Dating Sucks!
Hello People, Happy Tuesday!Hope you had a good weekend, I am not in the best of moods but this was the only topic I could think of. I don't know about y'all but I gotta tell you that I was thinking about it the other day(ok yesterday) and I concluded that dating sucks.
Ok before I go further, lemme clarify or rather state my definition of dating. It's that process/time period when you are single, not in an exclusive relationship and getting to know one (or more) dude(s) to see if both of you are willing to get into an exclusive relationship. Here's my beef:
It's just so much wahala. I don't know how to play games and don't intentionally do so. I just go with the flow and always let you know that I like you if i do, so you are not in doubt as to where I stand. If I want to call, I'll call, I don't think oh maybe I have called too much etc. I have no problem making the first move if I fancy(free my inner Brit jo)a guy. But you know when you have conversations and over the years you hear all these "rules", so sometimes when I want to do any of the aforementioned I pause and think should I? am I supposed to?, oft times I say screw it and do what I want to. Add the fact that you run into those dudes that want to play hot and cold with you, those that are not feeling you but won't mind friends with benefit situation, those that are great guys but that something is just not there or you are not attracted to them etc etc the list goes on and on with no guaranteed successful outcome. Someone mentioned on their blog that they wish we could skip the dating part and just be in the relationship and I agree jo, I envy those that have skipped that part and have reached that comfortable place.
In spite of my griping, I understand that it is something that in today's world it's an inevitable process that most go through before eventually meeting the person that you will end up with. It's not all bad, it's nice to have someone to chat with or flatter you or *insert whatever it is you like about dating* but it sucks jo:D..What say ye, blogsville?
Ok before I go further, lemme clarify or rather state my definition of dating. It's that process/time period when you are single, not in an exclusive relationship and getting to know one (or more) dude(s) to see if both of you are willing to get into an exclusive relationship. Here's my beef:
It's just so much wahala. I don't know how to play games and don't intentionally do so. I just go with the flow and always let you know that I like you if i do, so you are not in doubt as to where I stand. If I want to call, I'll call, I don't think oh maybe I have called too much etc. I have no problem making the first move if I fancy(free my inner Brit jo)a guy. But you know when you have conversations and over the years you hear all these "rules", so sometimes when I want to do any of the aforementioned I pause and think should I? am I supposed to?, oft times I say screw it and do what I want to. Add the fact that you run into those dudes that want to play hot and cold with you, those that are not feeling you but won't mind friends with benefit situation, those that are great guys but that something is just not there or you are not attracted to them etc etc the list goes on and on with no guaranteed successful outcome. Someone mentioned on their blog that they wish we could skip the dating part and just be in the relationship and I agree jo, I envy those that have skipped that part and have reached that comfortable place.
In spite of my griping, I understand that it is something that in today's world it's an inevitable process that most go through before eventually meeting the person that you will end up with. It's not all bad, it's nice to have someone to chat with or flatter you or *insert whatever it is you like about dating* but it sucks jo:D..What say ye, blogsville?
Comments
yh so ill agree with u...dating sometimes sucks especially wen both r tryna play by the ruless....errything then feels to fake nd reharsed.lol
Err crazy comparisons but you get my point,lol.
I think i said..yeah dating sucks. And something along the lines of..i was hoping that as we all got older and ppl got less unserious..it would be easier to date and discern and all the games/layaway business/fwb stuff would end..but for where. I agree jare...can't we all just skip the dating part and get to the good stuff!!
@blogoratti: yea I get your point. I think its necessary, it just sucks sometimes, lol.
@Kate: were you first in your sleep? lol. Men especially Nigerian men now have "options", so there's more room for unseriousness as they get older.
@Reverence - Amen
@RepOne - lol, na so we see am.