Thursday, October 30, 2014

Never too busy

This was floating on my timeline and was a status for one of my bbm's contacts:

"We're adults and busy. No reason to be in constant contact with you to prove my friendship to you. Just know when/if you need me, I'm here"

A lot of people were cosigning this statement but I do not agree with this at all. The statement itself just sounds so cold and like those people that feel cool that they can cut people off whenever. Ok maybe that's a harsh comparison.

The line "I don't need to prove my friendship to you". I mean, since when does being in constant contact mean proving a friendship? I simmered and remembered when I was much younger and felt that a friend who never reached out didn't really care. I know better now but I did acknowledge that maybe that is what they meant.

I admit that when it comes to things like these I am a big sap and I am a sentimental person. But the main things that nullifies the statement above is technology. There are SO many ways to get in contact with a person. I (personally) don't need a full gab long ass session on the phone as contact. I feel like as long as you are friends with someone, a simple hi, hope you are well every now and then or when they cross your mind goes a long way.

Yes, we are adults and busy but what is important in life is our loved ones. We are also adults and as such are dealing with various responsibilities and stress. Everyone is dealing with something, small or big. Sometimes, what helps or saves us is that human contact or knowledge that someone is in your corner. Sometimes, the person you are compelled to share with isn't even someone you gab with all the time.

It does say "Just know when/if you need me, I'm here". That's true. For some, it's hard to reach out or just bring up and that simple "sup?" might be all the difference.

Anyhue, I totally feel silly now because I probably read too much into this and didn't need to make much ado about nothing. It's how I felt when I read it and I said I was going to write about it. So here it is.

Have a great weekend everyone!!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I agree entirely with you. In this day and age, there's absolutely no reason why one cannot check in with a friend. When I find that I am the one who makes more of the effort to contact or check in with a "friend", I let go after a while. When you reach a certain stage, quality, not quantity of friends is what matters. So I'd rather have four quarters than a hundred pennies.