I get that Heartbreak sucks and all but man, killing yourself over a guy/girl is some deep stuff. It's never that serious...or maybe it is.
Ladies, do you feel some type of way when you don't have a "toaster"? It seems a lot of people find it strange /hard to believe when a woman doesn't have a toaster. I have also encountered some women who feel they have to have someone in the wings whether they like them like that or not, it's a sort of ego booster i guess?
I don't really expect anyone to tell me their sex woe tales but based on what I am told, it would appear a good number of my friends are freaky and having fantastic sex, which is a good thing. Everyone should have good sex in their lives.
I read something this week that is a work in progress for me, which is recognizing to treat everyone's problems as such and not disregard/minimize them because it pales in comparison to what I deem problems. Because, to be fair, what I consider problems could be nothing to someone else. Man, it's a hard lesson for me to learn. Very hard.
You know, I would never wish anyone death at all. But with Mandela being in the hospital once again and seeing everyone wanting him to pull through, I kinda wonder the guy is really, really old. All this constant hospital visits have to take a toll on him. He's lived a good life and made a mark on the world, would it be so terrible to wish him peace?
What do you do if you had a great marriage and your spouse dies. After he dies, you find out he/she was cheating on you? Does him/her having a child too from the affair make it worse?
I really don't like stockfish.
Do you think two people have to be in love to get married? I have a preference to be in love with who I marry but seeing as I think love is a fleeting thing am I contradicting myself? I have a couple of guy friends who weren't in love when they got married. I don't know any females though who did, would be interesting to hear their take on it. Personally, I don't think you have to be in love to get married but ehn, what do I know?
Was talking to a married friend of mine and asked why he married his wife, basically why her over everyone else? and he said: "I stayed because I chose not to hurt her. I knew I'd hurt her by leaving and I wouldn't leave unless I absolutely had to and I didn't have a reason to, so I stayed. I told myself unless she gave me a reason to I'd stay as long as she wanted me to. The grass is always greener if u keep looking over the fence you'll keep jumping lawns"
Sidebar: I agree with the fence part cuz honestly, there will always be someone better than you/your partner but at some point you just have to make a decision and stick with it.
Some other excerpts from our convo:
"We all define love differently but at the end of the day, commitment shows you love someone and if you say you don't love them and you are just committed to them, that is really all marriage is - commitment.
"People always say if you love me why would you cheat on me? The answer is simple - I love you, but I love me first"
"If you marry cos the person gives you butterflies in your tummy, dem butterflies hibernate occassionally.
Marriage is putting your feelings aside and riding it to the end. Unless you have reason to bounce, your feelings
aren't good enough reason to"
aren't good enough reason to"
So that's all I have for you folks. I would love to hear what you think, especially on the last few, cuz I am sure some of you would disagree with it. Have a lovely weekend and remain blessed!
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