Sunday, January 30, 2011

Laugh Your Pants Off

Howdy Ho folks. How have you been? Hope all's been well. My post today isn't going to be long but I would like to hear your opinion on the topic.

So in the never ending mating game between a man and a woman, they say it is much easier for a man to bag/shag a woman if the woman decides he has a sense of humor. Ask a woman what she is looking for in a man and 9 out of 10 if not all will most definitely have sense of humor on their list. I am all for a sense of humor and all but do women really feel that is one of the important things in an attraction to a man? Sometimes, I feel the sense of humor characteristic is as reflex as "God fearing" on a nigerian woman's list.

I did a little digging on the wonderful world of Google and found that studies show that women think funny men are smarter and more likely to be honest than less funny men (Err, obviously I wasn't part of this study because I totally disagree, especially with the honest part). Further research does show that humor is not linked to intelligence and quite frankly the stuff I found actually pissed me off a little because it adds to the whole "women are silly and would believe and do anything just to get a man" stereotype.

I found this interesting:

The basic difference is that males tend to use humor to compete with other men, while women tend to use humor to bond with others. Studies show that men more often use humor to jockey for position with other males when they are in the company of women.

The allure of male humor is so strong that female laughter may have evolved as a signal of sexual interest—picture a woman's girlish giggles as she flirts with a man at a bar. Indeed, a German study found that when male and female strangers engaged in natural conversation, the degree to which a woman laughed while talking to a man was indicative of her interest in dating him. How much the woman laughed also predicted the man's desire to date her. On the flip side, how often a man laughed was unrelated to his interest in a woman.


My only question for that is, is the lady laughing because he really is funny? or she is attracted to him already and just laughs at everything he says - funny or not? One last thing before I leave is (of course) while women appear to prefer a men who makes them laugh, the psychologists say that previous studies have shown that the same does not hold true when the sexes are reversed - and men are not more attracted to funny girls. No surprise eh?

What do you guys think? Feel free to leave your comments and have a great week!

14 comments:

brown skin said...

Lol I am wondering who they did this study on. I personally like a guy who has a sense of humour because I love to laugh.
I am sure they did not do this study on Africans lol. It's interesting though. Have a great week.

Bsnc

Ms. Royal Reigns said...

Nice topic. Me, personally, I love a man with a sense of humor. Laughing is one of my hobbies. While having a sense of humor is not the 1st trait I look for, if he does have it, I am attracted a little bit more to him.

I do not think ALL funny men are smarter. And I definitely do not believe that they are honest, either.

Oh and if something's not funny, I don't laugh. None of that unnecessary giggles from my end.

MPB said...

Nice post. So while a man with a sense of humor is not on my list of desired qualities, I must say that the relationships I have enjoyed the most have been with guys that made me laugh. I think with the laughter comes a boost to your psyche, probably releases dopamine and pleasure feeling hormones and just makes things seem smoother or easier. And for me, especially in my current relationship, I have noticed that I love hearing my man laugh especially if i inspired the laughter, it lights me up too. I don't know if that is weird. So yeah, I think shared laughter/sense of humor is an awesome plus to a relationship. Imagine, a situation where your man never made you laugh and you just had serious, mellow convos all the time..not arguments, just even keeled tone. It is ok, but it is not awesome.

MPB said...

forgot to add, i don't think funny men are smarter or more honest. Plus "funny" is so subjective. The guy I am dating, merely amuses me when he cracks a joke or deliberately makes a witty comment, but when he is not even trying or just randomly imitates someone or, has a certain mannerism, I crack the hell up.

LucidLilith said...

well sha...i want a guy who can make me laugh....imaging going through life with a guy with a sour face. i guess humor is attractive because it is a security blanket in an emotional way. Just like money is a security blanket for some women.

LucidLilith said...

btw ... who the fuck is Chuck Bass? How dare he flirt with you without MY permission.

Etoile Oye said...

I like my guys to have a sense of humor and I believe not many will deny the fact that if someone makes your significant other laugh more than you do, you may want to keep an eye on this other.

I think the thing about humour and smartness can be true depending on the kind of humour. There is 'fool' or be outrageous and make me laugh humour, and there is carefully executed wit, sarcasm, analogies, references, etc. that sometimes make you think, even as you are laughing, what a smart joke!

I don't know about honesty... I think sometimes, they are actually able to get away with more because of their wit.

Finally, I think there is fair association of laughter with happiness, and who doesn't wan to be happy?

Etoile Oye said...

PS: you are not off the hook with our questions about Chuck Bass o!...

Natural Nigerian said...

"...and men are not more attracted to funny girls".

I guess men do not like competition from females eh?

Repressed One said...

I’ve heard that [some] men ‘complain’ about this cos women expect them to be stand up comedians all in the name of wanting a funny dude…lol

Laughter keeps things light and fun. Its great when the man I’m with can make me laugh. He doesn’t have to be a jokester or be known as a funny man so long as he makes me laugh...I love to laugh. Plus i'm sure it makes the man feel good too.

Mgbeks said...

The previous commenters have pretty much echoed my sentiments. I'm not looking for a Jim Carrey, but a guy who amuses me is definitely a plus 'cos I like to laugh. He doesn't even have to be generally considered as funny, as long as he's funny to me.
Also, it's a 2 way street. Sense of humor also means that he should get my jokes and things.
And nope, I don't consider amusing guys to be smarter or more honest. You wan try that survey? Haha!

Myne Whitman said...

I definitely do not consider funny guys to be smarter or more honest, in fact the opposite in the latter case if his jokes are 'one kind'. But the later survey, giggles and all, may hold true. Seems our biology and evolution has put us in a bind.

chuck bass said...

You all should ask the author what inspired this post...

Etoile Oye said...

TayneMent, pray do tell, what inspired this post? (Thanks, Chuck)