much. Doesn't take away the fact that we are all Nigerian but let's just be honest about where we stand and not say things because it's what we are supposed to say.

*Hope I made some kind of sense. Have a good day y'all!

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Friday Randoms

I don't know if it's the dress I wore..if I gained weight...or if it's just always been like that but all I know is I looked in the mirror and my ass is too big.(ass in these sense means my actual nyansh, lol)

I'm glad I studied well for my test, it went well, Thank God. I like my teacher even if he is an equal opportunity offender. He is Turkish and just says whatever but we know he is not being mean so it's funny. I'll give an example. After every exam, he takes us out for pizza and drinks so when the vegetarian pizza came in his heavy accent he was like, "Indians, come and get it, no meat!" lol!.

For someone who constantly puts their foot in their mouth, its pure bliss being in your own company.

I talk to my mom a lot but lately it feels like a chore to call.

When it rains it pours.

Dear God, I need you now more than ever, I need a miracle, sign anything.

This is going to be an interesting journey, I think I am supposed to learn a particular lesson. We'll see.

My hair is usually on point but when crayfish bend, situation changed. I am embarassed.

Looking forward to my event tomorrow. I am still terrified because its somewhat public speaking but that's exactly why I agreed to do it. My fears will not rule my life.

If wishes were horses...

How could I have ever thought I would get tired of Wande Coal's cd?

I truly, really miss my naija peeps. I wonder if the feeling is mutual.

She said to me, "You know the answer deep down in your heart". Is she right? do i? I really don't know.

I refuse to go back to my old job. I know some people will think I must not be desperate enough but I can't explain how I felt there and I don't expect anyone to understand. All I know is I will not regress only progress.

I really and truly hope TV watching is not a sin. If not I am screwed.

I am elated for my brother. He passed his bar exam and is officially going to be a barrister in November. Wouldn't it be the coolest if I could just fly down and surprise him?? If wishes were horses. I love that boy die.

How does he sleep at night? Why do I still care?

I admire people with talent.

Tomorrow the sun will come up and I will smile

He who started it will finish it. Remember that, Taynement. Amen.

Have a lovely weekend guys!

Sunday, September 27, 2009

Taking Responsibility (?)

So I love Michael Buble. MB has a new song out called "Haven't met you yet". The song is pretty much about the quest for love but one line in the song stood out to me. MB sings, " I'm not surprised, not everything lasts, I've broken my heart so many times, I've stopped keeping track".

Ok so I liked the fact that he used "I" instead of "She". See as humans we always say, she/he broke my heart. But his use of I made me think that he probably used it the right way. At what point do we take responsiblity in our part for a break up. I mean I am sure there are exceptions when one party is totally blindsided but in most cases I think we can equate it to same way we say noone can hurt your feelings unless you let them, can this be applied to this too? Bear with me cuz I haven't fully thought this out.Like I said, I am sure there are blindside situations but for the most part there are signs(right?) and if we choose to ignore them and keep on trucking if the heartbreak comes, we played a part in it.

This train of thoughts led to me thinking about something I heard somewhere. Since women always seem to be complaining about being done wrong, if you really think about it and look at past failed relationships, you are the common factor in each one. Does it mean you are doing something wrong or it's just the luck of the draw and it's something you have to go through till you find the right person? I honestly don't know or have any answers but I'd like to hear what you guys think so feel free to comment. Have a nice week ahead.

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Below are the lyrics to the song, ultimately it says we will all find our special someone. I hope that prayer is answered for everyone :):

I'm not surprised.
Not everything lasts.
I've broken my heart so many times I stopped keeping track.
Talk myself in.
I talk myself out.
I get all worked up, then I let myself down.

I tried so very hard not to lose it.
I came up with a million excuses.
I thought I thought of every possibility.

And I know someday that it'll all turn out.
You'll make me work so we can work to work it out.
And promise you, kid, that I'll give so much more than I get.
I just haven't met you yet.


I might have to wait.
I'll never give up.
I guess it's half timing,
And the other half's luck.
Wherever you are.
Whenever it's right.
You'll come out of nowhere and into my life.

And I know that we can be so amazing.
And baby your is gonna change me.
And now I can see every possibility.


But somehow I know that it'll all turn out.
And you'll make me work so we can work to work it out.
And I promise you, kid, that I'll give so much more than I get.
I just haven't met you yet.

They say all's fair.
And in love and war.
But I won't need to fight it.
We'll get it right and,
We'll be united.

Monday, September 21, 2009

The Pursuit of Happyness

Although some of us may seem confused and wondering what direction to take in our lives, we are all pursuing that happyness. I realise it varies for everyone, so today I ask, what is your happyness?

Love, Career, Financial Security or Other?

Friday, September 18, 2009

Support please

Hey guys I decided to stop wavering back and forth on topics on this blog and I just opened a strictly popculture/entertainment blog where I hope to entertain y'all with celeb news, tv updates/reminders, new music/movies etc. So please try to support and stop by and tell everyone you know, have a lovely weekend!

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Movies and Reality

I love movies. Not all kinds of movies. You could say I am a picky movie watcher. In spite of all that, I'd say I watch a lot more movies than the average person but half of them noone's heard about. Anywhoos, as a professional single, I try to go to the movies every week and since I returned I go Fridays. I couldn't go last week because I had exams so I went today and saw I can do bad by myself and 500 days of summer. I like movies that make me think and these two movies made me think.


This was a very good movie coming from Tyler Perry's stable. I usually feel like his movies are lacking something (well depth) and are very preachy. I get the audience he is trying to reach but nyeh it's just not my cup of tea. Mary J was looking absolutely awesome in the movie and she sang a song in that movie that I want - I can do bad by myself- truer words have never been spoken. We all have issues and sometimes it just makes us be self destructive and sabotage any good things that come our way ( at least I know I have had my moments). People go through stuff in this lifetime and you wonder how they come out of it (cue Whitney Houston's " I didn't know my own strength") if i had one wish for the world it'll be that noone experiences pain and suffering but I guess that's part of the world's balance. Moving on, watching Taraji and Adam Rodriguez's xter kiss reminded me that I need some lovin' :(. May I just say that the minute a character in a movie says " I think I am in love with you" after they have known each other for like 10 minutes, the movie goes downhill from there (prolly why chick flicks and I don't get along). All in all, I'd recommend the movie, all the actors were believable ( I was surprised by Mary, thought she'd be stiff as hell).

P.S - Just found out the song was written by Neyo. Go figure, no wonder I liked it.


I think I may have just found my new favorite love story movie. It starts with "this is not a typical love story". It has no fairytales or butterflies, just plain reality. It makes you ask if the whole boy meets girl deal is fate/meant to be? such a thing as soulmate? when people break up why do they always focus on the good things?etc etc.You should check it out if you can.

I don't know how I forgot this song in my last post but I absolutely love Kelly Clarkson's Already Gone.(video starts after 30 seconds)


P.S.S - I really wish I could figure out my career path. I know what I want to do and I am trying to make sure I have done all I can before I give up so to speak but it's like someone trynna be discovered as a singer, at what point do you give up and accept maybe it's not meant for you? I don't know the answer to that but each rejection letter I get that says "...candidates more qualified than you" is like a slap in the face. God dey.

Monday, September 14, 2009

Music on my Mind on Monday

Hey guys, I have nothing to blog about so I thought I'd share some of my current favorite music ( you know how i love my music)> I'll youtube some and the rest y'all can look up if you want. Have a lovely night/day.

Cobra Starship ft Leighton Meester (from gossip girls)- good girls go bad. I absolutely love this song, so catchy, so fun


So for those of you who know, Imogen Heap's Hide and Seek is one of my favorite songs of all time --- --- Some young man has decided to add a hip hop twist to it and i like it also:

Jason Derulo - What you say? ( The foolishness of men, there's a line where he goes: "Don't want you to leave me, even though you caught me cheating) lol


Rkelly ft Keri Hilson - Number One sex


Ginuwine - Last chance


Brick n Lace - Bad to di Bone


My Punjabi crush lol, Jay sean ft Lil Wayne - Down


Sean Kingston - Fire Burning


Most of the real videos are disabled so I had to use makedo videos. Enjoy!

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Happy Birthday.

In exactly, 3 hours and 45 minutes I will be 27. I wanted to use the opportunity to say Thank you Baba God for letting me see another year (hopefully nothing happens in 3:45, lol), I want to thank you for my family and my amazing friends. I remember my journey from the minute I turned 26 to this year and I want to thank God for everything, both good and bad. I am grateful for the lessons I have learned and hope to grow even more this year.

Alright, that being said I will start my day by going to church and lounging till class time and after class tomorrow, it's on and popping y'all. I'm gonna find somewhere to dance and have a good time like the true Virgo that I am. Thank you fellow Bloggers for all the nuggets of wisdom, food for thoughts and encouraging words that you guys always provide. Later y'all and feel free to write nice well wishes for me :D

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Random Thursday

I am in class all bored and stuff with A LOT of stuff on my mind, sigh. I have done blog rounds and visited a lot of bloggers for the first time, so I decided to just write out some stuff I can share.

- Are there people out there who don't suffer from procrastination? I need to get on whatever it is they are on. It's like I know what I need to be doing and should be doing but I just don't, it's the most amazing and infuriating thing.

- So you know the stereotype of how most Asians are small and skinny. When I see a fat one, I usually wonder how they feel and if they feel like they have failed their race. Oh yea, Fat Asians make me uncomfortable (It's my random, sue me)

- I used to LOVE the show, Friends. I still love it, actually it's my favorite comedy and second favorite show (behind Six Feet Under). Never missed an episode when it was on. I had the soundtrack cd to the show, I'd watch the reruns like I hadn't seen it ten million times, I'd say their lines along with them. I loved it so much I did an english project on them, somewhere out there is a website I built dedicated to Friends and Friends alone (yeah, I can be obsessive, me I choose to call it Loyal :D). Ross was my favorite character, he was so stupid it was hilarious.

- My current jobless state is the first time I haven't worked in 12 years. I love the time but my bank account doesn't. I have trips to take, right now I still have 6 scheduled trips and only one is a definite. It's so dissapointing when I get an email notification on my phone and I rush to read it and find out it's not an interview invitation or I get a strange number on my phone and it's someone I know calling from work. Uggh!

- T-7 days till I turn 27. I am so grateful to be 27 but it's still so surreal that I will be 27. I remember my 10th bday party like it was yesterday!

- It has been drawn to my attention that my words are usually misconstrued ie when i say something and don't mean anything, it's interpreted to mean something. I don't know if there's a cure for that save for limiting contact with people or just smiling and nodding. I do know it irks the hell outta me when nothing in said and when in random convo (usually 10 years later)the statement, "I didn't say anything cuz that's just how you are" is used.

- I can't decide if I am sick of the city I live in or just sick of the people in it or I just have issues lol.

- I wonder why people hate on Zunes. I know it's not an Ipod but I own a Zune and I absolutely love it.

- I have a plan, I just need to materialize this plan. Will procrastination let me?

- For the first time in many years, I am able to look in the mirror and not say something negative about myself. I am genuinely pleased about that.

- I hate school, nothing in the world can change that. It's like a pain in the ass for me.

- Naija music makes me happy.

- There are some songs I love but listening to them reminds me of a time when I listened to them to wallow in pity and hurt, so when I listen to them currently they make me feel uncomfortable.That being said I don't like Colby Caillat and that stupid Jason Mraz song I'm Yours,blech

- Everytime I turn on the radio I am guaranteed that either : Pretty Wings, God in me, Why would you wanna break up or something by Drake is on the radio.

- Guaranteed channel changers : Katy Perry - waking up in vegas, Taylor Swift(love her just not this song) - You belong to me, any lady gaga song (loooove her paparazzi video though, awesome concept and artistry)

- Nigerians need to calm down about the Sony PS ad and focus on the bigger picture of how we can help our country. Everyones acting like our people don't send out scam emails. I still don't see how we were insulted sha, they made reference to "pop culture".

- Miley Cyrus is hella annoying, she might even knock Mariah off #1 on my list, Pooch Hall (Derwin on the Game) is so sexy, I hope BET picks up the show.

- Hosea Sanchez(Malik on the game) is dating Tamera Mowry(Thanks Undercover, my mistake). Now since they are identical twins, is it safe to assume he is attracted to her sister? I have always wondered that about people who date identical twins.

- I love beans - naija beans with palmoil, with stew, baked beans etc. I can't eat it outside the house sha, has to be cooked by me or someone I know.

- I am back to watching entirely too much TV. I got back and caught up on all my shows, so currently on my roster : Big Brother 11, Mad Men, True Blood (oooh weeee, Eggs is sexy!), Entourage, Hung, Secret Life of the American Teenager. I caught up on Californication, currently on season 2 of Dexter.God help me when fall season starts.

- I love dysfunctional shows, there is something real yet beautiful about them. Speaking of which if you haven't seen the movie TowelHead, you should go see it.

Alright, Alright I should stop now with my blah blahs. Y'all have a wonderful Labor day weekend, be safe and stay blessed!

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Happy New Month, Blogsville!

It's a new month my fellow bloggers. It's the beginning of the bestest month in the world, my birthday month!( Have I mentioned how much I love birthdays? just everything about it, living to see another year, the gifts hehe, woohoo!) Anyways to commemorate I thought I'd write down a list of my do's and dont's..

I DO believe love is a beautiful and powerful thing.
I DON'T believe love conquers all.

I DO believe in working hard and giving it your all.
I DON'T believe that's all that's required to be successful.

I DON'T believe being gay is a sin.
I DO believe acting on it is a sin.

I DO believe in living life to the fullest.
I DON'T believe in living life wrecklessly.

I DO believe people make mistakes in life.
I DON'T believe in making the same mistakes over and over again.(learn from 'em dammit)

I DO believe in not judging.
I DON'T believe in not checking your neighbor when need be.

I DO believe in respecting your fellow human being.
I DON'T believe "keeping it real" gives the license to be insensitive or rude.

I DO believe in how happy music makes me feel.
I DON'T believe in classifying music (eg black music/white music, there's only music you like or don't like)

I DO believe there's always room to be a better person.
I DON'T believe in the phrase "This is who I am, I can't change"

I DO believe everyone deserves happiness.
I DON'T believe everyone experiences it.

I DO believe in self love.
I DON'T believe self love comes easy.

I DO believe everything will be okay.
I DON'T believe I 100% believe that (lol)

I DO believe God is good.
I DO believe the devil is a liar.

Have a great week ahead people!:)

P.S I just wanted to add that Leggy if you are reading this, I'm sad you've gone private :(

Thursday, August 27, 2009


Dudes, I don't know what happened but it's like as soon as I stepped foot on U.S soil it literally sucked my blogging mojo out of me. You don't know how many times I have come on here to post and my mind just goes blank and I have nothing to say. My people help me oh, how can I get it back?:(..Maybe it's cuz I am back to my dull life, nothing happens to me especially now where I just wake up, do things, go to class sleep. I am in the job market oh, anyone wey get hookup, holla!

Going to Nigeria was a complete leap of faith, the biggest leap of faith that I have ever taken. Before I left, I was in a BAD place and my friends could testify to that. I hated my job, I was homesick, my self-esteem was at a low, I was looking for an internship and couldn't find one and that just added to my despair, add some more unpleasant stuff and basically everything for the most part sucked!.I was literally just existing from day to day, with me hating my life and myself more as each day passed. I am not where I should be in my relationship with God, but I believe in prayer but at this point I couldn't even pray. I just felt empty.

My mom was already worrying from across the ocean and basically just said the same thing over and over: Come home! (well except once when she literally commanded me over the phone to "be happy!" to which I responded by bursting into tears, lol). Yeah it was that bad. Only a few friends knew what I was going through, my best friend even panicked and told me to go see a shrink and get on medication lol(her excuse is she is med school). I started toying with the idea of going home, at least I'd be among family, but I had to work, I still had bills to pay. On the other hand, there are opportunities in Nigeria and I don't know if my future would bring me back, now would be a good time to learn a lot and see if I could live in Nigeria again. So my darling mother began Operation Pass Taynement's resume everywhere. She contacted everyone she could think of but I still hadn't heard anything. I began to waver, what if I am making a mistake, I couldn't leave the comfort of my job, could I?As much as I hated it, I was good at it and it paid the bills COuld I still live in Nigeria again?. A friend of mine encouraged me to buy my ticket, he told me just buy it out of faith and that way you can't back out of it. He sent me texts that'd say "buy, buy, buy!", my CILy told me to just do it! and everything will work out. So in march with a pounding heart and no prospect of a job in nigeria I bought my ticket. I was happy but every now and then I'd think, "WTF did I just do?". But I realise now that that was the beginning of my journey in Faith.

March rolled by and still no job, April was almost over and still nothing but I still had a feeling that something will come up and I had faith. At this point I had slowly began to pray again. One day my cousin in naija called me up and said she had forwarded my resume and I would have an interview for a job that was within my field. I had a phone interview, I got an email asking my salary range and just like that in a day, I found a job.(Point for Jesus, cuz it sho' as heck wasn't my doing). I began to relax more and realise that everything was in his Hands. I had a lot to do (and pay for). I had to move out my apartment, get my stuff in storage, suspend some of my accounts, pay up some bills etc. I took all in stride, turned in my two week notice and focused on my trip to Europe. When I returned from Europe, I had about less than a week to get myself together and go to Nigeria. Let's just say everything worked out, God came through at all the right times. If you have read my previous blog posts, I enjoyed my stay and learned a lot there.

Now I am back and my lesson in Faith is still in progress. I am currently looking for a job and living off of my savings (which isn't much), A good friend of mine was kind enough to let me stay with her, I lost my keys while I was away, my car was totalled by a friend while I was away. The old me would have been stressing something fierce, I mean I do get worried every now and then but ultimately I have faith that everything will be okay. Just as long as I Trust in HIM it'll all be okay.

I guess my basic gist of the matter is as cliche as it may seem, a little faith goes a long way even when you don't realise it. It makes life easier and gets you through the day. There are some things that you can't control, so instead of worrying just hand over the reigns and have FAITH :).

So I received two questions and my answers are below:

From BSNC:
Q:You seem to like music alot, any plans to go into the music bizness; could be singing, producing, writing..
A: When I was younger, all I wanted to do was to be a singer. I have a decent voice so I used to make songs up. I got a tape recording thingie, so I'd sing into it. In college, I used to sing with a friend at school events and at nigerian functions but I had the worst stage fright and eventually stopped. I have a song somewhere with a friend of mine when we were playing around. See long tori, basically I'd only be interested at this stage in my life in working behind the scenes for a record company in artist development.

Q: What inspired you to open blogger, have you enjoyed it along the way?

A : Diablo Cody(she wrote Juno) was a stripper who had a blog, she got discovered that way and is now an Oscar winner and a writer for my favorite magazine - Entertainment Weekly. I opened my blog to get out all the entertainment random thoughts I had that most people don't share while secretly hoping I'd get discovered, lol. Somewhere along the line, I deviated and started writing about everything else but entertainment, yes I have enjoyed it. It's amazing how some of us have similar lives and how we encourage each other.

The second set of questions:

Q :real age?
will u date a trans gendered folk?
what turns u on in the opp. sex?

A :
I will be 27 in 2 weeks

Lol, that would be a no. The whole idea would be too uncomfortable for me, well unless I didn't know.

Mysteriousness, good kisser, take charge attitude.

Well, hope I didn't overcompensate with this blogpost. Thanks to the two bloggers who asked questions. Hope y'all have a wonderful weekend!

Monday, August 24, 2009

Welcome Back

Hi people, it has been a long ass time since I posted oh! chei. In the time I haven't been here, I have returned to the states and I had so many mental blog posts, it's a shame I don't remember them. I hope everyone has been doing well, besides fretting about being single or married.:D. I have been trying to get back to some semblance of my life back but I happened to be under the weather and just now managed to have my cold and cough under control. I hope I can come back and do one last wrap up of my naija blog post. Hope everyone has a fabulous evening!

PS - The whole getting to know Taynement deal was an epic fail. I only got one question and I will be answering it in my next blogpost.

Once again, have a wonderful day/night!

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

SheWolf in the Closet, My Ass!

Excuse my recent blog title but anyone who is on my facebook should have an idea of what I am about to rant about. So I just saw Shakira's "Shewolf" video. (Youtube if you can, as usual MTN is PMSing and won't allow me find a video. the full length one might be in spanish). Anyways, I like Shakira but as I watched the video, I felt anger slowly rise in me and by the end I was utterly and thoroughly vexed.

You see, I totally get the music business is still a business. I totally get that sex sells but seriously at this point I feel insulted. If you watched the video, I dare you to tell me that you did not see Beyonce, Ciara and Madonna in that video even though Shakira was the one dancing? They are all trying to show us that they are the sexiest and the bendiest of them all. I mean Shakira should have just gone naked, why wear a flesh colored leotard? just prancing around her monkey cage, feeding me her juiceless ass cheek..uuughhh! whoooosah! I mean does anyone see my point? I don't have to speak about Ciara, who seems to be stripping more and more as her album sales fall. I dunno what the solution is but nna, I need a break from the Bendy-Sexy, biko.

In other news, I don't know if I am interesting enough but I thought it'd be cool if I did a getting to know Taynement better kinda deal. So if anyone had any questions they'd like me to answer, please feel free to email them at I would be listing the names of the questions with the blogger who asked, if you prefer to remain anonymous please let me know.

Y'all have a happy pre-friday's eve!:D

Sunday, August 9, 2009

Listening to the Lines

If there's anything you have learned about me from my blog, you must know by now that I am a huge, huge fan of music. Doesn't matter what kind, as long as my ears are happy, we are good to go. I am always on the hunt for new music and part of how I find new music is from TV shows. I am watching a tv show and my ears are primed to catch the first strums of music goodness, soon as I catch it, the next step is frantically googling the few lyrics I could eke out while adding my voice recognition skillz and voila a new song is added to the library.

Anyway, I have been wanting to blog all day but had no idea what to blog about. NEPA(PHCN, whatever) was kind enough to give light all day, so I was vegging out watching Lipstick Jungle - another reason to love Naija, I bought season 1 and 2 for like less than $5, lol - and I heard a song that I knew already but the lyrics really jumped out at me. Sara Bareilles' "Bottle it Up".


There'll be girls across the nation that will eat this up, babe
I know that it's your soul, but could you bottle it up
And get down to the heart of it, no it's my heart, you're shit out of your luck
Don't make me tell you again, my love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love

I am aiming to be somebody that somebody trusts with her delicate soul
I don't claim to know much except soon as you start to make room for the parts
That aren't you, it gets harder to bloom in a garden of love
, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love

Only thing I ever could need
Only one good thing worth trying to be and it's

Love,Love,Love,Love.I do it for love.Love,Love,Love

We can understand the sentiment you're saying to us, oh
But sensible sells, so could you kindly shut up and get started

At keeping your part of the bargain, aw please little darlin'
You're killing me sweetly with love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love

Started as a flicker, meant to be a flame
Skin has gotten thicker, but it burns the same
Still a baby in a cradle, got to take my first fall
Baby's getting next to nowhere with a back against the wall
You meant to make me happy, make me sad
Want to make it better, better so bad
But save your resolutions for your never new year
There is only one solution I can see here

Oh, only gonna get get what you give away, so give love, love
Only gonna get get what you give away

Ok, so the bolded part is pretty self-explanatory, I think. But just in case I'll try to explain. These parts jumped at me because I have never been a trusting person. I have never been in love. I use my head over my heart. I would like to be in love. I can't do that protecting my heart.Like the song says, you only get what you give away. So I do it for Love :)....Pray for me y'all :D

P.s - So for some odd reason I am compelled to post Leona Lewis' - Better in time lyrics. The words are so true, to my sisters(and brothers) going through a tough breakup, it really will get better.

Have a lovely week ahead, Blogsville!

It's been the longest winter without you
I didn't know where to turn to
See somehow I can't forget you
After all that we've been through

Going coming thought I heard a knock
Who's there no one
Thinking that I deserve it
Now I realise that I really didn't know
If you didn't notice you mean everything
Quickly I'm learning to love again
All I know is I'm gon' be ok

Thought I couldn't live without you
It's gonna hurt when it heals too
It'll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to
It'll all get better in time

I couldn't turn on the TV
Without something there to remaind me
Was it all that easy
To just put aside your feelings

If I'm dreaming don't wanna laugh
Hurt my feelings but that's the path
I believe in
And I know that time will heal it
If you didn't notice boy you meant everything
Quickly I'm learning to love again
All I know is I'm gon' be ok

Since there's no more you and me
It's time I let you go
So I can be free
And live my life how it should be
No matter how hard it is I'll be fine without you
Yes I will