Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Loving Yourself - The Demi Moore Interview

Demi Moore on her feelings about her body:

I have had a love-hate relationship with my body. When I’m at the greatest odds with my body, it’s usually because I feel my body’s betraying me, whether that’s been in the past, struggling with my weight and feeling that I couldn’t eat what I wanted to eat, or that I couldn’t get my body to do what I wanted it to do. … Sweet and savory. I think I sit today in a place of greater acceptance of my body, and that includes not just my weight but all of the things that come with your changing body as you age to now experiencing my body as extremely thin — thin in a way that I never imagined somebody would be saying to me, “You’re too thin, and you don’t look good.”
I find peace when I don’t see my body as my enemy, when I step back and have appreciation and look at all that my body has done for me. It’s allowed me to give birth to three beautiful children, allowed me to explore different roles as an actor, allowed me to be strong. You can’t look at yourself in the mirror and tear your body apart. You have to look at it and go, “Thank you. Thank you for standing by me, for being there for me no matter what I have put you through.”


On how Ashton cheating on her really kind of translated into “I’m not living up to my full potential” somehow or another:

I think what scares me is not having the courage to reach my full potential … which means that I would allow fear, insecurity, and doubt to rule me and that I would ask for only a little of what is actually there for me. It would mean that I would be settling. And so for me, it’s not just about reaching my potential in terms of my career. It goes more to the idea of being whole, of loving oneself. And I think there is no way to reach your fullest potential if you don’t really find the love of yourself. If I were to answer it just kind of bold-faced, I would say what scares me is that I’m going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I’m really not lovable, that I’m not worthy of being loved. That there’s something fundamentally wrong with me.


News broke today or was it yesterday that Demi Moore had checked into rehab for anorexia and to have general wellness back. The excerpts above are from an interview she did with Harper's Bazaar and you can tell that something was up. Forget the fact that she is a rich woman with a body that looked good after 3 children. Some of the things she said above are worries a lot of women have, speaking for myself I know I have had a love-hate relationship for my body for a long time and even though I am not 100% and still a work in progress, I am at a place where I am beginning to accept myself and work with what I got. Just reading the interview made me uncomfortable, it was just...negative. This particularly - If I were to answer it just kind of bold-faced, I would say what scares me is that I’m going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I’m really not lovable, that I’m not worthy of being loved. That there’s something fundamentally wrong with me - struck a chord with me. I'll confess to having thoughts like this but reading/hearing it from someone else, that's such an awful thing to say and makes me dig my heels further in my resolve to just continue in my quest for a better me. I have always been adamant not to pass any unhealthy or negative thoughts and body issues down to my daughter if I have one, especially in a world like ours where everything is so body driven.

Anyways, just thought I'd share and spread encouragement to anyone struggling with body issues. Hope we all get to that happy place of acceptance. Have a lovely rest of the week, the weekend is round the corner!! muah!

6 comments:

Dame Sting said...

"That there’s something fundamentally wrong with me."

Reading this made me want to hug her. For many reasons. Rich or poor, famous and unknown at the end of the day before anything else, we are all humans and we all have stuff to deal with.

Dame Sting said...

lol @ we are all humans. lol. English don dey hard me.

Original Mgbeke said...

"I have always been adamant not to pass any unhealthy or negative thoughts and body issues down to my daughter if I have one, especially in a world like ours where everything is so body driven"

Preach! I'm totally with you on this. I'm really going to work on drumming this into my future daughter's ears. Even if we don't want to be body conscious, everyone else is so obsessed about everyone else's weight and what have you. E no easy mayne! I hope Demi will be okay, and I like her mentality of appreciating her body for the positives ie birthing kids etc etc.

Anonymous said...

Nice Anon: I agree. After chasing a flat stomach which has eluded me for 27 years;I decided to accept and rock my otoko afo like that. Can no borri tell me nothing jare. This life no get part 2.

On a more serious note, it is up to us as parents to help our daughters( if and when we have them) accept themselves and also teach them about healthy eating.

miss.fab said...

If I were to answer it just kind of bold-faced, I would say what scares me is that I’m going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I’m really not lovable, that I’m not worthy of being loved. That there’s something fundamentally wrong with me.

How eloquently put. How positively insane that our sense of self-worth or love-worth can be so tied to our bodies and whether we measure up to the world's mad standards.

mizchif said...

*sigh* body issues even the rich and famous are not spared.