Monday, November 23, 2009

Body Image

Hi people, hope everyone had a good start to their week and is looking forward to their turkey day. Anyways, I had this blog written (in my head of course)last week after watching the Janet Jackson interview on ABC. Anyways, as I was watching the interview and looking at the pictures of her over the years, I was thinking to myself, "This woman is one heck of a pretty lady with or without makeup and she has a gorgeous smile". Also, everytime I see Janet, I forget she has a "donk" (booty for those of you that don't know" and I am always like, "where did that come from?" before I remember that Janet has always had one.

As the interview progressed, Robin Roberts (the interviewer) asked her how she didn't see herself as hot as everyone else sees her. Janet went ahead to answer that she doesn't know but she is learning to love herself. Jermaine(Dupri) helped her to accept her booty and realise there was nothing wrong with it, she likes the small of her back and now loves her smile even though she used to think it was like The Joker (the batman movie villain)and it was too wide.

Janet's answer reminded me that most women have these moments (I say most because not all women see a flaw when they look at themselves). I am not one of the most. I have had moments where I have looked in the mirror and wanted to run lol, and I am sure many other women have had those too. From our teenage years all through to *God knows when* we are concerned about our bodies either we are working out to maintain what we have, losing the pounds gained during vacation/holidays, wondering what damage babies will do to our bodies, coveting your neighbor's legs/boobs/ass/abs etc etc. No matter how ambivalent you are somehow or some point or the other you worry about your body.

My personal question is, "How long does this last?" Is this a lifetime thing? Oprah was interviewing Gabby Sidibe (chic who plays Precious) the other day and asked her how she seems unaffected as an obvious non-size 2 and she replied that she had been dieting most of her life and at some point she decided she was just going to love herself no matter what. As cliche as the answer is it really is the truth. At some point, we would have to accept that we can't get xyz and can only make do with what we have. It's ironic that usually that one thing we don't like about ourselves is what our neighbor might like about us like how I loved janet's smile and she didn't. Of course, its easier said than done but to my fellow sister's I hope we all come to that decision to embrace ourselves as is and own what we got. I am halfway there, this summer I decided to try to learn to love what I have. The extra pounds I don't like, I am doing my part to shed at the gym but for the huge feet, the small boobs, the short legs I accept that even though I wish they were different, that is what God gave me and I need to get with the program. For any male reader, I am curious to know do y'all have the same insecurities?

Have a great week people and lots of blessings your way :)

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16 comments:

Azazel said...

Yep I feel this post big time, learn to love urself and accpet urself first.

TayneMent said...

My Azzie! I missed you on friday randoms, I had one random specially for you.

Myne Whitman said...

I saw that interview and I loved Janet the more afterwards. I think I only accepted my petite size after a couple of years in Uni, it's not easy sha and sometimes it's even a daily decision to be yourself and enjoy you..

TayneMent said...

Myne, I agree with your last line.

Vivian said...

Janets situation just goes to show you that all women..even the ones in the media with the hot bodies have that one thing they don't like about themselves. Self acceptance is something we all have to do even if you have the hottest figure in town. No body is perfect.

Harry-Rami Itie said...

I totally agree... The best point anyone can get to in life is the point where they love themselves...

Quaggar said...

Yea.. feeling this.

And as a guy, yea we do have our own moments...even tho most wouldnt admit it with a gun at their heads. lol

DjiNo said...

They are human beings like us when it is all said and done, and they have their own insecurities too. Wished I were a bigger guy growing up, nowadays I just don't care.

Tatababe said...

"It's ironic that usually that one thing we don't like about ourselves is what our neighbor might like about us" so true. It took me a while to love & accept my petite size especially considering the fact that I had a lot of ppl on my case about my small size but I'm grateful I can now look me in the mirror and love & accept me for me.

lucidlilith said...

*sigh* personally, I think my hips could be smaller, my arms are too large, my chest is getting broader without the benefit of bigger boobs, skin could be more clearer, my nose a tad more defined.

In public, I walk like i am the cat's me-ee-ee-ow!

MPB said...

ah....yo don't have small boobies oh. Small boobs are A and B cup.

Original Mgbeke said...

MPB, abi o.

Lucid, lolll. I like that...walking like the cat's meoow

Kate said...

me i'm a chief coveter o! i covet everything everybody else has. but i think my own mindset is..everything you dont like about your body..you can change...surgically or naturally, it's all up to you and ya wallet.
I'm curious to know what guys are insecure about too!!

Fabulo-la said...

True talk.
I wud like to close my gap, I would like a few inches to my height, a lil less bow legs, a smaller waist, a smaller nose/
But like Lucidlillith. when i leave my house, i am the shiznitfordengzy.
lool abi? if we dnt love ourselves, who will?

leggy said...

i used to really hate my body, i was too thin but now i think my body is great and i rock it as hard as i can.

Good Naija Girl said...

I was talking to my friends about this two nights ago. The major thing about myself that I have trouble loving is my MANY extra pounds. It's hard for me to accept that I have to learn to love me the way I am now before I can really shed the weight. It's sad that I spend so much useless energy focusing on all of that, avoiding certain situations or opportunities because I let my weight be a barrier but your entry really hit home for me so thanks.