I actually don't think my thoughts are random today, more like Friday Well Thought Out Thoughts
"Knowing that things could be worse should not stop us from trying to make it better"
I don't think I know any triplets my age.
Why do you think people find it so hard to say "I don't know"?
A friend of mine told me a story of how a dude whose wife just had a baby. Him being the everly, doting husband decided to not stress his wife for sex but instead got 5 steadies, so that way there is balance and order. While that is so crazy given that it is Nigeria, I wasn't so surprised. In the course of convo, I mentioned well not all husbands will do that, it's kinda like saying that there aren't any guys who will be with a girl waiting till marriage for sex and she said you know I actually don't believe there are guys like that, they have people on the side. I thought about it, granted they may be rare, I still believe there are guys like that but she isnt the first person I have heard that from, a lot of people I know don't agree with me. What I did find funny was that I don't believe that guys who live in Naija will wait but those out the country will. lol pretty silly line of reasoning, eh?
I asked a question earlier this week, if you would be willing to carry your sister's baby if she couldn't conceive. A lot of people said yes and I was really surprised. I personally doubt I would. People, pregnancy is NOT beans, it's like...a process. Also, it wouldn't be fair to my husband. If I was going to do it, I wouldn't do it when I was single or before I have had my own kids. Maybe I am just selfish.
I was always of the mindset that people/friendship automatically changes once a person gets married. Talking to a friend of mine, I mean yes, some things change but when there are big changes, it's not because they got married, it's a personality thing. Afterall, even friendships when the person isn't married change, so what's the excuse then? Some people do take the marriage thing as a crown and can't associate with single folk but that's a different matter.
Speaking of that, sometimes mehn people be making it sound like single people have leprosy, it's quite amazing. They don't have the right to say xyz, when they say xyz it's because you are single and haven't been bestowed with the intelligence that comes when a ring is on your finger. Nigerians are something else lol.
It's amazing how my desire to move to Naij is at a 0. I remember when it was at a 1000 in 2008 when I started Grad school. Did my stint in Naij in 2009 and I was for sure that I was moving back right after grad school. I never found a job but i kept looking hard but now? No thanks.
"Sometimes when you are hurt so badly, what hurts might not be what they did but who did it"
If you read your bible by typing in verses and chapters online, does it still count?
You know how when you see a younger person, so full of hope, life, love etc and you remember when you were like that before the real world took over. You would want to say something but it is definitely not your place to shatter anyone and besides when you are young, you believe you are wise beyond your years and you can't tell me nothing. I was thinking about this and you can't project your life on someone else, we all live life based on our reality and what we have experienced. If you watch RHOA, Porscha has an intro that says people say she has a picture perfect life and she does. We used to joke that she lived in a bubble. She said whatever she projected to the Universe she always got and you know what? you can't go telling someone like that nah life is xyz because in her reality everything does go well. I do think eventually though, we all go through the school of life and we all learn life lessons that are important to our growth as human beings.
Based on the above, I went through an incident this week that reminded me how we are unaware as human beings about our fellow human beings. We are all in our own little world, everly ready to prove why the other person is wrong and we are right. Listening and going that one level deeper is fading slowly.
Ladies who get terrible cramps. Not like ouch here and there, but like serious debilitating pain cramps, please go checked out with your doctor/obgyn. If your flow is heavy also, those two are symptoms of fibroids and per my doctor 1 in 4 black women have those. PSA done. Fellas sorry.
So I heard this quote on Survivor last week and forgot to put this on here. I loved it:
"I feel like I want to say she has a vanilla personality but I'll be doing a great disservice to the vanilla flavor. "People clamor for vanilla flavored things. Noone is clamoring for anything she has to offer"
I did my entry for the365ngproject. You can read it here - http://the3six5ng.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/april-4-2013-taynement/
Also, don't forget www.taynement.com
Have a wonderful weekend guys!