Just cuz this has been floating in my head. I am usually too tired to flesh it out but I figured I'd just try tonight and try to put on paper. Most of you might have heard about a blog called Black Girls Are Easy. It's basically a blog by a dude who talks about the whole boy/girl relationship topic in the realest way possible. And when I say realest way that includes crass language. I've read a lot of his posts but not all and while I enjoy reading his blog, I had classified it as a blog that'll appeal more to those who were more interested in casual relationships. But the other day he had a post up called Grown Ass Man or Lil Ass Boy and it was just full of real talk. Take time to read it if you get a chance.
Anyways, the post is basically about how being in love is the grown thing to do and there is nothing wrong with admitting it as a man. Describing being made fun of for doing something nice for his girlfriend, he said:
Capri shorts are gay. Waking up at 3am to watch the Royal Wedding is gay. Me doing an act of love for my chick is not gay
Ain't that the truth.
I think society has conditioned us to believe that men shouldn't/don't show their emotions and sometimes when they do, they either get clowned or even we as women flap our gums saying "oh he is so sensitive, I need a manly man". I digress though. Before I read the complete blog, my friend had sent the above to me and not sure if there is a correlation but I immediately asked what he would pick if he had to choose why some guys shy away from commitment: not meeting the right person or not willing to bend in some of their ideologies. Surprisingly, my friend chose the not willing to bend option. I am a huge proponent for timing/right person but I also feel that some guys our age hold on to some ideologies so tightly that it could hinder a good thing. My friend went further to say that many guys have met the right girl but are still hesitant to take the plunge. I am not a guy so I am not even going to try to explain.
*5 hours later
I swear I had a point but I've been so distracted I have no clue what it was or is plus it shouldn't take this long to write a post. I think it was something to do with not understanding the whole boy/girl dynamic/after a certain age why would a guy be clowning his friend on being in love or being whipped/how do you meet someone that's supposedly right for you and walk?,something in that general direction sha. I don't want to delete this, soooo just click on the link above and read the post. Have a wonderful weekend guys!