Putting yourself out there.
Hi blogsvillers, hope everyone is having a good week. Mine has been tough but I am hanging in there. Anyhue, whatsup with my title you say? Well about 90% if not more of my friends are either married, engaged or in a relationship. When you are in one of those categories, sometimes some people think they are experts. I digress, anyways every now and then when we have a conversation, after the how is work? how is school? segment it is mostly followed by the how are the guys? question. Unfailingly, I always dissapoint with a nothing in that arena, then I get the talk.
I know they mean well, everyone is concerned about single taynement so I don't take it to heart but I do find it amusing because some way or the other it always leads to "Maybe you need to put yourself out there" and then I ask, "Please can you define putting yourself out there?". Well I got a talk today and I asked. I was told to go to events. For anyone who knows me, I don't know how much more out there I could be. I've chilled and scaled back a lot but back in the day, I know a considerable number of people. Anyways, it shifted to you have to go to like minded events like harvard grad blah blah, afri this that. After I got my entertainment I gave my own talk.
I am very anti rules as in do this, don't do that e.g because you slept with him on the first date that's why he is not interested. It may very well be but I know people who are happily together and they slept together on first date. I told my friend I am not the type to travel cross country with the intention of snagging a boo under the guise of networking. I have no strategy or no plans, all I do is pray to God that when he deems it fit that I end up with someone who is for me. I don't diss anyone who does that or who is proactive about finding a mate, it's just not my life/love path.
Well that was it folks, just thought I'd share and please if anyone has their own definition of putting yourself out there, let me know.
Have a great rest of the week.
I know they mean well, everyone is concerned about single taynement so I don't take it to heart but I do find it amusing because some way or the other it always leads to "Maybe you need to put yourself out there" and then I ask, "Please can you define putting yourself out there?". Well I got a talk today and I asked. I was told to go to events. For anyone who knows me, I don't know how much more out there I could be. I've chilled and scaled back a lot but back in the day, I know a considerable number of people. Anyways, it shifted to you have to go to like minded events like harvard grad blah blah, afri this that. After I got my entertainment I gave my own talk.
I am very anti rules as in do this, don't do that e.g because you slept with him on the first date that's why he is not interested. It may very well be but I know people who are happily together and they slept together on first date. I told my friend I am not the type to travel cross country with the intention of snagging a boo under the guise of networking. I have no strategy or no plans, all I do is pray to God that when he deems it fit that I end up with someone who is for me. I don't diss anyone who does that or who is proactive about finding a mate, it's just not my life/love path.
Well that was it folks, just thought I'd share and please if anyone has their own definition of putting yourself out there, let me know.
Have a great rest of the week.
Comments
"Wafflov"!
Go to waffle house today... U r sure to find love!
:D
I think everyone should define the kind of person they want, take it to God and go about their normal lives.
Being together forever is more important than being married at the "appropriate age".
Sidenote...why would anyone want to sleep with someone on the first day in this day and age?? I am just saying!
@Lani - thanks for stopping by and so true at your last statement.
@Ms O, thanks. I know I will be just fine.
@Harry, thanks
@Neefemi, abi? My head ain't worried at all.
@Lucid, I get that part. I've been there done that, now I don't feel like going out as much as i used to and I wont go out now because "he" might be there.
@Vivian - because they were attracted to each other and were going to be safe?
@Oohjay - yup
@Myne - yup i am doing me
@RepOne - LOL, yeah that was part of the talk too.
Thanks guys for stopping by.