Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Dating Sucks!

Hello People, Happy Tuesday!Hope you had a good weekend, I am not in the best of moods but this was the only topic I could think of. I don't know about y'all but I gotta tell you that I was thinking about it the other day(ok yesterday) and I concluded that dating sucks.

Ok before I go further, lemme clarify or rather state my definition of dating. It's that process/time period when you are single, not in an exclusive relationship and getting to know one (or more) dude(s) to see if both of you are willing to get into an exclusive relationship. Here's my beef:

It's just so much wahala. I don't know how to play games and don't intentionally do so. I just go with the flow and always let you know that I like you if i do, so you are not in doubt as to where I stand. If I want to call, I'll call, I don't think oh maybe I have called too much etc. I have no problem making the first move if I fancy(free my inner Brit jo)a guy. But you know when you have conversations and over the years you hear all these "rules", so sometimes when I want to do any of the aforementioned I pause and think should I? am I supposed to?, oft times I say screw it and do what I want to. Add the fact that you run into those dudes that want to play hot and cold with you, those that are not feeling you but won't mind friends with benefit situation, those that are great guys but that something is just not there or you are not attracted to them etc etc the list goes on and on with no guaranteed successful outcome. Someone mentioned on their blog that they wish we could skip the dating part and just be in the relationship and I agree jo, I envy those that have skipped that part and have reached that comfortable place.

In spite of my griping, I understand that it is something that in today's world it's an inevitable process that most go through before eventually meeting the person that you will end up with. It's not all bad, it's nice to have someone to chat with or flatter you or *insert whatever it is you like about dating* but it sucks jo:D..What say ye, blogsville?

12 comments:

Gee said...

1st???

Gee said...

yes i am...whooo..ok lemme go read it

Gee said...

lol...i am just getting to figure out that deres a difference btw dating nd being in r/ship...lol...i always classified them as same o..lol..
yh so ill agree with u...dating sometimes sucks especially wen both r tryna play by the ruless....errything then feels to fake nd reharsed.lol

blogoratti said...

Skip or take away dating...why that's like taking away test driving of a new car-with dating you want to find out if you can like this other person or not-even with their flaws and all...
Err crazy comparisons but you get my point,lol.

CIL said...

It's not inevitable. You can meet someone and know immediately that you want to be in a relationship and be in a relationship with none of the in between drama...

CIL said...

@blogoratti, you don't need to test drive a brand new BMW M6 to know if you'll enjoy driving/owning it. At least I won't...

TayneMent said...

@CIL, if you were going to be in a relationship with yourself i think that would be easy, it takes two to agree and you kinda have to learn about each other(to me) to decide you want to be in a relationship.

Kate said...

WTH happend to my first comment!! NOT COOL!!
I think i said..yeah dating sucks. And something along the lines of..i was hoping that as we all got older and ppl got less unserious..it would be easier to date and discern and all the games/layaway business/fwb stuff would end..but for where. I agree jare...can't we all just skip the dating part and get to the good stuff!!

Reverence said...

Amen sister!

RepOne said...

When i say i wanna "wake up and be married"...I ain't playing. It hella sucks!!

TayneMent said...

@Gee..yez, you are first, second and third, lol. Re; my dating definition, everyone has different definitions, I just wanted to clarify mine.

@blogoratti: yea I get your point. I think its necessary, it just sucks sometimes, lol.

@Kate: were you first in your sleep? lol. Men especially Nigerian men now have "options", so there's more room for unseriousness as they get older.

@Reverence - Amen

@RepOne - lol, na so we see am.

Fancy-Free said...

With you all the way. Been single for over 2 years cos I just cnat handle dating even though that's wot i tend to do mostly. Am kinda two extremes, either meet someone and just marry straight or not date at all.