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Jill Scott wrote this column in Essence. A little part of me sees what she is saying, a large part of me is like when will we let things go? Just wanted to hear other people's opinions. Please share your thoughts. Have a good week. My new friend is handsome, African-American, intelligent and seemingly wealthy. He is an athlete, loves his momma, and is happily married to a White woman. I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped. But something in me just knew he didn’t marry a sister. Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit…wince. I didn’t immediately understand it. My face read happy for you. My body showed no reaction to my inner pinch, but the sting was there, quiet like a mosquito under a summer dress. Was I jealous? Did the reality of his relationship somehow diminish his soul’s credibility? The answer is not simple. One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that’s not how I was broug...

So exhausted I am. Before I start randoming, I wanted to thank you all for your comments on my last blog post on Cheating . Special thanks to Lani for returning to address comments. Speaking for myself,regarding the looking within first, I do not disagree but it still boils down to if she is nagging you to that point why are you still with her? why do you have to cheat? why not be with as many women as you want AFTER you have broken up with her? Ah well..more breaking news that Sandra Bullock's hubby had up to 4 mistresses, the 4th one just hired a lawyer and says she has proof they have been together 3 years (sandy and Jesse have been married 5).Sigh. I hope they all get through this. The media has been playing old clips of Sandy's talk of what she would do including how she said if she were Tiger Woods wife she would have hit harder. I digress, now we random: Can you believe it's been 11 years since "Boys don't cry"? Speaking of which I can't be...

Last week in my random thread, I mentioned I would blog about this whole Sandra Bullock cheating thing. In 2008, I had blogged about Bad Luck Oscar and I guess unless your name is Meryl Streep you are not beyond the wrath of the Best Actress Curse of splitting with your S.O. Ok enough chitchat. This situation is not unique to Sandra Bullock and I don't have my thoughts all wrapped up on this subject because I cannot think or explain the actions of another person. But you have to admit, we have heard stories of cheating EVERYWHERE. Like lately it sounds so rampant especially among the Naija community (let's not even talk about Naija itself). I've really tried to understand why men cheat especially because I waver, sometimes I think just because a man cheated doesn't mean he doesn't love you but sometimes I think it means just that. How is a man able to cheat and still be the most awesome bf/husband to his gf/wife? I have guy friends who cheat and I have tried to as...

Hi guys, Happy days are here again, it's Friday y'all. I had a pretty decent week and as I type this I am a little bit tipsy but I'm good, I guess I should say buzzed. Had a work day where we played whirlyball (which is a combination of driving a go cart and aiming a ball at a hole like basketball) after that we all went to dinner where the alcohol was flowing and I got to see a different side of all my coworkers and my boss after 5pm. Shoo, my boss was taking shots and we lied and said it was his bday, so he got a cake and candle and he pretended to smoke it. Fun times. I love my job and I thank God for it. I mean for one, my boss was as excited as I was that Gaga was coming to town hehe. Okay my randoms suck this week and I apologise in advance. Here we go: If I have not said it before, I will say it again, there are evil people in this world. You know, we all talk about people but to take time out to create so called "anonymous" id's online and say hurtf...

"> If you are new to my world then you must already know that I am a HUGE Lady Gaga fan. At this very moment I have marked my calender to see her on July 22nd and am waiting for pre sale tickets to go on sale. I dubbed myself a "Gagarette". She does no wrong in my eyes. Anywhoo, Telephone ft Beyonce and produced by DarkChild is a hot song that came out some months ago(in my mind it was an Lady Gaga giving Beyonce a chance to apologise to us for what she did with Video Phone). The song is hot! Gaga being who she is, made the video premiere a pop culture event and debuted it only on E! last thursday. Choreographed by LaurieAnn Gibson(from making the band fame, she also did Bad Romance), forgive me fellow Gagarettes when I say that this was the first Gaga video I watched that didn't blow my mind. I have only seen it once and I decided I will watch it again and just list my thoughts as I watch. Follow me for the ride will ya? Ok so the video starts out in...

....that make you smile. And make you forget all your worries for at least one second. Have a great week.

I feel like a broken record when I say I blinked and all of a sudden Friday is here. Not that I am complaining because I sho do look forward to my Fridays, although I am about to start classes on Friday so I am not sure if I will still look forward to it. Anyways there has been an air of melancholy and blahness going through blogsville (myself included). I bind whatever negativity is floating through and hope everyone's spirit rises through the weekend at least till Monday blues hit(i keed). Let's random. I wanna start with this new blog I found that I really enjoy - http://missyxclusive.blogspot.com/. Check it out if you can. Infact, plenty blogs dey to dey discover. This week I wondered why we say Cool Beans and not Cool Rice. The explanation I got is that rice is already cool unlike beans so cool beans implies a bad situation turned good. *did I confuse you* America's Best Dance Crew makes me very aware of my lack of talent geez. I don't like asking(and s...

Hi blogsvillers, hope everyone is having a good week. Mine has been tough but I am hanging in there. Anyhue, whatsup with my title you say? Well about 90% if not more of my friends are either married, engaged or in a relationship. When you are in one of those categories, sometimes some people think they are experts. I digress, anyways every now and then when we have a conversation, after the how is work? how is school? segment it is mostly followed by the how are the guys? question. Unfailingly, I always dissapoint with a nothing in that arena, then I get the talk. I know they mean well, everyone is concerned about single taynement so I don't take it to heart but I do find it amusing because some way or the other it always leads to "Maybe you need to put yourself out there" and then I ask, "Please can you define putting yourself out there?". Well I got a talk today and I asked. I was told to go to events. For anyone who knows me, I don't know how much more ...

Hi people, hope everyone had a good week, at least a better week than I did. Before I start I wanted to let you guys know that I wanted to add something to Friday Randoms. At the end of every random, I am just going to add a blanket prayer request for different areas and people in general, so once you are done reading, if you believe in prayer just say a quick one for the people and hopefully it'll make a difference. Also, just incase there is anyone out there who thinks I only blog on Fridays, I blog on non fridays too lol. Ok here we go: - You know I am sure his heart is in the right place but I gotta say that Wyclef has definitely got some play from the Haiti earthquake. - Nna, did anyone hear about the naija armed robber attack on a bus going to the east? They separated people into those with money and those without and the ones without they put a gun to the driver's head and made him drive OVER them as they lay on the floor? Biko, what kind of viciousness is this?How...

How did I get here again? I thought I had made considerable progress. I'd noticed that I've been in this hole for a while and I thought I could crawl out, it's been xyz weeks later and I am still here. Maybe I just can't handle the truth or maybe I am making up what I think is truth in my head. I guess this is what happens when you don't let the Lord in as I should. I don't know what it is or where it came from, I just want it gone and I want to be free of this...whatever it is that's going on. I didn't write this for selfpity (although prayers are greatly appreciated) but I have a hard time putting thoughts on paper, it makes it real somehow and this was the only place I could think of. Signing off now, off to smile and act like all is well.

So far in life, I have been blessed with a good memory. Every now and then I remember people that I have come across or were in my life and I am not in contact with anymore. Today I just wanted to remember them and send blessings their way wherever they may be. Mrs Odinkonigbo - This was my teacher in Primary 3. She had the most beautiful soul ever. So kind, so loving, so patient. I remember her kids used to go to my school and go figure, she had an unruly son. I remember thinking her name was funny. She eventually had to move to the east with her family because money was so tight. I really really admired her even at my young age, wherever you are Aunty I hope you are happy. Victor/Obinna - The pharmacist and his apprentice that lived by my house. As a sickly child, there were many visits there. I even still remember Obinna's birthday - November 25. I did run into Mr Victor few years back at church. Mallam - I know some of you may laugh but Mallam was so funny. He was th...